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Title: AAA.... R...... GH! Post by ZAIRA on Sep 13th, 2004, 2:57pm >:( ..... BAD DAY TODAY.... GRRRRrrrrrr..... I was to the neurologist, he is (was) not only a doctor, but also a friend. Today after the examination (I usually see him every month) he said me that he had to say me an important thing: That he loves me and he wants to leave her wife for me... ....... >:( No comment------ I hate men like him, respect for the other people first. And I am sorry for his wife because I think she doesn’t deserve a man like him..... >:( He knows me since when I started suffer of CH... I shared with him the first shot of trex... and he shocked me... because I trusted him, and he knows my husband also ::) :o.... and now he makes me sick >:( >:( >:(.... ok, I can understand that a man can have a crush for a woman, even if he is married.... but not in this way. This means that he doesn’t love his wife .... or maybe he is really a pig! [smiley=mad.gif] Maybe I had to be more careful also in the past because of his attentions to me...... I repeat, I considered him as a friend..... What do you advice for me? ;;D I think the right thing to do is to change neurologist... I do not know what to say! [smiley=bag.gif] Sorry! :'( BTW..... I am at home, I can’t still walk because my knees hurt... but it will pass... PFDAN, Zaira |
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Title: Re: AAA.... R...... GH! Post by Melissa on Sep 13th, 2004, 3:01pm Zazi, I would tell him straight out never to talk that way to you again, or else you will see a different neuro, or report his advances to his superiors. (do you all have a law against sexual harrassment?) You shouldn't have to give up quality care due to your providers shortcomings. >:(mel |
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Title: Re: AAA.... R...... GH! Post by Ronny on Sep 13th, 2004, 3:04pm on 09/13/04 at 14:57:04, ZAIRA wrote:
He is a pig !!! no doubt about that. Glad you're at home. Ronny. |
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Title: Re: AAA.... R...... GH! Post by Jeepgun on Sep 13th, 2004, 3:05pm Zazi, I am so sorry... How unprofessional of him. If he's a good doctor, I would continue to keep him as a doctor, especially now that you've told him that you are not interested in him romantically. As for telling your husband or telling his wife, I wouldn't say anything. Even though he's a doctor, he is only human and we all make mistakes sometimes. I'm sure he is embarrassed. If he continues behaving in an unprofessional manner, then you should tell your husband and also seek out a different doctor. -Frank |
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Title: Re: AAA.... R...... GH! Post by thomas on Sep 13th, 2004, 3:07pm Get a new doctor ASAP! |
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Title: Re: AAA.... R...... GH! Post by vig on Sep 13th, 2004, 3:10pm I am so sorry Z. I agree with Thomas though. He has irreversibly compromised his ability to be a good doctor for you. |
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Title: Re: AAA.... R...... GH! Post by Svenn on Sep 13th, 2004, 3:10pm on 09/13/04 at 15:07:58, thomas wrote:
Think i follow Thomas here Dont feel he can be trusted 100% Svenn |
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Title: Re: AAA.... R...... GH! Post by totka on Sep 13th, 2004, 3:13pm Try a 80+ years old neuro ... or try a pansy neuro ... or try a female neuro ... but necessarily change this unethical one |
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Title: Re: AAA.... R...... GH! Post by TomM on Sep 13th, 2004, 3:15pm on 09/13/04 at 15:07:58, thomas wrote:
Find a new doc. Your relationship will never be the same no matter what. TomM |
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Title: Re: AAA.... R...... GH! Post by Melissa on Sep 13th, 2004, 3:16pm on 09/13/04 at 15:05:19, Jeepgun wrote:
I don't think Zazi has said anything to him Frank. The pickle she is in, is one that can leave you tounge tied sometimes... :-/ Zazi, you have to do what makes you feel most comfortable. I hope, if you find a new doc, that they work with you, and listen to you, to help treat your CH's. love, mel |
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Title: Re: AAA.... R...... GH! Post by pubgirl on Sep 13th, 2004, 3:20pm Zazi I don't want to make a joke of this as I know how horrible this feels, but frankly this man should be avoided. At minimum he isn't concentrating on treating you properly, and at maximum you could be at risk. I would speak to him one more time but clearly tell him that his unethical behaviour requires that you change doctors and that you want him to refer you to THE BEST THERE IS and that he must make sure you are taken on by them as a patient immediately. Tell him that this is what you require at once or you will be taking his conduct further. Wendy |
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Title: Re: AAA.... R...... GH! Post by echo on Sep 13th, 2004, 3:21pm [smiley=twocents.gif] You may get better medicial attention from him because he does care for you. I believe you need to tell him where you stand on this issue. He needs to honor what you say and NEVER cross the line again. If he does - take him off at the knees! |
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Title: Re: AAA.... R...... GH! Post by floridian on Sep 13th, 2004, 3:22pm He stepped over the line. He violated his duty to be a professional. Time for a new doctor. |
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Title: Re: AAA.... R...... GH! Post by echo on Sep 13th, 2004, 3:23pm on 09/13/04 at 15:20:35, pubgirl wrote:
I like Wendy's approach. |
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Title: Re: AAA.... R...... GH! Post by Melissa on Sep 13th, 2004, 3:31pm By the way Zazi, where is this mans practice? |
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Title: Re: AAA.... R...... GH! Post by lionsound on Sep 13th, 2004, 3:35pm Zazi, WHAT A SCHMUCK! (ass-hole is too kind). I'm so sorry that happened to you. Nothing you have done has caused his behavior. He threw himself over the line. Get a new doctor, and until then, bring your husband with you if you must go back. -L |
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Title: Re: AAA.... R...... GH! Post by Carl_D on Sep 13th, 2004, 3:37pm Rule #1 for being a doctor - You CANNOT have a romance with a patient. I know it is hard to find good Doc's these days, but I would definitely find a new doc and until you do, if you continue to see this neuro - always have someone with you on your appointments. It will be harder for him to make advances with a third party there. Hope those knees feel better soon. Peace and hugs, Carl |
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Title: Re: AAA.... R...... GH! Post by ZAIRA on Sep 13th, 2004, 3:49pm I am sorry but I can't speak or see him again and I don’t want to tell anything to his wife.... :-X Thank you for your words.... First: I had to speak with my husband...... why? He was waiting for me outside 'the door' (I let you imagine), and he asked me “what is happened?” because I was really shocked... why? Because he also touched me with her dirty hands... Second: I do not want to make a legal cause, even if he is a fucking bastard (and I trusted him :'().... he has been a very good doctor and friend. I could make it, my mom works with case like this... Maybe if I tell her she can do somenthing, BUT,even if he was really a pig, I don’t want to ruin his carrer. I could, but I don’t want... he must stay away.... that is all.... Sorry :'(! |
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Title: Re: AAA.... R...... GH! Post by Melissa on Sep 13th, 2004, 4:03pm on 09/13/04 at 15:49:24, ZAIRA wrote:
Ok Zazi, I can understand that. I was just wondering if this was an isolated incident, or perhaps he has done this to other patients? The only reason why I suggested legal prosecution, is to prevent this man from harrassing others. Sorry to hear of all this... :(mel |
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Title: Re: AAA.... R...... GH! Post by ZAIRA on Sep 13th, 2004, 4:12pm on 09/13/04 at 16:03:08, Melissa wrote:
I don't know Mel... I spoke with mum and she told me he never had 'legal proceedings' for that. Can you understand? This means that he never molested a woman..... |
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Title: Re: AAA.... R...... GH! Post by Grandma_Sweet_Boy on Sep 13th, 2004, 5:00pm OR - perhaps a woman has been afraid to report him. We sometimes put doctors on a pedestal that they truly don't belong on. I agree with the others about finding a new doctor and frankly I'd report the S.O.B. in a heartbeat. You may save some other woman from the same problems. Good luck to you - lord knows you've had enough of the other kind. Hugs - Carol |
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Title: Re: AAA.... R...... GH! Post by TomM on Sep 13th, 2004, 5:02pm on 09/13/04 at 15:49:24, ZAIRA wrote:
Zazi-- Did he touch your chest or legs or between? If so, do yourself and everyone a favor and press charges. If he hugged you a little too tight and carressed you, then forget it. What he did is not right but there is no point to pressing charges for that. No matter what, I suggest you find a new doc. I'm sorry you have to deal with this. Remember this: YOU did nothing wrong! You did NOTHING wrong! Can you hear me? Wishing you well. TomM |
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Title: Re: AAA.... R...... GH! Post by Cathi04 on Sep 13th, 2004, 7:40pm Zazi..this is horrid, luv.. PLEASE let Mum 1 take care of this..he must be confronted, as this IS horribly unprofessional behavior... Zazi, luv..SOME men are pigs, not all............bar this in mind.. Now, continue to heal your knees.......and let us know how you are getting on, OK? Love, Mum2 |
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Title: Re: AAA.... R...... GH! Post by Karla on Sep 13th, 2004, 7:54pm Zaira if you value your marriage at all, run! Don't walk but run as fast as you can away from this pig! He can not be trusted. If he would cheat on his wife he will cheat on you. He obviously doesn't value his friendship with you or your husband. He is not a friend. Find a new dr/neuro As soon as possible! |
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Title: Re: AAA.... R...... GH! Post by cootie on Sep 13th, 2004, 9:09pm First thing I'd wonder is if he has said this to other women also.......has he also been there close 'friend' then told them how he felt bluntly.....I'd be concern'd of his motive. How many times has he been married.....wonder if he got his wife this way too ? Even if he did fall for you he handled it wrong. Woudln't want a guy that was capable of the love em and leave em game. I'd sever my ties from this guy for your sake and his......and wonder if it will happen again to someone else......I'd never trust him again or want to be around him esp if he thought bein around you was gettin somewhere.....scarey !!!! Did he keep rescheduleing you appointments alot. And to think of what thoughts were goin thru his head when he was examineing you.....ICK.......creeps me out Pam |
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Title: Re: AAA.... R...... GH! Post by Tiannia on Sep 13th, 2004, 9:40pm on 09/13/04 at 15:15:01, TomM wrote:
I know that it will be hard, but you do need to tell him no and find a new doc. Your relationship will never be the same as you will always wonder if he is starting this all over. I also know about how hard it is to tell your husband. That is up to you, but he will wonder why you are looking for a new doc. Just follow your heart hun and stay true to yourself and stay strong. Ti Amo, -Tia |
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Title: Re: AAA.... R...... GH! Post by Gator on Sep 13th, 2004, 10:31pm All the good advice has been given, but you already know in your heart what you need to do. You are a good woman, Zaira. Too good for someone who would do something like this to you. Good luck in finding a new neuro. Sending Vibes for peace of mind and for your search for a new doc. Gator |
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Title: Re: AAA.... R...... GH! Post by thebbz on Sep 13th, 2004, 11:36pm Sure never wished CH on anyone....till now. Lots of luck, hope other neuros are around. BB |
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Title: Re: AAA.... R...... GH! Post by thomas on Sep 13th, 2004, 11:36pm Oh, btw, Zaira, If I ever happen to find myself in your neighborhood, I am going to break his fucking legs. |
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Title: Re: AAA.... R...... GH! Post by AndreaD on Sep 14th, 2004, 4:58am I am a decent man and I am sorry for what happened >:(. (Ascolta Zazi, fagli causa, lui non si è fatto nessuno scrupolo a 'molestarti'. E tu sei fin troppo buona, tanto la vinci la causa e lui va in merda. Odio i medici come quello stronzo. Fossi in te glela farei pagare.) |
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Title: Re: AAA.... R...... GH! Post by Charlie on Sep 14th, 2004, 8:26pm Guy's schithead. Dump him after he recovers from the beatings I hope you arrange for him. Charlie |
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