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(Message started by: Donna_D. on Sep 19^th, 2004, 3:31pm)

Title: Can things get much worse? (updated again)
Post by Donna_D. on Sep 19^th, 2004, 3:31pm

The first two calls received in my home morning brought bad and even worse news to me. Somedays I feel like things can't get much worse...and then they do....

First call of the day... my 4 year old daughter answered the phone (despite the fact I have told her not to...of course she disregards everything I tell her...she is 4, after all) and guess who it was...the EX. So then I had to listen to her scream and cry for the better part of an hour because I am a "Mean mama and won't let her talk to her Daddy". Nuff said.

The second call was the worst news. My Dad had a stroke last night. We do not know the extent of the damage caused by the stroke, as of yet as his wife JUST TOOK HIM to the emergency room this morning (YES, in case you were wondering she IS a total TWIT) ater describing his symptoms to someone at her church. In the last 18 months my Dad has had bypass surgery, has had both legs amputated, two fingers amputated, has progressed from peritoneal dialisys, to hemodialisys and now will probably lose sight in his remaining "good eye" due to the stroke and diabetic neuropathy. Now this...I don't dare ask what next....I am heartbroken.

My plate is now full....I just wish whoever keeps heaping more stuff on it would JUST QUIT.

I have been sick for weeks with an upper respiratory infection that antibiotics are not helping and my kids are now over THIER colds and are driving me crazy . I am still getting hit on an average of three times a day and have just increased my Verap on my own as I cannot afford to go see the doctor. I haven't received a full paycheck from my boss in over a month and life, in general, really sucks right now. My family (Mom, included) have been of no help and won't even come over and take the kids for a day so I can rest. My boss has insisted on me coming to work every day as "She used to get up and go to work with a 104 degree fever no matter what" (Yeah, and I bet she walked to school in the snow everyday, 15 miles each way,, Uphill, both ways). That's ok though...I sneezed on her keyboard. Repeatedly.

The only thing keeping me from "going over the edge" is the fact that my kids need me and the support I get from my clusterbuds.

Is it ok to just say enough is enough?

I need a break, some vibes or something to make me smile...because life sure isn't dishing out anything like that to me right at the moment.

Thanks for letting me vent.

DD

Title: Re: Can things get much worse?
Post by Jayne on Sep 19^th, 2004, 3:36pm

Your roller coaster has to start going back up at some point Donna.
I'm thinking of you kiddo.

It'll get better I promise it will. :-*

Title: Re: Can things get much worse?
Post by john_d on Sep 19^th, 2004, 3:37pm

on 09/19/04 at 15:31:05, Donna_D. wrote:

Is it ok to just say enough is enough?

since it's true, yes. Enough is enough. That sux, vibes that the weather clears and you get comforting good days soon.

Title: Re: Can things get much worse?
Post by broomhilda on Sep 19^th, 2004, 4:01pm

[smiley=hug.gif]Stay strong, you got loads of fight in ya and those kids need you, hugs and vibes to you, your family and the kids...

It will get better, it has to...

(((((Donna))))))))

healing vibes to you dad :(I am so sorry....

Title: Re: Can things get much worse?
Post by Redd715 on Sep 19^th, 2004, 4:06pm

Sis,

You know I'm dealing with alot on my plate with my Mom and everything right now too....but whatever vibes and energy I have to spare, you KNOW you can have.....they are yours hun.
Luv you Sis!!!!!

Title: Re: Can things get much worse?
Post by PittsburghJoe on Sep 19^th, 2004, 4:07pm

BIG hugs and vibes to ya, my Dear Donna.

You're in my thoughts...

Joe

Title: Re: Can things get much worse?
Post by OneEyeBlind on Sep 19^th, 2004, 4:21pm

Donna, take it from me. Don't threaten the god's of disaster. Just let go and Let God. Sometimes it's what ya gotta do. Life deals us punches every day that hopefully we can deal with. When we can't ....... it's time to let go and let God. I hope you can do that, but in the meantime, I'll be sending some prayers your way.

Title: Re: Can things get much worse?
Post by Svenn on Sep 19^th, 2004, 4:28pm

BIG hugs and vibes to ya, my Dear Donna.

Title: Re: Can things get much worse?
Post by Mastifflvr28 on Sep 19^th, 2004, 5:10pm

Vibes going up to you Donna, hope things start looking up, take care
Mast

Title: Re: Can things get much worse?
Post by E-Double on Sep 19^th, 2004, 5:23pm

hugs to ya !!

Title: Re: Can things get much worse?
Post by synergy on Sep 19^th, 2004, 5:25pm

Really hope things start picking up donna - life just seems so unfair sometimes.

Thinking of you, your children and your father and keeping you all in my prayers,

:-* :-*

luv sarah xx

Title: Re: Can things get much worse?
Post by KingOfPain on Sep 19^th, 2004, 5:49pm

Title: Re: Can things get much worse? (updated)
Post by Donna_D. on Sep 19^th, 2004, 6:33pm

My Dad had another stroke while in the Emergency Room

They are running tests now to see what the problem is...

Will keep you all updated.

Thanks for your prayers and vibes...I need 'em bad.

DD

Title: Re: Can things get much worse? (updated)
Post by Bec on Sep 19^th, 2004, 6:54pm

((((((((( DD )))))))))

Title: Re: Can things get much worse? (updated)
Post by ShariRae on Sep 19^th, 2004, 7:56pm

Prayers, vibes & hugs to you sweety
Shari

Title: Re: Can things get much worse? (updated)
Post by Sean_C on Sep 19^th, 2004, 8:01pm

Vibes comin your way D, hope all gets better asap.

Sean................

Title: Re: Can things get much worse? (updated)
Post by vig on Sep 19^th, 2004, 8:46pm

use that basting brush in the other thread on 'im.

Title: Re: Can things get much worse? (updated)
Post by lionsound on Sep 19^th, 2004, 9:11pm

Vibes on the way.....

Title: Re: Can things get much worse? (updated)
Post by Kevin_M on Sep 19^th, 2004, 9:15pm

Keep hanging in there Donna

Kevin M

Title: Re: Can things get much worse? (updated)
Post by Mark C on Sep 19^th, 2004, 11:12pm

ergo bibamus

;)

^~~~~~~VIBES_~~~~~~

Title: Re: Can things get much worse? (updated)
Post by Rick_K on Sep 19^th, 2004, 11:46pm

Donna, things will get better....never forget you have friends here.

There are a lot of good vibes heading your way

Title: Re: Can things get much worse? (updated)
Post by Charlie on Sep 20^th, 2004, 1:57am

http://www.netsync.net/users/charlies/gifs/onefuck.png

Geeze. Sorry to read this but it is true that things tend to get better. The pendulum must be on the way back by now.

http://www.netsync.net/users/charlies/gifs/glomp.gif

Charlie

Title: Re: Can things get much worse? (updated)
Post by bobkip on Sep 20^th, 2004, 5:13am

DD,
Please let me know what I can do to help. Please.
Kip

Title: Re: Can things get much worse? (updated)
Post by gore2424 on Sep 20^th, 2004, 5:52am

FIRST: (((((((((((((((((((((Donna_D)))))))))))))))))))))))))
a nice long friendly good feel hug to you

Second: all my good vibes including my reserves to you

Terry

Title: Re: Can things get much worse? (updated)
Post by catlind on Sep 20^th, 2004, 8:08am

Donna,

Get your Dad sorted out to the point you know he's stable, then call your boss and tell her you'll be working from an away location for a few days, then load the kids in the vehicle, (I'll send ya gas money) and get yer ass back up here to your old stomping grounds. Papillion and LaVista have changed ALOT but I'd bet you'd enjoy the break and the time to see the old neighborhood.

You've got my number, use it.

Cat

Title: Re: Can things get much worse? (updated)
Post by TomM on Sep 20^th, 2004, 8:56am

Quote:

That's ok though...I sneezed on her keyboard. Repeatedly.

That alone, should bring a smile to your face. hang in there Donna. Soon, your storm will turn around and give you a follwing sea.
TomM

Title: Re: Can things get much worse? (updated)
Post by Woobie on Sep 20^th, 2004, 9:30am

[smiley=hug.gif] Hey DD - Hang in there.............

:-*

Title: Re: Can things get much worse? (updated)
Post by jimbo on Sep 20^th, 2004, 11:30am

Hang in there Donna! I'm praying for you.

Sounds to me like its time that alot of the people in your life need a good swift kick in the ass, especially your Dads wife! What the hell was she thinking? >:( I'm sorry, maybe I shouldn't say things like that but it just irks me to no end the way that some people are so non-chalant about other peoples health! (Sorry, your situation brought up some old memories of my own about a similar situation)

And yes it is okay to say enough is enough! What do you have to lose? If people aren't supporting you anyway, then you might as well tell them EXACTLY how you feel.

Seeya,

Jimbo

Title: Re: Can things get much worse? (updated)
Post by KingOfPain on Sep 20^th, 2004, 2:00pm

VIBES

Title: Re: Can things get much worse? (updated)
Post by Donna_D. on Sep 20^th, 2004, 9:10pm

UPDATE:

I borrowed my mother-in-law's car, dropped the kids off at daycare and drove to East Texas Medical Center at Tyler to see my Dad this morning.

He had two strokes, further testing is required to see if he has blockage in the Carotid Artery. Pending a doppler scan, surgery may or may not be required.

His condition, stroke-wise, is better than expected. However his general health is failing quickly.

I got to spend a few hours with my Dad today and that was good. I got to see the strongest man who has ever been a part of my llife look not so strong anymore.

I am sad..

Thank you to all of you for your prayers and vibes. I draw strength from your words. Thank you for holding my hand and my heart through this tough time.

DD

Title: Re: Can things get much worse? (updated again)
Post by alleyoop on Sep 20^th, 2004, 10:33pm

God bless you and your dad Donna.

...............................alley

Title: Re: Can things get much worse? (updated again)
Post by BlueMeanie on Sep 20^th, 2004, 11:47pm

My prayers are with you Donna. Try to stay strong during these rough times. I hope your dad recovers soon.

Title: Re: Can things get much worse? (updated agai
Post by Peppermint on Sep 21^st, 2004, 8:38am

Donna girl..

Sorry I didnt get to call you last night... its been a 48 hour day.

I was looking for you when I was checking my email and only lasted a few minutes on the pc, I slid downhill pretty quickly.

I'm hoping for good news, and praying your dad's health doesn't get any worse. I am glad things look better than expected after that 2nd stroke. You did good going down there to check on him, after all, his wife didn't do much to help the situation >:(.

I know you got a lot going on, so call me when you do get a break, I always have my phone with me. I know you weren't home when you had to go down to Tyler, and I couldn't reach you, but I had you in my thoughts hon.

praying some more for you to have strength and for your dad's health, loveya -
Pep

Title: Re: Can things get much worse? (updated again)
Post by Gena on Sep 21^st, 2004, 10:30am

Here are some prayers, hug and vibes, hope all gets better soon.

:-/

Title: Re: Can things get much worse? (updated again)
Post by Leesa on Sep 21^st, 2004, 2:27pm

Donna very sorry your plate is so full right now. Soon nuff the skys will clear an it will be smooth sailing for ya hun. Keep the faith gal. VIBES and PRAYERS on the way for you and your family
Love, Leesa :-*