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(Message started by: Drk^Angel on Mar 22^nd, 2006, 2:13pm)

Title: Life is hard.
Post by Drk^Angel on Mar 22^nd, 2006, 2:13pm

Well... Today was the day my wife and kids moved out, and started their new life in their own place. Tonight will be the first night in a very, very long time that I've gone to werk without hugging my kids goodbye, and telling them I loved them. Tomorrow there won't be anyone to welcome me home from werk. It'll be dead quiet... Like it is now. After over nine years of dating, being engaged, being married, and being a father... I am alone. The only one here to keep me company is a psychotic cat that I didn't want to keep in the first place. I still don't know how things turned out this way... I probably never will understand. Today is definitely not a good day, and tonight will probably be even worse. C'est la vie...

PFDAN.................................................. Drk^Angel

Title: Re: Life is hard.
Post by maffumatt on Mar 22^nd, 2006, 2:19pm

Life is hard..........I wish you the best, I know it sounds bad but you have to make the best out of a bad situation. If you like to fish, go fishing, do what you enjoy. Don't sit in that quiet house get out and live. Best wishes.......
Matt

Title: Re: Life is hard.
Post by medic1852 on Mar 22^nd, 2006, 2:24pm

If you need someone to talk with you can email me or contact me on yahoo...I work tonight though. But I will respond if you need. :-/
Rodger

Title: Re: Life is hard.
Post by sandie99 on Mar 22^nd, 2006, 2:29pm

[smiley=hug.gif]

Title: Re: Life is hard.
Post by imnotbub on Mar 22^nd, 2006, 2:43pm

Life is hard, but it's doable. Just make sure that you spend as much free time as possible with the kids. It's not the same as being there, but it ain't all bad. I know I found that I did more 'special' things with my kids after the breakup. Just be careful you don't spoil them too much, you will have a tendancy to do that out of 'guilt'.
Good luck.
Steve

Title: Re: Life is hard.
Post by echo on Mar 22^nd, 2006, 3:30pm

Take care Drk. I've been where your going. It was very easy for me to pull the blinds and hide in a bottle for awhile. Get out, be with friends, make new friends, walk the mall and make internal fun of wierd looking people.

Hang tough

Title: Re: Life is hard.
Post by nani on Mar 22^nd, 2006, 3:57pm

To echo echo...
force yourself to get out there, Ken. You're still Dad, so start making new traditions and experiences with the kids. You're in my thoughts. hugs, nani

Title: Re: Life is hard.
Post by aprilbee on Mar 22^nd, 2006, 4:00pm

Good luck...my thoughts are with you and your family...going through something similar, but trying to hang on...keep your chin up...we're all here for ya! :-*

Title: Re: Life is hard.
Post by vig on Mar 22^nd, 2006, 4:21pm

Look forward.

You have a life ahead, albeit a different one,
so... take a deep breath and make the most of it.

there's so much ahead, don't miss it!!!!

Title: Re: Life is hard.
Post by Mastifflvr28 on Mar 22^nd, 2006, 4:48pm

Agree with Vig,
One door closes another opens.
Vibes going up to you Dark,
I'll try to be in chat tonite iffen yer up to it,
Mast

Title: Re: Life is hard.
Post by tanner on Mar 22^nd, 2006, 5:05pm

Drk, I can only echo echo is there an echo in here. Everyone of us is pullin for ya and we know you can weather this one with some advice and help from your friends. I have unlimited long distance so message me and I will be happy to give you my number so we can chat and maybe get drunk together. my afternoon is shadowing up to be a bad evening but nothing compared to what you will be going through for a while... and I emphasize a while.

pfdans and better days ahead for ya bro...............tim

Title: Re: Life is hard.
Post by Jasmyn on Mar 22^nd, 2006, 6:30pm

Sorry Kenn.
It is the loneliness that gets to one, the separation and the need to be with them.

Echo is right, go out and force yourself to be among people and like Nani said, remember you are still your kids Dad.

It is OK to fall apart but you cannot afford to break because those kids needs you.

My arms enfold you, however far away you are.

Title: Re: Life is hard.
Post by thebbz on Mar 22^nd, 2006, 6:43pm

Mr. Angel
Please consider you are not alone. Just a cell call or PM away all of us. Thanks for posting and break on through to the other side. I stole that from Jim Morrison. He should have followed his own advice. :-X Me too :-/
all the best
jb

Title: Re: Life is hard.
Post by Charlie on Mar 23^rd, 2006, 12:41am

You and your kids are gonna be all right. Hope you are able to get out among 'em too.

Charlie

Title: Re: Life is hard.
Post by Drk^Angel on Mar 23^rd, 2006, 8:42am

Made it through werk okay... Called in late because I was up almost all day helping my wife and kids move, and needed to get a couple more hours sleep. Luckily I pretty much outside by myself all night, so I don't have to worry about lookin' like too much of a blubberin' idiot, but it also gives me way too much time to think.

Too quiet here today. Have music playing to help, but then I keep hearing wierd noises, and have to pause the music to make sure the noise isn't coming from inside the house. Blah... Never noticed how damn noisy my neighborhood is. Oh well...

PFDAN................................................. Drk^Angel

Title: Re: Life is hard.
Post by Dragnlance on Mar 23^rd, 2006, 9:11am

I have nothing really to add, other than we are here for you man. Keep coming here when you are feeling low.
You have our support and we are always here.

Lance

Title: Re: Life is hard.
Post by rickyshot on Mar 23^rd, 2006, 9:18am

I went through divorce and now my kids are grown and out of the house. I broke up with someone after 8 years last year. I was betrayed. Life is shitty sometime. I spend many many hours alone. It gave me time to see where my part in choosing these partners or my end of screwing up in a relationship came from. Life has to be taken as a learning experience at all times.

Title: Re: Life is hard.
Post by LeLimey on Mar 23^rd, 2006, 11:01am

It will come, you'll learn to enjoy having some time to yourself. Make the most of it. it would be so easy to do nothing when you don't have the kids with you or to sit and mope but I make sure I arrange things to do during my time alone. Even if it's only having a two hour bath without interruptions! It takes time, don't push yourself and don't let anyone else push you but you will learn to enjoy your own company again. We're always here for you, only a click away and don't you forget that.. EVER!! Okay?
Thinking of you
Helen

Title: Re: Life is hard.
Post by Richr8 on Mar 23^rd, 2006, 2:56pm

on 03/22/06 at 14:13:13, Drk^Angel wrote:

My wife and kids left last August after 35 years (twins were seventeen). I went through my last cycle alone and finding this site probably saved my life. You 'll be okay, you have freinds here.

All the best and pf wishes, [smiley=hug.gif]

Rich