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(Message started by: fubar on Mar 17th, 2006, 1:15am)

Title: Sadly, it's over
Post by fubar on Mar 17th, 2006, 1:15am
The Dr. has decided to induce Jen because of all of the evidence of infection.  Baby Ethan will be delivered tonight.  Sorry for the bad news.

-Shawn

Title: Re: Sadly, it's over
Post by purpleydog on Mar 17th, 2006, 1:36am
:'(   :'(   [smiley=hug.gif]

Title: Re: Sadly, it's over
Post by Svenn on Mar 17th, 2006, 1:43am
:'( [smiley=hug.gif]

Title: Re: Sadly, it's over
Post by BMoneeTheMoneeMan on Mar 17th, 2006, 1:51am
ayi ya yi
:'(

Title: Re: Sadly, it's over
Post by Jasmyn on Mar 17th, 2006, 1:58am
I'm so sorry Shawn :'( :'( :'( :'(

((((((((((((((((([smiley=hug.gif]))))))))))))))))

Title: Re: Sadly, it's over
Post by schinnen on Mar 17th, 2006, 2:17am
My deepest sympathies to you and Jen; I have lost loved ones during my life, but cannot imagine what your grief is like.  I hope that you and Jen will get some help to overcome this most painful tragedy-life can be so unfair.  With deepest sympathy, Schinnen.

Title: Re: Sadly, it's over
Post by broomhilda on Mar 17th, 2006, 2:21am
With deepest sorrow and sympathy... :'( :'(

Prayers and hugs from Canada

Andrea

Title: Re: Sadly, it's over
Post by bella_lunatic on Mar 17th, 2006, 2:26am
I am so sorry.  Your family continues to be in my thoughts and prayers.

~Heather

Title: Re: Sadly, it's over
Post by fubar on Mar 17th, 2006, 3:13am
It was such a battle to get here, and very shortly it will be over.  The contractions are 2 minutes apart and very strong.  They gave Jen valium, morphine, and pitucin.  The combo has her whacked.  I don't know if that's going to make this worse or better.  It's midnight, so Ethan made it one more day officially.  He's 20 weeks and 2 days on this, his birthday, his only day.

I can't help but be mad at the world.  Mad at the universe.  I hope this doesn't make me as bitter as I feel right now.  I want to be a good person, but I don't see what it has bought me over the years.  Karma.  You'd think it would come back some day.  Fuck it.  I get to bury my twin boys the same month that the company I turned into a $320 million acquisition fires me for being on medical leave too long.  WTF?  I try, I really try.  What the hell does it get me?  The woman I love more than anything in the world is suffering like hell right now.  What kind of shit is that?  Sorry to vent.  I'm just stunned at the bullshit we have to endure.  Clusters, unjust taxes up the ass, ex-wife from hell, and now this.  When does it end?  What the hell am I here for?

I can't help it, I'm sorry for the unnecessary vulgarity.  I feel robbed and beaten.  Ignore me.

Title: Re: Sadly, it's over
Post by sandie99 on Mar 17th, 2006, 5:07am
Shawn,

that is just hearbreaking...  :'( :'( :'(

I am so, so sorry for you all. My thoughts and prayers are with you and Jen. I wish you both lots of stregth on this difficult time. [smiley=hug.gif]

And don't feel sorry about venting! It's good to get all that out. It's better that way. [smiley=hug.gif][smiley=hug.gif][smiley=hug.gif]

Sanna

Title: Re: Sadly, it's over
Post by Woobie on Mar 17th, 2006, 5:34am


Oh Shawn...

I'm soooooooooo sorry.  :'(  

I absolutely CANNOT imagine what you're going thru right now.  


Strength to you, my friend.
Tina

Title: Re: Sadly, it's over
Post by fubar on Mar 17th, 2006, 6:47am
It's 3:45 am.  Jen's water broke, and the contractions have become incredibly painful.  This is the most horrific thing I can imagine.  All this pain and anguish just to bury another baby.  They just finished giving her an epidural, so that should help.  They say life is not fair.  This is proof.

Title: Re: Sadly, it's over
Post by vig on Mar 17th, 2006, 6:56am
I'm sorry bro...

I know it stinks

let your frustration go...
you need to be strong to help her recover...

it's not Karma, it's just life.
Better days are coming.

Title: Re: Sadly, it's over
Post by JenniferD on Mar 17th, 2006, 7:09am
:'(

Shawn and Jen, my heart breaks for you. I am so sorry for the loss of your babies and all the other bs that is going on.

Stay strong, but remember we're all here to support you when strength goes.

Jen

Title: Re: Sadly, it's over
Post by E-Double on Mar 17th, 2006, 7:22am
Our deepest most heart felt wishes to you all!!!!!!!!!!!


Eric & Joanna

Title: Re: Sadly, it's over
Post by pattik on Mar 17th, 2006, 7:33am
:'(I'm very sorry for your loss, Shawn.
Pat

Title: Re: Sadly, it's over
Post by LeeS on Mar 17th, 2006, 7:39am
So sorry Shawn :'(  Keep battling.

-Lee

Title: Re: Sadly, it's over
Post by fubar on Mar 17th, 2006, 7:43am
Baby Patrick (in honor of St. Patty's day) was born at 3:48am.  He was beautiful and tiny.  We held him and watched his heart beat for about 5 minutes, then he scrunched a bit, and it stopped.  I have no words left.  This is the worst thing I have ever been through.  I truly want to die right now.   :-[

Title: Re: Sadly, it's over
Post by maffumatt on Mar 17th, 2006, 8:00am
Our deepest sorrow, words fail me.
Matt & Mary

Title: Re: Sadly, it's over
Post by Grandma_Sweet_Boy on Mar 17th, 2006, 8:18am
Shawn & Jen - there just are no words right now.

Please know that you're very much cared about and I'm sure that all of our hearts are breaking for you today. :'(

Carol


Title: Re: Sadly, it's over
Post by MOMO3 on Mar 17th, 2006, 8:20am
Shawn and Jen, you don't know me, I rarely post.  I am a CH supporter, and I have been following your story.  This morning I just felt compelled to post.   I am soo sorry for your loss and I will continue to pray for peace and strength for all of you.  

Michelle  [smiley=hug.gif]

Title: Re: Sadly, it's over
Post by BarbaraD on Mar 17th, 2006, 8:22am
My deepest sympathy...

BD

Title: Re: Sadly, it's over
Post by nani on Mar 17th, 2006, 8:26am
I'm so sorry, Shawn and Jennifer.  :'(
You are both in my thoughts and prayers. God has another angel today. :'(  
hugs and love, nani

Title: Re: Sadly, it's over
Post by Sean_C on Mar 17th, 2006, 8:46am
You have our deepest sympathy's Shawn and Jen.  :'( :'(

Sean &  Family


Title: Re: Sadly, it's over
Post by catlind on Mar 17th, 2006, 9:04am
My sincerest sympathies, words just don't seem to cut it.  My heart bleeds for you and Jen and your babies.

:'( :'( :'( :'(

Cat

Title: Re: Sadly, it's over
Post by minnie on Mar 17th, 2006, 9:06am
  Words fail me as I sit here and cry,My heart is broken and I cannot imagine the hell you and Jen are going through.I pray for the strength you will need to deal with your losses.Your babies are resting in Gods hands but it still seems so unfair.Please try to find support and someone to talk to.The pain will fade somewhat but never go away.I also pray you get a job that you love and that is a lot better then the one behind you.My prayers for you all continue.
 Love to your family and you,
   Minnie
 God bless ~~Andrew and Patrick~~ Gods two new angels

Title: Re: Sadly, it's over
Post by blood_Redd_son on Mar 17th, 2006, 9:08am
i'm sooo sorry  :'(
:'( :'( :'(
[smiley=hug.gif]

Dylan

Title: Re: Sadly, it's over
Post by Gator on Mar 17th, 2006, 9:09am
I'm so very sorry for your loss, Shawn.


Title: Re: Sadly, it's over
Post by Melissa on Mar 17th, 2006, 9:10am
http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v708/mfiltz/forShawn.jpg


My deepest heartfelt sympathies to you both.

Love,
Melissa

Title: Re: Sadly, it's over
Post by ExplodingEyeBall on Mar 17th, 2006, 9:24am
I have no words to describe my feelings over this.

Just know that you are in my prayers.

Title: Re: Sadly, it's over
Post by Redd715 on Mar 17th, 2006, 9:27am
I'm sooo very sorry for your loss.  

:'( :'( :'(

Pegg

Title: Re: Sadly, it's over
Post by lionsound on Mar 17th, 2006, 9:38am


Thinking loving thoughts for all of you.....I'm so sorry for your loss.

-Rori

Title: Re: Sadly, it's over
Post by kissmyglass on Mar 17th, 2006, 9:41am
Sorry Fu, Don't  know what to say.  :'( :'(

K

Title: Re: Sadly, it's over
Post by aprilbee on Mar 17th, 2006, 9:50am
God...please be with this family and their baby boys...

I can't imagine what ya'll are going through...may God be with you and provide you understanding...that is the one thing I would need...to simply understand...

my prayers and thoughts are with you  :'(

Title: Re: Sadly, it's over
Post by jimmers on Mar 17th, 2006, 9:52am
Kind of hard to swallow this lump in my throat :'(
You and your Wife are in our prayers.

Peace

Jim and Barb

Title: Re: Sadly, it's over
Post by Ghost on Mar 17th, 2006, 9:53am
Stand tall my friend,
the pain will end,
the memory forever will last.
Over time the loss,
will show its cost,
a cost of a piece of your heart.
Even though only a short time,
love given between,
a life time of love it was.
Hold on to that moment,
as if it was forever,
giving all of the love that you have.
Show you to you son,
the love of a father,
the love between a father and son.
Bless his soul,
he will bless yours too,
a gift no one can ever erase.
Tears you will bear,
he will not care,
hold him close to your face.
A second of love is worth the heavens above,
a minute wort all created.
Share it with them,
take care my friend,
show him his life is worth living.
Hold them both close,
give them the most,
your love is always worth giving.

To Shawn, Jen,and Baby Patrick

This is all I have to give to you.
Mike

Title: Re: Sadly, it's over
Post by Jimi on Mar 17th, 2006, 10:11am
:'(

                  Psalms 139: 15-16

Title: Re: Sadly, it's over
Post by Margi on Mar 17th, 2006, 10:11am
Shawn and Jen, my deepest heartfelt sympathis and I, too, pray that you are sent understanding and courage to carry on.  These two precious souls that have drifted in and out of your lives so quickly have taught you a love that has depths you've never known before.  Hold on to that, Shawn and treasure their memory.  Take comfort in knowing that you WILL see them again, fully restored and healthy, in the place that they were destined to be.
God's love is around you, Shawn and Jen, try to reach out to it.
Margi

Title: Re: Sadly, it's over
Post by rickyshot on Mar 17th, 2006, 10:15am
:'( :'( :'( [smiley=hug.gif] My deepest sympathy and prayers go out to you and your family. May little Patrick rest in peace.

Title: Re: Sadly, it's over
Post by Charlie on Mar 17th, 2006, 11:14am
I'm so sorry and at a loss for words.

Like you, I wonder just what it is that you have to do to get a break.

Rant away when you can. It can't hurt. http://www.clusterheadaches.com/public_html/yabbimages/smileys/hug.gif

Charlie

Title: Re: Sadly, it's over
Post by imnotbub on Mar 17th, 2006, 11:27am
Shawn,
Reading your post truly brought a tear to my eye. I can only immagine what you must be feeling at this moment. My deepest sympathy to you and Jen.
Steve

Title: Re: Sadly, it's over
Post by Linda_Howell on Mar 17th, 2006, 11:49am


Shawn,

  Every one of us are crying right along with you and Jen.

This will take a long time to get over, if ever..in the meantime, lean on us, express your anger anyway you want to here and know you have tons and tons of people who are supporting and praying for you.

Linda

Title: Re: Sadly, it's over
Post by Cathi04 on Mar 17th, 2006, 12:16pm
Shawn,
           
I know my tears cant help. I cant begin to know the pain you are feeling.
Give yourselves time to grieve, then begin to heal.

So many of us have been compelled to follow this with words of encouragement, support, vibes and prayers.
Now, all any of us really want to do is wrap our arms around you and give you a place to grieve.

Maybe you and Jen will have some strength by next weekend to drive to Sacto.

You've been through so much, now it's time to heal....

Cathi :-[

Title: Re: Sadly, it's over
Post by Karla on Mar 17th, 2006, 12:18pm
My deepest sympathies.  I am so sorry for your loss. :'(

Title: Re: Sadly, it's over
Post by medic1852 on Mar 17th, 2006, 12:21pm
I am not even going to try and say that I understand. I do wish I could take your pain from you. My thoughts and prayers will be with you. I am so so very sorry for your loss. :'(
Rodger


Title: Re: Sadly, it's over
Post by ..Danielle.. on Mar 17th, 2006, 12:59pm
Don't ever apologise for your feelings. They are so real and unimaginably raw. I have no words of wisdom, only prayers for you and Jen.

[smiley=hug.gif] [smiley=hug.gif] :'( :'(

Danielle

Title: Re: Sadly, it's over
Post by FramCire on Mar 17th, 2006, 1:19pm
Shawn,

As a father I am sitting at my computer crying thinking about your situation.  It is a horror no man (or woman) should have to endure.  In all honesty, you are going through stuff that would break most people.  Reading your post where you let out your emotions made me want to slap myself for ever complaining about anything.

However, like all the trials in our life, this one will make you stronger and when you get to see Patrick again, the pain and sorrow will turn to a joy that noone of us can imagine.  

Keep on living life the right way and when "Karma" fails you, God will take care of you.

Anyway, I am sure my words are not going to make you feel any better right now, but know that I (and everyone here) weeps with you, screams with you, and will pray for you.  When you get a moment where you are feeling better give Jen a simple kiss on her forehead and tell her you love her.  No words will help her (or you) feel better right now, but reminding each other of the love you share will be the best comfort you can have/give.

Our (my family's) prayers are with you.

Eric

Title: Re: Sadly, it's over
Post by JDH on Mar 17th, 2006, 2:25pm
I'm so sorry Shawn

Jim

Title: Re: Sadly, it's over
Post by pubgirl on Mar 17th, 2006, 2:47pm
Shawn and Jen

I am so, so sorry. There is no reason for this, it is just life being fucking unfair. It will be fair again and good to you both, meanwhile "rage, rage" as that good old drunk Dylan Thomas said. And then get better again.

My love to you Shawn, and to Jen through you

Wendy


Title: Re: Sadly, it's over
Post by Charlotte on Mar 17th, 2006, 3:08pm
I'm so sorry.

Title: Re: Sadly, it's over
Post by Ree on Mar 17th, 2006, 7:08pm
All I can say is I am so so sorry and we love you Shawn.
Get mad, get tough and get strong to get you through the next few sad months.  Do not let this distroy what you have.  Love will see you through this.... I just know it.  Hold Jen close.  Thank God she has you and your strong strong heart....
love reehttp://bestanimations.com/Nature/Fire/Candles/Candle-05-june.gif

Title: Re: Sadly, it's over
Post by boonie on Mar 17th, 2006, 7:41pm
I am so sorry for you Shawn , my heart goes out to you
and Jen tis a sad sad day

boonie

Title: Re: Sadly, it's over
Post by BlueMeanie on Mar 17th, 2006, 7:54pm
So sorry to hear the news Shawn.  :'( :'(    Hugs to you and Jen.

Title: Re: Sadly, it's over
Post by kimmiedawn81 on Mar 17th, 2006, 8:34pm
I can't even describe how sorry I am that this happened.  My heart goes out to you.  I just sit here crying and praying for you, your wife and your whole family.  You will be in my thoughts and prayers.

Title: Re: Sadly, it's over
Post by mrs mac on Mar 17th, 2006, 9:41pm
Shawn and Jen

i know you guys don't know me, but i am so sorry you have had to go through this :'( :'(

i will pray for you and your family

God Bless

Sandra xxxx

Title: Re: Sadly, it's over
Post by Lizzie2 on Mar 17th, 2006, 10:57pm
:'(  My heart breaks for you guys....

To hold so much hope and anticipation, fear and worry - and then to have this outcome - I'm just so  very sorry...  You're right - life isn't fair.  You've shone nothing but love and strength in trying to get through this.  Wishing I could give you both a hug right now.  We'll be your strength...wish there was more I could do...

Love you guys...
Carrie

Title: Re: Sadly, it's over
Post by ClusterChuck on Mar 17th, 2006, 11:55pm
My Grandmother always said, she never wanted to bury another child.  She had to bury "Baby Charles" whom I was named after.

I have always been, and still am, afraid of having to do that.

Yet, you and your wife have had to do it TWICE ... within a month ...

I cannot imagine the pain and agony that you are going through.  It sure makes any MINOR problems I have had, lately, seem rather piddling, and insignificant.

My heart and prayers, go to you, and yours ...

Chuck

Title: Re: Sadly, it's over
Post by Roxy on Mar 18th, 2006, 12:01am
Shawn,  

My deepest symapthies to you and Jen.  I am so sorry that you have had to go through this.

Tracey

Title: Re: Sadly, it's over
Post by Kirk on Mar 18th, 2006, 4:35am
We are so sorry for your losses Shawn.

Title: Re: Sadly, it's over
Post by LeLimey on Mar 18th, 2006, 4:39am
Some things there are no words for. Just shoulders to lean on hands to hold and hugs to comfort as best they can. We can't all be with you Shawn and Jen but shut your eyes and you'll see us right beside you. Lean on us as much as you need, we'll always be here
So much love
Helen

Title: Re: Sadly, it's over
Post by BobG on Mar 18th, 2006, 6:30am
Our deepest sympathies to you and Jen.
You will be reunited with the twins one day. You will know them and they will know you. You all will be a family together forever.
:'(

Title: Re: Sadly, it's over
Post by cardogman on Mar 18th, 2006, 7:49am
Both of you will get through this. BOTH OF YOU WILL GET THROUGH THIS.

We all have the coping mechanisms to absord a tremendous amount of pain and suffering and eventually you will be fine. This experience will make you stronger and at peace with yourselves.

May I suggest that in your own time if you haven't already, sit down with somebody and talk about.

If I can be of any help personally please feel free to PM me.

It's going to be allright.

I'm sorry for your loss.

Burt

Title: Re: Sadly, it's over
Post by Bethany1 on Mar 18th, 2006, 10:38am
I'm at a loss for words. I am so sorry for your family. You will all be in my thoughts and prayers.  [smiley=hug.gif]

-Bethany

Title: Re: Sadly, it's over
Post by Mastifflvr28 on Mar 19th, 2006, 12:21am
My deepest condolences to your family.
Try to take care,
Mast

Title: Re: Sadly, it's over
Post by Shaz on Mar 20th, 2006, 10:02am
Along with everybody else, please accept my condolences Shawn and Jen.

Have thought so much about you over the last few weeks and am so terribly sorry the way things have worked out.  Hold on to eachother.

Lots of Love

Shaz  :'( :-*

Title: Re: Sadly, it's over
Post by ShariRae on Mar 20th, 2006, 10:05am
I am so sorry for you both.Words just don't seem enough.You are in my thoughts and prayers....
Much Love
Shari

Title: Re: Sadly, it's over
Post by minnie on Mar 20th, 2006, 11:57am
http://i35.photobucket.com/albums/d182/minnie7053/8429-001-05-10591.gif

  Still praying for the strength you'll need at this time.
        Minnie

Title: Re: Sadly, it's over
Post by Tiannia on Mar 20th, 2006, 12:22pm
Shawn,

I can not voice what I feel.  I understand the fear, I was lucky enough to have the baby survive.  My son is my miracle.  Hold Jen close. You need each other now more then anything else.  This can not break you.  Be strong, be tough, be loved.  The twins will always be with you.  Whenever you need them, why will be in your arms.

Blessed be,
Tia

Title: Re: Sadly, it's over
Post by TxBasslady on Mar 22nd, 2006, 1:05pm
I wish I had the capacity and knowledge to say something that would make a difference.

Devastating is all I can think of.  

Thoughts and prayers to you and Jen.

Jean

Title: Re: Sadly, it's over
Post by Sandy_C on Mar 22nd, 2006, 1:20pm
Shawn and Jen, I don't know what I could possibly say to you to ease the pain that you are in.  I've been out of town and come back to learn of this tragic loss.  I'm crying while I'm typing this.  Just know that my heart goes out to both of you, and I'm sending prayers for both of your darling twins and to both of you.

I am so sorry.

Sandy

Title: Re: Sadly, it's over
Post by Tim_w on Mar 22nd, 2006, 2:52pm
Shawn and Jen
Our thoughts and Prayers are with you!
We are here for you and yours
take care Bro and sis
Tim w Happy Pappy  and Patti



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