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(Message started by: Redneck on Feb 4^th, 2005, 7:42pm)

Title: While You Can
Post by Redneck on Feb 4^th, 2005, 7:42pm

Smile
Laugh
Enjoy life
Look at the clouds
Smell the roses
Look for and find the little things that make it all worth while
Be a friend
Help some one in need
Hug those you love

These are just a few of the things that make it all worth the effort of keeping going.

The point to all this? I guess there really isn't one. I just need to remind myself. Difficult times come to us all, they pass. We survive, we learn, we grow stronger (hopefully), and we go on.

Within the next few days my mother is expected to pass on. This will be an end to the pain. We do not want her to go, but this is not how she would want to exist. So when the time is her, we will let her go with our love.

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Title: Re: While You Can
Post by vig on Feb 4^th, 2005, 7:44pm

just tell her what you just told us....

Title: Re: While You Can
Post by john_d on Feb 4^th, 2005, 7:45pm

prayers for your Mom, brother

and prayers for you as you face this loss.

Title: Re: While You Can
Post by ghost62 on Feb 4^th, 2005, 7:51pm

Bless all who believe, and those that do not believe.
But most important Bless you and your family.

Title: Re: While You Can
Post by Jonny on Feb 4^th, 2005, 7:51pm

I know your pain my friend, I know it well.

This is the pain that CH cannot come close to.

My thoughts are with you my brother!!!

...............................jonny

Title: Re: While You Can
Post by Melissa on Feb 4^th, 2005, 7:58pm

Aw honey, I'm sorry you have to go through this, but try and think of it as not an end for her, but a new beginning.

hugs & i pray she has a peaceful journey,
mel

Title: Re: While You Can
Post by Ree on Feb 4^th, 2005, 8:03pm

Open Up The Window
Open up the window,
and let the light shine through.
Our mother feels its time to pass.
She knows just what to do.

Let your love surround her soul,
with all your Earthly might.
Our mothers off to Heaven
She leaves this very night.

Prepare a final place for her,
Her body is now a shell.
But deep inside, a soul so pure,
Is wanting to be well.

So stand aside my brother.
Let strength hold back our tears.
She walks now strong and without pain,
We have nothing to fear.

written for Redneck at the passing of his mom
God bless ya buddy...love to you Ree

Title: Re: While You Can
Post by ClusterChuck on Feb 4^th, 2005, 8:06pm

My prayers and thoughts go to you and your family. I was where you are at just a short time ago. Although I miss my mother terribly, I know it was right for her to let go, and she is in a better place now and out of pain. Your mother sounds like she will be there soon too. It sounds like this will be for the best.

God bless!

Chuck

Title: Re: While You Can
Post by nani on Feb 4^th, 2005, 8:15pm

[smiley=hug.gif]
God bless you in your unselfishness, hun. My prayers are with you and your family.

Title: Re: While You Can
Post by broomhilda on Feb 4^th, 2005, 8:19pm

My thoughts and prayers are with you and all of your family....

[smiley=hug.gif]

Title: Re: While You Can
Post by Linda_Howell on Feb 4^th, 2005, 8:21pm

dang it Ree.....I thought you were off somewhere doing lent.

Ya had to make me cry didn't you?

Redneck, my friend...you are not only cared about, but loved here. Come to any of us and vent all you want to.

Linda

Title: Re: While You Can
Post by catlind on Feb 4^th, 2005, 8:29pm

Ree that was beautiful.

Red, may you and your family find some peace in the coming days.

Cat

Title: Re: While You Can
Post by Pegase on Feb 4^th, 2005, 9:52pm

[smiley=hug.gif]

Title: Re: While You Can
Post by Grandma_Sweet_Boy on Feb 4^th, 2005, 10:34pm

:'(

Hugs - Carol

Title: Re: While You Can
Post by LadyElaine on Feb 4^th, 2005, 10:48pm

Your right while you can you should.
I know your pain and I know what you are saying.
Its still hard, the right thing to do but hard. :'(
You and your family will be in my prayers and thoughts.

Title: Re: While You Can
Post by PrettyH8Machine on Feb 4^th, 2005, 10:51pm

Prayer and vibes to you and your family at this time. Remember this... we never really lose the ones we love. They just transfer into another life, and we carry them in our hearts forever.

Peace,
Carl

Title: Re: While You Can
Post by taraann on Feb 4^th, 2005, 11:25pm

This poem was given to me when I lost my mother....
(to me it never loses it's value)

Do not Stand at My Grave

Do not stand at my grave and weep.
I am not there, I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow.
I am the diamond glints on snow.
I am the sunlight on ripened grain.
I am the Gentle autumn rain.
When you awaken in the mornings hush,
I am the swift uplifting rush
of quiet birds in circled flight,
I am the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry,
I am not there, I did not die.
~author unknown~

I'm so sorry to hear about your mom. She will always be in your heart and memories.

Title: Re: While You Can
Post by Cathi04 on Feb 5^th, 2005, 12:09am

Redneck, I, too, will be facing this loss in the not-so-distant future. My heart goes out to you and your family.
I have never understood why we send flowers to a funeral............there are 364 OTHER days in a year.....I choose to send my mother flowers all the time. Each day she remains doing well, feeling good and laughing with me is a gift. When she is gone, I will draw from those memories to help fill the void she has left.

My sympathies, Redneck.....I hope mom knows what a special son she has.....
Cathi

Title: Re: While You Can
Post by K-9 on Feb 5^th, 2005, 12:18am

This is a tough time for you. You and yours are in our thoughts.

Chuck & Jeanette

Title: Re: While You Can
Post by sandie99 on Feb 5^th, 2005, 4:48am

Thank you for reminding all of us. It's too easy to forget it sometimes...
It's strange that it takes so often the closeness of death - in a way or another - to remind us about things which truly matter in life.
[smiley=hug.gif]
I've been where you are... it's hard.
You and your family are in my thoughts. I wish that your mother will have a peaceful journey.

Wishing you strength,
Sandie

Title: Re: While You Can
Post by Charlie on Feb 5^th, 2005, 5:17am

Very nice and all I know is that things get easier over time, not better but easier.

Charlie

Title: Re: While You Can
Post by stevegeebe on Feb 5^th, 2005, 8:50am

Looks like she did a good job Redneck.

Recalls this poem..

The Bridge Builder

An old man, going a lone highway,
Came, at evening, cold and gray,
To a chasm, vast, and deep, and wide,
Through which was flowing a sullen tide.
The old man crossed in the twilight dim;
The sullen stream had no fears for him;
But he turned, when safe on the other side,
And built a bridge to span the tide.
"Old man," said a fellow pilgrim, near,
"You are wasting strenght with building here;
Your journey will end with the ending day;
You never again must pass this way;
You have crossed the chasm, deep and wide-
Why build you the bridge at the eventide?"

The builder lifted his old gray head:
"Good friend, in the path I have come," he said,
"There followeth after me today
A youth, whose feet must pass this way.
This chasm, that has been naught to me,
To that fair-haired youth may a pitfall be.
He, too, must cross in the twilight dim;
Good friend, I am building the bridge for him."

Will Allen Dromgoole

Title: Re: While You Can
Post by Biker on Feb 5^th, 2005, 12:02pm

Hi Brother,

Mom passed into the great beyond a few years ago. Dad has the althimerze thing and didnt know what was happening. Dad still lives, but not much of a thought left. I found Mom on the floor of the bathroom, eyes wide open, cold. Dad wanted coffee.
LIfe is a terminal disease.

Feelings. Enjoy what ya can. None of us are getting out of this alive.

Title: Re: While You Can
Post by high_commander on Feb 5^th, 2005, 3:50pm

:'( [smiley=hug.gif]

Danielle

Title: Re: While You Can
Post by Redneck on Feb 5^th, 2005, 6:02pm

I spent the day with her. Took her a dozen roses, she held the roses, smiled, and hugged me. Thats a small smile I will never forget.

Thanks to all of you

Title: Re: While You Can
Post by Rock_Lobster on Feb 5^th, 2005, 6:13pm

Good thoughts RN.

Best wishes.

Title: Re: While You Can
Post by E-Double on Feb 5^th, 2005, 6:26pm

Best to you and all whom you love!

E.

Title: Re: While You Can
Post by MOMO3 on Feb 5^th, 2005, 7:59pm

What an incredibly difficult time for you. Sounds like you and your mother had a special day, today. Be thankful you had this time to let her know how much she means to you, many don't get that opportunity.

May God bless you and give you strengh.

Michelle

Title: Re: While You Can
Post by kimh on Feb 5^th, 2005, 8:55pm

Never easy to say goodbye***

Thinkin of you and sending you and family warmest well wishes, Redneck :-*

Title: Re: While You Can
Post by brain_cramps on Feb 6^th, 2005, 2:01am

Having lost my dad to a lengthy battle with cancer 6 months ago, I know what you are going through.

Prayers for your mother as well as you and the rest of your family

Grant

Title: Re: While You Can
Post by juvy on Feb 6^th, 2005, 5:42am

my thoughts are with you. *vibes*

[smiley=hug.gif]

Title: Re: While You Can
Post by Redneck on Feb 6^th, 2005, 6:32am

I just received the call. At about 4:40 am she passed away. Again thanks to all of you for your thoughts and prayers. Now I better get ready soon and go see to my sisters.

Title: Re: While You Can
Post by juvy on Feb 6^th, 2005, 6:41am

Awe Red,

I'm so sorry! [smiley=hug.gif]

my thoughts are with you and your family. let us know if you need anything or just want to vent.

*hugs and vibes*
April

Title: Re: While You Can
Post by MOMO3 on Feb 6^th, 2005, 6:52am

I'm so sorry. My thoughts are with you.

Michelle

Title: Re: While You Can
Post by Jackie on Feb 6^th, 2005, 7:03am

My heart goes out to you. The loss of a parent is said to be the natural order of things......that doesn't make it easy.

Your Mom will be with you always.....
My Daddy is still with me....I carry him in my heart.

My deepest sympathies to you and your family...

Jacks 8)

Title: Re: While You Can
Post by Melissa on Feb 6^th, 2005, 7:25am

Red, she's still with you. Never forget that.

My condolences to you and your family.

sincerely,
melissa

Title: Re: While You Can
Post by lionsound on Feb 6^th, 2005, 11:30am

My deepest sympathies and comforting thoughts to you and your loved ones.

-lionsound

Title: Re: While You Can
Post by cynjeep89 on Feb 6^th, 2005, 12:20pm

My sympathy to you and your entire family.
The loss of a Mom is such a tough time for all but try to celebrate her life and realize how lucky you were to have had her as "your Mom".

Title: Re: While You Can
Post by LadyElaine on Feb 6^th, 2005, 7:58pm

My deepest sympathies.