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(Message started by: Elaine on Jun 20^th, 2004, 9:56pm)

Title: What to do what to do??
Post by Elaine on Jun 20^th, 2004, 9:56pm

What do you do when you have a family that would do any thing for ya. Have spent the last few years making dreams become reality. Then you find that you can do something good for them but it would interfear with something you wanted to do. Hmmm what would ya do be happy and give them back what they gave you for years or beselfish and do your own thing?
Fighting my conscience here come on vote help me out here LOL! Come on your my friends give me help I hate this fight going on in my head its giving me a friggen headace ;-)

Title: Re: What to do what to do??
Post by Grandma_Sweet_Boy on Jun 20^th, 2004, 10:06pm

Nothing worse than that feeling of being caught between a rock and a hard place is there?

Could you do the 'something nice' after you've done what you wanted to do for yourself. Would they understand how important your wants and needs are.

Don't beat yourself up - guilt is such a wasted emotion.

Sometimes we just have to do for ourselves and not worry about others. It's good for your own peace of mind.

I've read lots of your posts and I know you're a kind and caring person so just for once allow yourself to put you first because it sure doesn't sound to me like you do that very often.

Not sure any of this helps but I tried. Carol.

Title: Re: What to do what to do??
Post by Cerberus on Jun 20^th, 2004, 10:08pm

when in doubt attempt both ;)

Ramon

Title: Re: What to do what to do??
Post by Rock_Lobster on Jun 20^th, 2004, 10:10pm

[smiley=huh.gif]What magnitude of sacrifice are we speaking? [smiley=huh.gif]
1 = Missing dinner?
2 = Giving up baseball tickets?
3 = Skipping a $2000 week long vacation?
4 = Sacrificing your dog.
5 = None yo business.

Title: Re: What to do what to do??
Post by Renee on Jun 20^th, 2004, 10:31pm

Lady E,

What you give will come back tenfold upon you

and......

Do unto others as you would have others do unto you.

To vote I would have to know more specifics, the magnitude as mentioned in prior post, but Elaine you are a very unselfish person. You are very giving by nature.

Weigh the specifics and let your conscience be your guide is my vote.

hugs
renee

Title: Re: What to do what to do??
Post by purpleydog on Jun 20^th, 2004, 10:35pm

Follow your instinct Elaine, you won't be sorry. :)

purpleydog

Title: Re: What to do what to do??
Post by Gator on Jun 21^st, 2004, 10:05am

From what I've seen, you tend to put others first, already and I know you've done at least as much for the people here as they have done for you, probably more. Take one for yourself, this time. Then if the other can be done, do it. If not so be it.

Just my opinion.

Gator

Title: Re: What to do what to do??
Post by BuddyH on Jun 21^st, 2004, 9:42pm

Do I get a vote in this?
Go on a real vacation get away from it all my Love! It will do us all good. Vacation a time devoted to rest, travel, recreation. Everyone needs one. A real vacations!

Title: Re: What to do what to do??
Post by Charlie on Jun 21^st, 2004, 9:56pm

What's the worst possible thing that will happen if you make yourself feel good? Perhaps you can live with it or.....chances are you can find some way to make them help.

I sure don't practice what I preach but one thing to remember is that people LOVE it when you ask for their help or opinion. Try letting them in on your problem. It may surprise you.

You're something else E.

Charlie

Title: Re: What to do what to do??
Post by Little Deb on Jun 21^st, 2004, 10:54pm

I am with Buddy on this one.

What your family has done for you is because they love you. And what they would tell you to do in this case, is to go on your vacation. Everything will work out Elaine.
Your family didn't do the things for you because they thought one day you would pay them back.
Take care of you and the Buddy, and try to work out another way to help out the family if you want. But your family, I know, would tell you to go and do what they know is very important to you.

Big Hugs...........Little Deb

Title: Re: What to do what to do??
Post by OneEyeBlind on Jun 21^st, 2004, 11:29pm

Vacations replenish the soul as well as the heart. Give yourself a treat this time Elaine, and soon you will come back with an even bigger heart to share with your family.

Title: Re: What to do what to do??
Post by Mastifflvr28 on Jun 22^nd, 2004, 1:21am

go on vacation...then don't be a dork and turn on the puter, like me :)
Mast

Title: Re: What to do what to do??
Post by Edna on Jun 22^nd, 2004, 1:33am

Elaine, from what I know of you I can safely say this....

buddy has been there for you through it all.......so now, listen to him......you already know he has your best interest at heart.

Your heart is big and giving honey, so now, give to yourself. You'll be better for others that way.

Love to you,
EDNA

Title: Re: What to do what to do??
Post by alleyoop49 on Jun 22^nd, 2004, 2:59am

Hi Elaine,

I've only met you that one time at Denny's, but I feel like I've known you for years. I'd have to go along with Renee' on this one. Let your concience be your guide and I'm sure you'll make the right decision. :-/

Love Ya,

BobB ;)

Title: Re: What to do what to do??
Post by ave on Jun 22^nd, 2004, 5:27am

Dear Lady E, if you give up something you really want, how is the rest of your family, that loves you very much, going to feel?

They will know you sacrificed something. What is the use of that, if they feel bad as a result? Could they still enjoy what you were going to give them?

Just a thought, you know...

Title: Re: What to do what to do??
Post by Woobie on Jun 22^nd, 2004, 8:33am

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