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(Message started by: LadyElaine on Mar 25^th, 2005, 8:23am)

Title: Thank you all !
Post by LadyElaine on Mar 25^th, 2005, 8:23am

Thank you gfor the post, phone calls and Flowers. I shared the post with my family. They were printed out and will be treasured by us forever. The Flowers were beautiful. There was one flower arrangement it was a spray that had No card on it. We have no idea who that one flower came from. If you sent a spray Please email me so the family can Thank you proper.
Alley, you came in just when they were giving us our last time with my Dad. I am sorry I did not get to talk with you more. I looked for you after the service but could not find you.
Everyday was hard for me. Tuesday we made all the funeral arrangements. Shoping for last minute stuff, making the grave. I did not get to see my Dad till Wesesday. Everyone geathered at Moms house Wenesday and at 12 Mom asked me to take a write up she wanted in the paper to the funeral home. I went alone not thinking, I was asked if I wanted to see my dad. I said yes and the funeral director pointed to the room he was in. I thought ok now we will see just how strong my heart is. I walked in and held my breath. He looked so peaceful and honest to goodness he looked 21 years younger. He did not look like he had been sick.
I talked to him a while and kissed him. I did realy well.
I stood by him every time we went I could not leave his side. Dad was a jokester so he spent the last few days causing funny things to happen.
The one time I did walk away from Dad I went to talk to a old friend at the door. I went to put my arms around her and my arm hit the light switch and the lights went out. Everyone just stopped talking and someone said Junior (thats my dads name) wanted to speak! We all laughted. Our truck would not start and we had everyone under the hood working on it when I relized Buddy was trying to crank the truck with the wrong key.
My sister-in laws shoes came apart and so did Buddys. Both had to run to the store. Funny little things. I felt it was Dad messing with us.
Yesterday was my hard day. I knew I would be ok as long as I could still see my dad. Buddy had a hard time getting me up and going. I just did not want to face I would not see him again. Buddy had the honor of helping carry my Dads casket, so he was not with me durning the service. Thank God for funeral directors. He helped me get where I needed to be. I don't remeber a lot about the service except that at one point the Preacher said Daddy would say ya'll come back when you can't stay so long! I made it through the service the only time I thought I was going to break was when I said good bye for the last time and when I saw my Brother cry. I was real proud of how I held up and how my family held up.
Last night leaving my Mom was also hard. I did not want to leave her I wanted to stay with her. Mom wanted and needed time alone I know that
Life will never be normal for me again. I will long for the day he and I will meet again. Dads memories will keep me going and his love.
I thank you all from the bottom of my heart!
Remember if you sent a spray please email me and let me know .
Thank You all and My God bless!

Title: Re: Thank you all !
Post by Woobie on Mar 25^th, 2005, 8:53am

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I'm so sorry E! Your father sounds like a cool guy!!!!!! Must be where you got it!

tina :-* :-*

Title: Re: Thank you all !
Post by Frank_W on Mar 25^th, 2005, 11:15am

*tears* [smiley=hug.gif]

Title: Re: Thank you all !
Post by nani on Mar 25^th, 2005, 1:19pm

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Hugs and love to you, hun. love, nani

Title: Re: Thank you all !
Post by PrettyH8Machine on Mar 25^th, 2005, 1:25pm

How boutsa big bearhug? [smiley=hug.gif]

Peace & love,
Carl

Title: Re: Thank you all !
Post by MargaretG on Mar 25^th, 2005, 8:36pm

Elaine, I have not been on the site for a few years, but when I did get back on I saw the notice regarding your Dad. I just wanted to let you know how sorry I am for your loss. I still mourn for my Dad and he's been gone 40 years. There is just no one to take the place of your Dad in your life. I'm sure you'll handle this with your usual courage. I'll be thinking of you.
Margaret G.

Title: Re: Thank you all !
Post by Jonny on Mar 25^th, 2005, 8:54pm

Sorry about your Daddy E-Baby, I never have the words to say with things like this.

I got a call that my Dad was gone, Im so happy you got to see him so much before he left :'(

I love you E :-*

........................................jonny

Title: Re: Thank you all !
Post by Karla on Mar 26^th, 2005, 7:21pm

With deepest symathies to your family. We have been praying for your family to make it through this difficult time. I just lost my Grandfather and that hurt so bad. I can't imagine the loss of a father. God's peace.

Karla

Title: Re: Thank you all !
Post by LadyElaine on Mar 27^th, 2005, 12:32pm

Thank you all . The first time I viewed my Dad, Flowers were there from Jackie and OUCH. They were at each end of Dads Casket. It made me feel I was not alone.

I Think I slept the last two days away. I sleep to get away from my troubles. I am much better today. Dad being so sick I guess made it easier for me t let go.

I want to share this with you all. I found confort in this.
Maybe for you all who lost someone you might find confort in this also.

This will also be the way I will say good bye to friends and family someday.

When I'm Gone

When I come to the end of My Journey
And I travel my last weary mile,
Just forget if you can that I ever frowned
And remember only the smile
Forget unkind words I have spoken;
Remember some good I have done.
Forget I ever had a headache
And remember I've had loads of fun.
Forget that I have stumbled and Blundered
And sometimes fell by the way.
Remember I have fought some hard battles.
And won, ere the close of the day,
Then forget to grieve for my going.
I would not have you sad for a day,
But in summer just geather some flowers
And remember the place where I lay,
And come in the evening
When the sun paints the sky in the west
Stand for a few moments beside me
And remember only my best!

Thank you all for the letters, cards, Flowers, phone calls.
I could not have gotten by without them.

Title: Re: Thank you all !
Post by LeLimey on Mar 27^th, 2005, 12:48pm

Elaine that is beautiful, thank you so much.
love
Helen

Title: Re: Thank you all !
Post by Svenn on Mar 28^th, 2005, 1:47pm

Hugs and love to you and your family Elaine

Svenn&Bente

Title: Re: Thank you all !
Post by TomM on Mar 28^th, 2005, 2:01pm

Elaine,
Many things are said in jest around here but this is from my heart.
May you and your family find peace in your heart knowing your father is at rest.
TomM :-*

Title: Re: Thank you all !
Post by Ree on Mar 28^th, 2005, 3:36pm

Awwwww E he is always with you... my heart is bleeding for you right now. Love to you Ree

Title: Re: Thank you all !
Post by LadyLuv on Mar 28^th, 2005, 6:08pm

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Elaine... Your Father sounds like a wonderful person.. and I know that you miss him, but be strong and hand in there sweetie. I am still and will continue Praying for you and your family. I so wish that I could be there with you... But since I can't, and I know that God is... I'm okay and I know that you will be also.

As I told you last week when I called, if you need to talk, give me a call, I'm a very good listener..

Peace & Blessings
Lady Luv

Title: Re: Thank you all !
Post by Donna_D. on Mar 28^th, 2005, 6:34pm

Elaine,

You and your family continue to be in my prayers.

DD