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(Message started by: Dave_Emond on May 22^nd, 2004, 3:33am)

Title: Sacrifices & Defiance!
Post by Dave_Emond on May 22^nd, 2004, 3:33am

Hello Friends,
Yep, going for that final act of defiance!
Haven’t updated many lately on what’s been going on with us lately, so here’s the scoop. In the last few months my Grandmother had a stroke and is now in a nursing home, Annette lost her job taking care of her and doctors say I shouldn’t work as I’m not healing and still no diagnosis. (Can’t live off SSDI!). An elderly disabled man we “adopted” who we feared his smoking would blow up his constant oxygen running … quit smoking and soon had a electrical fire from his stove, neighbors got him out and he is now in a nursing home. My uncle just came down with an unknown disorder and is in the hospital. Worst of all, my father has been back in the hospital having to be fed intravenously and breathing through a tube, plus now a 3rd doctor diagnosed him with Lou Gehrig’s disease now.
We’ve been crunching numbers and trying to figure out how to keep going, we’d bust by mid July. So … time for one last shot. Going to be tough, but have to try.
Annette got her job back in Denver and will live in a small apartment and come up here to see me on weekends. This gives her health insurance and even after rent, we’ll bring in more income this way. I’m saying “screw it!” and going back to work and see what happens. I’ll have to do a lot of small jobs, hopefully in unoccupied places as I’ll be falling over left and right and have trouble getting back up. I guess the flooring installation business wouldn’t have been my choice had I known my future! But, have no choice but to give it my best shot and see what happens.
It’s going to be tough for Annette and me to be apart so much. As much as we love each other though, it might be a good thing for a short time. For those who are married, you’ll understand how just finances can cause problems, but add all the other stress caused by both CH and this other “mystery disorder” and how it affects us both, naturally we can tend to get “short” with each other as frustration mounts. We realize that’s all it is … frustration and both of us trying to keep me from falling into depression. We talked it out and made some tough decisions. She’ll only be about 3 hours away, not like when she was in Canada, so we’ll see each other often and talk on the IM’s a lot again in the meantime. (Breaking up isn’t even a thought, our love is strong as ever, just have to make some sacrifices for a while.)
If the work don’t do me in or it becomes obvious I’ll only get worse, then I’ll have to admit it and try to find some other type of work back in Denver and we’ll lose our home. But, not going out without a fight!
Shut down anything that wasn’t a necessity, including doctor visits, Chiro visits and physical therapy. (Guess AOL is our last leisure … course I need Internet for business anyway.)
Sorry we won’t make the Convention this year, so many friends past and new would have loved to see in person. Maybe next year? (Maybe it will be in Colorado!?)
Not looking for pity … last thing we need right now if we’re going to stay strong. Just wanted to update anyone interested on what we’re up to these days.
As my “tag line” says, just one of those obstacles (or many at once!) to get through. We’re both keeping the faith and hope and pray to fight our way through all this. Someday … if we can remember what it’s like, maybe things will be “normal” again.
That’s our hope and our dreams and nothing’s going to take them away without one heck of a battle!
We’ve gotten many cards, letters and support from so many of you as well as for my father, I can’t keep up responding to all. I’m relaying info on my Dad to about 30 of his friends for him as well as trying to keep up with our Cluster Family, so I’m behind all the time. (I’m sure many can relate.)
So, we’re still here, please understand why I can’t keep up with so much mail and support. If I could sleep at night, I’d have a hard time just keeping you all updated this much ;)
Thanks again for all your prayers and support, our thoughts and prayers are with all of you who are suffering CH, illnesses and other struggles as well.
God Bless,
Dave
:)

Title: Re: Sacrifices & Defiance!
Post by suzy617 on May 22^nd, 2004, 7:24am

Sounds like you have an awful lot to deal with lately. I hope you both remain strong and get past all this to find better days ahead.

Suzy

Title: Re: Sacrifices & Defiance!
Post by Woobie on May 22^nd, 2004, 8:52am

Well, it sounds to me like you have a great attitude, and with that ... you'll be fine. It's a lot to handle.. but you'll get thru it. Gotta do whatcha gotta do to live...

Wishing you and Annette all the strength you need to get thru it.. and keep that great attitude!!!

tina :-*

Title: Re: Sacrifices & Defiance!
Post by Luke63 on May 22^nd, 2004, 8:58am

Keep the faith and stay strong Dave. We're here for you.
Prayers and Vibes. Luke

Title: Re: Sacrifices & Defiance!
Post by helpless23 on May 22^nd, 2004, 9:10am

Someone once told me that "God will never give you more than you can handle", and no matter HOW HARD it is to believe at the time, it all works out in the end.

I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

Much Love,
Toni

Title: Re: Sacrifices & Defiance!
Post by Elaine on May 22^nd, 2004, 9:14am

You and Annetta will find as Buddy and I did, Faith and Love will get ya through.
I take my troubles write them down and I place them in my bible as the trouble goes away I know God asnswered . As my troubles go away and they always seem to I take them from my bible and place them in a big box in my closet . When I get down I go read them and I see a brighter day ahead cause I know I don't walk alone. :)
It will all work out!
Big hug

Title: Re: Sacrifices & Defiance!
Post by miapet on May 22^nd, 2004, 9:22am

Sounds as if you have a lot on your plate right now . . .but it also sounds as if you are dealing with them . . .one x one . . . it's good that the two of you are strong and able to work on things together *s*
*positive light and energy*
miapet

Title: Re: Sacrifices & Defiance!
Post by Cerberus on May 22^nd, 2004, 11:36am

DAMN.....I'm getting sick of hearing bad news.

I sooo hope the waters part for you and Annette soon.
Peace and prosperity,
Ramon

Title: Re: Sacrifices & Defiance!
Post by 9erfan on May 22^nd, 2004, 9:07pm

Dave,

I know that you & Annette will get through this with God's help. Just keep the faith, and put it in His hands. You are always in my prayers. Thank you for updating us, I think of you often.

God bless you & Annette,
Virginia

Title: Re: Sacrifices & Defiance!
Post by Edna on May 23^rd, 2004, 1:22am

Dave, with your positive attitude ( no matter how rough it gets)....and your deep faith, I know you'll pull through.

God is there with you, make sure you keep him close.

Thanks for the update, and many prayers going out that way for you and Annette both.

hugs,
EDNA

Title: Re: Sacrifices & Defiance!
Post by BobG on May 23^rd, 2004, 3:43am

Dave and Annette, stay tough. You can make it. You have to, it's the only choice you get.

Title: Re: Sacrifices & Defiance!
Post by Giovanni on May 23^rd, 2004, 4:43am

Hi Dave,

You two are tremendously strong people with great attitudes--an inspiration to me.

I will keep you in my thoughts and send the biggest VIBES I can muster.

Highest Regards,

John

Title: Re: Sacrifices & Defiance!
Post by Mastifflvr28 on May 23^rd, 2004, 5:27pm

STAY HARD Dave and Annette!!!
Dave, don't work yourself too hard, you don't need any broken bones too!!
Take care, these things WILL work out,
Mast

Title: Re: Sacrifices & Defiance!
Post by Charlie on May 24^th, 2004, 3:22am

An amazing attitude folks. All I can say is that after all this, you gotta be in line for one big effen break.

Best wishes and I wish I had something more to offer.

Charlie