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(Message started by: giffy76 on Sep 6^th, 2005, 11:13am)

Title: Kids & smokes
Post by giffy76 on Sep 6^th, 2005, 11:13am

My son, who is almost 12, came home from school last week asking us alot of questions about smokeing. Apparently some of the other 6th graders in his school are smokeing and he is expressing intrest in it. My wife and I both smoke and we don't know what to tell him. I'm glad he came to us first so I don't want to blow it. I would rather him try it at home instead of around a bunch of other kids pressureing him to do it, but I would rather talk him out of it all together.

Any Ideas on this one?

Title: Re: Kids & smokes
Post by Melissa on Sep 6^th, 2005, 11:25am

Oh man giffy, I wouldn't even condone him trying it at all, but that's JMO...

Anyway, my own daughter took a couple puffs off my cig when I was still smoking, and she coughed and hacked so bad, that she thought it very disgusting and never asked me again. She was 5 yrs old at the time. I feel that the older they get, the more likely they'll want to do it... Anyway, there was a pamphlet I picked up at the docs office to read about how to tell your kids not to smoke, even though you do. I wish I could remember the name of it, but I can't. :-/

Here was an article just this morning on Yahoo news that is worth reading...

http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20050906/ap_on_he_me/booze_for_barbie

I would also assume there is some info. online where you can get answers as to what to do in the type of situation your are in right now??

Title: Re: Kids & smokes
Post by Karla on Sep 6^th, 2005, 11:28am

Tell him it can kill you and explaine addiction. Then by a pack of smokes and make him smoke the whole thing till he pukes. Then let him determine if he still wants to smoke or not. But let him know under no circumstances will you buy smokes for him even when he is addicted.

No all seriousness aside my 16 yr old smoked for a couple of years off and on and then determined it was dumb and a waste of money and quit on his own. We offered to take him to the dr for help quitting but he did it cold turkey on his own.

I have another19 year old who has smoked since he was 13. He likes it and wont quit.

I have a twin 19 yr old who never smoked and has no interest in that. He takes care of his body.

Ultimately the decision is theirs you just have to supply them with the facts to make a smart decision hopfully. But their is not much that can be done. My husband and I don't smoke. We used to when the boys were little but we both quit. Maybe they remember that . Who knows with kids what makes them tic. Good luck!

Title: Re: Kids & smokes
Post by pattik on Sep 6^th, 2005, 11:29am

You're in kind of a tough spot, but I found the following quote on a kids' health site:

Quote:

If You Smoke
Kids are quick to observe any contradiction between what their parents say and what they do. Despite what you might think, most kids say that the adult whom they most want to be like when they grow up is a parent.

If you're a smoker:

* First, admit to your child that you made a mistake by starting to smoke and that if you had it to do over again, you'd never start.
* Second, quit. It's not simple by any means. It may take several attempts and the extra help of a program or support group. But your child will be encouraged as he or she sees you overcome your addiction to tobacco.

http://kidshealth.org/parent/emotions/behavior/smoking.html

Hope this helps. Pat

Title: Re: Kids & smokes
Post by Melissa on Sep 6^th, 2005, 11:32am

Thank you Patti!

:)mel

Title: Re: Kids & smokes
Post by ghost62 on Sep 6^th, 2005, 11:38am

What Pat said seriously. :(

Title: Re: Kids & smokes
Post by giffy76 on Sep 6^th, 2005, 11:41am

I will by no means condone it. We will give him all the facts about health issues and tell him sports are out of the question if he starts smoking, and he'll probably turn into a troll ;;D. I just don't want to tell him there's no way we are going to let him try it because he'll just turn around and try it behind our back.
It made me mad at first, that he's hanging around the bad crowd, but he isn't. it's just kids bein kids. I started smokin when I was 12, thanks to my brother.

Title: Re: Kids & smokes
Post by Melissa on Sep 6^th, 2005, 11:53am

on 09/06/05 at 11:41:56, giffy76 wrote:

I will by no means condone it.

Well... not sure which is worse, having your parents say its OK to try it, or having them try it behind your back. :-/ I sure hope I don't ever have to be in your position giffy and hope that your kid makes the right choice. These are times when our parenting is put to the test. Ain't our jobs just grand?? ;;D

Title: Re: Kids & smokes
Post by ExplodingEyeBall on Sep 6^th, 2005, 12:09pm

pattik has the best answer here.

I've already gone through step 1 with my daughter. I'm still failing at going through step 2 but still trying.