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(Message started by: fubar on Mar 13^th, 2006, 11:30pm)

Title: Update
Post by fubar on Mar 13^th, 2006, 11:30pm

Well, I was sure today was the day. Jen called me, I was away from the hospital trying to take care of insurance paperwork and other stuff and she called me in that same panicked voice... "It's happening again". I raced to the hospital, heart in my throat, wishing it could be me and not my baby about to be born for 10 minutes of life. Her contractions were close, about 3 minutes apart. When I got there, I was scared to death to see that 'special' card hanging on our door to alert the staff that a death was imminent, but it wasn't there. You see, when this happened the first time I arrived to find a little postcard-like picture of a rainy leaf. Apparently it tells the staff to be extra respectful and careful of what they say or do. A maternity ward is usually full of smiles and happiness, but the card lets them know to be reserved and somber. It wasn't there, and that made me break down into tears even before I went in the room. Jen was still in a panic because she didn't know what was happening. The doc came in about 30 minutes later and did his thing. He gave her some terbutalane (sp?) and assured us that this was not like the first time, that we weren't about to lose this one just yet.

I swear, I just don't know how much of this I can take. I guess I can take as much as I have to, because that's what you do. Jen is losing it. Jesus, how do we do 20 weeks of this?

So, prayers must be working, we still have a baby cooking and that's all I can ask for right now. Please God, don't take out baby.

That's all for now... updates when I can... thanks for all the help. I'll try to post when I can.

Title: Re: Update
Post by alienspacebabe on Mar 13^th, 2006, 11:34pm

I recommend a support group. My mother lost three. My sister lost three. Support groups - people who truly understand - may help.

You, your wife, and your child are in my thoughts.

Title: Re: Update
Post by Jimi on Mar 13^th, 2006, 11:36pm

You gotta be there for Jen. You can break down later if this all goes south. But the good news is this.... Another day and the baby is still where it is supposed to be. I am praying for you. My son lost his first two. They were twins as well. Like the life of a clusterhead. One day at a time. [smiley=hug.gif]

Title: Re: Update
Post by minnie on Mar 13^th, 2006, 11:40pm

Thank you for the update.Still praying for you,Jen and the whole family.May God bless you with the strength you need to make it through.I wish I could give you both a hug and sit with you til a healthy baby is born.....I hate being so far away and not being able to help.
Minnie

Title: Re: Update
Post by nani on Mar 13^th, 2006, 11:42pm

Still sending prayers, love and hugs, Shawn. Thanks for the update.

Title: Re: Update
Post by Jasmyn on Mar 14^th, 2006, 12:04am

(((((((((((((((((([smiley=hug.gif]))))))))))))))

Title: Re: Update
Post by Cathi04 on Mar 14^th, 2006, 1:16am

Shawn, never having been there myself, I am careful to speak, but I do know how hard it is to face the loss of a child. I am sure there are tons of things that need your attention right now. Someone has to keep all those balls in the air.
I have to think that, for however long this all takes, it WILL be worth it in the long run. One sweet little boy, with 2 souls WILL be born.
Keep hanging onto each other when you can, Fu, and know we are all doing our best..and remember.....
you experienced one miracle.......you KNOW they happen.....
Praying for another miracle, and sending a huge hug,
Cathi

Title: Re: Update
Post by LeLimey on Mar 14^th, 2006, 3:41am

I can't tell you the trepidation I feel when I see a post from you Shawn.. or the sheer exhilaration when I see all is okay. I'm sitting here in a mess of tears and smiles, relieved and happy that all is well still.
Have faith hon, I do. I lost three babies before having Jasper. He wouldn't be here if any of them were. I have to believe I was waiting for him and he is so, so special.
Andrew will always be a part of your family, he was just teaching you how much you could love for when his brother is born and he has gone on to watch over all of you. He is loved and so are you and Jen.
Thanks for keeping us up to date, you just don't know how much this means to all of us
Helen

Title: Re: Update
Post by Shaz on Mar 14^th, 2006, 5:36am

First thing I get to do when I arrive at work is sign on to see you how are all doing...

Hang on Shawn, Jen and little one. Another day goes by. I know each one will be agony for a long time but every one will be a bonus and the baby will be just a little stronger.

I dont think I have every prayed so hard.

All my love again.

Shaz :-* :-* :-*

Title: Re: Update
Post by sandie99 on Mar 14^th, 2006, 9:52am

Your family have been on my thoughts a lot today. I wish you all strength. Jimi gave you already wise advice: take it one day at the time... that's the way to cope with something as sad as this. I keep on praying for you. [smiley=hug.gif] [smiley=hug.gif] [smiley=hug.gif]

Best wishes,
Sanna

Title: Re: Update
Post by vig on Mar 14^th, 2006, 9:55am

We lost two...
I'm guessing it was meant to be that way,
Be strong, do your best...

we're all here for you...

Title: Re: Update
Post by Linda_Howell on Mar 14^th, 2006, 11:20am

I cannot tell you how much respect and admiration I have for both of you.

The kind of strength that this takes to endure, is obviously something you both have in abundance...You're doing a great job Shawn. I am so proud of you.

Linda

Title: Re: Update
Post by Ghost on Mar 14^th, 2006, 12:37pm

My wife lost 4 out of 6 total. It never gets easy. :'( :'( :'(

Mike

Hang in there and Praying Hard for You and Jen!!!!

Title: Re: Update
Post by doodles on Mar 14^th, 2006, 10:16pm

Hang in there...it has to be real tough! Every day baby spends growing is another day closer to being born. Please keep us all informed... You have alot of people praying for you and your family! Lean on us...

XXOO Janet

Title: Re: Update
Post by Ree on Mar 14^th, 2006, 10:40pm

He is still here fu... whats the babies name so that I can pray for him by name ... Blessings for you...

love ree

Title: Re: Update
Post by cootie on Mar 14^th, 2006, 11:07pm

You, baby and Jen HANG IN THERE !!!! Long haul Pam

Title: Re: Update
Post by fubar on Mar 15^th, 2006, 10:49am

Ree,

The baby's name is Ethan. It's looking very grim for poor Ethan right now. Jen had massive contractions last night, and the ultrasound showed that her cervix is effacing, meaning it is preparing itself for delivery. She had lots of bloody show this morning, but the contractions have been held at bay with IV drip of magnesium sulfate. They did an amnio last night to see if the uterus was infected from the first baby's placenta, but the results were inconclusive. Right now, it's just not looking great. We are jello.

-Shawn

Title: Re: Update
Post by LeLimey on Mar 15^th, 2006, 10:52am

Shawn we're praying as hard as we can here and I for one DO believe in miracles. I'm begging that if there is one left in my lifetime this is it.
love
Helen

Title: Re: Update
Post by Ghost on Mar 15^th, 2006, 11:08am

Dont give up I agree with Helen. I for one DO believe in miracles. Praying really hard for You, Jen, and Ethan. :'( :'( :'(
Please tell Jen and Ethan we are all pulling for them!!!!!

Mike

Title: Re: Update
Post by sandie99 on Mar 15^th, 2006, 11:59am

((((((((((Shawn, Jen & Ethan)))))))))))
You are in my prayers. [smiley=hug.gif] [smiley=hug.gif] [smiley=hug.gif]

Sanna

Title: Re: Update
Post by nani on Mar 15^th, 2006, 12:12pm

(((Shawn, Jen, Ethan)))

I'm praying for a miracle. God bless you all.
hugs, nani

Title: Re: Update
Post by Melissa on Mar 15^th, 2006, 1:11pm

Oh God, I am so sorry Shawn. I am also very, very sorry to Jen. She must be in extreme anguish right now. :(

peace & prayers to you both...

love,
mel

Title: Re: Update
Post by Lizzie2 on Mar 15^th, 2006, 1:17pm

[[{Shawn, Jen and Ethan]]}

If he can just wait until 23 weeks.... I know it's not what you want, but he can survive at 23 weeks. I've seen them do great - it's never an easy road, but some 23 weekers do make it and do well. However, you just need to look at all the information as the time comes closer to that...

My heart is breaking for you guys........

Please let me know if there's anything I can do.
Hugz,
Carrie

Title: Re: Update
Post by thebbz on Mar 15^th, 2006, 1:47pm

More help...keeping up the prayers.
jb

Title: Re: Update
Post by fubar on Mar 15^th, 2006, 2:00pm

White blood cell count, up.
C-Reactive Protien, up. Not a good sign. Means the body is probably fighting an infection somewhere. Hopefully outside of the uterus.
Contractions getting worse, Jen says they are much lower than before.

Gotta say, it's going to take a miracle.

-Shawn

Title: Re: Update
Post by sandie99 on Mar 15^th, 2006, 2:13pm

Shawn,

miracles happen. Everyday. I'm praying that you can soon say that your family has witnessed one. My thoughts and prayers are with you, Jen & Ethan.

Sanna

Title: Re: Update
Post by E-Double on Mar 15^th, 2006, 2:34pm

(((((((((With all my heart!!!!!!!)))))))

Title: Re: Update
Post by Lizzie2 on Mar 15^th, 2006, 2:43pm

Can't remember if you've said - have they given betamethasone yet? It's a powerful steroid to help the baby's lungs develop now.

Continued prayers and hugs...

Carrie