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(Message started by: ZAIRA on Sep 14^th, 2004, 2:12pm)

Title: When it is too much it is too much.
Post by ZAIRA on Sep 14^th, 2004, 2:12pm

Hi to everybody :'(

Well, about the thread that I posted yesterday..... first of all thank you for the advices....

My neuro is bothering and hurting me by mail and by phone.... and he must stop...

I didn’t want to ruin his carrer/family.... but when it is too much it is too much....

In my mum’s opinion he is going crazy and he tries to ruin my life, calling me and saying me bad things... because he wants me...... I am happy that my husband believes in me and he is at me side.... I wonder which has been the imput to change my neuro’s mind... I didn’t dress a 'sexy dress' at all... I was only myself, as always. But such men can be foolish sometimes. Maybe that is the answer.....

Anyway he has thouched and tormented me and these are sufficient proofs of his guiltiness....

I am very sad....! Wish me luck... it will be a long road.

Zaira :-X

Title: Re: When it is too much it is too much.
Post by Jeepgun on Sep 14^th, 2004, 2:18pm

Okay: That's it. He's gone WAY too far. Report him, Zaira. Report him to the authorities for harassment. Report him to his superiors at the hospital for sexual harassment, for being unprofessional, for making unwanted advances... I would call his wife, the newspapers, I would record his messages, print out his mails, EVERYTHING.

I was willing to give him the benefit of the doubt. No way. Zazi, don't mess around anymore. This man is out of control!! >:( Good grief, some men are PIGS!!! (What an insult to pigs...)

Title: Re: When it is too much it is too much.
Post by Racer1_NC on Sep 14^th, 2004, 2:23pm

Report him, file charges, and hire an attorney.

Bill

Title: Re: When it is too much it is too much.
Post by vig on Sep 14^th, 2004, 2:28pm

Z,

Do not, in ANY way, question what YOU did....

This is HIS issue.

It sounds like he must be stopped immediately.

I am SOOO sorry this is happening.

paul

Title: Re: When it is too much it is too much.
Post by ZAIRA on Sep 14^th, 2004, 2:37pm

Believe me... he will never do that or anything like that to another woman... >:( justice will be done...

Transfer the pain of the CH to him......

:'(

Title: Re: When it is too much it is too much.
Post by Jeepgun on Sep 14^th, 2004, 2:39pm

Good for you, Zaira!! Talons out!! Nail his scumbag a$$ to the wall! >:(

Title: Re: When it is too much it is too much.
Post by ExplodingEyeBall on Sep 14^th, 2004, 2:51pm

Tell his wife. She needs to know.

It may cause her to dislike you but it needs to be done.

Title: Re: When it is too much it is too much.
Post by lionsound on Sep 14^th, 2004, 3:13pm

Zaira,
YOU HAVE DONE NOTHING WRONG.
YOU ARE DOING THE RIGHT THING. We're very proud of you.

on 09/14/04 at 14:18:50, Jeepgun wrote:

Jeep is right here, get a calendar and record EVERYTHING on it, on the day it happens or happened. I don't know what the equalivant of a restraining order is in your country... I would get one of those too.

You've got your husband and your family on your side and that is the best! That is more important than what that low life will ever have or can ever be.

Title: Re: When it is too much it is too much.
Post by thomas on Sep 14^th, 2004, 3:19pm

I guess I need to take a vacation to Italy. ;;D This guy needs a good ass-whipping.

Title: Re: When it is too much it is too much.
Post by Jeepgun on Sep 14^th, 2004, 3:25pm

Right on, Thomas. I'll mail my baseball bat and crowbar to Zazi so I can pick them up after we land. This fucker is going to need new kneecaps and some SERIOUS dental work when I'm done with him! >:( [smiley=furious.gif]

Title: Re: When it is too much it is too much.
Post by Massimo on Sep 14^th, 2004, 3:35pm

But, does he know who is your grandfather? Probably: 'No, he doesn't'. Poor bastard. >:( >:( >:(

Zazi, put me and Thomas and Jeep in a room with this mutherfucker alone for about 2 minutes and he will never hurt another living thing. It is really difficult for me to understand how such bad things happen to such good people.

Massimo >:( >:( >:(

Title: Re: When it is too much it is too much.
Post by cootie on Sep 14^th, 2004, 8:14pm

I'll chew him off at the ankles......bring him down to my size !! Then I'll punch him in the..........um.........never mind. I HATE types like this doc guy.........(I;ve met a few and there flipped out types).....but now since his 'little plan' didn't work he may decide to harrass you to try and save his career and scare you. So......document everything you say to him and everything he says to you and dates. Tormented tormentor Pam

Title: Re: When it is too much it is too much.
Post by Charlie on Sep 14^th, 2004, 8:41pm

After you arrange for his castration, you send one of those bell jars so he can display his souvenirs.

They never stop Zaira. No second chances for this bottom feeder.

You're doing fine Z....just fine.

Charlie

Title: Re: When it is too much it is too much.
Post by ShariRae on Sep 14^th, 2004, 8:56pm

Oh Zazi...This is terrible..I am so sorry..but as those above said...
get a lawyer..
notify the hospital where he works...
tell his wife...
tell all that will listen..ya never know..there may be other women he has done this to and they may not have the courage to come forward..till they see YOUR courage...
You are doing the right thing
Huggs
Shari

Title: Re: When it is too much it is too much.
Post by Karla on Sep 14^th, 2004, 10:52pm

If you value your marriage run from this dr/man. He is nothing but trouble and no friend to you or your husband. He is a snake in the grass and up to no good. You can never trust him again. You must protect your marriage. Please, find a new dr. neuro as soon as possible.

Title: Re: When it is too much it is too much.
Post by JDH on Sep 14^th, 2004, 11:55pm

Sorry you have to deal with this Zaira but you are doing the right thing by reporting him.

on 09/14/04 at 15:19:29, thomas wrote:

I guess I need to take a vacation to Italy. ;;D This guy needs a good ass-whipping.

on 09/14/04 at 15:25:18, Jeepgun wrote:

I'm in, when do we leave? >:(

I like the castration idea Charlie but should it be done before or after the severe ass whuppin' he's got coming.

Jim

Title: Re: When it is too much it is too much.
Post by Svenn on Sep 15^th, 2004, 2:42am

on 09/14/04 at 14:18:50, Jeepgun wrote:

Report this bastard to the Italian board of ethics.Then tell his wife and get a lawyer to help you.
but the main thing Zazi

GET THE HELL OUT OF THAT OFFICE AND GET A NEW NEURO

Svenn

Title: Re: When it is too much it is too much.
Post by AndreaD on Sep 15^th, 2004, 8:19am

Za, don't be sad. He will pay because he doesn't know how powerful your family is! I am very sorry. Andrea

Title: Re: When it is too much it is too much.
Post by KingOfPain on Sep 15^th, 2004, 8:52am

[smiley=nono.gif] [smiley=mad.gif] [smiley=looser.gif]

Zazi,

Get an attorney, one that knows the
law in this type/area of crime.

Yes, crime. He has broken the law on SO many levels!

Document EVERYTHING!

Start writing down EVERYTHING that has happened
& has been said to you.

Get a tape recorder RIGHT AWAY & tape EVERY conversation!

Save all phone calls from this scum.

Save all mail, e-mail type or otherwise.

If you know any of his other clients, contact them!

Get witnesses in order & statements from them.

Then, SUE HIS A$$!

You are going to become a VERY rich woman.

AS for him, I do believe a collection is needed
for a ticket to Italy.
Only problem is the battle for who gets to go.
[smiley=bigguns.gif]

What say you Clusterville?

Ante up!
http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/12/12_1_220.gif

Edit: Edit to add comments & to say
everyone's else's advice is excellent.

Title: Re: When it is too much it is too much.
Post by vig on Sep 15^th, 2004, 9:25am

Round up the posse.

Title: Re: When it is too much it is too much.
Post by Lizzie2 on Sep 15^th, 2004, 9:52am

Dang Zazi,

This is NOT right. I absolutely HATE hearing about things like this because what do these men take women for? Just objects that they can control?!?! AAAAAArrrrrrrrrrggggggggggg

I agree with everything said above. Write everything down. Gather up all the documentation that you possibly can and then GO FOR HIM. You can fight him and get his license revoked and whatever else has to be done! He shouldn't be allowed to practice medicine anymore.

Trust me that it is not your fault. Never going to be your fault in a situation like this. A couple of years ago, I was attacked by my best friend when he knew that I had a boyfriend and he also had a girlfriend. He'd been pushing at me for a long time, and I always always always told him to leave me alone, I wasn't going to break up good relationships. So he waited until I was so drunk that I had no clue what in hell I was doing. But still...as I later learned NOT MY FAULT. But I can definately understand that feeling of guilt for a lot of things. YOU did nothing.

I still regret to this day that I didn't get him into some more trouble. My mom told me it was my fault. My best friend, Cindy, got really mad (at him) and tried to scare him by constantly hanging around his girlfriend and he knew that Cindy wanted to tell his gf what happened.

Once a cheater, always a cheater is how I feel about people like that. He won't ever change. He's still with her, but I wonder how many other lives he has tried to destroy since then.

YOU are better than that...as was I, but it took a damn long time to realize it. So....give yourself all the credit you deserve and FIGHT his ass till it is in the ground.

I'm so sorry this happened to you. :'(
Love and hugz always,
Carrie/Lizzie2

Title: Re: When it is too much it is too much.
Post by TomM on Sep 15^th, 2004, 9:58am

Z--I'm really sorry about all this. Be true to your self and follow your heart. Remember that you are a good pesona nd you did not ask for this. You are not to blame.
TomM

Title: Re: When it is too much it is too much.
Post by stuey on Sep 15^th, 2004, 11:53am

Sound like your neuro needs to be taught a serious lesson dear. File whatever complaint, charges or whatever you can to have him stopped or his license to practice revoked. The last thing you need with your kind of pain is shit like this. My thoughts are with you. Stuey

Title: Re: When it is too much it is too much.
Post by aprilbee on Sep 15^th, 2004, 12:16pm

Z-

When I was 16 years old, I was molested by my family physician...my mom didn't press charges because it would have put me through too much at a young age, I have gotten over it, but I wish we would have done something to stop the creep...to this day, I have problems with trusting doctors (especially male) and even my dentist...

You will be put through Hell, but you need to get this guy out of practice and in a place where he cannot do this to anyone else...

I truly know how you feel and I wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy...Hang in there we are all here for you for support...

Tons of Love and Prayers for you and your Hubby... :-*

Title: Re: When it is too much it is too much.
Post by ZAIRA on Sep 15^th, 2004, 2:56pm

Keep me in line dear friends ;;D............ :'(

Thanks again for your advice and experience..... I started another post!