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Title: Leaving Post by Linda_Howell on Jun 5th, 2004, 10:04am This morning my significant other told me he wanted me to move back to California. I have rented out my house, put my things in storage, changed licence plates, Ins. Co. etc. Major life change for me. I know no one here in Sokane to help me, but I have to shut down my computer soon and I don't know when I will be back here. I don't know if I can even get to the convention now since my plane takes off from Spokane and I won't be here. I don't know if OUCH will still want me to be on the Bod since I can't contribute via the internet... As some of you know I got married a month ago and now he wants me to leave. I am in such shpock I don't even know how I am writing this Linda |
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Title: Re: Leaving Post by Kevin_M on Jun 5th, 2004, 10:13am Linda, Please, please, please find some way to communicate. We really want to be here for you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! [smiley=hug.gif] [smiley=hug.gif] [smiley=hug.gif] [smiley=hug.gif] [smiley=hug.gif] [smiley=frown.gif] Please, an address, ANYTHING!!!! Nooooooooooooooo Kevin M |
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Title: Re: Leaving Post by Linda_Howell on Jun 5th, 2004, 10:19am Local park bench. Redding, Ca. |
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Title: Re: Leaving Post by Melissa on Jun 5th, 2004, 10:19am OMG Linda, I don't know what to say other than I'm so sorry!! :( :( :( :( WTF is wrong with him??? I did not even know you got married, now I wanna kill your new husband. >:( Is he having a momentary lapse of sanity? Cripes. BIG BIG ((((HUGS)))) to you lady! :'(mel |
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Title: Re: Leaving Post by JDH on Jun 5th, 2004, 10:35am Awe man :( I sure hope you can make it to the convention, I was really lookiing forward to meeting you. You gotta do what you gotta do though and I hope it all goes well. try to keep us posted and good luck, Jim |
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Title: Re: Leaving Post by Donna H. on Jun 5th, 2004, 10:38am That's an awful lot to ask someone.....I hope there's a real profitable reason (not just money) and that you think this over before you leave. No one should make life changing decisions on the spur of the moment and I am worried about you. I can't imagine ch.com without you, but if you are doing something that you really want to do....God bless you. Be sure that some one here knows how to keep in touch with you. We love you. |
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Title: Re: Leaving Post by Kevin_M on Jun 5th, 2004, 10:39am on 06/05/04 at 10:19:09, Linda_Howell wrote:
The zip code Linda, the zip code! Sorry, just poor attempt to make you :) :) Linda, we're here for you to get you through this!!!! Kevin M |
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Title: Re: Leaving Post by UN_SOLVED on Jun 5th, 2004, 11:09am Damn, that sucks. Sorry Linda Michael To your 'husband' >>> [smiley=finger.gif] |
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Title: Re: Leaving Post by Luke63 on Jun 5th, 2004, 11:20am If ya need anything...lemme know. Luke |
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Title: Re: Leaving Post by mynm156 on Jun 5th, 2004, 11:25am DAMN?! Sorry to hear about all the crap you husband is putting U through. Where ever you are you akways belong here and we will look and wait for you to have the chance to say hello again! Good Luck! GOOD VIBES!! MYNM156 |
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Title: Re: Leaving Post by Roxy on Jun 5th, 2004, 11:36am Linda, you've got my phone number.....please use it, anytime. Want a real Texas bitch to come kick his ass? |
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Title: Re: Leaving Post by OneEyeBlind on Jun 5th, 2004, 11:41am Linda, I am sooooooo sorry. Please try and take a deep breath and perhaps things will work out. In the meantime, I am sending huge hugs and happiness vibes your way !!!!!!!!! |
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Title: Re: Leaving Post by John_D on Jun 5th, 2004, 11:45am That really sux Linda. I am sorry to hear that :-[ Good vibes.... John edit I am not going, but I still send hopes for you to make it to the convention. |
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Title: Re: Leaving Post by catlind on Jun 5th, 2004, 11:51am Linda, I'm here for you hun, my health is doing well, and you are free to call me or even come stay if you need a place to escape for awhile. You have my number, use it collect if you need to. Luv Cat |
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Title: Re: Leaving Post by Cerberus on Jun 5th, 2004, 11:52am WHAT?! :o [smiley=hug.gif] :-* I dunno what to say! Ramon |
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Title: Re: Leaving Post by Mastifflvr28 on Jun 5th, 2004, 12:07pm Linda...in shock here... I do have prayers and vibes going up to you. I wish you the BEST of luck!! Mast |
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Title: Re: Leaving Post by jonny on Jun 5th, 2004, 1:03pm Please PM me his address, Linda I would like to me him!! ....................................jonny |
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Title: Re: Leaving Post by Mark C on Jun 5th, 2004, 1:32pm |
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Title: Re: Leaving Post by miapet on Jun 5th, 2004, 1:47pm Linda . . . 1st . . I so totally agree with Un_Solved. 2nd . . I also agree with Donna . .and life changes shouldn't be made spur of the moment . Maybe y'all just need to take a little break . . .and have some discussion (with immunity, so y'all can really talk with no worries). Maybe the break could be . . .don't leave yet, go to the convention . .then go back to Spokane and talk? Just an idea . . . I hope everything works out well for you . . .do what you need to do for you . . .and fight for yourself . . .you deserve to take care of you. *positive light and energy* miapet |
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Title: Re: Leaving Post by BlueMeanie on Jun 5th, 2004, 1:55pm Sorry to hear that it is not working out for you Linda. Damn that SUCKS. Hope you get back on track soon. Take care of your self and let us know how you're doing when you get settled back in Calfornia. Sure hope you don't have to miss the convention. |
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Title: Re: Leaving Post by jonny on Jun 5th, 2004, 1:56pm I have one more.....well, two things to add. Linda, your married?.....you own HALF his stuff, tell him to get the fuck out of YOUR house. Lastly, who the fuck said Linda made a spur of the moment life change?......any of you live with Linda and know her daily thoughts?......I didnt think so! ....................................jonny |
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Title: Re: Leaving Post by miapet on Jun 5th, 2004, 2:06pm moving quickly, while stressed about the decision, or doing it under duress is a major life change, and it sounds as if it's being made quickly . . .if it's been in the works for awhile, then forgive my assumption. btw, i hope linda did pm jonny the hubby's addy . . .he will be needing company if/when you she moves *g* |
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Title: Re: Leaving Post by Kevin_M on Jun 5th, 2004, 2:07pm on 06/05/04 at 13:47:33, miapet wrote:
Don't know mia, seems he knows all the sacrifice she went through to be with him. A week after committing everything, bang. I wouldn't waste my breath. He just proposed a little time ago. Sounds like he's ridiculous. If "leaving" came from his lips, I wouldn't stay, it sounds like unhappiness for her. She can get back on her feet again, needs support. Sooner the better. He's committed his intentions for the future with this anal act of cruelty. Kevin M |
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Title: Re: Leaving Post by Linda_Howell on Jun 5th, 2004, 2:29pm He doesn't want to talk things out. After 4 days of ignoring me and sleeping on the couch, I put it to him this morning right after a hit and said that we need to work this out/compromise etc. He said it can't be done. I said so what??? you want me to move back to California???????Incredulous. He said yes. He was nice enough to offer the suggestion that he will have next week-end free to help me get there. I have let my Medical Ins. lapse because he was putting me on his, changed all my other Ins., have WASHINTON plates on my car, rented out my house and signed a contract to do that, put my things in storage, etc..... Now here I sit at my pc because you people here are the only voices I have to communicate with in this strange town where I know absolutly no-one. This is going to be a real test of strength for me if I get through it at all. I know you all wish the best and I appreciate it, but in reality...I am alone. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for being here. Linda |
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Title: Re: Leaving Post by Linda_Howell on Jun 5th, 2004, 2:42pm BTW.... You people here and the ones who've called me and IM'd me are the only things that are keeping me sane right now. I tried to make a pot of coffee a while ago and just stood there and cryed and couldn't figure out how to do it. Linda |
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Title: Re: Leaving Post by Melissa on Jun 5th, 2004, 2:45pm I know you are alone right now, but you will find a friend in yourself and get through this. CH'ers are fighters, and if I realize anything about you, it's that you can take care of yourself, no matter what the situation. You'll go into a mode of self preservation after a bit, and plow forward with taking control of your life. No matter how difficult it is to get it back on track, you'll do it. Also, if friends ask if you need anything, please don't hesitate to say yes if you really do. I used to let my pride get in the way of taking a helping hand during really difficult times, and all it did was make it tougher on me. I meant what I said on the other board. love you, mel |
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Title: Re: Leaving Post by Jayne on Jun 5th, 2004, 2:49pm OMG Linda, if I was there right now, you would be getting a bone breaking hug from me. I know it seems like huge hurdles to get over right now, but you can do it kiddo. Take one small challenge at a time and get it done. There is a reason this is happening to you, and maybe you are much better off out of that situation. Look at it like cleaning a house. Yeah it's a fucking mess right now, but slowly and surely start cleaning up the mess my love. You can and will overcome this my dear. Also call the airline and explain your situation and maybe they could transfer your departure city for you. Linda you are one hell of a strong woman, and I know you can sort yourself out. I need you to be in Nashville. Get yourself there and you will get so many hugs from everyone. Ok are you dusting yourself off yet....???? Love Jayne |
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Title: Re: Leaving Post by Woobie on Jun 5th, 2004, 4:20pm :'( :'( :'( WTF??? Linda.............. I'm so sorry!! Check your PMs...k? Hang in there!!!!!!!!! Tina :-* |
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Title: Re: Leaving Post by BarbaraD on Jun 5th, 2004, 4:33pm Linda -- hang in there. You've got my phone numbers - call anytime and we'll compare smucks. Maybe he's just going thru a MENapause stage. And maybe it will work out for the best. But if you need a shoulder, you KNOW I have big ones. Stay on his insurance -- it's hard to get with our condition. Love ya sis BD |
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Title: Re: Leaving Post by Carl_D on Jun 5th, 2004, 4:52pm I don't want to see you go, and was so anxiously looking forward to meeting you at convention. I hope you can find some way to make it there, and to stay here. So far I think Woobie summed it up best. :'( :'( :'( We're a;ways here for you, Linda. Peace, Carl D |
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Title: Re: Leaving Post by tiredofclusters on Jun 5th, 2004, 5:26pm Linda, I'm so sorry..........hope things get better for yea SOON. Neal :( |
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Title: Re: Leaving Post by Leesa on Jun 5th, 2004, 5:55pm Linda, OMG Im in shock and so is Dave!! :o Hell he and I didnt even know you got married *shows how much we pay attention* Im very sorry about all this. I cant tell how much my heart hurts for ya. I wish I could wiggle my nose like Tabatha on Bewitched and make all go away. The one thing I do know is your my dear lady are a FIGHTER from the word go. Little by little you WILL find a way to make it through. U do what you need to do right now and we will keep the light on for you. BTW check your PM's and another thing I live on 35 aches and I know some pig farmers. ;)*WEG* Dave an I are here for you and we love you. :'( With LOTS of love, Dave and Leesa |
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Title: Re: Leaving Post by Svenn on Jun 5th, 2004, 6:05pm Linda, I'm so sorry..........hope things get better for yea SOON. Svenn :( :( :( :( |
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Title: Re: Leaving Post by bobkip on Jun 5th, 2004, 6:19pm Well shit. IMHO, if you let this control freak do this to you, you can expect crap like this for the duration. Let the Superior Of Being go to CA but don't give in. Hell, we've got a spare br here in sunny Florida and you're welcome to it. Interested? email or im me. Best of luck hon. Kip |
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Title: Re: Leaving Post by Cerberus on Jun 5th, 2004, 6:25pm I say if he aint willin to work things out..........make him pay the price of supporting you. And kick his ass during the down time. Dammit! >:( Ramon |
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Title: Re: Leaving Post by Tiannia on Jun 5th, 2004, 6:26pm I'm sorry hun, but being married has to be a compromise. There is no break, he either shits or gets off the pot and like Jonny said, you dont let him kick you out of the house. You moved there. You can pick up in a weekend mand move back you dont have a place to go. I'm sorry. And i know it is hard. I've beent here when all seems loss. Please know that you are not alone. We are all here and will help in any way that we can. I dontknow what else to say, but I am sorry that you are having to go through this. PF Wishes my friend, -Tia |
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Title: Re: Leaving Post by pubgirl on Jun 5th, 2004, 6:52pm Linda I'm so sorry that this has happened. I'm sure you can't really believe it is happening at all. Kip is right though, it is no good to allow someone to control you in this way, don't let him do it to you. A relationship that is worth having doesn't work like this. I hope you somehow find the strength to do what YOU think is right. Thinking of you from over the pond. Wendy |
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Title: Re: Leaving Post by Elaine on Jun 5th, 2004, 9:04pm Linda Howell, I told you a couple of years ago you were welcome at my house any time. I have a extra bed room . I have animals and I have a grandbaby that might drive you nuts. You are welcome to stay here with me ! I get kind of lonely here all day long. It would be nice to have someone here and I love you so much. I hope you can read this. I don't know how to reach you! You can still go to the convention I am driving ! I know I live in Ga. Your Husband surely would see to it you can get here. ! I mean this Linda you have a place to stay call me ! My number is 770-504-8110 |
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Title: Re: Leaving Post by 9erfan on Jun 5th, 2004, 10:42pm WTF?? This is crazy! Has this guy lost his mind or something? I don't get it! After 1 month of marriage, this guy is giving up? He sure doesn't understand what it takes to make a marriage work. I'm sooo sorry that this has happened Linda! If there's anything I can do, please let me know. You have my number. Love, Virginia |
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Title: Re: Leaving Post by Charlie on Jun 5th, 2004, 11:00pm Rats. Linda. >:( I don't know your circumstances so I'll just tell you that a little time spent on this can't hurt. Try not to move faster than you absolutely have to. Things change quickly in these instances.....but you don't necessarily have to keep the pace. Drives them nuts. Keep in touch kid. Charlie :'( |
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Title: Re: Leaving Post by Jimi on Jun 5th, 2004, 11:36pm I hate this for you Linda. Have you told your son? Legally, he may not be able to get off that scott-free or if it has only been 30 days, he may even be able to get an annulment and get completely off scott free. I don't know the law out there. I think you might run it by your son, let him call a couple of atty friends of his and see what your options are. Anyway, I could never live with someone who did not love me. And bottom line Linda, you can't make a person love you. You are a clusterhead, chronic at that. It ain't fair, but then who said it would be. The bottom has dropped out on you again, but like Mel said, you will suck it up, take a deep breathe and figure out what you need to do. We are praying for you Road Warrior! [smiley=hug.gif] |
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Title: Re: Leaving Post by Jeepgun on Jun 5th, 2004, 11:46pm Damn... *speechless* (for once) Hang in there, Linda. Just for the record though, threatening you with leaving unless you do what he wants is just bullshit. Selfish and childish. >:( |
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Title: Re: Leaving Post by Jeepgun on Jun 5th, 2004, 11:48pm on 06/05/04 at 21:04:20, Elaine wrote:
Elaine, if I were you, I wouldn't go splashing my phone number around on a public message board on the Internet. Probably better to send it someone via private message or email. [smiley=huh.gif] |
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Title: Re: Leaving Post by jonny on Jun 6th, 2004, 3:15am Jeep, Elaine knows that I would KILL....Yes," KILL" anyone that even crank called her! Having said that....She has been here for more than six years, I think she knows what shes doing ;;D .........................................jonny Edit.....You reposting it dont help now does it?.....LOL Heres mine 781-985-6500 ;;D |
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Title: Re: Leaving Post by juvy on Jun 6th, 2004, 3:40am Linda, take a deep breath. You're moving to Cali not the end of the world. they have internet in Cali and you'll be back online soon. We'll be here waiting. Now call the airline and see if you can change your flight plans. The airline might surprise you. If they're uncooperative, go to a library, log in and post that. Then we'll send them hate mail until they change their minds. Now stay calm and know that we love you and will miss you until you get back. Now if you decide to leave the little bastard. Let us know, as we'll find you a place to stay. *huge hugs and vibes* Juvy |
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Title: Re: Leaving Post by Elaine on Jun 6th, 2004, 9:53am Linda please call someone or something and let us know whats happening. Has anyone heard from her?? |
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Title: Re: Leaving Post by jonny on Jun 6th, 2004, 11:25am She called me yesterday, she was crying, but I had her laughing by the end of the call. Its just as she posted, the prick is going to help her move back to Cali next weekend but she has nowhere to live cause she signed a lease to rent her house out there. I want to meet this punk so bad I can taste it. ..........................................jonny |
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Title: Re: Leaving Post by Redd715 on Jun 6th, 2004, 11:41am I talked to her on MSN messenger yesterday too. She was shook up pretty good. She and I have yet another thing in common...guys bailing on us. Gave her my phone number for if she ever needs to call.... Men....can't live with them....can't shoot 'um and get away with it.... |
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Title: Re: Leaving Post by BobG on Jun 6th, 2004, 11:58am :'( This makes me very sad. and pissed. >:( |
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Title: Re: Leaving Post by echo on Jun 7th, 2004, 10:19am Reads like you have put alot of thought into this new change in your life. I wish you the best of everything in this new endeavor. Take care. See you ???, |
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Title: Re: Leaving Post by thomas on Jun 7th, 2004, 10:58am I am in a serious beat someone down mood now. I'm so sorry to hear this Linda. >:( >:( :'( |
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Title: Re: Leaving Post by Gator on Jun 7th, 2004, 11:04am Sorry to hear about all the troubles you are having. You were the first and only person on this site to pm me and welcome me to the site and try to help me cope with some of the negative shots I took when I first posted here. If you need anything, or just someone to talk to, shoot me a message and I will e-mail or call or whatever. You have a loving family here if nowhere else in the world. You are in my prayers. Gator |
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Title: Re: Leaving Post by Margi on Jun 7th, 2004, 1:14pm aw, Linda - I am SO sorry. I just got your pictures in the mail on Friday and we were away for the weekend. You have our phone number, Lil TS. Please use it. BIG hugs. :'( love you! |
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Title: Re: Leaving Post by suzy617 on Jun 7th, 2004, 1:47pm Dear Linda, I'm so sorry to hear of this crap happening to you. I wish there was something I could do for you. Please hang in there. suzy |
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Title: Re: Leaving Post by AlienSpaceBabe on Jun 7th, 2004, 3:05pm Gawd, Linda... I don't know what to say.... I'm sorry...... :'( He's obviously not much of a man (at the moment) if he's giving up so quickly on a beautiful, strong, intelligent woman like you! The only logical conclusion is that the one with the problem is him! Who's he to decide where you should live? If you want to stay where you are, then stay there! I gave you my number(s).... use them, k? Collect is just fine with me..... hugs and love and happy feelings to you, Lizzie |
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Title: Re: Leaving Post by Tiannia on Jun 7th, 2004, 3:15pm on 06/07/04 at 15:05:24, AlienSpaceBabe wrote:
You know this is not a bad idea. If he wants you out so bad, then have him rent you an apartment and go there. It will give you a little time, as it is you would have to rent a place in CA if you went back because of your house. Why should that desision be made for you? |
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Title: Re: Leaving Post by Mikey on Jun 7th, 2004, 3:33pm LINDA!!!!......WTF????.....DON'T let this happen!!! Who's going to be praying, sending vibes, and keeping the candle burning for me??? You have been such a rock for me Linda, now let me be a rock for you!!! Just I.M. me or something if ya want to, or call!! This guy don't sound like he deserves you at all Linda, your too nice of a person to have this stuff to worry about!! Please try to stay by the computer at the least Sis, you need us right now, and we need you!!!! You are in my prayers Sis, and i think you know that you are always there!!!!! Mikey....... |
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Title: Re: Leaving Post by ExplodingEyeBall on Jun 7th, 2004, 3:59pm What a jerk!!! If he's acting like this much of a jerk after such a small amount of time, get away!!! He's only going to get worse and I don't think he deserves you. Let HIM find some other place to live though (A van down by the river). Since you are married, the house is as much yours as his. I hope it all works out for you. Pat |
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Title: Re: Leaving Post by Peppermint on Jun 7th, 2004, 4:27pm I've read this over and over, and all I can think is - what a CRETIN! Don't let him shuffle you off back to Cali like that Linda. If you can, hang there until you have your affairs straightened out. Hopefully he will help you to do that somehow, .... GRRRRRR... >:( CRETIN!!! |
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Title: Re: Leaving Post by Charlie on Jun 7th, 2004, 8:52pm You'd think having to put up with this horror would be enough. Having to deal with stupidity is asking too much. >:( Thinking about you Linda. Wish I had something profound for you though. :-/ We need to hear from you, you know. Charlie |
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Title: Re: Leaving Post by Edna on Jun 8th, 2004, 10:57am Linda, my word for you can't be expressed here honey. Get to your email or pm. you already know I love you, but it never hurts to say it more. I love you Linda I love you Linda I love you Linda I love you Linda oh hell, there ain't enough room here to say how much. tightest hugs ever, EDNA |
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