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Title: I don't normally preach, but.... Post by Linda_Howell on Apr 4th, 2005, 12:56pm I just spent the last month in Los Angeles in a hospital room with my youngest son. He was in a head-on collision on an L.A. freeway. Hit by a drunk driver going the wrong way in the fast lane. The guy was so drunk, he got on the freeway on the OFF-RAMP! Of course the drunk driver was killed instantly as was the driver of the truck my son was in. Everyone involved was under 25. My son has had to have spinal surgery and won't know what long lasting effects this will have on his ability to walk as he has titanium rods and screws and bolts in his spine. I can't tell you how horrible it is to watch your son go through this kind of pain day after day.... I'm back home now after leaving my son to the care of others, but now I am angry!!!!!!!! My son lost his best friend, and he will never be the same physically. The problem with that... is the one to be angry at is dead. I'd love to ask the drunk driver if the alcohol he consumed that night were worth this!!!!!!!!! So if you're going to drink...please don't get in your car. Linda |
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Title: Re: I don't normally preach, but.... Post by Tiannia on Apr 4th, 2005, 12:59pm Nothing I can say will help. I am so sorry hun. :'( Be Angry. It does not matter that he is not there to ask. Ask the question. Scream it at the top of your voice, but get that anger out. You dont want to keep that inside of you. [smiley=hug.gif] |
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Title: Re: I don't normally preach, but.... Post by LeLimey on Apr 4th, 2005, 1:05pm Oh Linda I'm so sorry. I'm firmly anti drinking and driving too. I was knocked down on a road crossing when I was 16 by a woman who was so drunk she didn't even know she had hit me. I spent 3 days unconcious but I was lucky. I only had my skull fractured in five places and some nasty bruising all over. It could've been a lot worse. I would report anyone I knew who drank and drove. Way I see it is if they can do that they aren't people I want to be friends with. I hope your son starts a speedy recovery soon |
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Title: Re: I don't normally preach, but.... Post by Margi on Apr 4th, 2005, 1:07pm Aw, damn, Linda - I am SO sorry to hear this. My prayers are with you and a candle lit for your son tonight. Somehow, death doesn't seem enough for the guy that caused this, does it? :( I know your boy will be ok, he's inherited Mom's toughness. |
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Title: Re: I don't normally preach, but.... Post by Langa on Apr 4th, 2005, 1:08pm It'll NEVER make sense to me how people drink and get behind the wheel of their car... I'm so sorry Linda. Praying your son recovers from this physically and emotionally. Langa |
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Title: Re: I don't normally preach, but.... Post by nani on Apr 4th, 2005, 1:08pm :'( [smiley=hug.gif] You're all in my prayers, Linda. I'm so sorry. |
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Title: Re: I don't normally preach, but.... Post by BobG on Apr 4th, 2005, 1:09pm So very sorry Linda. Our thoughts and prayers are being sent for the rapid recovery of your son. |
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Title: Re: I don't normally preach, but.... Post by cootie on Apr 4th, 2005, 1:10pm Oh my Linda that has to be a terrible thing to go thru for a mother.....I am so so so very sorry it had to happen !! Seems the people that get that drunk do it over and over and 'get away with it'......untill they get killed or kill someone......we have freinds that have been in jail for several DUI's and soon as they get home they are back at the bars and driveing themselves and gettin rip'd fall down staggery slurry drunk !!!! We have taken there keys cuz of it.....but there back driveing the next nite doin the same dam thing !!! And there are so many more drivers on the roads now.......danger lurks Pam |
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Title: Re: I don't normally preach, but.... Post by mynm156 on Apr 4th, 2005, 1:12pm [smiley=hug.gif] I agree sound off!!! I am so sorry to hear what your family has been going through. Good Vibes MYNM156 |
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Title: Re: I don't normally preach, but.... Post by broomhilda on Apr 4th, 2005, 1:15pm Oh Linda, I am so sorry :'( Thinking of you and your son, prayers on over... [smiley=hug.gif] |
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Title: Re: I don't normally preach, but.... Post by clarence on Apr 4th, 2005, 1:19pm Prayers for you and your son. I am sorry that this happened. Casey |
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Title: Re: I don't normally preach, but.... Post by Linda_Howell on Apr 4th, 2005, 1:25pm Thank you all for letting me vent/preach and for your kind words. Have you seen the movie "terms of endearment" where Shirley McClain goes stomping to the nurses desk to demand pain meds for her child in a loud and obnoxious way? That was me. (laughing about it now) My son was passionate about cars. Wanted to open his own shop some day. I've seen that kid crawl around under the hood of a car in some God-awful positions, or under the car with grease dripping on his head and loving every min. of it. I hope he can be satisfied with a desk job now. :'( Linda |
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Title: Re: I don't normally preach, but.... Post by Charlie on Apr 4th, 2005, 1:25pm I'm with you Linda and I'm very sorry to learn this. I believe in Sweden, if you're arrested for DWI, you will never drive again. I'm glad to see you posting but I'm sorry it's to tell us such sad news. I know things will never be the same but come here and rant away. I wish I could do more. Charlie |
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Title: Re: I don't normally preach, but.... Post by pattik on Apr 4th, 2005, 2:10pm I am so sorry to hear that you and your son are going through such a terrible ordeal. Here is a link which might give you some resources to get active or at least to vent: http://www.madd.org/home/ Pat |
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Title: Re: I don't normally preach, but.... Post by Kevin_M on Apr 4th, 2005, 4:22pm Love to you Linda, and with time, a good recovery for your son. Kevin M |
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Title: Re: I don't normally preach, but.... Post by Grandma_Sweet_Boy on Apr 4th, 2005, 5:01pm Sorry to hear about your son Linda. Hope his recovery goes smoothly. It's a field I work in on a daily basis - and if I had a dime for every time I've had to deal with some damned moron that thought he was okay to drive, I could likely have retired a year ago! Hope you've got a good adjuster and some good rehab people working with him. Hugs Carol |
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Title: Re: I don't normally preach, but.... Post by Ree on Apr 4th, 2005, 7:03pm I am so sorry Linda... even the kids in our country arent safe I guess. You just vent and preach... its sad that people think these things only happen to other people. It does happen. If I can do anything to help you please do not hesitate to ask... We love you so much and know you haven't had it easy over the years... them kids they don't come with guarantees do they... or a manual to tell us how to keep them safe. Gods love to you I will pray for your son ... what is his first name by the way... Love Ree |
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Title: Re: I don't normally preach, but.... Post by Karla on Apr 4th, 2005, 7:24pm Linda, we will be praying for your son and your family to get through this. It won't be easy but with God all things are possible. Yes, please what is his name?I pray you both find the confort you need during this difficult time and I rebuke the pain he is in and pray for God to heal his body. Lots of love, [smiley=hug.gif] |
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Title: Re: I don't normally preach, but.... Post by Svenn on Apr 4th, 2005, 7:28pm So sorry Linda my friend,dont know what to say Prayers to you and your son. Svenn & Bente |
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Title: Re: I don't normally preach, but.... Post by don on Apr 4th, 2005, 7:38pm Contact your local chapter of MADD. They will no right where your at and help you work through it. |
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Title: Re: I don't normally preach, but.... Post by TxBasslady on Apr 4th, 2005, 7:39pm Bless your heart, Linda. It's tough to sit by your child's bedside, no matter what the age. Such a shame, your son is hurt both physically, and mentally. I can understand your anger and frustrations. Please know that I will keep you and your son in my daily thoughts and prayers. Take care of yourself.....and with all the prayers from this family, I am confident your son will have a speedy recovery. Much love to you, Linda, Jean |
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Title: Re: I don't normally preach, but.... Post by Linda_Howell on Apr 4th, 2005, 7:57pm My sons name is Daniel. Any prayers that a 21 yr. old will live a normal life after this are VERY much appreciated. Linda |
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Title: Re: I don't normally preach, but.... Post by Grandma_Sweet_Boy on Apr 4th, 2005, 8:53pm Prayers on the way for Daniel to have a speedy recovery and to be all that he was before this accident. Hugs to his Mama too! Carol |
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Title: Re: I don't normally preach, but.... Post by Sean_C on Apr 4th, 2005, 9:21pm :'( Lord, look upon Daniel with eyes of mercy, may your healing hand rest upon him, may your lifegiving powers flow into every cell of his body and into the depths of his soul, cleansing, purifying, restoring him to wholeness and strength for love he shares for you. Amen Sean....................................... |
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Title: Re: I don't normally preach, but.... Post by BarbaraG on Apr 4th, 2005, 11:18pm Linda My thoughts and prayers are with you and Daniel at this time. Praying all works out for the both of you. Love, BarbG |
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Title: Re: I don't normally preach, but.... Post by PrettyH8Machine on Apr 4th, 2005, 11:37pm Linda, I am so sorry to hear this. :'( Sending vibes and prayers for you and Daniel. Peace and stay strong, Carl |
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Title: Re: I don't normally preach, but.... Post by judkins on Apr 5th, 2005, 3:09am Linda my prayers go to you , Daniel, your family and all the other good people that are nursing him back to health. I reported my brother for drink driving who is still banned. He will never afford to buy another car so at least theres one less drinker on the road. Don't get me wrong... I love my brother with all my heart.... thats why I reported him. Didn't find it hard to ring the police, but I haven't had the guts to tell him it was me..... lovely guy when sober... a complete bastard with a drink inside him. Bless you all. |
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Title: Re: I don't normally preach, but.... Post by BarbaraD on Apr 5th, 2005, 5:38am Thoughts and prayers are with you and Daniel at this time. If he's half as tuff as his mom, he'll walk again and go on to lead a normal life. Hugs BD |
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Title: Re: I don't normally preach, but.... Post by Frank_W on Apr 5th, 2005, 8:38am Linda, I am so sorry, and I share your anger, as well. I lost two friends in high school to drunk driving accidents. I hope Daniel's recovery is swift and flawless. Never give up hope. :'( |
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Title: Re: I don't normally preach, but.... Post by Edna on Apr 5th, 2005, 9:06am Oh dear Linda, I am so very sorry to hear of such news. I hope Daniel realizes how fortunate he is to still be here with us. I understand your pain, it's never easy to have the deal with the rage that comes from having to deal with a drunk driver. I'm thinking and praying for you honey, and for Daniel. love, EDNA (pst.....go check your email too) |
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Title: Re: I don't normally preach, but.... Post by Gator on Apr 5th, 2005, 9:06am Linda, my heart goes out to you. I know what it is like to sit at your son's bedside praying for his life and for his future. I hope everything heals up and he is able to lead a life he would wish to live. Rant, Rave, Preach - whatever it takes. Get your frustrations out, but don't let you anger consume you. |
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Title: Re: I don't normally preach, but.... Post by Ruth on Apr 5th, 2005, 9:09am Dear Linda, I am truly sorry to hear of this. I will just pray that you and your son have the faith and strength to get through all of this and that he will be able to have a good life inspite of his injurys Rtuh |
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Title: Re: I don't normally preach, but.... Post by Lizzie2 on Apr 5th, 2005, 2:28pm Linda, I'm so very sorry for what you and Daniel have had to endure here. I'm sure you have such a wide range of emotions right now -- especially anger and hurt that the person you so wish to be angry with is now dead. I used to be a part of a high school group called IMPACT that worked to prevent drinking and driving, especially in young people. I don't know if any local schools around you have that kind of program or if you even have the energy, but you could always reach out there in order to hit the younger group. We always had a day where those of us who volunteered would have our faces painted white with black around the eyes and a number on our cheeks. We couldn't talk for the entire day. We represented someone who had died in a drunk driving accident. It was very powerful. I just found out on Easter sunday that my boyfriend has a DUI in his past. He was in an accident, but nobody else was involved and he wasn't hurt (thank GOD). He was coming home from a bar. This was a little over a year ago. He never would drink and drive, but it only takes one time. That's the most important lesson for all young people (and some that aren't so young) to know....it only takes once. I can't tell you how many times my brother has probably driven after drinking. My mom used to drill in our heads that if someone had even one SIP of alcohol, we were not to get in the car with them...but kids don't always listen. :( I know that Dave has to go through the process of getting the DUI cleared now, but it's a painful process, and I think it's a painful (but good) reminder of what happened. It took a lot for him to tell me because he was afraid of what I would think...but I was just glad to hear that nobody was hurt and he learned from it. All my prayers and healing hugs to you and your son. I hope he does get to have the "normal' life that every young person deserves.. Love ya, Lizzie |
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Title: Re: I don't normally preach, but.... Post by sandie99 on Apr 5th, 2005, 2:39pm I am so sorry for your son, Linda.... :'( [smiley=hug.gif] Prayers are on their way for both of you... It's good that you let the anger come out. I bet that nothing is worth what happened... I'm always angry when I read about drivers who were drunk. I just wish that there'll come a day when people of all ages with a driver's licence get the message finally. Wishing you & your son strength, Sandie |
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