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Title: I'm torn, what's your vote? Post by echo on Aug 3rd, 2005, 12:11am A little over a month ago the little bride and I are having a disagreement and alcohol is involoved. She follows me from room to room nipping at my heals wanting to keep it going. I tell her several times to leave me alone. She does not. To make a point she attempts to kick me in the balls three times. On the third attempt I grab her and shove her into a seated position on the couch. She tells me to leave the house and I figure it's probably a good idea. So I leave. As I'm parking at the gas station to use the ATM, less than a mile from home, two squad cars assend on me and ask me my name. After a short conversation, flash light in the eyes and balance test I'm cuffed and taken to jail -- For the weekend. Bottom line. - I have been charged with DUI. Here's the rub -- after I left the house she called the police. She told them the make , model, color and license number of my vehicle and where she thought I was heading. Now I have lost my license for 30 days, restricted for a year, $1,500.00 fine and $500.00 for the attorney. I am having a real difficult time hanging in here. Vote time from my family - Stay or Leave? |
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Title: Re: I'm torn, what's your vote? Post by Drk^Angel on Aug 3rd, 2005, 12:16am I'd say stay... Kick her out instead. Not like you'll be able to drive yourself to a motel or something. PFDAN.............................. Drk^Angel |
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Title: Re: I'm torn, what's your vote? Post by cootie on Aug 3rd, 2005, 12:19am Um......depends on WHAT ya was arguein about.......did sumone do sumthin BAD to start it.......decideing factors rule Pam |
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Title: Re: I'm torn, what's your vote? Post by echo on Aug 3rd, 2005, 12:31am on 08/03/05 at 00:16:39, Drk^Angel wrote:
Good point! Taking the bus to work echo. Meeting a whole bunch of new friends in my 2 hour each way travels. |
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Title: Re: I'm torn, what's your vote? Post by echo on Aug 3rd, 2005, 12:36am on 08/03/05 at 00:19:35, cootie wrote:
When we were on vacation a young woman asked my wife if it would be ok with her if she kissed my bald head every time she saw me. The wife said yes. The next morning as I'm sitting on the dock minding my own business the young woman plants one on the back of my head. The wife laughs. I say good morning. 10 minutes later all hell breaks loose. Back at home - alcohol and two days later the situation resurfaces. edited because I can't spell worth a crap |
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Title: Re: I'm torn, what's your vote? Post by AussieBrian on Aug 3rd, 2005, 12:36am Regardless the outcome, you did the right thing in walking away. |
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Title: Re: I'm torn, what's your vote? Post by Topical on Aug 3rd, 2005, 12:56am Some people are bad drunks. I left in a similar situation. We are no longer living together but are still friends. |
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Title: Re: I'm torn, what's your vote? Post by kimmeesue on Aug 3rd, 2005, 1:28am Is this a one time occurrence or another in a long list of marital problems? I would never advocate for anyone to give up without giving it every effort...but it takes two to make it work. Hope you find a solution...and next time, call a taxi. Kim |
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Title: Re: I'm torn, what's your vote? Post by burnt-toast on Aug 3rd, 2005, 3:21am Terribly difficult to assess and provide advise on someone elses relationship. Advise from uninformed third parties can create more problems. If you both think its worth it, the two of you need to find common ground to begin working from. Once common ground is established start talking/working through your differences. From there you both need to decide if/how you want to continue the relationship or move on. It's a decision that only you and your partner can make. Best Wishes Tom |
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Title: Re: I'm torn, what's your vote? Post by giffy76 on Aug 3rd, 2005, 4:42am It's very difficult to know when enough is enough. There are so many factors in making this decission, are there children involved? Is it an abusive relationship? physically or mentally. Have all means of working it out been exhausted? My wife and I went through this last year, the only differance is, we don't fight, but that thing that should be between a husband and wife just isn't there. That was definately a shity thing for your wife to do but we all make mistakes and we all need to learn from them, if this crap goes on frequently between you and the little lady, I say get out, but if it was a one time drunken mistake, I say forgive and forget. |
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Title: Re: I'm torn, what's your vote? Post by don on Aug 3rd, 2005, 6:35am I'd say quit drinking and see what happens. |
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Title: Re: I'm torn, what's your vote? Post by marty on Aug 3rd, 2005, 7:19am Echo I would leave! If you stay, it will only get worse. Take good care Echo Marty |
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Title: Re: I'm torn, what's your vote? Post by seasonalboomer on Aug 3rd, 2005, 8:29am I'd suggest not putting it up for a vote on the message board. |
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Title: Re: I'm torn, what's your vote? Post by Cathi04 on Aug 3rd, 2005, 8:34am Echo..........I'd say you prolly know exactly where I stand on this. You've got an IM, my friend...... Cathi |
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Title: Re: I'm torn, what's your vote? Post by vig on Aug 3rd, 2005, 8:35am btw, calling the cops on a spouse like that is abuse, not tough love. also, calling for an up or down vote without sufficient information isn't fair either. ;;D step one... put down the bottle, clear your head and reevaluate... So? How would YOU handle it if some young buck was giving HER a kiss when he saw her? I know I'd be pretty creeped out... |
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Title: Re: I'm torn, what's your vote? Post by Melissa on Aug 3rd, 2005, 8:38am removed my original post, because of this... Quote:
so therefore Imma gonna shuta my mouth. :-X |
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Title: Re: I'm torn, what's your vote? Post by aprilbee on Aug 3rd, 2005, 8:46am on 08/03/05 at 06:35:14, don wrote:
Ditto... |
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Title: Re: I'm torn, what's your vote? Post by thomas on Aug 3rd, 2005, 8:51am Damn bro. That is just fucked up for her to call the cops like that. I would make her pay the damn ticket, court costs and all that shit. And if a woman ever tried to kick me in the balls, I would bend her over my knee and tan her backside so bad, she wouldn't be able to sit for a week. Now that being said, you too need to sit down and have a long talk about what happened and why. It seems to me that there may be something she is not letting go of, that is causing insecurity and animosity. Two deadly enemies of any good relationship. Air your stuff out with each other and try again. Marriage is about hard work, it's not 50/50, it's whatever it takes to make it work. So hop to and I hope the make-up sex rocks your world. |
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Title: Re: I'm torn, what's your vote? Post by Frank_W on Aug 3rd, 2005, 9:13am Right on, Thomas. [smiley=thumb.gif] |
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Title: Re: I'm torn, what's your vote? Post by cootie on Aug 3rd, 2005, 9:30am OK....I take it she said it was ok for the chick ta be kissin on yer head when actually she was secretly waiting and hopeing you would NOT ENJOY it so much......so when she seen each time ya LIKED IT and didn't tell the chick ta cool it and show the wife ya wasn't into any attentions from other womens......that green eyed monster showed it's ugly head with a vengance ! Esp since it maybe happen'd alot. Could that be sum of it ? She said ok but she wished you'd of said NO/STOP IT Pam |
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Title: Re: I'm torn, what's your vote? Post by rickyshot on Aug 3rd, 2005, 10:14am Go Thomas....But really if drinking is involved and bad behaviour resulting from this, the problem lies with the drinking and it has got to go or else it will carry on to next relationships. Yeah make up sex........... |
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Title: Re: I'm torn, what's your vote? Post by don on Aug 3rd, 2005, 10:14am The issues have been triggered by alcohol. CH is triggered by alcohol. What do you do with the alcohol when you are in cycle? |
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Title: Re: I'm torn, what's your vote? Post by Frank_W on Aug 3rd, 2005, 10:16am on 08/03/05 at 10:14:10, rickyshot wrote:
Really angry sex can be fun, too. LMAO! :-X |
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Title: Re: I'm torn, what's your vote? Post by rickyshot on Aug 3rd, 2005, 10:23am Shit At this point I'll even take sexual harrasment it has been so long. Do I need to make a ticker till the next time........... >:( |
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Title: Re: I'm torn, what's your vote? Post by Margi on Aug 3rd, 2005, 10:35am Echo, go back and read Don's first post and then Seasonalbloomer's post. Those should be the final words here. It's none of our business and only you and your know what the real deal is. |
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Title: Re: I'm torn, what's your vote? Post by BMoneeTheMoneeMan on Aug 3rd, 2005, 8:23pm Well, i believe in the golden rule. there is a line, and you better not cross it. For her to specifically call the cops just for the intention to fuck you up, that is over the line. That isnt a team player and that isnt cool. If she cant seem to remember the golden rule, even when emotions run high, she aint worth bein with. She can tell you she did it cause she was pissed, or cause you pissed her off, or that she wont do it again and all that shit we have all heard many time, but you know that it will, and that she is not capable of controlling herself when she gets emotional. People that cant control themselves when they may get a little heated under the collar are gonna fuck you up again.......and next time it may be worse than just a buzz kill. just my 2 cents BMonee |
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Title: Re: I'm torn, what's your vote? Post by Woobie on Aug 3rd, 2005, 9:07pm I've said it before and I'll say it again........... If you love her - make it work. If you dont - leave. The hardest part is getting past the anger AND the alcohol to figure out if you REALLY love her or not - figure it out - then you'll know what to do. |
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Title: Re: I'm torn, what's your vote? Post by Sean_C on Aug 3rd, 2005, 9:51pm on 08/03/05 at 06:35:14, don wrote:
I'll second that. World looks different when you can see. Sean......................... I ain't preachin' ........JMHO ;;D |
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Title: Re: I'm torn, what's your vote? Post by Ree on Aug 3rd, 2005, 11:02pm on 08/03/05 at 00:19:35, cootie wrote:
I'm with Pam.... why'd she kick ya.... and does she want to stay with a guy who doesn't have a license, drinks heavily enough to get in his car and drive after getting kicked in the nutz.... etc... Seriously I was trying to be funny... this is your life... why are you asking a bunch of head ache sufferers to decide your fate? I think YOU have YOU some maritial problems. Firstly... I wouldn't kick anyone that I loved in the balls unless he was trying to rape or kill me. Secondly... I wouldn't let anyone I love drive drunk much less call the cops on them if they did. Dave drives a truck for a living and that would kill our income. Thirdly... Wow whatcha gonna do......? Sorry you are having maritial problems... We've all had our share over the years I'm sure.... Good luck ree |
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