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Title: Life Sucks right now...(non ch) Post by tiredofclusters on May 29th, 2004, 12:50pm It's a good thing i'm not in my cycle right now. Don't know if i could handle it. It seems my marriage is on the rocks and there's nothing i can do to change it. It seems that anything i do is wrong and there is noyhing i can do to please her. i love her very much. It's always that she right and i'm always wrong. Anything i do to try to please her backfires right in my face. i 'm so tried of getting shouted at. I'm sorry for posting this but i have no friends that i can talk to. >:( i'm just lost with no where to go. :( sorry i don't post more, i'm a very shy person and not easy for me to my friends [smiley=bigcry.gif] Ya'll have a PFDAN Neal |
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Title: Re: Life Sucks right now...(non ch) Post by fubar on May 29th, 2004, 2:35pm Neal, Sometimes there really is nothing you can do. I spent 15 years trying to make things work for my wife, but the only valuable thing I learned in that whole 15 years is (listen carefully) sometimes you can't control the situation. If I learned one thing to help me cope, it's that nothing I do is going to change the nature of another person. Incredible, but true. If she is going to be 'happy', it's only because she decides to be happy. You cannot 'make' her happy. It just doesn't work that way. I know this sounds simple, but the sooner you come to grips with that fact, the sooner YOU can do what YOU need to do to be happy. There's something empowering about learning what you cannot possibly do because it enables you to focus your energy on things that are possible rather then things that are impossible. Listen to the wisdom of fubar. It's a good thing. |
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Title: Re: Life Sucks right now...(non ch) Post by jonny on May 29th, 2004, 2:38pm Tell the bitch if she dont like it get the fuck out, you have better days ahead of you without that bitch. IF she loved you she WOULD TRY to work things out, if not shes just a ho to you, kick it to the curb!..while the kicking is good. ..............................................jonny |
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Title: Re: Life Sucks right now...(non ch) Post by miapet on May 29th, 2004, 3:48pm Neal, I'm sorry for your pain. As stated earlier, you can't control or change another person. While this seems to be a painful time, it may actually be a release for you. Take care of you, and let the things go that aren't helping you take care of you. *positive light and energy* miapet |
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Title: Re: Life Sucks right now...(non ch) Post by tiredofclusters on May 29th, 2004, 4:13pm Thank's ya'll, Not sure what i'm going to do right now. I just hate to throw 20 years away. Neal |
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Title: Re: Life Sucks right now...(non ch) Post by Ree on May 29th, 2004, 4:23pm The wisdom of Fubar~~~ I love you ~ that was a great post... hearing that from the words of a man was awesome... guys really give advice to other guys huh??? The Truth of jonny........LOLOL shows you the diversity in our group.... I love you too jus the same........lol Neal... Sometimes you have to sit back and get quiet and stop trying... Hopefully you guys will miss each other and find each other again... Good luck to you ~~~~~~~~~~~~~Love Ree<>< |
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Title: Re: Life Sucks right now...(non ch) Post by ClusterChuck on May 29th, 2004, 5:13pm on 05/29/04 at 12:50:19, tiredofclusters wrote:
You have no friends? What are we? chopped liver? We are family AND friends! You have no where to go? Yes you do, HERE! Don't appologize! We are here for you! I know (too well) what you are going through! I am not sure I could have dealt with the beast, and my wife throwing me out without THIS family! We are here. We care! Sned me an IM or email if you need to talk more, in a private setting. I care, brother. We all do. Vent, cry, scream all you need to. We will listen. Chuck |
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Title: Re: Life Sucks right now...(non ch) Post by ave on May 29th, 2004, 6:31pm Sorry to hear that, Neal. In my long (and non-sheltered) life I have seen a great many couples where the only thing keeping them together was that one of them needed the other, to be unpleasant too, and the other needed to feel loyal. Don't fall into that trap. Another thing: if this relationship should end, remember that you have NOT lost 20 years. You will have proven that you can remain loyal for 20 years with very little to no encouragement. |
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Title: Re: Life Sucks right now...(non ch) Post by no-one on May 29th, 2004, 7:00pm Neal, I am sorry you are having a bad time of it. BUT never feel bad about coming here to blow off steam, that is what family and friends are for. We love and need you Becky |
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Title: Re: Life Sucks right now...(non ch) Post by Sean_C on May 29th, 2004, 8:55pm Neal, Sounds like she has made up her mind dude, go to the convention and fall in love and start all over and be happy again. ;;D ;;D ;;D ;;D......Lifes too short to waste your time with someone like that HO anyway;;D Jonny you always bring a smile to my face dude ;;D Sean |
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Title: Re: Life Sucks right now...(non ch) Post by tiredofclusters on Jun 1st, 2004, 7:38am Sorry ya'll, I left my wife Saturday night so i didn't have a computer to check in. I doing pertty good i guess. Staying it my sisters right now. The wife said she would go with me to marraige counseling. That's a start. I think it will have to go farther than that. She has some anger Management issues. See we have our own bussiness and she is very rued to the customer,employees,me and her family. It like she pushing everybody away. :( :( :( Thank Ya'll SO MUCH!! By the way, My ch don't have anything to do with our problems, THINK GOD :( Neal |
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Title: Re: Life Sucks right now...(non ch) Post by AlienSpaceBabe on Jun 1st, 2004, 2:48pm on 05/29/04 at 16:13:53, tiredofclusters wrote:
Smart folks are speaking up with advice.... you can't change someone else.... sit back and stop trying; maybe you'll find eachother again..... my [smiley=twocents.gif] : If she needs to be without you, thank her for the good times and then move on. You're not throwing away 20 years.... you spent 20 years becoming the man you are today - every experience you had has shaped you. That's 20 years well-spent! |
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Title: Re: Life Sucks right now...(non ch) Post by stuey on Jun 1st, 2004, 6:30pm Neal my uncle and wife are splitting after 25 years so I feel for you. It has made my uncle revisit his own life and make much needed changes in himself. While I am not Mr. Fix It I am sympathetic to what you are going through, perhaps if you chose to separate then perhaps she will see what she has and what she stands to lose by losing you who obviously cares a great deal for this lady. Sometimes you don't miss the water til the well runs dry. Is she against counseling? I really wish you all the best. Stuey |
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