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(Message started by: Candycane on Jun 13^th, 2005, 4:02pm)

Title: Times like these
Post by Candycane on Jun 13^th, 2005, 4:02pm

Its times like these that I really miss my Dad, could really use his great advise.....to only be the person he was? With Father's Day coming and seeing how my Dad isn't here I think I want to tell you about what I loved about him.............

He was always cheerful or pretended to be for me
He make me feel I was the most important person in the world even when he had much more stressful things to worry about
He always listened to me and never told me I was wrong even when I was....( mistake, lol)
He could make me laugh so hard , he could make me cry like noone ever could
He was a rock when I needed one
He was a good man and he's gone now and I know he knows but I love him and god do I wish he were here now :'(

Hi Dad......watching me? ;)

Title: Re: Times like these
Post by sandie99 on Jun 13^th, 2005, 4:06pm

You can be sure that he's watching you.
And I bet he's very proud of you, too.... [smiley=hug.gif]

Title: Re: Times like these
Post by Langa on Jun 13^th, 2005, 4:23pm

I envy you having had that relationship with your Dad. I never had that with mine. For most of my life he was MIA.

I mourn the father I never had.

Hugs Girl!

Love ya.

Title: Re: Times like these
Post by TomM on Jun 13^th, 2005, 5:11pm

CandyCane,
Your memories of your dad are fantastic! I have an inkling that your daughter will say the same about you and hopefully before you have left this world.
My dad is in a nursing home almost at the end. Even though he was not the best dad, he did his best and now you have inspired me to tell him so!
Thank you.
TomM

Title: Re: Times like these
Post by vig on Jun 13^th, 2005, 5:19pm

on 06/13/05 at 16:06:25, sandie99 wrote:

You can be sure that he's watching you.
And I bet he's very proud of you, too.... [smiley=hug.gif]

she beat me to it...
my thoughts exactly. [smiley=hug.gif]

Title: Re: Times like these
Post by Jonny on Jun 13^th, 2005, 6:53pm

:'(

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Title: Re: Times like these
Post by Charlie on Jun 13^th, 2005, 7:15pm

Guys aren't supposed to admit it but I had the greatest dad in the world. He turned my life around several times and always for the better. Damn, I had great parents.

Glad you can say the same.

Charlie

Title: Re: Times like these
Post by yikes-another-one on Jun 13^th, 2005, 7:26pm

;)

One song that really hits me is that one
by Luther Vandross

"Dance with my Father"

You see I was lucky enough to have my daddy around
when I got married, and we had the traditional
"father / daughter dance"

except I choose "Butterfly Kisses"
and it ended up being a 5 minute dance.

Me, I was high on the love and laughter of having
so many family and friends surrounding us.
He, well, I guess he was suffering from shyness.

He asked me a question about ever
"pretending to smile"
and I said some thing sappy and sweet
like that because he was such a great dad
I had never had to fake a smile....

Anyway, looking back now,
I wonder where he wanted a question like that
to lead to on my wedding night?
Was he unhappy,
or just worried
or what?

ah well,
I guess I will ask him,
once I finally make my way up to the arms of GOD.

Until then I rest peacefully at night,
knowing he is safe, and happy.
His parents are there to keep him company,
and I know he isn't bored with all his heros to interview
and all his friends to reunite with.

Me, I am too busy to get down in the dumps.
Gotta keep dancing through this world,
cleaning and balancing the needs of my own family.

Someday will come soon enough,
and therefore I can be content.
each day I have enough,
in part becuase he taught me hoe to be content.

I know the holiday hits hard,
all the commercials and banners and what not.
But you have to just look heavenward,
and say, "I miss ya." and keep going. :-*

Title: Re: Times like these
Post by Candycane on Jun 13^th, 2005, 8:53pm

WOW, all I can say is WOW!

Thanks Jonny my daughter and I loved it :-*

Bless you hard ass :)

Title: Re: Times like these
Post by Jimi on Jun 13^th, 2005, 10:17pm

:'(

Title: Re: Times like these
Post by TomM on Jun 14^th, 2005, 10:19am

Then there's Cats in the Cradle:

My child arrived just the other day
Came to the world in the usual way
But there were planes to catch and bills to pay
He learned to walk while I was away
He was talkin' 'fore I knew it
And as he grew he said,
"I'm gonna be like you, Dad,
You know I'm gonna be like you."

Chorus:
And the cat's in the cradle and the silver spoon,
Little boy blue and the man 'n the moon.
"When you comin' home?"
"Son, I don't know when. We'll get together then.
You know we'll have a good time then."

Well, my son turned ten just the other day.
He said, "Thanks for the ball, Dad. Come on, let's play.
Could you teach me to throw?"
I said, "Not today. I got a lot to do."
He said, "That's okay." And he walked away and he smiled and he said,
"You know, I'm gonna be like him, yeah.
You know I'm gonna be like him."

Chorus

Well, he came from college just the other day,
So much like a man I just had to say,
"I'm proud of you. Could you sit for a while?"
He shook his head and he said with a smile,
"What I'd really like, Dad, is to borrow the car keys.
See you later. Can I have them please ?"

Chorus

I've long since retired, my son's moved away.
I called him up just the other day.
"I'd like to see you, if you don't mind."
He said, "I'd love to, Dad, if I could find the time.
You see my new job's a hassle and the kids have the flu,
But it's sure nice talkin' to you, Dad.
It's been sure nice talkin' to you."
And as I hung up the phone it occurred to me,
He'd grown up just like me.
My boy was just like me.

Chorus

TomM 8)

Title: Re: Times like these
Post by LeLimey on Jun 14^th, 2005, 10:32am

I love that song Tom - Ugly Kid Joe is the name of the group.
Then there is "Living Years" by Mike and the Mechanics too. I love all three of these songs but this one is my favourite and makes me snifffle every time.

The Living Years

Every generation
Blames the one before
And all of their frustrations
Come beating on your door

I know that I'm a prisoner
To all my Father held so dear
I know that I'm a hostage
To all his hopes and fears
I just wish I could have told him in the living years

Crumpled bits of paper
Filled with imperfect thought
Stilted conversations
I'm afraid that's all we've got

You say you just don't see it
He says it's perfect sense
You just can't get agreement
In this present tense
We all talk a different language
Talking in defence

Say it loud, say it clear
You can listen as well as you hear
It's too late when we die
To admit we don't see eye to eye

So we open up a quarrel
Between the present and the past
We only sacrifice the future
It's the bitterness that lasts

So Don't yield to the fortunes
You sometimes see as fate
It may have a new perspective
On a different day
And if you don't give up, and don't give in
You may just be O.K.

Say it loud, say it clear
You can listen as well as you hear
It's too late when we die
To admit we don't see eye to eye

I wasn't there that morning
When my Father passed away
I didn't get to tell him
All the things I had to say

I think I caught his spirit
Later that same year
I'm sure I heard his echo
In my baby's new born tears
I just wish I could have told him in the living years

Say it loud, say it clear
You can listen as well as you hear
It's too late when we die
To admit we don't see eye to eye

Title: Re: Times like these
Post by TomM on Jun 14^th, 2005, 10:53am

on 06/14/05 at 10:32:22, LeLimey wrote:

I love that song Tom - Ugly Kid Joe is the name of the group.

I thought is was Harry Chapin. I could be wrong. [smiley=huh.gif]

Title: Re: Times like these
Post by nani on Jun 14^th, 2005, 10:57am

on 06/14/05 at 10:53:34, TomM wrote:

I thought is was Harry Chapin. I could be wrong. [smiley=huh.gif]

No, Harry Chapin was the first one, back in the late 70s.
Maybe the Ugly Kid covered it? I've never heard of him.

Title: Re: Times like these
Post by LeLimey on Jun 14^th, 2005, 10:57am

Could've been both. More than one artist have recored many a song. I have it on an album by them anyway (whoever we both have singing it its a great song!)

Title: Re: Times like these
Post by fubar on Jun 14^th, 2005, 11:37am

My dad was an not a very nice person. When I was 18 months old, he went to jail for throwing me across the room since apparantly I was crying a little too much. The pictures of my 18 month old body, all contorted and black and blue, are enough to incite a person to vigilante murder. He was never a real part of my life, and he left scars on all of us in the family.

Funny thing is, I don't think I'd want it any other way. Living through that made me a thoughtful, strong, caring, loving father to my own children. Violence and abuse are things my children will never experience.

However, Father's Day does make me look back from time to time, wistfully dreaming about how my life could have been without that scumbag in it.

Happy Father's Day, not a very nice person.

-Fu

I don't begrudge anybody who does have a real Dad. They are blessed.

Title: Re: Times like these
Post by sandie99 on Jun 14^th, 2005, 11:58am

Fubar... [smiley=hug.gif]

Title: Re: Times like these
Post by LeLimey on Jun 14^th, 2005, 12:00pm

Fu you are right hon.. steel is tempered with fire to make it stronger and people are the same. Better for a little adversity sometimes!
I'm glad you are you [smiley=hug.gif]

Title: Re: Times like these
Post by ExplodingEyeBall on Jun 14^th, 2005, 12:30pm

I miss my dad too. He wasn't perfect but man was he a great guy. I owe my sene of humor to him. I also owe my love of life and having fun with my family to him.

No matter how busy or tired he was, he would always make the effort to spend time with me.

Title: Re: Times like these
Post by Frank_W on Jun 14^th, 2005, 12:36pm

Fubs, I grew up with the same kind of father. Fortunately, the violence didn't start until I was around eight years old. It's taken a hell of a lot of work, but he and I have made our peace, and at long last, there is love and forgiveness between us. It was a long, hard journey, though...

You are right about fatherhood, though: The experience has served to strengthen my resolve to be the best father I can possibly be to my daughter.

My best to you, my friend.

-Frank

Title: Re: Times like these
Post by Margi on Jun 14^th, 2005, 12:59pm

Shawn, your post really struck a chord with me too. I have similar stories of my abusive, alcoholic father - got thrown (well, kicked, really) across a room too, broken ribs, yada yada. That was the day that my mother got us out of there and I was lucky then to be able to have a good childhood from that point forward.

There is one really good thing about the sucky parts of our childhoods though, Fubar, and that is that they're over now :) and we can move past them. You're absolutely right though - it's experiences like that that have helped to make us better, gentler parents.

Happy Fathers Day to you, Shawn - you ARE a great dad - and you are to be commended for that.

Hugs,
Margi