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Title: I need this family today of all days. Post by Redd715 on Sep 12th, 2005, 7:38am This is the hardest decision I've ever had to make. I'm so tired of having to always be the strong one. The trouble with this situation is that Mom "doesn't" want any means keeping her from passing if it is her time to leave this world. Been on and off the phone with my brother this morning, and just called the hospital for an update before I go in. She is still gaining weight from the kidneys not being functional, shes only put out 500 units of urine. She's taken in over 6000 units of fluids. Her hands and feet anr swollen tight from the fluid retention. Dialasis is the only option and she would not want that. My brother is on his way up, and today, with his support, I will be making the final determination of taking her off all treatments and allowing her to pass. Please send all the vibes you have to spare and light candles, say prayers, whatever....I need all the strength I can get today.... Mom, I love you and I will follow your wishes as you asked me to. I'm not ready for you to go, but you've suffered enough. It is time to let you pass and I will see you on the other side. |
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Title: Re: I need this family today of all days. Post by nani on Sep 12th, 2005, 7:40am Oh, honey... I have no words except I'm so sorry and I'm there with you in spirit. :'( :'( Stay strong. It's what she wanted. hugs and much love and support, nani |
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Title: Re: I need this family today of all days. Post by Kim Y. on Sep 12th, 2005, 7:41am :'( :'( :'(Redd Sorry you are faced with such a hard decision. Glad you are honoring your moms wishes though. Prayers and vibes to you and your family. [smiley=hug.gif] Kim |
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Title: Re: I need this family today of all days. Post by Sandy_C on Sep 12th, 2005, 7:43am I'm so sorry Redd. It's definitely not an easy thing to do, but it's what she wants. I had to do the same with my Mother. It was extremely hard for me but she had suffered so much for so long, I knew it was what she needed and wanted. That knowledge help me to do the right thing for her. Stay strong for her. Sandy |
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Title: Re: I need this family today of all days. Post by Langa on Sep 12th, 2005, 7:46am Pegg, I’m so deeply sorry :'( :'( :'( I wish I was there to give you a huge hug. Know that you and your family are in my prayers and thoughts. You’re a good daughter Pegg and you’re doing what would make your Mom happy though it is very tough for you…I really admire you Sis. You’re much stronger than you think and you’ll get through this and you WILL see each other again. Love, Maria |
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Title: Re: I need this family today of all days. Post by LeLimey on Sep 12th, 2005, 7:51am You have all of us right there with you Pegg, just shut your eyes and you'll see us. Lots of love and all the strength I can send helen X |
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Title: Re: I need this family today of all days. Post by deltadarlin on Sep 12th, 2005, 7:53am Redd/Pegg, Your mama put *you* in charge for a reason. I'm guessing that reason is because she knew that you would carry out her wishes and let her die on her own terms and in peace. Think about the peace she will have once she's out of this mortal body and her soul can fly free, unemcumbered by the ravages of the disease that slowly took her away from the family and from herself. Her physical body is just the shell that holds her soul and all that makes her *who* she is. You may can take the physical body, but the essence of the soul never leaves those of that are left behind. love,' 'darlin and redneck redd, I can promise you one thing (and this thing I've lived through), you don't have to wait to see her *until you reach the other side*. Memories like a warm blanket will wrap you up and hold you close for now and always. You will always feel her prescence, whether she is there physically or not. |
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Title: Re: I need this family today of all days. Post by giffy76 on Sep 12th, 2005, 8:00am I'm sending you all my prayers for strength and peace. [smiley=hug.gif] |
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Title: Re: I need this family today of all days. Post by minnie on Sep 12th, 2005, 8:01am (((Peggy))) [smiley=hug.gif] :'( May your Mom soar with the angels.may you have the strength to follow your Mom's wishes I know she's proud of you.wish I could be there to help support you through this.I will be praying for your mom,your family and you as you go through this heart wrenching time... Minnie -------------------------------------------------------------- The Serenity Prayer God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference. Living one day at a time; Enjoying one moment at a time; Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace; Taking, as He did, this sinful world as it is, not as I would have it; Trusting that He will make all things right if I surrender to His Will; That I may be reasonably happy in this life and supremely happy with Him Forever in the next. Amen. --Reinhold Niebuhr Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him, and he will direct your paths. Proverbs 3, 5-6 |
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Title: Re: I need this family today of all days. Post by alienspacebabe on Sep 12th, 2005, 8:06am I'm so sorry, Pegg. [smiley=hug.gif] |
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Title: Re: I need this family today of all days. Post by Svenn on Sep 12th, 2005, 8:14am :'( :'( :'( Im in loss of words Pegg But you know we are here for you Praying for you and your mom and your family Svenn :'( :'( :'( |
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Title: Re: I need this family today of all days. Post by Pinkfloyd on Sep 12th, 2005, 8:26am Hi Pegg, Your Mom trusts you and knows you possess the wisdom and strength to do what is right for her. Trust yourself as much as she trusts you. *hug* Bobw |
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Title: Re: I need this family today of all days. Post by ShariRae on Sep 12th, 2005, 8:35am Pegg, I dont know what to say..just know you are in my thoughts and prayers at this difficult time...Your mom is blessed to have such a loving daughter... Huggs Shari |
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Title: Re: I need this family today of all days. Post by vig on Sep 12th, 2005, 8:38am oh dear Pegg... big hugs [smiley=hug.gif] |
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Title: Re: I need this family today of all days. Post by sandie99 on Sep 12th, 2005, 8:41am Pegg... :'( I'm so sorry that you have to be the one who decides about something that huge. I coudn't do that, I know that. It's wonderful that you have the courage to honor your mother's wish. Lots of (((Vibes))) and prayers are on their way to your direction right now. [smiley=hug.gif] I'll be thinking about you. Wishing you all the strength, Sanna |
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Title: Re: I need this family today of all days. Post by Gator on Sep 12th, 2005, 8:46am I wish for you the strength to make the decisions you need to make and the peace of mind to know they were the right ones. I hope your brother gives you the support you need to do what you know needs to be done. Lean on your other family if you need to. We are here for you and our thoughts and prayers are with you. Mike |
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Title: Re: I need this family today of all days. Post by pattik on Sep 12th, 2005, 8:48am Pegg, I agree with deltadarlin in that you were chosen to be in charge here for a reason. It is a supreme act of love to follow through with a loved one's wishes, as difficult as that might be. And down the road with some hindsight, you will see your unselfishness for what it is, great courage. My deepest well-wishes to you on this most difficult of days. [smiley=hug.gif] Pat |
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Title: Re: I need this family today of all days. Post by Mastifflvr28 on Sep 12th, 2005, 8:52am Thoughts, Vibes and prayers headed your way Pegg, Take care of yourself too, Mast |
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Title: Re: I need this family today of all days. Post by Cathi04 on Sep 12th, 2005, 8:58am Pegg, There are a lot of good thoughts in the words above me. You are following her wishes. The miracle is not far now. It is the miracle of no pain. Of peace. After that begins your healing. I cannot tell you when this happens, but I have been there. When you need it most the memories will replace the pain, and envelope you with peace. Till then, you have so many who care for you. Let your friends hold you up while you get through this most trying time.... My heart goes out to you, Pegg..... Cathi |
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Title: Re: I need this family today of all days. Post by kimmiedawn81 on Sep 12th, 2005, 9:02am You will most definitely be in my thoughts and prayers today and for the difficult time to come. I am so sorry that you have to go through this tough time. |
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Title: Re: I need this family today of all days. Post by jcmquix on Sep 12th, 2005, 9:05am Pegg... Our Thought's & Prayer's are going out You... [smiley=hug.gif] [smiley=hug.gif] [smiley=hug.gif] God Bless You & Your Family Charlie & Jolene |
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Title: Re: I need this family today of all days. Post by ExplodingEyeBall on Sep 12th, 2005, 9:07am [smiley=hug.gif] Hang in there. Just be there for you mom. She needs you now. |
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Title: Re: I need this family today of all days. Post by lionsound on Sep 12th, 2005, 9:10am Oh Pegg [smiley=hug.gif] :'( thinking of you and your mom. |
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Title: Re: I need this family today of all days. Post by Bethany1 on Sep 12th, 2005, 9:11am Pegg, I am so sorry. :'( :'( :'( Try to be strong. Hugs and prayers to you. [smiley=hug.gif] |
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Title: Re: I need this family today of all days. Post by Melissa on Sep 12th, 2005, 9:24am Pegg, My prayers are with you to help you let go. You are doing the right thing in doing what your mom wanted. hugs, mel |
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Title: Re: I need this family today of all days. Post by E-Double on Sep 12th, 2005, 10:03am :'( [smiley=hug.gif] |
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Title: Re: I need this family today of all days. Post by ghost62 on Sep 12th, 2005, 10:37am Redd I wish we would never loose a loved one. I dont know how you feel and I can only Imagine how I would feel. All my prayers are going out to ya, but even that wont help much. I know you a little but I think you will be the best daughter in the world when the time comes for Her. She trusts you alot from what you have said, and that and your love for each other will help. Keep her in your heart and you will never fully loose her. Stay strong and let us know how things are. Just wish we could all be with you for support. We are there in prayers though. Mike |
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Title: Re: I need this family today of all days. Post by rextangle on Sep 12th, 2005, 11:02am So sorry... anything I can do? :'( |
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Title: Re: I need this family today of all days. Post by Jimi on Sep 12th, 2005, 12:14pm I have been there. Tough times ahead for you but you are strong and you will get thru this. Prayers for your mom and for you as well. :-/ |
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Title: Re: I need this family today of all days. Post by Frank_W on Sep 12th, 2005, 1:19pm Pegg, I'm so sorry for what you are dealing with and going through, right now. There probably isn't a tougher decision or circumstance for a person to go through. Lean on your faith, your brother, and this family for strength, fortitude, and peace. My very best wishes to you and to your mother, and to your whole family. [smiley=hug.gif] |
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Title: Re: I need this family today of all days. Post by Jasmyn on Sep 12th, 2005, 1:22pm http://i10.photobucket.com/albums/a109/jazzdebeer/images.jpg |
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Title: Re: I need this family today of all days. Post by broomhilda on Sep 12th, 2005, 1:28pm :'( [smiley=hug.gif] |
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Title: Re: I need this family today of all days. Post by rickyshot on Sep 12th, 2005, 1:29pm What beautiful sentiments. I too believe there is a lot more to life than the one we pass here on Earth. The Bible says to be absent from this body is to be present with the Lord. You are a wonderful daughter and my prayers go to you and your family. I too have a living will. I do not want to be hooked up to artificial means. I hope my children will follow your wonderful example. It takes faith. [smiley=hug.gif] |
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Title: Re: I need this family today of all days. Post by Jackie on Sep 12th, 2005, 4:06pm Bless your heart, Redd..... :'( I'm so sorry you are being faced with this. Having been there I know how torn you are. Have faith, Sweetie......as hard as it all is you'll get it figured out. BIG hugs to you [smiley=hug.gif] Jacks 8) |
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Title: Re: I need this family today of all days. Post by Peppermint on Sep 12th, 2005, 4:19pm So very sorry to hear you have to deal with something like this - it is a difficult thing to do. :-/ Vibes & take care of yourself, Patty |
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Title: Re: I need this family today of all days. Post by Annette_Emond on Sep 12th, 2005, 6:30pm Pegg, our thoughts and prayers are with you as you are faced with letting go, and letting God. Annette and Dave Emond. |
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Title: Re: I need this family today of all days. Post by cootie on Sep 12th, 2005, 6:55pm Am sure whatever decision you make WILL be the rite one........so sorry you have to deal with this type of situation......not sure I could do as good as you have. Your your mothers keeper Pam [smiley=hug.gif] |
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Title: Re: I need this family today of all days. Post by Charlie on Sep 12th, 2005, 7:34pm on 09/12/05 at 08:46:15, Gator wrote:
I see no way to improve on Mike's post. So Sorry to hear this but you are in my thoughts too. http://www.smiley-sanctuary.com/smiley/amour/3/0079_G.gif?SSImageQuality=Full Charlie |
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Title: Re: I need this family today of all days. Post by BMoneeTheMoneeMan on Sep 12th, 2005, 8:51pm So sorry you have to go through this. If your mom is not able to recover, may you allow her to be at peace and PF. BMonee |
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Title: Re: I need this family today of all days. Post by maffumatt on Sep 12th, 2005, 9:04pm your in my thoughts and prayers, be strong. |
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Title: Re: I need this family today of all days. Post by Sean_C on Sep 12th, 2005, 9:17pm You and your family our in our thoughts and prayers. [smiley=hug.gif] We're here if you need anything :'( Sean............................ |
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Title: Re: I need this family today of all days. Post by sassy_lady on Sep 12th, 2005, 9:53pm Pegg I'm so sorry, but I think you are doing the right thing!! & honoring your mother!! vibes & Prayers to you & your family!! God Bless You Sweety!! Lots of Love & Prayers!! Jolene |
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Title: Re: I need this family today of all days. Post by blossom on Sep 12th, 2005, 10:29pm [smiley=hug.gif] [smiley=hug.gif] [smiley=hug.gif] [smiley=hug.gif] :'( :'( :'( :'( I have no words, just know we are thinking of you and you are in our prayers. :-* and more [smiley=hug.gif] - Karen |
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