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(Message started by: Phil L on Dec 21st, 2005, 8:07pm)

Title: Update on Daughters attempted suicide
Post by Phil L on Dec 21st, 2005, 8:07pm
Good news. Daughter in rehab and doing well. Seems stable and happier as drugs (crystall meth) leave the brain. I hope and pray, but it's really all up to her and it's a long haul. As my stress deminished, Ch got worse
(as some of you indicated it might), but big deal. Been there, done that.

She is 36 days clean and sober, has a six hour pass Christmas day to see her family and kids. Life is good -
one day at a time.

Phil

Title: Re: Update on Daughters attempted suicide
Post by Jonny on Dec 21st, 2005, 8:12pm
Mega holiday prayers and vibes going out for your kid, Bro!

Title: Re: Update on Daughters attempted suicide
Post by Kevin_M on Dec 21st, 2005, 8:39pm

on 12/21/05 at 20:07:34, Phil L wrote:
She is 36 days clean and sober, has a six hour pass Christmas day to see her family and kids. Life is good -
one day at a time.


Yes baby!  continued follow-through on her own too is important.  

Title: Re: Update on Daughters attempted suicide
Post by Mattchew on Dec 21st, 2005, 8:41pm
Best of wishes, she has a long hard fight ahead of her. Glad she has someone who has faith in her to back her up, thats important. I know.

Title: Re: Update on Daughters attempted suicide
Post by alienspacebabe on Dec 21st, 2005, 8:45pm
One day at a time.

You're doing all you can.
My thoughts are with you all.

Title: Re: Update on Daughters attempted suicide
Post by pattik on Dec 21st, 2005, 8:47pm
It's great to hear that she is doing so well.  But I'm sure sorry that your CH cycle hasn't left yet...but it will--just hang in there.  In the mean time, I know that you will have a great Christmas with your daughter on the mend.  All the best to you and your family.  [smiley=hug.gif] Pat

Title: Re: Update on Daughters attempted suicide
Post by cootie on Dec 21st, 2005, 9:41pm
The CLUE is to keep her away from it.......she needs a cool hobby or sumthin to keep her busy that will be more precious to her that makes her feel as good as it did. Been there done that.....lucky for me the stuff made me burnt out and crabby......but it makes you feel like you could build a house in 5 hours and go to the moon in less. No fear.....no pain.......but there is NO gain Pam

My pets have always been what has kept me from goin over the edge......and I worship them for that.

Title: Re: Update on Daughters attempted suicide
Post by Cerberus on Dec 21st, 2005, 10:14pm
Good news indeed...

Positive reinforcement, and clusterheads is all you need. Hope the upward trend continues. Now go knock the crap outta the beast... I want him good and beat up by the time he gets here tonight.

Peace out,
'Bus

Title: Re: Update on Daughters attempted suicide
Post by alchemy on Dec 21st, 2005, 10:57pm
great news about your daughter, I smoked that crap for a year trying to get rid ch's. each day will get a little easier for her, especially with you to back her up. have a great holiday.  jim

Title: Re: Update on Daughters attempted suicide
Post by Phil L on Dec 21st, 2005, 11:18pm
Thanks for being there. Mr. Fix it here can't fix this one and feels sort of helpless. Would much rather be out slaying dragons. Watching and holding my breath is the best I can do. Finding the middle ground of support, love, and compassion without enabling (I know your having a rough time, here's a hundred bucks) is tougher than I thought it would be - let's hear it for Alanon and saying no with love. More updates as time degrades time. Until then,

Phil


Title: Re: Update on Daughters attempted suicide
Post by zwibbs/Scott on Dec 22nd, 2005, 12:43am
let's hear it for Alanon and saying no with love. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------Hey Phil-Amen to that !!! Alanon will help you do the things that NEED to be done. There is nothing worse than having to say NO to your children--no matter what the age. But No will only help her defeat the addiction.....My prayers and everyone's prayers will be sent each and every day !!! Good Luck and Keep the Faith.

Title: Re: Update on Daughters attempted suicide
Post by nancyc on Dec 22nd, 2005, 1:07am
God bless you and your daughter...i can really relate as i am going thru some similar things at the time...i know the stress does effect my chs....You will be in my prayers. smiles,nancyc

Title: Re: Update on Daughters attempted suicide
Post by Beastfodder on Dec 22nd, 2005, 5:19am
Very best wishes to you and your family over Chirstmas - hope all goes well

Title: Re: Update on Daughters attempted suicide
Post by ZAIRA on Dec 22nd, 2005, 5:36am

I'm happy to hear she's doing better.... :)

Merry Christmas..... may the new year bring more sunshine her way.....

Zaira

Title: Re: Update on Daughters attempted suicide
Post by BarbaraD on Dec 22nd, 2005, 8:17am
Phil,

Wishing you a PF Christmas and luck with your daughter. Hope it's the merriest one yet.

Hugs BD

Title: Re: Update on Daughters attempted suicide
Post by nani on Dec 22nd, 2005, 10:38am
Phil I know too well what you're going through, and I'm sorry that you are. 36 days is good. With luck it will continue and someday you can say (as I am finally able to say) My daughter has 4 years of being clean. Meth is a particularly devastating drug, I swear it robs people of their souls.
Tough love, bro. The key word is love. Supporting emotionally but not financially (unless it's buying food). Say "I know you can do this, I have faith in you!!"
I'm sending prayers that things continue to go well.
Happy Holidays to you and yours. hugs, nani

Title: Re: Update on Daughters attempted suicide
Post by cazman on Dec 22nd, 2005, 11:12am
i hope she makes it thru this bro thats some tough stuff to deal with ive seen someone close to me go from a great person to someone i no longer knew ., positive note is hes a little over one year clean from it, be supportive but you have to be tough as nails too, good luck and keeps us updated.
god bless you both so you get thru this.

Title: Re: Update on Daughters attempted suicide
Post by Charlie on Dec 22nd, 2005, 4:29pm
Good news and things indeed look better for her.

Keep on it and enjoy all the food and a Merry Christmas. Your new year looks to be so much better too. http://www.subscribe.smileygenerator.us/all/albums/0riginals/cheers.gif?SSImageQuality=Full

Charlie

Title: Re: Update on Daughters attempted suicide
Post by Jasmyn on Dec 23rd, 2005, 1:39am
Take each day as a blessing and strength to you both.


Title: Re: Update on Daughters attempted suicide
Post by DonnaHar on Dec 23rd, 2005, 4:59am
Prayers and best wishes are with you and your daughter.  Tough love is one of the hardest things you will ever have to practice in your life when it comes to dealing with your own child.  You've got a reserve of strength, tho, that you didn't know you have.

I had one in a "get straight" program and thought I was having a stroke every time I went to a weekly open meeting and tried to talk to him over a microphone.

Sincerely wishing your family a Merry Christmas.

Title: Re: Update on Daughters attempted suicide
Post by Phil L on Dec 28th, 2005, 12:30pm
Update: Daughter spent Christmas (seven hour pass) with family members, her children and partner. She looks good, motivated and sane. All embraced her with love, compassion and understanding - except her partner who needs to spend a moment inside a blender.

Saw her yesterday and she was upbeat, determined and focused on her recovery. What a trooper!

Phil

Title: Re: Update on Daughters attempted suicide
Post by pattik on Dec 28th, 2005, 12:35pm

on 12/28/05 at 12:30:04, Phil L wrote:
- except her partner who needs to spend a moment inside a blender.

[smiley=laugh.gif]

You're the trooper too.  I love good news.  I'm especially happy for her kids, who need their mom.  Hope the CH is trending down.
Pat

Title: Re: Update on Daughters attempted suicide
Post by Ree on Dec 29th, 2005, 7:30pm
still sending you prayers.... for your sweet daughter... please pm me her first name so that I can pray for her by name.....love ree



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