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Title: Refrigerator Rights Post by Redd715 on Jul 23rd, 2006, 12:26am How many friends do you know so well, that they could come into your home and feel free to anything in your fridge without asking permission from you? Our newspaper has partnered with the National Institute of Wellness here in Stevens Point and this is one topic that a Speaker talked about. Just curious if you have any friends you trust so well and trust you in kind? |
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Title: Re: Refrigerator Rights Post by TxBasslady on Jul 23rd, 2006, 12:40am All of them. There's a sayin' "if you ain't home...you oughta be" Jean |
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Title: Re: Refrigerator Rights Post by Donna_D. on Jul 23rd, 2006, 12:43am on 07/23/06 at 00:40:26, TxBasslady wrote:
I am thinking that that is a "Texas thing". Anyone I welcome into my home, is welcome in my home...to the fridge, the bar, to stay the night..hell, just about everything. I believe we call that Southern Hospitality. DD |
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Title: Re: Refrigerator Rights Post by Redd715 on Jul 23rd, 2006, 12:45am I like that Jean... that saying does imply the jist of this Dr's message. Thank you. |
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Title: Re: Refrigerator Rights Post by Redd715 on Jul 23rd, 2006, 12:48am I know the thing you refer to DD. Anyone who is in my home home more than once knows where the fridge is, where the glasses are, etc. ....help yourself. http://www.drwill.com/Fridge.htm It's a rather interesting facter, and I think it all depends on region, and norms. But the message remains, who do hold ongoing relationships with who have such "rights"? |
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Title: Re: Refrigerator Rights Post by TxBasslady on Jul 23rd, 2006, 12:52am on 07/23/06 at 00:43:56, Donna_D. wrote:
Being Southern is good....very good ;;D Thank God we ain't stuck out in the desert somewhere.... Nuthin' there but rattlesnakes and tumbleweeds. Texan..Southern..& Redneck....t'aint bad a tall 8) Jean |
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Title: Re: Refrigerator Rights Post by Jonny on Jul 23rd, 2006, 1:07am None, you open my fridge you better be putting something in it. just because your in my house does not mean you can go through everything, only family gets away with it and theres a line even then! |
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Title: Re: Refrigerator Rights Post by TxBasslady on Jul 23rd, 2006, 1:18am Makin' note to self.....never go to Jean |
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Title: psRe: Refrigerator Rights Post by Yorky on Jul 23rd, 2006, 2:27am to be honest....never had the chance to meet any of you but if im not in(work etc) then my door key is usually behind my dustbin.......help yourselfs to whateva u like...(ps keep your filthy paws off our lass)ha,ha |
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Title: Re: Refrigerator Rights Post by georgej on Jul 23rd, 2006, 2:29am Only 3 people and their families could be considered as having "refrigerator rights" around here. And I consider myself very lucky. Some people know no one they would grant "refrigerator rights". I read recently (somewhere) that most of us are only two or three people away from being alone in the world. Best, George |
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Title: Re: psRe: Refrigerator Rights Post by TxBasslady on Jul 23rd, 2006, 2:36am on 07/23/06 at 02:27:29, Yorky wrote:
Yorky....Hope we get the chance to meet one day. ;) You sound like a great fellow. Jean |
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Title: Re: psRe: Refrigerator Rights Post by Yorky on Jul 23rd, 2006, 2:43am on 07/23/06 at 02:36:13, TxBasslady wrote:
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Title: Re: Refrigerator Rights Post by ClusterChuck on Jul 23rd, 2006, 3:48am Actually, it is just that I am a lazy S.O.B. I will serve you ONCE, watch where I get things from, cuz then it is up to YOU to get what you want! There is the fridge, there are the glasses and plates, and there is the silverware .. Anything you don't know where it is at, LOOK FOR IT!!! Chuck |
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Title: Re: Refrigerator Rights Post by wildhaus on Jul 23rd, 2006, 4:09am on 07/23/06 at 01:07:19, Jonny wrote:
AND I WAS JUST THINKING TO RAIN ON YOU...... JUST TO HAVE A BEER...... ;;D |
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Title: Re: Refrigerator Rights Post by alchemy on Jul 23rd, 2006, 6:31am on 07/23/06 at 00:52:28, TxBasslady wrote:
jees guys it's not all bad out here in the desert. If you can jump over the snakes and wade through the tumbleweed my fridge is open to anyone. |
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Title: Re: Refrigerator Rights Post by BarbaraD on Jul 23rd, 2006, 7:11am I'm with DD and Jean on the southern hospitality. My door is NEVER locked and if it's in the fridge- you're welcome to it -- just bring me a cold one too.... Around my house we use the "Bible System" - Seek and You Shall Find -- if not we'll both look for it..... And I may bring you coffee (once) but for the second cup - you're on your own -- Hugs BD |
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Title: Re: Refrigerator Rights Post by Grandma_Sweet_Boy on Jul 23rd, 2006, 7:47am Apparently I'm a displaced Southerner ;)- if you're in my house, it's your house too. Help yourself - if ya can't find it - I probably don't have it. Carol |
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Title: Re: Refrigerator Rights Post by ShadowLord on Jul 23rd, 2006, 8:47am Only my x2 and my kids have access to my home without prior permission... Most everyone else gets shot on sight . Except my parents... I normally give them a runnin' start. But once someone has been invited in, I can care less if they get in my fridge... As long as they don't drink all the beer, I'm fine with it. PFDAN................................................................ ShadowLord |
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Title: Re: Refrigerator Rights Post by nani on Jul 23rd, 2006, 9:49am on 07/23/06 at 06:31:11, alchemy wrote:
Ditto... here in my part of the desert, it's: mi casa es su casa. My home is your home. While you're in the fridge... can you find the smelly thing and get rid of it, please? ;) |
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Title: Re: Refrigerator Rights Post by NONI on Jul 23rd, 2006, 9:59am Well I'm in Canada and its the same here anyone in my house is welcome to my fridge,, NoNI [smiley=beer.gif] |
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Title: Re: Refrigerator Rights Post by LeLimey on Jul 23rd, 2006, 10:39am Being from West Texas ;;D it's the same for me, you're in my house - you're family! I'd be hurt beyond measure if my friends weren't comfortable enough to help themselves. For me, the greatest compliment you can give me is to do just that :) |
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Title: Re: Refrigerator Rights Post by deltadarlin on Jul 23rd, 2006, 11:01am I'm with chuck on this one. I'll serve you once, after that, make yourself at home. 'darlin |
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Title: Re: Refrigerator Rights Post by Charlie on Jul 24th, 2006, 2:24am It's a small town thing, I guess and a bit regional. For me, I have three friends that are welcome to prowl around in my refrigerator all they want and are welcome to anything there that is too weak to fight back. I have some rainbow-colored pudding and remains of jelly and some kind of sauce that keep things interesting. http://www.netsync.net/users/charlies/gifs/fridge dog.gif None of these friends would go in there without asking though which is too bad because like Chuck, I'm tired of waiting on one of them. Charlie |
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Title: Re: Refrigerator Rights Post by JeffB on Jul 24th, 2006, 11:02am If you can find anything that hasn't spoiled, go for it ;;D |
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Title: Re: Refrigerator Rights Post by superhawk2300 on Jul 24th, 2006, 11:23am I never understood the "I have this, this, this, diet this, this lite, this, this, and I can make some of this, this or this." so everyone has fridge rights when they visit me. You can have anything you want, just go get it yourself. And if I look low bring back one for me! |
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Title: Re: Refrigerator Rights Post by brewcrew on Jul 24th, 2006, 12:03pm I'm not saying that letting someone go foraging through your fridge or cupboard is wrong, but whenever I have a guest, I ask them what they want or need and then get it for them. Isn't that kind of the same thing? |
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Title: Re: Refrigerator Rights Post by sandie99 on Jul 24th, 2006, 12:53pm I have been wondering what fridges I can go to freely... basicly mum's (my childhood home, so it's home and I'm the one cooking when I'm visiting mum) and my boyfriend's fridges. Maybe it's my Finnish upbringing, but when I'm at somebody else's house, I don't just go and get something from the fridge unless the hostis has asked me to help out. Back at my house, even relatives ask permission before they go to get something from the fridge (like kids get more Pepsi/Coca-Cola on Christmas Eve etc.). But this does not tell anything about hospitality... I suppose at my neck of the woods the hosts get the stuff and quests remain quests! Sanna |
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Title: Re: Refrigerator Rights Post by Melissa on Jul 24th, 2006, 1:11pm We have a fridge in the garage with beverages that people can help themselves to just for that purpose. When it comes to my fridge in the house tho, it's off limits unless I ask someone if they'd like something to eat or drink, and then I'll get it for them (or if they ask me first). I have had my brother-in-laws come into my house and go into my fridge with not even a word. THAT PISSES ME OFF! My mom taught me to ask guests if they'd like something, and then get it for them, but if anyone comes into your house (unless they live there) and just goes to the fridge and digs around for something without a word, they are being rude, disrespectful and a freeloader. my [smiley=twocents.gif] edited to add: I always ask my guests right away if they want something. If they say no, and then ask later if they can have something, I tell them to help themselves. I just don't like certain people to come in and help themselves like they own the place and never say please or thank you!! |
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Title: Re: Refrigerator Rights Post by Sandy_C on Jul 24th, 2006, 1:22pm I like that phrase "Refrigerator Rights". Outside of family, who know where everything is and know that they're on their own, I have a few friends who have "refrigerator rights". They've been my bestest buddies for over 20 years. They know where my glasses, plates, silverware, beer and liquor is kept. When they come over, I will usually set out the goodies, but if they want more - or if they show up at my doorstep without an invitation, they know where it is. And, it's the same way when I go to their homes. It's nice having friends who are like family. Sandy |
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Title: Re: Refrigerator Rights Post by Mattrf on Jul 24th, 2006, 1:34pm If I consider you a friend then you have refrigerator rights, just not my kids friends, if they had the rights I would not have a fridge. [smiley=laugh.gif] Matt |
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Title: Re: Refrigerator Rights Post by JenniferD on Jul 24th, 2006, 1:55pm I I believe we call that Southern Hospitality. DD[/quote] and in true Southern style, I am sure that the visitor would have politely asked (may I?) or had something offered to them even before they had to ask. |
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Title: Re: Refrigerator Rights Post by JeffB on Jul 24th, 2006, 3:55pm on 07/24/06 at 13:34:18, Mattrf wrote:
LMAO ;;D My daughter never liked going to her friends house so they all came to mine. I learned very early not to get in the way of a bunch of tweens when it comes to the fridge. The only rule was don't touch my sugar free stuff (which was never a problem). ;;D |
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Title: Re: Refrigerator Rights Post by chewy on Jul 24th, 2006, 4:56pm Anyone is welcome in my fridge. If you can figure out what is in there you win a prize! |
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Title: Re: Refrigerator Rights Post by thomas on Jul 24th, 2006, 4:59pm If they're truly a friend they can get in my fridge. |
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Title: Re: Refrigerator Rights Post by Woobie on Jul 25th, 2006, 1:59am Well, see ........this is weird. Seems like a simple enough question....... and it seems to me that it would be ok for any of my friends to go into my fridge. BUT - I seeem to remember, now that I think about it...when my sister was here, she went straight for the fridge, and I seem to remember being kinda put off by that. Like - damn girl - SLOW down..you just got here. so i guess it isn't really that simple, is it? she's my sister, you'd think she wouldn't evoke those feelings...it's JUST a fridge.. i have nothing to hide.. why would it bother me that she did that? My mom always used to say - the first time you're here, i'll get it - after that - you get it. And she also used to tell me to ASK for things in others house. I dont believe I've ever gotten into someone else's fridge without asking - (altho usually when I ask, they get it for me)... or without being asked to get something. I'm just not that way. but i also remember asking a guest to get something out of the fridge for me ( i was cooking ) and they did - and then they just got in the fridge whenever and that didn't bother me. but - it also depends on what you're doing. If you're going into the fridge to CHECK IT OUT - go thru everything, check the GREEN factor, then that would piss me off - but if you get in - get a drink or whatever, and get out - that's cool. especially do not comment on the cleanliness of my fridge.... and i do not like my kid's friends getting into the fridge. kids are a different story altogether. they need to have some home training and ASK. the answer is - I DONT KNOW. ;;D glad i could help. ;;D |
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Title: Re: Refrigerator Rights Post by TxBasslady on Jul 25th, 2006, 3:24am on 07/25/06 at 01:59:19, Woobie wrote:
Damn Tina, You made me read 17 paragraphs....and you DON'T KNOW [smiley=huh.gif] Sheesh...what is this world comin' too ::) LMAO Love ya, J |
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Title: Re: Refrigerator Rights Post by Woobie on Jul 25th, 2006, 3:32am i know - i'm a little loopy tonight............. no - i dont know it's a simple question that isnt' that simple. LMAO better living thru narcotics......... :D woobs :-* |
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Title: Re: Refrigerator Rights Post by TxBasslady on Jul 25th, 2006, 3:36am *yawn* J |
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Title: Re: Refrigerator Rights Post by Ghost on Jul 25th, 2006, 2:40pm Amy, a blonde city girl, marries a Texas rancher. > > One morning, on his way out to check on the cows the rancher says > to Amy, "The artificial insemination man is coming over to > impregnate one of our cows today. I drove a nail into the two-by- > four just above the cow's stall in the barn. You show him where the > cow is when he gets here, okay?" > > So, the rancher leaves for the fields. After a while the > artificial insemination man arrives and knocks on the front door. > Amy takes him down to the barn. They walk along long row of cows > and when she sees the nail, she tells him, "This is the one.... > right here." > > Terribly impressed by what he seemed to think just might be > another dizzy blonde, the man asks, "Tell me little lady, how did > you know this is the cow to be bred?" > > "That's simple. By the nail over its stall", Amy explains very > confidently. > > Then the man asks, "What's the nail for?" > > She turns to walk away, and with complete confidence says, > "I guess it's to hang your pants on." |
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Title: Re: Refrigerator Rights Post by Charlie on Jul 25th, 2006, 7:59pm http://www.netsync.net/users/charlies/gifs/cheesyrotfm.gif Good one! I guess no one has a Jerry Seinfeld arrangement. George, Kramer, and Elaine lived in Jerry's refrigerator. Charlie |
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Title: Re: Refrigerator Rights Post by Redd715 on Jul 25th, 2006, 9:58pm As I mentioned. if I like you enough to let you into my home for a second time, what I have is yours. (Well to a reasonable degree) lol. Help yourself to the fridge, the pantry, whatever you need. If the toilet papaer is out, I will tell you where it is the first time, next time just dig in the damn cupboard and replace it. I'll offer to do the replaceing in a friends home if they let me know where they keep it. From what I gathered about this presentation, it's about mindset and familiarity. There are geographical norms, for sure, but the nuts and bolts of the matter is that when it comes to intimate relationships that don't involve a sexual componant, we are, as a population lacking in general. On average we should be able to name 5 people who are not related to us by blood or marriage, that CAN and DO have refridgerator realtionships with us. I can say I don't have the ability to name anyone (actively and not a blood family member) who does. I guess I need to work harder at building closer friendships. Maybe now that I work closer to home I'll have this opportunity. But with my luck, and the tendancy of misinterpretation of others due to human need to find something "amiss" about everything, it's not hardly likely. [smiley=laugh.gif] |
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Title: Re: Refrigerator Rights Post by TxBasslady on Jul 25th, 2006, 10:09pm on 07/25/06 at 21:58:09, Redd715 wrote:
uh.....whoa...wait... :-/ WTF does the refrigerator have to do with sex [smiley=huh.gif] What are we lacking [smiley=huh.gif] Sexual component to an intimate relationship [smiley=huh.gif] Ok...now...I be lost on this explanation. ::) J I shoulda known better.......... :P |
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Title: Re: Refrigerator Rights Post by maffumatt on Jul 25th, 2006, 10:26pm When in my home help yourself cause I aint your maid..........If I don't trust you, we would be on the porch. |
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Title: Re: Refrigerator Rights Post by Redd715 on Jul 25th, 2006, 10:47pm Sorry Jean, I was using Dr. Will's words. His contention is that as a "general" national population, "most" people lack close knit relationships, not including sexual or blood relationships, (this is to take into account the "living together" hetero and homosexual populations) that they can offer free rein to their homes, or hence "refidgerator rights". I'm sorry if I wasn't clear...and if you were being humourous, I lost it...I'm sorry about that too. As I mentiuoned in another post, things have gotten real thick around home here, and humor escapes me right now. Thats my fault Hence the reason for my other post.... :-/ |
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Title: Re: Refrigerator Rights Post by superhawk2300 on Jul 25th, 2006, 10:53pm Quote:
Perfect! |
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Title: Re: Refrigerator Rights Post by TxBasslady on Jul 25th, 2006, 10:55pm Alrighty kids....if you say so... ;;D Thanks for splaining.... J |
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Title: Re: Refrigerator Rights Post by toonzboss on Jul 25th, 2006, 11:13pm Well when you get right down to it I think it depends on how often you are in that persons' home or visa versa, I live close to my brother and his wife/kids and I feel absolutely welcome and at home in their home, they're about 45 min. outside of Atlanta and I'm out there probably average twice a month, I'll usually ask as I'm opening the fridge but I am more often asked before I ask. When I'm at my moms, I don't ask besides I'm the youngest of her younguns' anyway. As for friends they usually ask initially and tell you to get something when you want, if you're there every other day then you tend to get very comfortable in theirs and they in yours. We've always been proud of the "Southern Hospitality", and rightly so, but I think its just as much a "Good People Thang". |
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Title: Re: Refrigerator Rights Post by ShadowLord on Jul 26th, 2006, 7:27am on 07/25/06 at 21:58:09, Redd715 wrote:
5??? Hell... Outside of werk and online, I don't even know 5 people. I don't even know my neighbors, although according to them, when they're drunk, I'm their bestest friend... LOL Maybe I'm just antisocial. PFDAN...................................................... ShadowLord |
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