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(Message started by: Mattrf on Jun 12^th, 2006, 5:46pm)

Title: MySpace nightmare!
Post by Mattrf on Jun 12^th, 2006, 5:46pm

This was on CNN.com today if you think the teacher having sex with the 18 year old student was bad how would you like this to be your kid?
DETROIT, Michigan (AP) -- A 16-year-old girl who tricked her parents into getting her a passport and then flew to the Mideast to be with a man she met on MySpace.com has returned to Michigan.

http://www.cnn.com/2006/US/06/12/myspace.mideast.trip.ap/index.html

If you have kids, then they probably have a MySpace account.
Thank god they got her before she got all the way to her destination.

Title: Re: MySpace nightmare!
Post by kimmiedawn81 on Jun 12^th, 2006, 6:03pm

Yeah, I read that in the paper yesterday. How did the parents not know?

Title: Re: MySpace nightmare!
Post by deltadarlin on Jun 12^th, 2006, 7:42pm

Because they had their heads stuck up their a$$? Don't you think they should have questioned their daughter a bit more about this trip? Maybe even have asked to speak to the other *kids* parents about this trip? I won't blame this on myspace. I'm gonna lay this one square at the parents door.

'darlin

Title: Re: MySpace nightmare!
Post by Richr8 on Jun 12^th, 2006, 8:16pm

If the claims are accurate, I must agree-Parents asleep at the switch.

Title: Re: MySpace nightmare!
Post by Mattrf on Jun 12^th, 2006, 10:50pm

I agree my daughter has her profile as private so people have to ask to be added as a friend and does not answer people she does not know. I think lack of parenting is at fault here not MySpace.com.

Title: Re: MySpace nightmare!
Post by Charlie on Jun 12^th, 2006, 10:53pm

This story came to light more than a week ago. All I can say is that it's scary for the family. Dumb kid.

Charlie

Title: Re: MySpace nightmare!
Post by Mark C on Jun 13^th, 2006, 10:00am

An easy fix............

http://i6.tinypic.com/14aa8lu.jpg

Title: Re: MySpace nightmare!
Post by catlind on Jun 13^th, 2006, 10:10am

My 12 year old asked if she could set up a profile at myspace.com. I told her, as I've told my 14 year old, no site can be used/visited until I've reviewed it. It took about 2 min. for me to decide myspace is not an appropriate place for a 12 year old girl.

Parents need to stand up and pay attention to what their kids are doing. My kids need to have a parental approval before watching new TV shows. Perhaps I'm just too old school, but I have played every game my kids have for the xbox and playstation, and their are games they simply are not allowed to have. I watch every show they watch, and often make them watch TV with us, their parents (oh the horror), they are not allowed to have TV's in their rooms. They are not allowed to be on the internet without our permission, and having a network allows me to track their movements when they think we don't know what they are doing. Imagine the look on my 14 year olds face when he was informed that deleting the history wasn 't enough for us to not find the porn sites he'd visited ;) He still doesn't know how we found them.

Parental vigilance. It's really that simple. Care what your kids are doing, and then open lines of communication so they understand why you have the restrictions and you can talk about the things they may see. Talk to their teachers, get to know their principal. It's amazing how quickly I find out about anything that happens at school because I make a point of getting to know their teachers (at 3 different schools) and letting them know to use my email address. When something happens, the teachers see the result because if it's something requiring discipline they often have to write a letter of apology to those involved and bring it to school.

It's easy to fool parents about what kids are doing, parents don't need to add to how easy it is.

Cat

Title: Re: MySpace nightmare!
Post by Mattrf on Jun 13^th, 2006, 11:42am

OK guys this is what I have done to keep my child from trying to out smart me.
I have set IE so that the General page under tools is no there so they can not clear the history or the temp files and have also made sure that the files and folders are hidden so they can not do it manually.
This is not a simple thing to do but I have put together a step by step word doc if anyone is interested I would be glad to send it to you.

Title: Re: MySpace nightmare!
Post by Gena on Jun 13^th, 2006, 1:40pm

My 14 year old has a myspace page, so do all of his friends. His friends and him use myspace more then they use the phone. If you look in his year book nobody left phone numbers everybody left myspace URLs.

We have moved a lot in the past and his my space alowes him to keep in touch with friend in other states. It has allowed him not only to keep in touch but to remain very good friends with some of these friends.

I can see where trouble could happen, but if parents are involved in there kids lives it would be very hard for a lot of this crap to happen. People need to stop blaming Moveis, games and websites for their own lack of parenting!

Title: I'd say she would be locked Re: MySpace nightmare!
Post by mynm156 on Jun 13^th, 2006, 2:15pm

OOOOOOOOOO I would have her locked down TIGHT after a stunt like that!

Title: Re: MySpace nightmare!
Post by Mattrf on Jun 13^th, 2006, 2:35pm

Yes parenting being the key word, most just don’t do it anymore and let the schools and TV do it and we know that that is a very bad way to raise your kids.
You need to be involved, know what they are doing who they are hanging out with and my god! Teach them some morals while you’re at it!
I know that there are a lot of good kids out there mine being a couple of them that have been parented and I hope all of yours are the same but we all see the ones out there that scare the hell out of us, they have 0 respect for anything including human life.
I am 43 and when I was in school a fight was a fist fight and only if the guy was a true gangster would he pull a knife, what kind of world has it become that our kids have to pass through medal detectors to get into school? And that teachers are worried that if they give a kid a bad grade they run the risk of being shot? I really wish I had lived in the 60’s instead of born in them you know?

Title: Re: MySpace nightmare!
Post by Mastifflvr28 on Jun 13^th, 2006, 11:41pm

Only reason I got a myspace account is so I could watch Kaleb's activity and friends on there.
And he wonder's how I know he's been on the internet when he's been grounded from it, lol.

I love it when he wonders how "mom knows all"
Mast

Title: Re: MySpace nightmare!
Post by catlind on Jun 14^th, 2006, 9:31am

I'll tell you now that I think I have some good kids, but I will also tell you that if I hadn't been very actively involved with some trouble my 14 year old got in after Christmas, he would be one of those kids that make you worry. The times and age of today are much faster than when I was a kid, we didn't own electronics period. I had a black and white TV until I was 10. I think the only electronic game we owned was blip (pong in the states I think).

I got myself into ALL kinds of trouble as a 13-18 year old. Maybe that's why my kids don't get away with what they think they do. Either way, I'm a participating parent, and on top of that, I made the mistakes, and I'm not so naive as to think my kids won't try the same.

I'm not a perfect parent by a long shot, but it only takes a little extra effort to monitor your kids. The days of the small town network aren't exactly easy to find anymore, but if you get out and meet your neighbors, it will be a little easier.

Perhaps I've beat this to death, but when there was a rash of missing girls in my area, I became active and actually ended up on the news for an interview. Parents need to be proactive. There are many many many more ways for them to come up with trouble than when I was a kid. Don't get me wrong, my kids aren't perfect, but they get away with very little.

Ok, I'll stop my ranting now

Cat

Title: Re: MySpace nightmare!
Post by Mattrf on Jun 14^th, 2006, 10:57am

Cat you are very right, I long for the old days and wish it was like that for my kids.
Remember Halloween and how you ran all over the place without your parents in tow and didn’t have to worry about the candy or whack jobs?
My daughter never even got to walk to the park down the street until she was in her teens and even then we would watch her walk most of the way there from our front yard.
I heard a long time ago that one in three girls get molested, my own sister was molested by my step dad when we where little, my mom booted him quick and he is dead now glad to say and he was only around for a couple years. It is a scary place we live in, all I want to do is keep my kids safe and hope they have a good childhood and have fond memories but they will never get the chance to have the same kind of memories there parents have and that is just sad, if we keep going like this what kind of childhood will there kids have? I hate to think about it.
My wife and I are very plugged in to our kids lives and believe strongly in parenting them and teaching strong morals so they grow up to be respectable adults, just wish everyone else did the same. Now you can make the broken home argument but my parents got divorced when I was one and my step dad was there for maybe two years when I was very young and my mom did not get married again until I was out of school so I am a product of a broken home and have very strong morals and like to think I am a good parent, and as far as I am concerned my mom walks on water for bringing up three kids in the 60’s and having them all turn out to be good adults.