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Title: Dating Post by sandie99 on Apr 26th, 2005, 2:23pm Reading all these posts about happy ch couples, it makes me take a serious look at my own situation... stuck in dating hell. It sucks! I'm more like a relationship kinda girl. But the truth is that I haven't had a long-term relationship since I got ch. Partly, because I didn't want to in the beginning (ch was enough to deal with) and then I've realised that ch is too hard to deal with to some kind, sweet men I've met. One guy refered me as "non-dateable" because of it. I was like excuse me?! as he never even saw me having attack! But apparently the idea was enough... :( But I keep my thumbs up that there's one fellow who doesn't mind. After all that "in sickness and in health" - part excists in the vows for a reason! I just got to keep on looking. One thing is sure, though. I won't be going on blind dates arranged by a one pal of mine. After all, she wants me to meet a guy whose only talent worth mentioning is that he can whistle... ::) Don't know about you, but I need to know more about a guy than that... ;;D Your single ch sister, Sandie |
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Title: Re: Dating Post by ghost62 on Apr 26th, 2005, 2:31pm Dont give up little lady there is someone out there. and deffinately dont settle. that would be sure hell. http://www.kodakgallery.com/PhotoView.jsp?&collid=36572213407&ph otoid=69135213407 how could some be cruel to this little ch ;;D |
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Title: Re: Dating Post by notseinfeld on Apr 26th, 2005, 2:39pm I'll datecha Sandy :) (insert whistle here) Been in dating hell myself and surprised I haven't run into you at Satan's water cooler. For a good laugh and in an effort not to go crazy check out Happenmagazine.com or stop by match.com as there's a link to it there. Entertaining advice and articles that do draw you in. btw: CH women are my favorite! nots |
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Title: Re: Dating Post by Langa on Apr 26th, 2005, 2:51pm I’m looking forward to hearing what our other sisters have to say…get the popcorn ready for this…caramel for me. Hey don’t feel bad…my gay friend says if he wasn’t gay I’d be the woman for him and my lesbian neighbor wants me…bad. I guess I can feel the love…? :-/ Langa |
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Title: Re: Dating Post by sandie99 on Apr 26th, 2005, 2:55pm on 04/26/05 at 14:51:42, Langa wrote:
Langa, sounds like your life would make a nice sitcom... ;) Now, pass that popcorn... ;;D |
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Title: Re: Dating Post by sandie99 on Apr 26th, 2005, 2:58pm on 04/26/05 at 14:39:35, notseinfeld wrote:
http://members.iinet.net.au/~vroncol/Smiley_gifs/wink.gif |
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Title: Re: Dating Post by rickyshot on Apr 26th, 2005, 3:07pm I hear you. I just go to work and the gym. And the young ones talk to me at the gym. sigh....... |
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Title: Re: Dating Post by thomas on Apr 26th, 2005, 3:11pm on 04/26/05 at 14:23:53, sandie99 wrote:
Where are these posts you speak of? |
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Title: Re: Dating Post by sandie99 on Apr 26th, 2005, 3:19pm on 04/26/05 at 15:11:13, thomas wrote:
For example, check out what Lizzie writes about her supporter... :) |
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Title: Re: Dating Post by PrettyH8Machine on Apr 26th, 2005, 4:02pm Right there with ya Sandie. I have been single again going into my 3rd year (ugh! Fucking kill me!) I guess it's not too romantic when you have to get up from a cuddle with a cuss-fit to go to the bathroom and pound the tile. Then again, being a 'freek musician' most think I am a very *friendly* person anyway - quite the opposite. Also, I've been 'in a mood' and decided to quit shaving after DavCon, and had a Grizzly Adams beard that scared everyone. I looked like a homeless guy, lol. I shed the beard this past weekend and lost 15 lbs in the face. Now back to the bald, goatee'd Anton La Vey look that should scare everyone away for another 3 years. What is funny though is, I am the nicest guy you could meet - I just look scary. At least no one tries to mug me late at night in my neighborhood. ;;D Infinitely single, Carl D |
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Title: Re: Dating Post by thomas on Apr 26th, 2005, 4:08pm on 04/26/05 at 16:02:36, PrettyH8Machine wrote:
So are you saying a bearded homeless guy can't get laid? I'll take that bet. ;;D |
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Title: Re: Dating Post by LeLimey on Apr 26th, 2005, 4:12pm Okay thats enough - all of you stop right there! None of you lot have any deficiencies, you are all lovely people I am proud to call my friends.. no stuff that.. my family. There really is someone out there for everyone, I truly believe that and if you havne't met them yet its because.. Well visualise a rose. To get to the beautiful flower at the top of the stem you don't half have to pass alot of pricks on the way! ;;D Anyone who doesn't appreciate you isn't worthy of you and as such has my eternal pity. (Oh and stuff 'em!) |
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Title: Re: Dating Post by PrettyH8Machine on Apr 26th, 2005, 4:13pm on 04/26/05 at 16:08:07, thomas wrote:
Handjobs from other homeless peeps doesn't count. ;;D |
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Title: Re: Dating Post by Jonny on Apr 26th, 2005, 4:19pm on 04/26/05 at 16:13:22, PrettyH8Machine wrote:
LMMFAO!!!!! ;;D |
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Title: Re: Dating Post by Langa on Apr 26th, 2005, 4:39pm on 04/26/05 at 16:12:30, LeLimey wrote:
;;D Oh, and, uh, yeah, stuff em!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Langa |
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Title: Re: Dating Post by ghost62 on Apr 26th, 2005, 6:52pm Well Sandie at least you dont have this problem Doctor Dave slept with one of his patients and felt guilty all day long. No matter how much he tried to forget about it, he couldn't. The guilt and sense of betrayal was overwhelming. But every once in a while he'd hear an internal, reassuring voice that said: "Dave, don't worry about it. You aren't the first doctor to sleep with one of their patients and you won't be the last. And you're single. Let it go..." But invariably the other voice would bring him back to reality: "Dave, you're a vet..." |
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Title: Re: Dating Post by OneEyeBlind on Apr 26th, 2005, 9:46pm Oh, I don't know Sandy ..... does he whistle while he works and hand over the paycheck. Might be worth a second glance. ;;D |
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Title: Re: Dating Post by Rock_Lobster on Apr 26th, 2005, 10:12pm bwahaha... fine one ghost! [smiley=laugh.gif] [smiley=laugh.gif] |
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Title: Re: Dating Post by taraann on Apr 26th, 2005, 10:45pm on 04/26/05 at 16:12:30, LeLimey wrote:
Well said Helen! I second that! I am one of a few ppl that say they found their soulmate when they finally stopped looking. I had the 'tude of giving up on relationships for a long while, waste of heartache and time yadda yadda. Then I went into a convience store and Sam asked for my phone number. lol weird but true |
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Title: ThyeRe: Dating Post by Charlie on Apr 27th, 2005, 1:51am There's always hope but then look what happened to poor Georgia [smiley=laugh.gif] Hi Kid 8) Hope things are still on schedule there. Lots of tranquilizers Den. Both of yuz keep in touch. Charlie |
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Title: Re: Dating Post by Redd715 on Apr 27th, 2005, 7:04am Soon after I found my way to this site a year ago, the man I was seeing and very much in love with decided that he wasn't able to take the "in sickness* part. He had never seen an attack, but the beast had not morphed yet. He did come for a visit once after the morph while I was taking neurontin, pred, and indo, which the hits had stopped from the pred, but the indo/neurontin combo with it had a secondary HA thing going on, and I was so weak and dizzy and I could barely stand up straight. I looked a wreck and it was the last time I saw him before he bailed a week later with the...*you just aren't yourself anymore* bit. Have faith that the right person will enter your life. It takes time...and he'll come in the most unlikely fashion. Redd |
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Title: Re: Dating Post by sandie99 on Apr 27th, 2005, 9:26am on 04/26/05 at 21:46:22, OneEyeBlind wrote:
[smiley=crackup.gif] |
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Title: Re: Dating Post by sandie99 on Apr 27th, 2005, 9:27am on 04/26/05 at 18:52:04, ghost62 wrote:
You're right. I don't have that problem! [smiley=crackup.gif] |
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Title: Re: Dating Post by Langa on Apr 27th, 2005, 10:00am The question is when you do meet someone you think you want to pursue a relationship with, how do you approach the topic of CH? What do you say? Give him info from here? Lead him here? How do you even initiate the conversation of CH? “There’s something you should know about me”…? Langa |
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Title: Re: Dating Post by sandie99 on Apr 27th, 2005, 10:06am on 04/27/05 at 10:00:25, Langa wrote:
Exactly. That's the hardest part... |
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Title: Re: Dating Post by Redd715 on Apr 27th, 2005, 10:22am on 04/27/05 at 10:00:25, Langa wrote:
I am very open about this from the start. I couldn't count the number of guys over the past year that we had an innitial chemistry, but once discussion turned to CH and the education began, POOF...gone... no emails no phone calls no nothing. Like they dropped off the face of the earth. I have a resounding theory about my method in being very upfront about it. I'd rather they run for the hills before there is too much emotional investment. Know from the start the depth of their charactor (or lack there of). Nothing is for certain in this life but death and taxes, and the only person you can count on for sure, to be with you at the end of this life, is yourself. Relationships are that way with CH or not. But I think the following says alot about charactor. Quote:
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Title: Re: Dating Post by Langa on Apr 27th, 2005, 10:29am on 04/27/05 at 10:22:01, Redd715 wrote:
I agree Pegg 100% with letting them know upfront before your heart is too involved...but I was curious about how one would initiate informing the person? I'm asking for an example. Just in conversation say something like "I really like you but there's something you should know?" and then lead them here if they're still interested? Langa |
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Title: Re: Dating Post by Redd715 on Apr 27th, 2005, 10:35am I just bring it up in casual conversation when the topic opens up and it's appropriate I guess. I can't recall exactly HOW I bring the subject matter up. It just seems to flow if that makes any sence. Jerome might be able to recall the way it came up during our conversations better than I. I'll have to ask him to post to this thread when he has time and relate his view point on it. |
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Title: Re: Dating Post by blossom on Apr 27th, 2005, 11:01am Well, kids, I have to throw my 2 cents in here. I have been thrown into the dating pool again and I have to say I have had the same problems but because I am in cycle I just tell them up front. I had one run for the hills practically shooting flames out of his shoes as he went. I have met a great guy that I told about CH and he is very supportive and understanding...right now. We will see how things go. If all else fails take them to the o2 tank and say very calmly and rationally - I keep this here because my lovers usually need it after they've been with me, smile coyly and walk away. It'll keep 'em around for awhile. |
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Title: e: Dating Post by Langa on Apr 27th, 2005, 11:12am Quote:
Good one Blossom. My friend – another clusterhead - told me to allow the man to see me sucking on the oxygen like nobody’s business and that would definitely keep him captivated… :P Langa |
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Title: Re: Dating Post by Jerome_Ebel on Apr 27th, 2005, 11:29am Langa, Pegg was right up front with me about it! She had 2 links to the site right on her initial emails with me. It certainly did give me some pause but she was honest with me and as I informed her, "I'm new to this and have not witnessed anything really bad yet but if I told you how I'm going to react, you'de have good reason to doubt my integrity and sincerity". I just don't know. Pegg has so many other "talents" so I'm willing to explore this thing further. ;;D Just be up front and if the guy hits the road he wasn't right in the first place. I wish my ex would have given me a sign 13 years ago that she had issues (and I guess she did in a way) as I would have ran for the hills then. There are no guaranties in life You are just lucky that you get to find out up front what your man is willing to put up with. It's more difficult in the short term but it all comes out in the wash in the long term. I'd be happy to share my email with you or him if there are any questions but I'm pretty "green" so I don't know that I'd be much help. Good luck and best wishes for your happiness!! Jerome |
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Title: Re: Dating Post by Jerome_Ebel on Apr 27th, 2005, 11:32am Langa I guess I didn't really answer your question. Yes tell him right up front, give him the amputation analogy and send him to this site!! |
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Title: Re: Dating Post by Langa on Apr 27th, 2005, 11:55am Thanks for your posts Jerome and welcome! Not only do I have a good idea for emails, you just reminded me of the amputation analogy. You sound like a pro already… ;) Good luck to both of you. Langa |
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Title: Re: Dating Post by sandie99 on Apr 27th, 2005, 12:13pm I have told the guys I've been out with as soon as possible about ch. Some were understanding, some wasn't. But Jerome has a point: their reactions does tell me a lot about their characher in the first place. From now on I'm going to consider myself as a lucky lady for having ch. It will reveal me the true nature of the guys I'll date! ;;D Thanks, ch... 8) |
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Title: Re: Dating Post by Redd715 on Apr 27th, 2005, 12:18pm on 04/27/05 at 11:29:30, Jerome_Ebel wrote:
He may be green but at least he aint "yellow". ;) |
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Title: Re: Dating Post by mcf69 on Apr 27th, 2005, 12:26pm And I thought I was the only one who had members of the opposite sex running and screaming with the mention of cluster headaches. Quote:
Gee blossom, you stole my line............ ;) Quote:
Hmmm, either captivated or jealous Langa, pass some over here :) |
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Title: Re: Dating Post by Alien Space Babe on Apr 27th, 2005, 1:16pm on 04/27/05 at 12:26:08, mcf69 wrote:
dating sucks..... been single for 14 years and have found that a lot of men want blond amazon barbie dolls - definitely not me - expecting perfection. intelligence... great eyes... like I said.... dating sucks.... he wants you - you definitely don't want him - i.e., the creepy one even worse: you want him - he doesn't want you - i.e., mr just-right-for-me or he's married..... Lizzie, who's currently between husbands |
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Title: Re: Dating Post by rumplestiltskin on Apr 28th, 2005, 5:04am i never really expected to find, at ch.com, an end to clusters or a young nympho babe that wears me out ...imagine my surprise! baby due tomorrow...i'm hoping it waits a bit....i still haven't finished the remodel grab one of these cluster buds around here an fuck em senseless....till mr. right shows up. walk in the sunshine den |
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Title: Re: Dating Post by thomas on Apr 28th, 2005, 9:08am on 04/28/05 at 05:04:25, rumplestiltskin wrote:
[smiley=laugh.gif] :-X |
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Title: Re: Dating Post by Charlie on Apr 28th, 2005, 11:46am I'm outdated Charlie http://www.netsync.net/users/charlies/gifs/darksmooch.gif |
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Title: Re: Dating Post by Redd715 on Apr 28th, 2005, 12:15pm I saw that Bob G.... [smiley=laugh.gif] [smiley=laugh.gif] |
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Title: Re: Dating Post by BobG on Apr 28th, 2005, 12:21pm Ooops....I didn’t think it to be appropriate for this thread. Guess I wasn’t to quick to click the remove button. ;;D |
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Title: Re: Dating Post by vietvet2tours on Apr 28th, 2005, 4:53pm Since I qualify what is the amputation analogy? |
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Title: Re: Dating Post by Redd715 on Apr 28th, 2005, 4:57pm on 04/28/05 at 16:53:38, vietvet2tours wrote:
Dr. Peter Goadsby, the leading CH researchist from London has stated that CH is worse in comparison to amputation without the benifit of anesthetic. Let me see if I can find the page on that and I'll post the link. |
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Title: Re: Dating Post by Karla on Apr 28th, 2005, 5:08pm My Mom and Dad met on a blind date. 6 months latter he asked her to marry him and she accepted. The daughter of the woman who put my parents together was instrimental in putting my husband and I together. She convinced him to talk to me and give me a chance and that I would n't be like all the other girls. 3 months latter he asked me to marry him. |
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Title: Re: Dating Post by vietvet2tours on Apr 28th, 2005, 5:45pm Lemme tell ya from first hand experience that a traumatic amputation don't come close to even one of my one hour headaches. During cycle I get six of the monsters every day at four hour intervals for thirty days. |
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Title: Re: Dating Post by clarence on Apr 28th, 2005, 6:00pm on 04/27/05 at 10:29:06, Langa wrote:
Well, there is a new link over to the left. It has to do with these dandy little wristbands. Could spark a conjversation. And, it glows in the dark, so you can have the conversation anywhere...next to your o2 tank, for instance. Casey |
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Title: Re: Dating Post by Langa on Apr 28th, 2005, 6:04pm on 04/28/05 at 18:00:25, clarence wrote:
Already got my order in... ;;D |
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Title: Re: e: Dating Post by blossom on Apr 28th, 2005, 9:14pm on 04/27/05 at 11:12:42, Langa wrote:
[smiley=crackup.gif] [smiley=spit.gif] |
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Title: Re: Dating Post by sandie99 on Apr 29th, 2005, 12:44am on 04/28/05 at 17:08:37, Karla wrote:
Lovely stories... :) |
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Title: Re: Dating Post by Bethany1 on Apr 29th, 2005, 8:03am Ok, well, Im probably going to piss a few people off here. But here goes. Look, we all have something here in common which is ch. I am episodic sufferer with a cycle runs for 6 weeks 2 sometimes 3 times a year. I have never had a problem dating someone because of this. Its me, this is the way I am. Take it or leave it. I don't sit guys down and explain to them that I have this problem, disease, or whatever. Eventually when I have seen this person a few times and its gettin serious, thats when I tell them. No one has ever left me because of it. Like I said, this is me, if you don't like it then you can fuck off, period. Every guy that I have dated has been supportive and understanding. None of them have ever run for the hills or taken off, or thought it was too much to handle. Its MY problem, and I can deal with it myself. I have found that the guys I have dated, find it somewhat intriguing, and wind up taking me to the er on a night of a really bad hit. Life is the way it is girls, maybe we got dealt a shitty hand, but you gotta suck it up and realize there is a lot more out there than men. And the ones that go running, well, they are the weak ones. You don't want them anyways. Keep your chins up, and just except who you are for YOU. love you guys- Beth |
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Title: Re: Dating Post by E-Double on Apr 29th, 2005, 8:14am on 04/29/05 at 08:03:47, Bethany1 wrote:
The best reply of yet!!!!!!! Guys....switch men for women (if sexual preference) and kick ass. I couldn't agree more......Fuck em if a problem....There are gonna be losers regardless of what you have going on.....Bethany and I recently got hitched(not to eachother [smiley=laugh.gif])...point being our new spouses are the ones who WE decided to stick with as much as They decided to stick with us. Cheers Girl!!! E 2 |
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Title: Re: Dating Post by sandie99 on Apr 29th, 2005, 11:08am Good post, Bethany! Thank you. :) |
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Title: Re: Dating Post by Candycane on Apr 29th, 2005, 2:56pm Bethany, Do we have the same parents???? I was just saying something like this the other day about this thread.....but was waiting for you to start the trouble! [smiley=laugh.gif] [smiley=laugh.gif] |
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Title: Re: Dating Post by Ree on Apr 29th, 2005, 8:59pm on 04/28/05 at 05:04:25, rumplestiltskin wrote:
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Title: Re: Dating Post by Georgia on May 1st, 2005, 3:10am This is me BEFORE dating: http://img.villagephotos.com/p/2005-2/959059/shleopardg1.jpg This is me AFTER dating: http://img.villagephotos.com/p/2005-2/959059/drphilvacant.jpg Any questions? |
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Title: Re: Dating Post by sandie99 on May 1st, 2005, 8:49am Georgia, :o |
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Title: Re: Dating Post by Jonny on May 1st, 2005, 10:54am Who's the troll with the huge head? ;;D |
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Title: Re: Dating Post by notseinfeld on May 2nd, 2005, 2:55pm Yeah--and is that a cat growing out of his right ear? |
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