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(Message started by: aprilbee on Jun 1st, 2006, 9:56am)
Title: Co-Workers!
Post by aprilbee on Jun 1st, 2006, 9:56am
I am sooooooooooooooooooo sick of this bitch in my office....I have had it up to my eyballs w/her attitude....I bend over backwards to help those around me, its just the way I am...even her....and I get things slammed down on my desk, I get the nose in the air (literally, the nose goes up in the air!) the dirty looks, this woman has no reason to even remotely dislike me...yet, every day, its the same thing and I am wearing soooooooo completely thing, and my CH is ramping up, should be full blown in 2-3 weeks....I cannot take this woman anymore!  My husband says I should throw a joint underneath her desk where someone finds it and get her fired....right now that sounds like a GREAT idea!

Okay...done venting  :-X

April
Title: Re: Co-Workers!
Post by Big Dan on Jun 1st, 2006, 10:19am
Yeah, I've got one I have to share an office with.  He's a gum-popper/finger-drummer...

... until I snap and give him a swollen Medulla oblongata via the rolled up phonebook I plant in the back of his head.




-Big Dan
Title: Re: Co-Workers!
Post by BobG on Jun 1st, 2006, 10:23am

Quote:
My husband says I should throw a joint underneath her desk where someone finds it and get her fired....


You have a very smart husband. Go for it.
Title: Re: Co-Workers!
Post by Ghost on Jun 1st, 2006, 11:33am
Actually put one in the desk leave no prints and one under. tht way when she denies it and they search her desk and find the other its all over then. ;;D

Mike
Title: Re: Co-Workers!
Post by karma on Jun 1st, 2006, 11:44am

Quote:
My husband says I should throw a joint underneath her desk where someone finds it and get her fired....

Not smart, fun to think about but those kind of things usually backfire.
Just stand up to the jerk and ask her what her problem is.
Title: Re: Co-Workers!
Post by Redd715 on Jun 1st, 2006, 12:00pm
There was a gal who worked in the front office of my last POE who was just like that.  Very bitchy, uppity and unfortuneately married into the family business, so getting rid of her completely was not an option.  However, in order to make things a bit smoother around the office they did get her set up and networked into the office puter system from her home so her presence at the office was cut down to twice a month, and just long enough to make photo copies of the paperwork we sent to the Corp Attorney.  She was still making matters bad by sending internal nasty notes to people and delaying work on accounts for people she had grudges against.  

There is a HUGE part of me that is glad I don't work there anymore.
Title: Re: Co-Workers!
Post by Paul98 on Jun 1st, 2006, 12:17pm
Talk with her and see if there is some reason for her actions.  If you can't resolve it with her then talk with your boss about it.  The operative word being talk, not complain.  

The doobie is a real bad idea.

-P.
Title: Re: Co-Workers!
Post by jimmers on Jun 1st, 2006, 12:18pm
Introduce her to jonny. He'll straighten her ass out! ;;D

jimmers
Title: Re: Co-Workers!
Post by Ghost on Jun 1st, 2006, 12:30pm
True the doob is not a great plan but everybody close your eyes and pretend it is a guy acting the same towards her then what should she do?

CHenz especially respond to that Question and be honest as you and I know what you would do if a guy acted like that towards a CHen. ;;D ;)

Get creative ok! [smiley=laugh.gif] [smiley=laugh.gif] [smiley=laugh.gif]

Mike
Title: Re: Co-Workers!
Post by maffumatt on Jun 1st, 2006, 12:40pm
Walk up to her desk and just ask her what her problem is with you. Tell her that her attitude makes it clear that she has something going on and you would like to know what it is before it gets to become a bigger problem. Most people act like that because people don't question their actions, they just let it go. If you don't confront her it won't stop.
Matt
Title: Re: Co-Workers!
Post by aprilbee on Jun 1st, 2006, 1:43pm
Thanks for the advise (I would NEVER put a joint under someone's desk for revenge, not the person I am, its just fun to think about!)  

As for talking to her, bowing up to her, not backing down, talking to the Boss man...DONE IT ALL...don't know why the fuck she's still here, I've done everything short of putting her under constant surveillance...so she's obviously not going anywhere anytime soon...so what do you do, gotta feed the family right? ;)
Title: Re: Co-Workers!
Post by unsolved1 on Jun 1st, 2006, 1:55pm
I agree, it's a bad idea about the doob. Please don't throw away the doob.  ;;D  Stand up to the wench.

UNsolved
Title: Re: Co-Workers!
Post by Tom K on Jun 1st, 2006, 2:05pm

on 06/01/06 at 13:43:22, aprilbee wrote:
Thanks for the advise (I would NEVER put a joint under someone's desk for revenge, not the person I am, its just fun to think about!)  

As for talking to her, bowing up to her, not backing down, talking to the Boss man...DONE IT ALL...don't know why the fuck she's still here, I've done everything short of putting her under constant surveillance...so she's obviously not going anywhere anytime soon...so what do you do, gotta feed the family right? ;)


Tell the boss that she touched you in an inappropriate manner.  Strike up a sexual harassment charge against her.  Super glue all of her crap on her desk in the exact spot it is in.  Have a case of KY and a sex toy delivered to her at work.  Get her email address and put her on every porn list you can find.  Take her chair and put it in a different cube every day.  Take all the TP out of the bathroom.  Cover her car with packing tape... 8)

You have to be creative to screw with someone.  Yes, everyone the doob was a bad idea, but I think it was a goof.  Sometimes you have to be silly to get through stuff...let's not condem the thought.  Next, someone will hammer Big Dan for wanting to smack someone in the back of the head with a phone book...lighten up people. ::)
Title: Re: Co-Workers!
Post by unsolved1 on Jun 1st, 2006, 2:09pm

on 06/01/06 at 14:05:17, Tom K wrote:
Tell the boss that she touched you in an inappropriate manner.  Strike up a sexual harassment charge against her.  Super glue all of her crap on her desk in the exact spot it is in.  Have a case of KY and a sex toy delivered to her at work.  Get her email address and put her on every porn list you can find.  Take her chair and put it in a different cube every day.  Take all the TP out of the bathroom.  Cover her car with packing tape... 8)


LMAO  [smiley=laugh.gif]

http://www.prankplace.com/bumper.htm

UNsolved
Title: Re: Co-Workers!
Post by Donna_D. on Jun 1st, 2006, 2:26pm

Quote:
Next, someone will hammer Big Dan for wanting to smack someone in the back of the head with a phone book...lighten up people.


Actually it is a good idea :)

Here is the way some guy managed to deal with an irritating co-worker.

It may not be the solution for you, but it sure as hell will make you laugh  [smiley=laugh.gif]  !


http://www.ebaumsworld.com/girlsinging.html


DD
Title: Re: Co-Workers!
Post by Paul98 on Jun 1st, 2006, 3:33pm
Hide an open brick of Limburger cheeze deep inside her desk. ;;D ;;D ;;D

-P.
Title: Re: Co-Workers!
Post by E-Double on Jun 1st, 2006, 4:03pm
Just pay me a few and I'll make her disappear
Title: Re: Co-Workers!
Post by JeffB on Jun 1st, 2006, 4:06pm
Here's what you do:
Send me the doob!
Title: Re: Co-Workers!
Post by Tom K on Jun 1st, 2006, 4:13pm
I'm not going to put up what I typed...it's for the best.... :-X
Title: Re: Co-Workers!
Post by Redd715 on Jun 1st, 2006, 4:23pm
http://im1.shutterfly.com/procserv/47b4cc30b3127cce9dc9e0bf096c00000016108AauGjFu2ZNh

Stay late Friday night and she can come in to this Monday morning.

[smiley=laugh.gif]
Title: Re: Co-Workers!
Post by aprilbee on Jun 1st, 2006, 5:06pm
Those are some GREAT ideas...I need to start making a list and buying some supplies....Thanks....and E-double...how much???  ;)  
Title: Re: Co-Workers!
Post by Charlie on Jun 1st, 2006, 8:41pm
Make sure she knows of a ficticous promotion and that there is a competition.

Charlie
Title: Re: Co-Workers!
Post by superhawk2300 on Jun 1st, 2006, 10:22pm
Skip the stooping to a lower level.

What has always worked for me is the direct approach, like others have mentioned. Just don't attack, just state how you feel, which you have a right to do, and chances are that will get her to stop.

When I take the high road, the people on the low road looks stupid. And the stark contrast of me being seen on the high road (by direct, open, honest dialog with no need other than to state my feelings and then quit the dialog) they suddenly realize that I've not joined them and they are sticking out like a sore thumb usually makes them be very, very quiet, very very fast.

And even if it doesn;t work you will feel better to the point of not caring at all what others do around you. Most the time it is just pent up feelings that want to be let out and I'm just as mad at myself for letting a bad situation happen to me without reply as I am at the opposing person whostarted the thing in the first place.

Say your piece from your point of view, feel better, and never care about the conflict again.

You win either way.

Jamey
Title: Re: Co-Workers!
Post by brewcrew on Jun 1st, 2006, 10:26pm

on 06/01/06 at 16:23:13, Redd715 wrote:
http://im1.shutterfly.com/procserv/47b4cc30b3127cce9dc9e0bf096c00000016108AauGjFu2ZNh

Stay late Friday night and she can come in to this Monday morning.

[smiley=laugh.gif]

I'm not advocating this, but I've seen the same thing done with tin foil.
Title: Re: Co-Workers!
Post by cootie on Jun 1st, 2006, 11:26pm
I'll bet she's jealous......so even tho I can't give good advice it's one to consider to console yerself that's yer cool and she knows it.....or maybe try playin a little bit of role reversle and beat her at her own game Pam

If ya can't "beat em"(literally I mean) join em kinda deal......by that I mean treat her the same way she acts around you and freak her out and 'emphasize' how you see her acting back at her. (or act crazy and scare the hell out of her so she runs to get outa yer way which is MY kind of thinking and doin)      http://bestsmileys.com/misbehaving/6.gif
Title: Re: Co-Workers!
Post by aprilbee on Jun 2nd, 2006, 9:09am

on 06/01/06 at 23:26:50, cootie wrote:
I'll bet she's jealous......so even tho I can't give good advice it's one to consider to console yerself that's yer cool and she knows it.....or maybe try playin a little bit of role reversle and beat her at her own game Pam

If ya can't "beat em"(literally I mean) join em kinda deal......by that I mean treat her the same way she acts around you and freak her out and 'emphasize' how you see her acting back at her. (or act crazy and scare the hell out of her so she runs to get outa yer way which is MY kind of thinking and doin)      http://bestsmileys.com/misbehaving/6.gif


I've done it both ways....I've been nice and cordial, I've taken the high road and lately I've done the above, kind of a reverse golden rule...I treat her like she treats me, but I am just not a mean person, and I find it draining, I don't know how someone can act like that on a daily basis and not be completely pooped at the end of the day....

Thanks everyone....these have been fun to read and I appreciate your support!  Love ya'll! :-*
Title: Re: Co-Workers!
Post by thomas on Jun 2nd, 2006, 9:12am
Kick her in the koochie.  :o
Title: Re: Co-Workers!
Post by aprilbee on Jun 2nd, 2006, 9:16am

on 06/02/06 at 09:12:39, thomas wrote:
Kick her in the koochie.  :o

[smiley=spit.gif]  Thanks, now I gotta get something to clean off my puter screen.... [smiley=laugh.gif]
Title: Re: Co-Workers!
Post by sailpappy on Jun 2nd, 2006, 4:38pm
;;D Obviously there is a problem with her comfort level. I say Kill her with Kindness, Help her with everything you can and then some, There has to be a reason she's being the big "B" and it might not have anything to do with you at all.
    Kindness always prevails. so Keep being the "Lady you Are!"  dont stoop the the lower level, it will all work out.  Hell,  maybe shes getting the hell beat out of her at night by her Old Man??
    You be sweet and the reward will come in time! Or thats My Humble Opinion!       Pappy
Title: Re: Co-Workers!
Post by aprilbee on Jun 2nd, 2006, 4:57pm

on 06/02/06 at 16:38:22, sailpappy wrote:
;;D Obviously there is a problem with her comfort level. I say Kill her with Kindness, Help her with everything you can and then some, There has to be a reason she's being the big "B" and it might not have anything to do with you at all.
    Kindness always prevails. so Keep being the "Lady you Are!"  dont stoop the the lower level, it will all work out.  Hell,  maybe shes getting the hell beat out of her at night by her Old Man??
    You be sweet and the reward will come in time! Or thats My Humble Opinion!       Pappy


Believe me I've tried the kill her w/kindness approach, I've done pretty much everything everyone has suggested here...she's a single woman in her 60s, has like 30 cats and she just hates me, I'm not so bad, everyone else seems to like me, we all have a lot of fun until she gets here and starts her grumpy grunts and groans, and then starts throwing her nose up at me and giving me these "go to hell" looks, and slamming things down on my desk....nothing I can do...you name I've tried it...I just wish she'd f**king leave!  It really makes life miserable...I REALLY don't need it right now...life is just to dadgum short to hate going into work everyday...

Thanks again everyone for the tips and the encouragement, I knew ya'll would be extremely helpful and supportive in this situation!!  :-*
Title: Re: Co-Workers!
Post by Tom K on Jun 2nd, 2006, 11:31pm
She's 60?!  Start calling her, Ol' Graham Cracker Hip.  Threaten to push her down a flight of stairs.  Ask her if her bad mood is because someone dropped a house on her sister.  When she makes those noises, ask her if she has an air leak.  Ask her if she watched television by kerosene lamp when she was a child...what it was like to live in a log cabin...what was Grover Clevland like as a President.  If she remembers the Civil War.  Oh my gawd, I would have a blast with this! [smiley=laugh.gif]  Have a case of Depends delivered to work.  Put a walker in her cube.  The list is endless, with this new info!!! ;;D  
Title: Re: Co-Workers!
Post by cootie on Jun 3rd, 2006, 1:31am
Maybe her girdle is too tight........blahhhh-ha-ha-ha......remember them dam things !!! Good grief how could anyone go about there day in a skin tight rubber speedo to make yer waist hips and butt look more attractive ? She needs some sort of adjustment.........but ya know how I think......and Tom's not far off either.......Mc Nasty Pam

I'd definetly get TIRED of that goin on daily and at one time or anouther I'd loose my 'cool'........could she maybe not appreciate working under a younger person ? I love my cats too but I don't act like that. Maybe she'd rather be home with them........you could call in the jerk whisper'r........do they have one for people ???
Title: Re: Co-Workers!
Post by KingOfPain on Jun 3rd, 2006, 2:56am
# 1.
Muster your strength and ignore her completely.

100% ignore.

A-holes generally tend to need an audience.

# 2.
You could also plainly, directly state this to her in a very monotone manner:

"I would prefer to work with you in a decent, mutually respectful way but I will not continue accepting from you what I feel is harassment towards me".
"I don't care for your attitude towards me. If it continues I WILL be lodging a formal complaint".

And then DO IT if she continues.

# 3.
The unfair option, find a new job.


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