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(Message started by: fubar on Feb 28^th, 2005, 6:06pm)

Title: I am a lucky man
Post by fubar on Feb 28^th, 2005, 6:06pm

I have enjoyed the friendship of love of a great person over the last 12 years. She has been my closest and dearest friend and one of my biggest supporters through some difficult times. I have been there with her to bury her mother, her sister and finally her brother, all of whom died as a result of a nasty disease called IPF (Inherited Pulmonary Fibrosis). These trying times helped us forge a bond like I have not experienced with many people on this Earth. Sandy, who also had IPF, had a miraculous lung transplant in December 2002, about 2 years and 2 months ago. Most (about 80%) lung transplant patients do not survive more than 1 year, so I feel lucky to have had her this long. It is with a heavy heart and great sense of loss that I must say goodbye, but I know she is not suffering anymore and I will see her again someday. I will miss our daily phone calls. I will miss the challenge of trying to make her laugh once a day. I will miss the support she offered me, even as she sat there dying in front of me. I love you, Sandy.

Goodbye.

:'(

Title: Re: I am a lucky man
Post by medic1852 on Feb 28^th, 2005, 6:09pm

Thank you for sharing your pain. My heart goes out to you in your time of need. My prayers are with you. [smiley=hug.gif]

Rodger

Title: Re: I am a lucky man
Post by nani on Feb 28^th, 2005, 6:09pm

:'( [smiley=hug.gif]

Title: Re: I am a lucky man
Post by purpleydog on Feb 28^th, 2005, 6:11pm

Having been through a similar situation, I understand Shawn. Bless you. [smiley=hug.gif]

Title: Re: I am a lucky man
Post by broomhilda on Feb 28^th, 2005, 6:13pm

:'( So sorry to hear this Shawn... [smiley=hug.gif]

Title: Re: I am a lucky man
Post by guesst on Feb 28^th, 2005, 6:14pm

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Thinking of you now.

Title: Re: I am a lucky man
Post by Jonny on Feb 28^th, 2005, 6:29pm

Oh man, no words bro....just :'(

Title: Re: I am a lucky man
Post by Alien Space Babe on Feb 28^th, 2005, 6:32pm

You are in my thoughts...... [smiley=hug.gif]

Title: Re: I am a lucky man
Post by don on Feb 28^th, 2005, 6:35pm

My condolences friend.

Title: Re: I am a lucky man
Post by LeLimey on Feb 28^th, 2005, 6:39pm

my heart goes out to you.
Helen

Title: Re: I am a lucky man
Post by Magman on Feb 28^th, 2005, 6:42pm

Can't seem to muster the right words Shawn, so I am lighting a couple of candles instead.

Our condolences to you,
-dan & kathy

Title: Re: I am a lucky man
Post by Grandma_Sweet_Boy on Feb 28^th, 2005, 6:43pm

Shawn - I'm so sorry for your loss. :'(

Carol

Title: Re: I am a lucky man
Post by Charlie on Feb 28^th, 2005, 6:45pm

Sorry to hear but I'm glad you came here with the story.

:'(

Charlie

Title: Re: I am a lucky man
Post by SFChris on Feb 28^th, 2005, 6:49pm

Shawn - sorry to hear about your friend Sandy. I'm happy that you had the experience of such a great friendship.

I had the pleasure of meeting your friend Sandy - she had the lung transplant and was a patient at Stanford Hospital when you and I went to visit DJ after his moya-moya surgery. I was glad you shared the visit with me...

Sending you love and good energy my friend.

Chris

Title: Re: I am a lucky man
Post by minnie on Feb 28^th, 2005, 7:12pm

Shawn,
I am so sorry to hear about your loss.
may she rest in peace.prayers going out to those
that love her.
Minnie

Title: Re: I am a lucky man
Post by vig on Feb 28^th, 2005, 7:27pm

sorry bro :'(

Title: Re: I am a lucky man
Post by cootie on Feb 28^th, 2005, 7:39pm

A friendship that will never be topped.......she's smileing down at you Pam

Title: Re: I am a lucky man
Post by Langa on Feb 28^th, 2005, 7:41pm

I am so sorry Shawn...you were both blessed to have each other. :'(

Langa

Title: Re: I am a lucky man
Post by Frank_W on Feb 28^th, 2005, 8:12pm

:'( My sincere condolences to you, Shawn. Love never dies... It goes on and on. She is still as close as your own heartbeat. Blessings, peace, and strength to you... [smiley=hug.gif]

Title: Re: I am a lucky man
Post by Redd715 on Feb 28^th, 2005, 8:22pm

I'm sooo sorry Shawn...

..as you said you were blessed and lucky to have had her in your life and the memories will be cherished forever. :-*

Title: Re: I am a lucky man
Post by Pegase on Feb 28^th, 2005, 8:37pm

This is so sad... stay strong :'(

Title: Re: I am a lucky man
Post by eddie on Feb 28^th, 2005, 8:41pm

may God be with you
my prayers will be :(

Title: Re: I am a lucky man
Post by Kevin_M on Feb 28^th, 2005, 9:01pm

A very fortunate friendship Shawn.

Memories stay

She misses you too.

Thoughts for your sorrow friend.

Kevin M

Title: Re: I am a lucky man
Post by stevegeebe on Feb 28^th, 2005, 9:06pm

Man oh man.

Lucky...yes...wise as well.

You can truly see, Fu.

Steve G

Title: Re: I am a lucky man
Post by JDH on Feb 28^th, 2005, 10:34pm

My condolences

Jim

Title: Re: I am a lucky man
Post by Mastifflvr28 on Feb 28^th, 2005, 11:12pm

My condolences Shawn,
I'm so sorry but glad you had an extra year.
Take care,
Mast

Title: Re: I am a lucky man
Post by Cathi04 on Feb 28^th, 2005, 11:20pm

Shawn, I often wondered about Sandy. I am so sorry you lost her. I know you were a good friend to her as well.
My sympathies to you. I know you lost a lot.
Cathi

Title: Re: I am a lucky man
Post by Tim_Z on Mar 1^st, 2005, 12:14am

sorry Shawn :(

Tim

Title: Re: I am a lucky man
Post by TxBasslady on Mar 1^st, 2005, 2:38am

Shawn,

So very sorry for the loss of your friend.

God only takes the best..........

Prayers and vibes to you, sweetie

Jean

Title: Re: I am a lucky man
Post by high_commander on Mar 1^st, 2005, 3:44am

:'(
I am so sad for you

Prayers for you and all those who loved her

Danielle

Title: Re: I am a lucky man
Post by BobG on Mar 1^st, 2005, 4:07am

:'( Just don't know what else to say. :'(

Title: Re: I am a lucky man
Post by Svenn on Mar 1^st, 2005, 4:14am

:'( :'( :'( :'(

Title: Re: I am a lucky man
Post by fubar on Mar 1^st, 2005, 5:01am

Thank you, everyone, for the kind words. I remember seeing DJ at Stanford the same day I was visiting Sandy in ICU. It was neat to be able to introduce her to other clusterheads. To think that was only 26 months ago... wow. Time is flying by...

I know she lasted this long due in part to all of your collective well-wishing and prayers. For that I want to say thank you from the bottom of my heart. Every day was appreciated.

-Shawn

Title: Re: I am a lucky man
Post by Cerberus on Mar 1^st, 2005, 9:23am

Quote:

Oh man, no words bro....just

:'( :'(

Damn man....what Jonny said :'( :'(

Ramon

Title: Re: I am a lucky man
Post by TomM on Mar 1^st, 2005, 9:31am

Fu--
I wish Sandy fair winds and following seas. She has a full spinaker and a perpetual sunset before her.
You have the memory or her sunrise.
Be well.
TomM

Title: Re: I am a lucky man
Post by Margi on Mar 1^st, 2005, 10:03am

Shawn, just the way you titled this post shows you're handling this with your usual class and grace. Sandy will be proud of you. I remember when she got that lung transplant and I'm so happy to hear that it did extend her life. She has wings now and she's at peace.
My heart aches for your loss, friend. Know that we all stand with you in your grief.
Peace and God be with you.
Margi

Title: Re: I am a lucky man
Post by Edna on Mar 1^st, 2005, 10:34am

Shawn, my deepest sympathy at the loss you have experienced. You wisdom shows that you indeed know how much of a blessing Sandy was. May God keep you close and protected during such a sad time.

hugs,
EDNA

Title: Re: I am a lucky man
Post by boonie on Mar 1^st, 2005, 10:52am

sorry fubar

She will always be with you

Boonie

Title: Re: I am a lucky man
Post by ExplodingEyeBall on Mar 1^st, 2005, 11:03am

I can't express the way I feel for you with words right now.

You are in my prayers. Keep her in your heart.

[smiley=bigcry.gif]

Title: Re: I am a lucky man
Post by miCHel on Mar 1^st, 2005, 11:38am

I am at a loss for words. That was a beautiful post, Shawn.

So sorry. Hang in there.

miCHel

Title: oRe: I am a lucky man
Post by sandie99 on Mar 1^st, 2005, 1:22pm

[smiley=hug.gif]
Thank you so much for telling this. I admire your attitude. Losing a loved one hurts deeply, I know that. I have been lucky to be able to keep all my friends with me, so I can only imagine what it feels like to lose one for good. I wish you strength. But I also have the feeling that some one who has been so important person in your life will continue to have impact in your life even now when she's gone.

best wishes,
Sandie

Title: Re: I am a lucky man
Post by Tiannia on Mar 1^st, 2005, 1:27pm

She is with you whenever you need. listen to nature and you will still hear her voice. feel the sun and wind and you will still feel her embrace.

Blessed be, my friend
-Tia

Title: Re: I am a lucky man
Post by Annette_Emond on Mar 1^st, 2005, 7:50pm

Count your garden by the flowers, never by the leaves that fall.
Count your days by golden hours, don't remember clouds at all.
Count your life by smiles, not tears,
and with joy throughout your lifetime,
Count your age by friends, not years.

A poem which struck my heart many years ago, and comes easily and quickly to mind when I read your post.
God Bless.
Annette Emond

Title: Re: I am a lucky man
Post by Virginia on Mar 1^st, 2005, 9:08pm

Fu,

I'm so sorry to hear about Sandy. I know you're really hurting right now. I'm glad you had her in your life for as long as you did.

I'm thinking of you.
V.

Title: Re: I am a lucky man
Post by Donna_D. on Mar 1^st, 2005, 9:20pm

Shawn,

When I read your post it reminded me of something my grandaddy used to tell my grandmother right before he passed away....

That he would wait for her, just beyond the moon.

Here are the lyrics and while this may not have been your wife, Sandy may have very well been your soulmate....

Don't cry...because she, too, is waiting...just beyond the moon.

Just Beyond The Moon
Recorded by Tex Ritter, 1967
Submitted by Thomas Rivers.

I’LL WALK JUST BEYOND THE MOON THEN I’LL STOP AND WAIT FOR YOU

(RECITATION)
MY MOTHER AND MY FATHER WERE IN LOVE FOR 50 YEARS
SO WHEN DAD DIED WE WONDERED WHY MY MOTHER SHED NO TEARS
WE ASKED HER ONCE ABOUT IT BUT SHE WOULDN’T TELL US WHY
INSTEAD SHE’D WALK OUTSIDE EACH NIGHT AND SMILE UP AT THE SKY
THEN JUST BEFORE SHE LEFT US SHE CALLED US TO HER SIDE…
SHE TOLD US WHAT MY FATHER SAID TO HER JUST BEFORE HE DIED

I REMEMBER WHEN YOU SAID YOU’D NEVER LEAVE ME
THROUGH THESE GOLDEN YEARS I’VE KEPT THE SAME VOW TOO
BUT NOW THAT I AM GOING PLEASE DON’T LEAVE ME
I’LL WALK JUST BEYOND THE MOON THEN I’LL STOP AND WAIT FOR YOU

(Chorus 1)
YOU CAN LOOK UP EVERY NIGHT AND YOU’LL SEE ME LIGHT THE LIGHT
WHERE I’LL WATCH FOR YOU TO JOIN ME SOMEDAY SOON
WE’LL GO LOOKIN THROUGH THE STARS FOR THE HEAVEN THAT IS OURS
AND I KNOW WE’LL FIND IT SOON SOMEWHERE JUST BEYOND THE MOON

I’LL WALK JUST BEYOND THE MOON THEN I’LL STOP AND WAIT FOR YOU

(Chorus 2)
I’LL JUST SIT THERE BY A STAR AND I’LL WATCH YOU FROM AFAR
TIL I SEE YOU WALKING TOWARD ME SOMEDAY SOON
THEN TOGETHER HAND IN HAND WE’LL FIND OUR PROMISED LAND
AND WE’LL SETTLE DOWN FOREVER DARLIN’ JUST BEYOND THE MOON

(Tag) I’LL WALK JUST BEYOND THE MOON THEN I’LL STOP AND WAIT FOR YOU

:'(

DD

Title: Re: I am a lucky man
Post by blossom on Mar 1^st, 2005, 9:37pm

what a wonderful dedication. may God be with you.

Karen

Title: Re: I am a lucky man
Post by PrettyH8Machine on Mar 2^nd, 2005, 12:31am

I am without words...

:'(