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Title: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by countryguy699 on Jan 2nd, 2005, 5:55pm Hi this is Curt I meet is awsome wonderful person pegg, Redd 715. We have chatted for some time now. I would like to take it to the next level. I want to be there in her life and be a supporter, but need to hear from others what to know what to expect .how to be there when shes needs it most. I need some feed back on where to start to understand what others have been thru and what to expect. I want to be the best friend . lover I can be for her. |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by Rock_Lobster on Jan 2nd, 2005, 5:59pm You up for some cheese? |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by Jeepgun on Jan 2nd, 2005, 6:09pm Why not ask her directly? Personally, I like to be left alone during a hit. There's nothing that anyone can really do to make it feel better, and I end up feeling worse if someone's hovering and wanting to help, because I begin thinking of how badly they must be feeling. Vicious cycle... Most often, just letting the person know that you are there for them, and you aren't going to jump ship because you can't deal with them being in pain, is a huge reassurance. I'm sure other people will have better, or more varied answers... -Frank |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by vig on Jan 2nd, 2005, 6:15pm on 01/02/05 at 18:09:39, Jeepgun wrote:
and then listen closely and she will tell you. ;;D |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by Bec on Jan 2nd, 2005, 6:21pm Curt, I am so happy that you want to help support Redd, she is a great person. But Like Jeep said it is best to ask her. We are all diff and need and want diff things while we are getting hit. Some ppl like to have others around them and others do not. So the only thing I can tell you is to ask Redd what she wants, and it will change from time to time (sorry) It is great to meet you and I hope you stick around and learn all that you can. You can go to the supporters part of this site and learn more on how to help. |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by Ree on Jan 2nd, 2005, 6:30pm awwwwwwwwwwwwwwww a heart on his sleeve kind a guy................ wow... We have a whole corner of this site for us supporters but Ill give you the low down... First you need to be brave enough to be able to take what you witness. There are times when what happens is beyond anyones control and there is nothing you can do. You need to be strong no matter what she says to you in the course of her attacks. You need to ask her how she wants you to deal with her attacks. Does she even want you there? Some like to deal with the HA on their own. I don't allow that. I guess I am a pain. But if Dave focus' on me he doesn't get too out of control. I am there to be sure he doesn't hurt himself mostly. Get him tea, a cold cloth, ice, O2, an injection etc......... whatever. I have learned the hard way to get him what he needs, I know after 16+years of cycles what he needs. Most importantly... what you will see if allowed to see it, is the most horrendous pain ever. Do not EVER discount that pain. Do not EVER say it can't be that bad. Do not EVER not believe HER!!! And mostly if she doesnt want you around when an attack hits, respect her wishes... Don't be hurt. Be sure she is ok and let her be alone. Let her know you are there... Good luck and be in touch you can email me if you need to or visit us in the Supporters corner. love ree |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by Redd715 on Jan 2nd, 2005, 6:38pm Ree.... Thats the sort of thing I as a sufferer can't explain...I don't know what a supporter goes threw during the thick of things...not day after day, week and month and year. I asked Curt to come and get feedback from you all...I can't give him the supporters side of things...not the way you can... Thanks Ree |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by Jonny on Jan 2nd, 2005, 6:45pm You got your hands full, Redd......LMMFAO ;;D Cheese aint going to get you out of this one........LMAO ;;D |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by Redd715 on Jan 2nd, 2005, 6:47pm on 01/02/05 at 18:45:52, Jonny wrote:
Whatever are you talking about Jonny dear? ;) |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by Jonny on Jan 2nd, 2005, 6:51pm My lack of cheese.....Waaaaah |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by BillyJ. on Jan 2nd, 2005, 7:20pm Hi Curt, What she wants/needs you to do during a hit is something you will have to ask her,everyone of us is differant. Between hits there are a few things you need to know and she needs to know that you know them.1-She IS NOT A WIMP! 2-She is NOT exageraiting the pain,in fact for every ounce you see,there is a pound that you don't. 3-When she gets hit at the worst possible times (and sooner or later she will) it IS NOT her fault!She is not to blame. 4-Between and after hits she may feel like doing nothing (would you after the worst beating of your life?)again this is not her fault. 5-"how to be there when shes needs it most." That is the biggest thing.Just to be there,to know that you will not be "run off" by the beast.That you won't think less of her for suffering this nightmare,rather admire her for surviving it. |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by don on Jan 2nd, 2005, 7:47pm After an attack give her a hug and buy her a new car. |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by Redd715 on Jan 2nd, 2005, 7:53pm Don....you suck.... :-* |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by unsolved1 on Jan 2nd, 2005, 7:55pm on 01/02/05 at 19:47:20, don wrote:
Make that a JEEP ;;D Unsolved |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by Jeepgun on Jan 2nd, 2005, 8:09pm on 01/02/05 at 19:55:43, unsolved1 wrote:
[smiley=thumb.gif] [smiley=laugh.gif] I think Ree and BillyJ nailed it pretty good. When I'm getting hit at night, my wife wakes up as I'm getting out of bed and says, "You're having one, aren't you?" I say, "Yeah... I'm okay." She says, "I'm sorry..." and then goes back to sleep. That's all the support I need. :) Just knowing that she's going to be there, that this isn't going to kill our quality of life, and it's something I can mostly keep marginalized. Worst, most inopportune time to get hit, ever: Sitting down at our 11th anniversary dinner in a nice little Italian restaurant, and having to stumble out of the joint to go pace, until it went away. By the time I got back, my food was cold and people were staring at me like some kind of madman. The pain was mostly gone but my eyelid was still swollen and hanging at half-mast, and I was all sweaty. Sooooooo romantic... :-[ |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by Kirk on Jan 2nd, 2005, 8:18pm Since there is jack all you can do for her during an attack. When its over with, just cover her with chocolate syrup, and open a bottle of Merlot. I'll leave it to two consenting adults what should occur thereafter. [smiley=bloos.gif] TTFN |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by don on Jan 2nd, 2005, 8:22pm Quote:
Italian Restaurant? So you looked like 1/2 the employees. Who'd notice? |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by Sean_C on Jan 2nd, 2005, 8:32pm on 01/02/05 at 20:22:13, don wrote:
Italians aren't Chinese you dumbass [smiley=laugh.gif] |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by Redd715 on Jan 2nd, 2005, 8:33pm on 01/02/05 at 20:18:45, Kirk wrote:
Thanks Kirk... ::) |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by purpleydog on Jan 2nd, 2005, 8:35pm Curt, The main thing is to not be scared of what happens when she gets hit. And ask her what she wants you to do to help her. Most of us don't like to be touched. And some of us like to be alone. She will tell you what she needs. There's really not anything you can do except be there. It's frustrating. She won't be the best person to be around either, so don't take anything personally that is said during this time. Ask her what you can do, before any attacks, and she'll tell you. And if you can still see it to stick around, then that is the best thing you could do. Not everyone who sees these can handle it. Having a supporter is the best thing ever. Especially one who is right there. And if you need support, you know where to find us. |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by Grandma_Sweet_Boy on Jan 2nd, 2005, 8:36pm on 01/02/05 at 19:47:20, don wrote:
Lord - we could rent Don out as the supporter supreme. Hugs and new cars - what more could you ask for! ;;D |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by Redd715 on Jan 2nd, 2005, 8:37pm Quote:
During a very intence meeting between myself, a coworker, and the supervisor, after a huge missunderstanding between he and I....I was flameing pissed, but with the beast at my eyes I looked like a whimpering crybaby...and had to run from the room... |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by Kris_in_SJ on Jan 2nd, 2005, 8:50pm Just do the one thing she needs most ... love her. She has an extremely rare disease that none of of has the words to describe. Sufferers are all different, but we truly couldn't survive without those who love us unconditionally. Be unconditional! If she wants hot fudge, give it to her; If she wants to cuddle, cuddle her; If she wants be be left alone, UNDERSTAND. The car thing is good, but could make you end up in the poor house! Kris |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by Sean_C on Jan 2nd, 2005, 8:52pm on 01/02/05 at 20:50:31, Kris_in_SJ wrote:
Watch the game and tell her to get ya another beer..................she likes that [smiley=laugh.gif] Sean............................... |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by Redd715 on Jan 2nd, 2005, 8:58pm on 01/02/05 at 20:52:49, Sean_C wrote:
Sean...you're in for it in Dallas...you DO know this right? [smiley=bash.gif] |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by Sean_C on Jan 2nd, 2005, 8:59pm ROTFLMMFAO :-* |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by don on Jan 2nd, 2005, 9:02pm Quote:
In 28 year I haven't experianced an opportune time. They are all inopportune. |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by Jeepgun on Jan 2nd, 2005, 9:29pm Well, you're right, Don. It's NEVER a good time to get hit, but out of all of the really bad times, that was honestly the worst. ROFLMAO, at Sean... LOL! I also got hit in the middle of a high-level meeting with the board of directors for another company that we were considering a partnership with. I had to sit there and act like everything was just fine. :( With the Beast, you get to practice saying, "Thank you, sir. May I have another?" >:( |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by countryguy699 on Jan 2nd, 2005, 9:59pm HI Just wanted to thank you all for your comment and the support, nothing theres others out there that I may come to and ask questions, and that could help me understand means a great deal. thank, Tamara, Thanks for sharing . Purpleydog thanks for the kind words . Kriss thanks Billy Kirk, will order the truck load of chocolate syrup and merlot tomarrow. Ree thanks Bec thanks Makes me feel better know you are all here and if I have questions , you will be there. I just hope I can be the perfect friend supporter, and lover I can be for redd. Redd you have warmed my heart , lifted my spirits when I about give up I could feel this way again. I hope I can bring you the happiness you desire and be the support that comforts you in time of need. Thanks again everyone. Curt. |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by Jeepgun on Jan 2nd, 2005, 10:42pm Very best wishes to you and Redd, Curt. :) -Frank |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by vig on Jan 2nd, 2005, 10:54pm on 01/02/05 at 21:59:32, countryguy699 wrote:
Rock on Curt! |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by Ree on Jan 2nd, 2005, 11:18pm on 01/02/05 at 20:52:49, Sean_C wrote:
Brat!!! |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by OneEyeBlind on Jan 3rd, 2005, 8:50am When ya love someone, ya take the good with the bad. Ya learn to adjust to the mood swings that come with a lack of sleep, ya learn that her/his pain is your own. It just works. So, what I am truly saying is ... if you love her, support will come naturally. Listen to her, hear what she says, and LOVE her. The rest falls in to place. Oh, and if ya really want to know. With the first few hits, my husband jumped out of bed, ran to my side, saw the ugly look on my face ..... the one that says I WANT TO BE ALONE and scurried back to bed to wait for me, then hugged me tight when I got there. Worked for me. Worked for him. Life is grand when ya get to know someone so intimately. |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by marlin on Jan 3rd, 2005, 10:30am Sorry to say but, the advice so far has been all wrong. I don't know how to tell you this so you'll understand but you need to think of yourself first man!!! Now, first order of business, get yourself a backup. That's right!!! How many times can you be expected to handle "not tonight, I've got a headache". And, make sure you have 2 cars everywhere you go. That way, when she gets that HA, she can drive herself home and you can carry on doing what you were doing as though nothing happened. I have plenty more priceless advice to offer but I'm a little busy right now. Perhaps later. Red, you can thatnk me when the time's appropriate... |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by Bethany1 on Jan 3rd, 2005, 10:39am Marlin- thats a pretty shitty thing to say and I think you should just STFU. |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by don on Jan 3rd, 2005, 10:51am Cant wait for Marlin to come climbing in here looking for some help or support. Good luck pal. |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by Grandma_Sweet_Boy on Jan 3rd, 2005, 10:53am Marlin - you just gave all new meaning to the term "horse's ass"! |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by marlin on Jan 3rd, 2005, 10:59am Look, you fucking people need to take a bottle of pills and lighten up!!!! The backup was a JOKE!!!! The 2-car suggestion is DAMN good advice. I insist on it and I AM THE ONE WITH HAs. I never want a HA to ruin anyone's good time. Trex and an extra set of keys are my formula for going out when in cycle.... |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by nani on Jan 3rd, 2005, 11:07am Hi country guy...thanks for asking us what makes a good supporter. Those of us that have a good one are thankful everyday. I think the 2 most important qualities of a good supporter are courage and compassion. You must have the courage to witness someone you love in pain and know that there is nothing you can do to take the pain away. Compassion comes in during the in betweens...when you see how tired she is, or just plain worn out. Ask her what she needs from you...she'll tell you. Good luck and best wishes to both of you. :) |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by Racer1_NC on Jan 3rd, 2005, 11:37am I really can not add much to what has already been said.....very good advice. I will say that what she needs one time, may not be needed the next. She'll tell you what, if anything she needs. Understanding will be the biggest thing she'll need....everytime. Redd is near and dear to me.......be good to her. Us good old boys from the south don't take kindly to someone doing our sisters wrong. ;) Bill |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by vig on Jan 3rd, 2005, 11:39am Marlin, you need to recognize when your humor is inappropriate. How would Curt know you were joking? |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by marlin on Jan 3rd, 2005, 11:47am on 01/03/05 at 11:39:45, vig wrote:
Uhhhh.... how 'bout starting with a reasonable dose of good judgement? If I suggest driving a car into a brick wall at 120MPH as a good show of support for red should I expect him to try it? sheeeeesh!!! |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by don on Jan 3rd, 2005, 12:17pm Quote:
Thats the key word there Marlin. It goes both ways. Quote:
Think thats a reasonable statement? |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by Ree on Jan 3rd, 2005, 12:54pm Hey people, I know he isn't your favorite~ but if jonny said it you would have laughed... Marlin,~~~ Redd's a hurtin element right now....... for some reason beyond what I know about you, you piss people off... Its the beginning of a New Year why can't ya give the guy the benefit of doubt......... love ree who hates when someone hates someone......... |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by don on Jan 3rd, 2005, 12:57pm Quote:
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by marlin on Jan 3rd, 2005, 1:03pm OMG!!! This is all WONDERFUL ADVICE!!! Don't pay any attention to marlin. He's a fucking idiot that can't see when humor is "appropriate" to use. After all, this is strictly a somber event/ass-kissing board. geeeeeeeze... |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by countryguy699 on Jan 3rd, 2005, 1:12pm Compassion comes in during the in betweens...when you see how tired she is, or just plain worn out. nani thanks I liked that, I am a caring . kind, romantic person when shes tired and worn out she would get the up most pampering. Just the type of guy I am hopefully redd will come to see that . And for some of the other comments, redd worned me some would be protective and to read between the lines. What I have seen is that shes really lucky to have a nice bunch of people like each and every one of you that she can come and have the support she needs. I hope I can come as close as all of you have to support her and be there when she needs its, in pain and in happiness. |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by nani on Jan 3rd, 2005, 1:14pm We're lucky to have her. It seems like she's lucky to have you, too. :) |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by vig on Jan 3rd, 2005, 1:14pm Just be good to her, bro. ;;D |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by purpleydog on Jan 3rd, 2005, 1:15pm on 01/03/05 at 13:03:30, marlin wrote:
Actually, marlin, you've hit the nail on the head. You're "humor" doesn't strike me as humorous. You're right, appropriate is something you obviously don't know and need to learn. I disagree that this is a somber event/ ass kissing board. There are lots of fun threads here, when you aren't in them. And, I'm sure as hell not going to kiss your ass. Nor would anyone alse, for that matter. But, I presume that part. I'm sure the board memberts can speak for themselves on that one. |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by don on Jan 3rd, 2005, 1:17pm Countryguy. You trying to take your thread back? The NOIVE! P.S Always expect you thread to get hi jacked. With out fail. Quote:
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by marlin on Jan 3rd, 2005, 1:26pm on 01/03/05 at 13:15:52, purpleydog wrote:
OMG!!! From YOU???? LMFFAAAAAAAAOOOOOO!!! Too late for me dear. Try jonny or don. I'm disinclined. |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by countryguy699 on Jan 3rd, 2005, 1:27pm Vig I hope to better than good for redd, I hope to brighter her days , fill her heart with warmth , untill the time would come where she says no more. |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by Ree on Jan 3rd, 2005, 1:30pm awwwwwwwwwwwww do you have a brother for my single girlfriend country guy...........LOL... you have filled all the hearts with warmth on this winter day... Good luck you two...LOL ree |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by Grandma_Sweet_Boy on Jan 3rd, 2005, 1:47pm [quote author=marlin link=board=general;num=1104706186;start=25#45 date=01/03/05 at 13:03:30]Don't pay any attention to marlin. He's a fucking idiot [quote] That pretty much sums it up! When new people come looking for help what do you suppose your type of post says to them. We all have a sense of humour - the difference is that most of us know when it's appropriate and then there's you. |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by Langa on Jan 3rd, 2005, 2:02pm on 01/03/05 at 13:27:56, countryguy699 wrote:
You know you are too sweet for words! ;;D Redd, I think he's a keeper...Good luck to both of you... Langa |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by don on Jan 3rd, 2005, 2:05pm Quote:
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by Ree on Jan 3rd, 2005, 2:42pm she has a great personality......... |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by Bethany1 on Jan 3rd, 2005, 2:49pm woooooah hook up!!! hey countryguy, great to meet ya--- Beth |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by Gator on Jan 3rd, 2005, 2:53pm Marlin, I knew you were trying to be funny, but I cringed none the less when I read your post. You created your personna of a crude, sexist pig. Enjoy the reaction you get. The phrase, "You made your bed, now lie in it" comes to mind. Humor is almost always appropriate if done right. Timing is important. Believe it or not everything is not about sex. It's not so much what you say, rather it's how you say it. Try inserting a wink, a grin or a laughing emoticon to punctuate your attempt at levity so people know you are trying to be funny. Ree, yes Jonny can be rude, crude and socially unacceptable, but he backs it up with years of loving support. From what I have seen here over the last ten months, he not only talks the talk - he walks the walk. That's the difference between crude Marlin and occassinoally crude, but supportive Jonny. Paragraph editted for clarity - I hope! Curt, Welcome to our little corner of the web. Pegg is well loved here. I hope you are serious with your intentions. You need to know what you are dealing with. If you have not already done so, read every thing in the links to the left and at OUCH. If you have questions, ask us. What you are taking on is not easy. You will have to sit and watch her in excrutiating pain for hours on end and there's not a damned thing you can do to stop it. Neither can she. There will be days when she gets hit one right after another. Your heart will ache for her. There will be times when you feel you cannot watch her suffer through another attack. Instead of cutting your losses and walking, come here and talk to us. There are people that have been there and can help you through the rough spots. I wish you luck. Take good care of our sister and don't be a stranger around here. Gator |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by countryguy699 on Jan 3rd, 2005, 2:55pm Hi beth very nice to meet you also. |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by becky8 on Jan 3rd, 2005, 3:14pm Well said, Gator |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by Ree on Jan 3rd, 2005, 3:21pm I'm not talking about typing "prayers and vibes" in every other post~~~ hmmmmmmmm Gator I'm not sure about how to take this statement... are you insinuating thats all I do ???~~~ or the general population here types that as their support. And also jonny knows how I feel about him it goes without saying. I've also been here almost as long I've done more than typing prayers and vibes...... just me trying to be the peace maker and wondering WHY or IF you turned on me............ prayers and vibes Ree MODIFIED KNOWING GATOR DIDNT TURN ON PARANOID ME!!! thanks Gator. |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by countryguy699 on Jan 3rd, 2005, 3:22pm HI Gator : Thanks for the kind words, , I do so hope that when I do start to where I ach with pain knowing what shes going thru, I can come here get some shoulders to lean on to get me back on track where I can help and support redd the most where she needs it . Be there thru the hard times of days and the most relaxing times. Redd has lifted something in me that I thought was lost forever , Time will only tell were our pathes will take us both. Hopefully together , if not at least have had the chance of knowing someone with such a wonderful heart as hers. Thanks again , Curt |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by Ueli on Jan 3rd, 2005, 3:30pm Congrats to Coutryguy for wanting to become a good supporter. Sorry, I can't contribute to that aim, as I am not a supporter nor do I have one. But I would like to comment on some other posts on this thread: It looks like that some fuckers think they are more equal than others. >:( To me it was obvious that marlins post was written with tongue in cheek. So the only reason I see everybody is picking on him is that he has become the designated scapegoat of the board. On the other hand, some of the more equal jesters at times write really hurting or insulting stuff; and think it looks harmless if they add some ;;D ;;D ;;D My 2$ Ueli |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by Jonny on Jan 3rd, 2005, 3:34pm on 01/03/05 at 15:30:29, Ueli wrote:
Go ahead Ueli, use my name.....what the hell....everyone else is ......LOL ;;D |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by Bethany1 on Jan 3rd, 2005, 3:50pm I don't care if what marlin said was supposed to be "tongue and cheek" I thought it was rude, so I said what I said. |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by Ree on Jan 3rd, 2005, 3:59pm on 01/03/05 at 15:34:05, Jonny wrote:
I love you jonny.......... you know that!!! I shoulda said Don..........or Sean........... or... |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by Jonny on Jan 3rd, 2005, 4:03pm on 01/03/05 at 15:59:17, Ree wrote:
I do ;;D Edit...To throw in a :-* |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by marlin on Jan 3rd, 2005, 4:12pm on 01/03/05 at 14:53:29, Gator wrote:
Ahhhh sure thing gator, whatever you say, err I mean you are one of the MB police here right? Just curious... Are you for fucking real? I mean, in case you haven't noticed, this is the INTERNET and A MESSAGE BOARD for god's sake. I'm not sitting at your kitchen table or anything so I don't think I need your implied approval. Really, this is less fun every day A bunch of jr high school attitudes (and I wonder if half of you even finished). Thankfully my CHs are gone for 2-3 years. CIAO! |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by Grandma_Sweet_Boy on Jan 3rd, 2005, 4:13pm Hopefully the door will hit ya in the a$$ on your way out. When you come back (and you will) try to remember to bring with you the manners that I'm sure your Mama taught you. |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by Gator on Jan 3rd, 2005, 4:18pm on 01/03/05 at 15:21:29, Ree wrote:
Me turn on you - you should know better. As I said in IM, I am not drawing any comparison between Jonny and you or anyone else. The "difference" I was talking about was between Marlin and Jonny. Marlin has gone out of his way to be crude and not much else - Jonny has backed up his talk with his walk. So nice of you to pop in and be our moral compass, Ueli. I don't know how much you have been reading, but the man you are defending has gone out of his way to offend the ladies on this board. It is not surprising that they don't immediately recognize it when he tries to be funny. [smiley=twocents.gif] Here's your change. ;;D ;;D ;;D Bite me. ;;D ;;D ;;D Gator |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by vig on Jan 3rd, 2005, 4:41pm Where'd he go now? I was just trying to fix him, not run him out of town... :-/ |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by Jonny on Jan 3rd, 2005, 4:51pm on 01/03/05 at 16:41:12, vig wrote:
Vig, you bastard....look what you did.....LOL ;;D |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by Svenn on Jan 3rd, 2005, 4:56pm on 01/03/05 at 14:53:29, Gator wrote:
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by Gator on Jan 3rd, 2005, 4:57pm on 01/03/05 at 16:12:23, marlin wrote:
I know this is an internet message board. Oh, I am very much for real. I really believe there are standards of conduct, even in cyberspace. The fact that this is the internet doesn't relieve you of responsibility for your comments. And in case YOU haven't noticed, very few people here appreciate your sense of uh, humor. Even after that was painfully evident, you persisted on spewing your crude sexism thinly (if at all) disguised as humor. I'm not surprised it is getting less and less fun for you. Fewer and fewer people are letting the crap you type go uncommented on. People here let you know the way you express your attitudes about women were not acceptable. You chose not to listen and still have the gall to get upset when you get called on it. Unreal. Are you really that dumb? This might come as a surprise, but I probably wouldn't invite you to sit at my kitchen table if you talk about women in person like you do in the protection and annonymity of the internet. As far as the education levels of the people here - even if we didn't finish Jr High School - we learned how to act in public. More than can be said for you. You have options, sorry you chose the option to leave. It's your loss, but that is your choice. See you in 2 or 3 years, no doubt under a different name and hopefully with a different attitude towards the ladies on this site. Gator |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by Ree on Jan 3rd, 2005, 5:00pm ok where did that loving country guy go... all you other DAWGS go away... all us wimens want to hear the nice things he has to say........... we don't get mucha that around here~~~ |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by don on Jan 3rd, 2005, 5:59pm Quote:
Atta boy Country. Now the ladies around here will be expecting it from the rest of us heathens. I gotta check the secret men's manual to see if you can be reprimanded. |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by Redd715 on Jan 3rd, 2005, 6:06pm on 01/03/05 at 17:00:23, Ree wrote:
I leave work sick this afternoon and I come to read all the nice sweet things everyone has had to say here. Boy this has really touched my heart today. Between Curt's sweet words and all the nice things this family has said and done I feel like I just want to bawl....lol. You guys are truely the greatest...and Curt is one very special soul to do this for me, well for the two of us... I have a very good feeling that you'll be seeing more of him around the boards... :) |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by Redd715 on Jan 3rd, 2005, 6:08pm on 01/03/05 at 17:59:24, don wrote:
Don....don't you go spoiling my good thing here....you corrupt Curt and the boys at the bath house will be getting *special* instructions from yours truely! [smiley=deal2.gif] |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by nani on Jan 3rd, 2005, 6:28pm I am so darn proud of myself....I completely ignored marlin! edited to add this really ticked me off... Quote:
You know what Ueli...some are...the ones who are here everyday, showing support and caring. Jonny (yes, bro-I'm gonna use your name, too) might joke around, but I know he'd take a bullet for any of us. And he can take it as well as give it. Pegg and Curt....be happy.... :) |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by Sean_C on Jan 3rd, 2005, 8:06pm on 01/02/05 at 23:18:38, Ree wrote:
LMAO that was all love [smiley=laugh.gif] Sean........................ ;;D |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by countryguy699 on Jan 4th, 2005, 8:34am HI good morning to all , I sat here and read all the replys and really cant beleave the wonderful people willing to be there to help me understand and to prepair me for whats to come. As redd has told me you truely are a great family here. I sit here another day has arisen each day filling more and more with joy that someone has brought to me. I truely hope this yr what it may bring will be filled with joy that I can bring to redd. Redd I hope your night was peaceful as I want you to keep the nice thoughts of this person over here thinking of you. to the rest of the ones that has come to say the nice words and support. I wish you the best of which this day will hopefully bring to each and every one of you. To this the day has started to where it will go or where it will end no one will know untill it ends. My words my bore some who read , but would like to share the joy of with in. the word may not make much sence to some but then I m not one of many words to put down. Curt |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by Jeepgun on Jan 4th, 2005, 9:02am Curt, words of love, compassion, support, and kindness are a major part of the language spoken here. :) -Frank |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by Svenn on Jan 4th, 2005, 9:11am on 01/04/05 at 09:02:55, Jeepgun wrote:
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by countryguy699 on Jan 4th, 2005, 11:01am Frank: Curt words of love, compassion, support, and kindness are a major part of the language spoken here. I have come to see that !!! Curt |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by Ree on Jan 4th, 2005, 11:56am Listening to this countryguy is making me miss those "NEW" days in a relationship..........been a long time since Dave woke up with such JOY and PEACE... LOL I hope and pray that those feelings never change... love ree ree should never post without her glasses... spelling mistakes galore... |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by guesst on Jan 4th, 2005, 12:30pm Curt, being a supporter for a person with ch is going to be the hardest thing you have ever done. Be prepared to have your heart broken over and over again as you watch some one you care deeply for, endure the worst pain known to man. This is not a job for the faint of heart, trust me I am on both sides, I suffer and I am a supporter. I would gladly take being a sufferer over being a supporter any day. I'm not trying to scare you, but I AM trying to let you know this will not be an easy road that you have chosen. If you ever need to talk, Pegg has my number, feel free to call anytime, I'm right down the road. |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by don on Jan 4th, 2005, 12:57pm Quote:
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by BlueMeanie on Jan 4th, 2005, 1:09pm Welcome Curt, I see you have received some good and some not so good advice here. As Redd mentioned, you must read between the lines. It's very hard to communicate through a MB and many things said get misconstrude here. Hell, I got reamed just for sending PF vibes. I've met Redd and she is a wonderful person. Be prepared for the bad with the good when dealing with someone who gets Cluster Headaches. She has the seven dwarfs beat hands down. Expect bitchy, cranky, depressed, upset, tired, grumpy, :'( and happy, silly, pleasant, funny, sweet, careing, loving, smiley, and cheerful. :-* Talk to her when she is NOT have a CH attack so you will know what to expect and/or do for her when she is having one. Remember, CH pain is very intense and it never gets any easier to deal with. It is NOT a regular headache and there is no such thing as a mild one. |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by Gator on Jan 4th, 2005, 1:19pm on 01/04/05 at 12:57:18, don wrote:
Awww. Don, you old softy. Has anyone told you you suck? ;;D |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by Jonny on Jan 4th, 2005, 4:49pm on 01/04/05 at 13:19:04, Gator wrote:
Gator....I fixed your post for you.....LMAO ;;D |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by don on Jan 4th, 2005, 4:57pm Watch it Pal. That last person that told me that.......................well that was about 30 seconds ago so nothing at all has happened..........never mind. |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by countryguy699 on Jan 4th, 2005, 8:46pm HI I just talked to redd and she was getting hit. Do you ever get over the feeling of being so helpless. |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by vig on Jan 4th, 2005, 8:48pm I've been with her when she was getting hit before and sad to say, you never get over it. Hard to watch such a wonderful person in such agony. But that doesn't mean you stop doing it. When she's better, ask her if there's anything you can do. |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by countryguy699 on Jan 4th, 2005, 9:01pm thanks vig |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by Redd715 on Jan 4th, 2005, 9:18pm Stupid ass me waited too long to take a damn shot... all is well but for the trigeminal nerve deep in the ear is playing a tug of war with the eardrum... |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by Redd715 on Jan 4th, 2005, 9:26pm on 01/04/05 at 20:48:03, vig wrote:
Yes you were dear...the first person besides the ex not a very nice person of a husband of mine to see me.... you were a trooper hun, and your comapssion is something I will never forget. EVER.... :-* |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by vig on Jan 4th, 2005, 10:39pm artwork? http://www.kdlltd.com/vig/heartTattoo.jpg heartwork! |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by countryguy699 on Jan 5th, 2005, 8:33am HI Just wanted to say hi to all that will pass by today and hope yours is a good one, hope to hear more about each of you so I can get to know you better. Thanks Curt |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by Carl_D on Jan 5th, 2005, 8:16pm You alot of great advice Country. You sound like a great guy too. Like Thomas said though, prepare to have your heart broken over and over and over. Just like a Cluster sufferer never gets used to the pain, I don't think it is any easier for the supporter. and Redd, Hugs. Peace, Carl D |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by Charlie on Jan 5th, 2005, 10:10pm Whew! What a thread this has become Countryguy. I've been trying to catch up. Following all these braindamaged goofs, isn't easy. 8) I don't think I said hello, so welcome from me (slow-moving Charlie) and I hope are getting some good ideas here for dealing with this horror. From what I read, you are doing more than your share to help others too. It's great meeting you and I'm very glad you are sticking around. Charlie |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by countryguy699 on Jan 5th, 2005, 10:30pm Hi Carl D thanks. I beleave the only way my heart will be broken , is if redd says we should part ways, which no one knows when that will be. I learn that from the past. I do understand what your trying to say. I just hope I can be there for redd in any way I can. I just hope I can give her half of the support as she has brought warmth to me. Thanks Curt |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by countryguy699 on Jan 5th, 2005, 10:43pm Hi Charlie Thanks for saying hello and its nice to meet you. I am getting some good ideas and thanks to all the support of everyone.Hope to be the best I can be when redd needs me most. Thanks Curt |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by Ree on Jan 6th, 2005, 12:06am Hi... have you guys actually met in person yet...? Just me bein curious... love ree |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by Mr. Happy on Jan 6th, 2005, 12:33am on 01/06/05 at 00:06:23, Ree wrote:
Bingo, Ree. You two go get a room, and don't exit till you've figured things out. This forum is no place to define a relationship. You two should do that in private, with a clean pair of sheets, and whatever else you might need that room service can supply. Remember, love is only disgusting if you're doing it right. See you in a fortnight, RJ |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by stevegeebe on Jan 6th, 2005, 7:48am Yea...and don't forget a fresh pack of batteries. Steve G |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by countryguy699 on Jan 6th, 2005, 8:08am Hi Ree To answer your question ree. no we have not meet in person, redd said she wont take that step untill I am fully aware as to what Im up against. She wanted me to come here and talk with the people on here to really understand. I am hoping that day will be soon that we meet in person. |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by don on Jan 6th, 2005, 10:20am Quote:
Somehow I just knew it. New dating section coming up! DJ'S Dungeon |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by becky8 on Jan 6th, 2005, 10:21am Love over the internet!!! [smiley=heart.gif] [smiley=heart.gif] |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by nani on Jan 6th, 2005, 10:26am Quote:
[smiley=nono.gif] let's not ruin this thread again...ya perv. ;;D |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by guesst on Jan 6th, 2005, 10:37am on 01/06/05 at 08:08:07, countryguy699 wrote:
"Lord please let this cup pass from me, it is more than I can bear." The path you seek is not an easy one. Trust me. You are going to need all the strength you have to get you both through the tough times. I've had these for 13 years, and everytime it amazes me how much they hurt, you never get used to it. The pain is tremendous - the greatest pain know to man, literally. You will hear and see things that hurt emotionally. You mustn't let that deter you. You have to be strong, and loving, and supportive. It isn't easy. Sometimes you will feel utterly useless and helpless. You will doubt yourself. But no matter what, you can't give up. Pegg is worth the effort. |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by Ree on Jan 6th, 2005, 12:49pm Ok this is getting clearer now... After you meet and see if you even like each other I will give ya more advice. It seems to me that alot of peeps here have met someone and then the whole idea of having a relationship goes south........... Then again some have met and hooked up and gotten married... How did you guys meet? In a chat? ~~~ Have you exchanged pics and talked on the phone......... > ? Good luck ree |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by countryguy699 on Jan 6th, 2005, 6:15pm HI Ree To answer your question,, The first one will let redd tell you that one, , the second one , yes we have exchanges number of photos. chatted on line for months on end. Have talked on the phone many of times, been her wake up call some mornings. To the meeting in person, she has been putting that off, wasnt my choice that again will let redd answer that one. Hope everyone had a good day, Thanks Curt |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by Ree on Jan 6th, 2005, 7:09pm why aren't you married? have you been married? do you have kids? do you like kids? I hope she is also inquiring about your past and I have a few police friends if need be.......... Remember Scott Peterson said all the right things too... i thought you guys new each other before... now I am worried.......... sorry ree Modified to add YOU COULD BE SCOTT PETERSON... they have computers in jail ya know... |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by Redd715 on Jan 6th, 2005, 9:37pm Ree HUn. To answer your questions that Curt has so slyly sidestepped.... :) He and I both had ads on a dateing site. Convesation insued and here we are so to speak. The reasons we have not met face to face yet are a little more complicated than Curt leads on to. He works on the road construction most of the year with winters off. I work very long days when you add in my commute, as you all know. Yes I wanted Curt to come to understand CH as much as possible BEFORE meeting. The folks in the chat room know well the tales of my dateing fiaskos since the mutation of this disease early this spring which put a name to this pain I've had for so many years. First things first the man I was very involved with bailed on me when this beast mutated, after many many many attempts to educate him and he was convinced it was all psychosomatic and he knew of a *cure* for me, however it would never work if I didn't *believe* he knew better than the doctors treating me because he cured *himself* of these after he had them..."once". After this, I had started to date Bill casually, and he had supposedly been Dx'd with this. We went out on maybe 3 dates, and on the last date I got slammed half way threw the date and I had to ask him to drive me home, in a cool spring rain with the window open and my head hanging out at 55 mph. Needless to say I never heard from Bill again. There have been others from dating sites that were mutually intersted untill I asked them to come here and read...gave them a few links to other good info and the emails and instant messages stopped cold. Not so much as a get lost. Just read and that was it...silence. So as far as Curt goes, he's been the first to stick this out thus far. As far as meeting, I'm still going to be the smart gal, and meet in a public place where we each take our own cars, keeping things light. The intellectual chemistry is great, and thats what does it for me anyway, however the timeing has turned out to be awful, with all the respocibilities I ahve around here, and with the kids and work. Curt is divorced, as am I, but he and his ex wife did not have any children. I won't involve the kids in something till I'm sure it's something that is going to be pursued more intently. Thats a Mom thing... ;;D Any more questions? Please feel free to ask...you are my family and I know you are looking out for my best interest. I love you all for that..... :-* |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by LeLimey on Jan 6th, 2005, 10:12pm Good luck Pegg! You have it all thought out and are aware of all the pitfalls. You get no guarantees WHEREVER you meet a man/woman so its wise to be wary of involving your family until you know the time is right. I hope it all works out for you, you deserve some good luck! lots of love Helen |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by Ree on Jan 6th, 2005, 11:09pm Just be safe... You deserve that... and be sure when you meet that someone knows you are meeting... Sorry to be so forward but I figured after 5 pages of all of us pouring our souls to find out YOU were also not jumping the gun and being cautious about meeting. I just hope you're careful... its the mom in me I guess...love ree |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by Mr. Happy on Jan 6th, 2005, 11:29pm Redd.......will you please go fuck this guy, so we can get some kind of closure?! The suspense is killing me, RJ |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by countryguy699 on Jan 7th, 2005, 7:49am Hi Ree To answer your question , yes I was married to a wonderful person for 7 years, I came home one day to a note on the refrig. say that she fell out of deep love and could not long give to the relationship that we both so craved and that I would have my paper in 5 day. Yes I tried to save the marriage, but when ones wants out you can only do so much to change there minds. I have no children due to that my ex could not , we both knew before we got married, its one of those things thats not in the cards. We go thru life and as I have been told each serves a purpose. I wish I knew where my path will take me and were it will end up , but I take each day as it comes. I have had my heart broken , and looking for some happiness , I 'm looking for romantic , affectionate, careing person. Redd so far has really warmed my heart and brought back some hope that there is that person out there. I am one that dosnt go out much and meeting someone has been hard in this day and age seems to be getting harder. Will things with redd and I , be forever no one can answer that , but I have been willing to try and hope she knows that. I am tired waking each day alone and no one to share those good times and bad times with,the romance the little different things couples do , from the surprizing someone with candle light dinners, to bubble baths with candles in the corners along with roses,with the soft music playing and a bottle of wine chilling. To sending flowers to brighten ones day. that unexpected phone call , to just say Im thinking of you. A note left in different places to say , I want you to know , I am thinking of you. To give someone hrs of massages with warm oil. Going to movies, sharing popcorn , holding hands and snuggling,. well you get the idea. Ree hope you can understand a little better now. As I have mentioned eailier , to put my thought down to make perfect secne is not always so clear. But the words are from the heart I hope to make clear. As the day has begun so must I to see what great wonders it has around the corners. In other words have to get my butt in gear. Thanks again to all , for letting me come here to help me understand . hopefully being there when redd needs me the most . and to listen to me rambling on. thanks Curt |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by countryguy699 on Jan 7th, 2005, 8:10am HI Mr Happy- Rj To the comment you made, there is no such thing. To do something of that takes hrs of mind stimulation, hr of touching ,hrs of foreplay, to reach the max, of satisfaction to take the womans mind beyond of imagination, to make ones body quiver for hrs is not done in a short time.. And to that subject is closed. Thanks Curt |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by vig on Jan 7th, 2005, 8:17am got that Mr. Happy! [smiley=laugh.gif] |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by Jeepgun on Jan 7th, 2005, 8:32am I think I'm getting a cavity... |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by Rock_Lobster on Jan 7th, 2005, 9:18am on 01/07/05 at 08:10:20, countryguy699 wrote:
I blew a nut just reading that. When I go that route Curt, I find it a difficult leaving her with enough energy to make me a nice meal & to clean the house. /where's marlin when you need him |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by don on Jan 7th, 2005, 9:34am Quote:
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by Jimi on Jan 7th, 2005, 9:40am ROCK!!!! [smiley=crackup.gif] [smiley=crackup.gif] [smiley=crackup.gif] Sorry Pegg :) |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by Ree on Jan 7th, 2005, 12:09pm Very romantic country guy!!! But who are you trying to convince...? It truly doesnt matter what WE think. You are on your own where I am concerned. Frankly if you were my boyfriend I'd be rather embarassed at this point...Somethings in a new relationship should be a mystery. You've gone where no guy dares to go here. If your real,(?) you have stepped out of a romance novel and Redd is the luckiest girl on the planet. If not, she may fall flat on her face and get hurt. Who knows. You are setting the expectations pretty high!!! If you love someone it doesnt matter what kind of illness or condition they have. You go with what is natural to you. You give em what you got. I didn't need a manual to know what to do to deal with Daves condition. I loved him, simple as that. YOU seem to be so experienced in the art of love, so why are you so insecure about dealing with her headaches. Redd, I think after 6 pages you either have to meet this guy or give him back to the world.........Every girl wants the flowers and the candles. Its what happens after that newness wears off that matters. How will you be if she needs surgery? Has another child? Her child gets ill? She gets fat? She has bills? and everyday things that aren't just love making, flowers and massage? Good luck you guys I have given all of the advice I can muster. God bless and know that we are a family here, but the decision is yours Redd... Ree |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by Ree on Jan 7th, 2005, 1:21pm on 01/07/05 at 08:10:20, countryguy699 wrote:
I know I said I was done with giving advice but... I just thought of something much more steady in your new relationship... Redds kids. How much love making and candle light suppers do you think you will have with kids involved. The relationship you so expressively rave about is a fairy tale as far as I am concerned. With kids in the picture those are stollen moments. So Country guy you better rethink... sorry Redd if I am scaring him off. I would be much more worried about a romantic guy dealing with my kids than dealing with a condition that could come and go, or be cured someday. Depending on how old your kids are... they are around alot more.........I haven't even slept naked in 10 years since my daughter has been around, and before that only when my boys were away with their dad. ree |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by Linda_Howell on Jan 7th, 2005, 1:23pm Country Guy, Ree is correct when she says it doesn't really matter what WE think. Unless Redd gets hurt, and then we will all have an opinion. A VERY LOUD one. Linda |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by Ree on Jan 7th, 2005, 1:33pm Ya got that right Linda... another voice from experience and wisdom... love ree |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by Jonny on Jan 7th, 2005, 4:09pm on 01/07/05 at 09:18:14, Rock_Lobster wrote:
;;D ;;D on 01/07/05 at 09:34:24, don wrote:
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by don on Jan 7th, 2005, 5:01pm Quote:
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by Jeepgun on Jan 7th, 2005, 5:36pm "and this one time, at band camp...." |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by Ree on Jan 7th, 2005, 5:56pm on 01/07/05 at 17:36:29, Jeepgun wrote:
billy crystal... love ree |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by Ree on Jan 7th, 2005, 5:57pm on 01/07/05 at 16:09:45, Jonny wrote:
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by Linda_Howell on Jan 7th, 2005, 6:03pm Quote:
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by Svenn on Jan 7th, 2005, 6:29pm countryguy699 Just remember that pegg is our MASCOT,so you know how to treat her i guess from all the replyes and advise that you have been recieved Svenn |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by BlueMeanie on Jan 7th, 2005, 7:33pm Wow Countryguy, Are you lucky or what ? Get lessons on Clusterheadaches and dating all in the same thread. ;) |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by Redd715 on Jan 7th, 2005, 7:48pm on 01/07/05 at 18:29:58, Svenn wrote:
Not quite sure how I should take comment Svenn dear... :o Lets all stop this now ok? This thread has evolved into it's own life form for christs sake. Yes I agree, Curt has been sounding more like he's trying to win some sappy award here and taking the opportunity to shout from the mountain top. Leave it at this, there are issues that need to be addressed and that I will do with Curt away from here... Ree I love you for speaking your mind on this and no it hasn't gone un-noticed. ;) Now please let this thread die a fast and painless death ok? Please? Smart ass and other comments please, PM me with them. I will addess them there. |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by CC2004 on Jan 7th, 2005, 7:52pm dear Curt & Redd I wish the two of you all the very best My husband and I met via the web, through our mutual work. He is an idealistic romantic perhaps like you Curt and we shared much fantasy before we actually met. No doubt Redd, as I did with my husband, you've recognised the potential "unrealities" and want Curt to be as well prepared for reality as possible. Ive read this thread with great interest, and Ree well expressed some of my thoughts & feelings, and I have felt concerned that no matter how much "understanding" may be gained from feedback here, the realities will be "reality" and no romantic can ever really get that, none of us can. It will depend on the chemistry, the personalities once they are mixed - all the groundwork is essential for a really good understanding of eachother, but the realities will be what they will be... In our case, 99% of the idealistic fantasy stuff (the ideals of romantic candlelit dinners, bubblebaths, lengthy foreplay, etc etc etc) was never really a reality - we found in the real world we didnt need much of all that - we have a wonderful loving relationship and knew we belonged together from the start, and the way we knew eachother and related on an intellectual and communication level, understood eachother, had been cemented from the communications before we met and that has been the best foundation, and one that for us easily transferred to the physical plane, and a truly wonderful complete foundation I have never known in relationships before. The biggest worry for both of us was what if we didnt click in the physical reality world - but we did because we knew eachother. Communication is everything! I dont know about you Redd but when Im being hit hard I need to be on my own, I cant bear to be worried about how my wailing is upsetting my husband, I need to be free to deal with it as loudly or violently as I need to. Its hard for him because his nature is to comfort, but my husband understands sometimes if its an especially bad hit I would rather he leave. He accepts with wonderful grace whatever I get out Curt and Redd, you've built your foundation - the reality will be what it will be - hopefully you will be a success story like me and mine [smiley=heart.gif] CC ooops, how many 2 cents worth was that??? sorry! |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by Charlie on Jan 7th, 2005, 7:55pm Quote:
http://www.netsync.net/users/charlies/gifs/imhard.gif Charlie |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by CC2004 on Jan 7th, 2005, 7:56pm on 01/07/05 at 19:48:22, Redd715 wrote:
sorry Redd, I hadnt seen this before I finished my longwinded message all the best :) CC |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by Ree on Jan 7th, 2005, 8:05pm CC I LIKE WHAT YOU SAID BEST OF ALL... lots of wisdom there... in a realistic fashion I might add......... Good night thread... ree |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by Redd715 on Jan 7th, 2005, 8:13pm No Prob hun...... One last thing....I LOVE THIS FAMILY! It's heartwarming to have so many people step up to the plate. I have no unrealistic romantic ideals. TRUST ME...LMMFAO. Thank you all for your input. And yeah you smart assed guys too, this tread needed the comic relief....lol |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by CC2004 on Jan 7th, 2005, 8:19pm on 01/07/05 at 20:13:58, Redd715 wrote:
thanks :) (and I know you dont have unrealistic romantic ideals, neither did I, but your countryboy sure does) all the best CC [smiley=hug.gif] |
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Title: Re: HI, I want to be a supporter , but want help Post by CC2004 on Jan 7th, 2005, 8:24pm on 01/07/05 at 20:05:13, Ree wrote:
thanks Ree, but ditto to you - and you said it first on the first page, and expressed the concerns above - you are one very onto it lady, I admire you and you husband is one lucky man to have you CC |
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