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Title: Guess today is my day to blow up..... Post by BarbaraD on Sep 23rd, 2003, 10:56pm Just got in from the ER. Had to take hubby over there in an ambulance - he went out on me (again - about a once a month thing). Well Dr. Idiot comes in - I give him hubby's history and what we need done. Hubby is "out of it". Doesn't even know where he is or who he is for that matter. Dr. Idiot sends a nurse in to tell me he wants to do a spinal tap. I say "no' he just had one a month ago and it was neg. so let's not do another one - they hurt and there's not a reason. Dr. Idiot then decides to just "release" hubby cause he can't find anything wrong. I BLEW! I was at about a 5 on the Kip Scale about that time and when I heard that, I just went postal. The man couldn't even sit up without help, much less walk - what the hell was he going to do when we got home - sit in the car all night or fall on his face in the yard? I told Dr. Idiot to either admit him and do something for him or get a REAL doctor in there immediately or else he was going to have more trouble than he ever dreamed of having cause I had a cluster headache and he might ought to look up what the hell they were cause he was going to find out first hand. Now move his butt and get something done. Hubby was admitted 5 minutes later. Got him settled and got the paperwork out of the way - kissed him goodnight and told the nurse to take care of him I was going home to take something for my CH and left. Got home and took some cafagot. Am down to about a 2 now and still shaking all over. That Idiot Dr. I'm wondering WHERE the hell he got his medical license! What ever happened to the Dr. Kildaire's or the Marcus Welby's or even the Ben Casey's? Nowadays we get these little med school wonders who don't have enough sense to empty bedpans. They just want to run a bunch of tests. Ok, I'm going to bed now - think I'm easy enough to try to sleep a little while. My two hours sleep last night is about to run out and I need rest. Ya'll have a pain free night. C ya tomorrow. Hugs BD |
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Title: Re: Guess today is my day to blow up..... Post by Patrick_A on Sep 23rd, 2003, 11:00pm Hugs for you Barbara, and a huge thanks for all people who care for others! Patrick |
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Title: Re: Guess today is my day to blow up..... Post by Woobie on Sep 23rd, 2003, 11:34pm Hi - i musta missed sumthin - agin...... but I hope your husband is better. and you get a good Dr to help you Hope your beast goes away and lets you get a good night's sleep = sounds like you need it. Sorry you had to go thru that. tina |
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Title: she blowd up good Post by rumplestiltskin on Sep 23rd, 2003, 11:40pm Barb Shelter from the storm. from me to you Does it look like it's gonna be OK....HELL NO Is it gonna be OK....hell yes Walk in the sunshine den |
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Title: Re: Guess today is my day to blow up..... Post by Svenn on Sep 23rd, 2003, 11:45pm Hi Barbara Just hate it when i hear about those things.Yess you can wonder where they got their medical licence sometimes.Some are ignorant bastards acting like "king`s" >:( >:( >:( All the wibes are on the way to you and your hubby The very best from Svenn |
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Title: Re: Guess today is my day to blow up..... Post by TxBasslady on Sep 24th, 2003, 1:41am :( :( Awww, Barbara.........that's 2 bad days in a row for you.... Hope you can get some rest. If you need me, I can be there in a couple of hours :) Let me know, sweetie.........281-360-1153. Sending you lotz of love and pf vibes thru the piney woods of E. Tx. Jean |
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Title: Re: Guess today is my day to blow up..... Post by Mastifflvr28 on Sep 24th, 2003, 2:43am BETTER DAY VIBES going up to you Barb...wow, been through a lot lately. Try to take care, Mast |
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Title: Re: Guess today is my day to blow up..... Post by OneEyeBlind on Sep 24th, 2003, 4:58am Good vibes coming your way for you and your husand Barb. Vent all you want. It's tough being a care giver especially when there is no end in sight !!!!!!! Keep the faith. I'm praying for an angel to help you keep an eye on that husband of yours ! |
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Title: Re: Guess today is my day to blow up..... Post by badfly on Sep 24th, 2003, 6:34am Shhheeeezzz! Really sorry you getting hit so bad, and havin to deal with incompetents at the pharmacy, the hospital, well just about everywhere I guess. You sound like a really GOOD person with unbelievable integrity. I can see by your reactions the strain you are under. Mega Vibes going out to you from me and myself (I am beside myself). PS: No probs about the USA thing, I was just being my nit picky liberal, lefty, pinko self lol. PPS: Hows the hubby doing? Its really BIG of you taking him under your wing like that. |
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Title: Re: Guess today is my day to blow up..... Post by Donna on Sep 24th, 2003, 6:43am I've had the pleasure of meeting this lady and believe me she's one strong person. It's gotta be bad for her right now........so let's all say a prayer or send vibes for Barb and her hubby...pronto! Love ya Barb. |
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Title: Re: Guess today is my day to blow up..... Post by Melissa on Sep 24th, 2003, 7:21am on 09/24/03 at 06:43:26, Donna wrote:
I echo what Donna said. Barb is one amazing, tough, kick ass lady! Always on the go, always ready to help you, and very dedicated! Barb, my thoughts are with you. Sending some of my strength and patience your way~~~~> With stupid docs, all the extra you can get helps! ;) love you, :)mel |
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Title: Re: Guess today is my day to blow up..... Post by Miss_Deleny on Sep 24th, 2003, 7:29am Sending PF vibes to you and hoping a "REAL" Doc takes good care of your husband and finds out what is going on with him. ~April~ |
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Title: Re: Guess today is my day to blow up..... Post by Prense on Sep 24th, 2003, 7:43am Barb, hang in there! Vibes for you and your hubby are on the way! Keep us posted... Chris |
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Title: Re: Guess today is my day to blow up..... Post by don on Sep 24th, 2003, 8:23am Quote:
YOU ARE MY HEROE! (Dont let go to your head though, so is Sponge Bob Squarepants) |
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Title: Re: Guess today is my day to blow up..... Post by Margi on Sep 24th, 2003, 8:35am :( So sorry to hear you're on a bumpy road right now, Barb. BIG hugs. You have a son, right? Can he help with Dad's care? You need to fortify your support network - you're spreading yourself pretty thin and that sure isn't helping you battle the beast. Send your Superwoman's cape to the drycleaners for a coupla days, lady, and enlist some helpers. Are we clear on this, Crystal? |
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Title: Re: Guess today is my day to blow up..... Post by Prense on Sep 24th, 2003, 8:51am on 09/24/03 at 08:35:18, Margi wrote:
C R Y S T A L LMAO! ;D |
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Title: Re: Guess today is my day to blow up..... Post by taraann on Sep 24th, 2003, 9:20am Hang in there barb....one of my favorites sayings that I believe is sooo true "It's always darkest before the dawn." PF and Stress Free vibes to you! |
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Title: Re: Guess today is my day to blow up..... Post by Cerberus on Sep 24th, 2003, 10:03am Barb, Gotta love the "God" complex.......kinda nice to be able to bring em back to earth with something they know nothing about tho. All my best (And Woobie's) to you both.... nothin but love, Ramon |
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Title: Re: Guess today is my day to blow up..... Post by BarbaraD on Sep 24th, 2003, 10:17am Margi don't even get me started on Son. The only redeeming quality he has is that he gave me MY grandson Caleb (21 months old and Granny's shinning light and the MOST wonderful grandchild ever born in case you were wondering - the girls at McDonald's just LOVE seeing his latest pics LOL!). HE WORKS 8 hours a day and is TIRED! No help there. Hubby sounded better this morning. He's still running a temp so he needs a couple of days of antibiotics, but maybe his "regular" doc will see the wisdom of listening to me. I've got a call into his office now. He's usually pretty good about doing what I tell him. He's young, but I told him to stick around and I'd get him broken in right. I think my "old" doc talked to him and told him to listen to me. What really gets to me is these docs see a patient for 10 or 15 minutes and think they "know" everything. The patient's family lives with them 24/7 and sees this stuff all the time. Now weigh both sides and SEE which one would know what is BEST for the patient. DUH? Why the hell can't the docs see this? Why can't they LISTEN? Are they still teaching GOD 101 in med school? I'm for going back to the horse and buggy days when the "family doc" KNEW his patients and KNEW what they needed without all the modern tests (yeah yeah some of them are good, but some of them are a waste of time and money). The days when ONE doc treated a WHOLE person and not just PARTS. We had specialists back then, but not as many and we didn't go to them unless we really needed them. And we did a whole lot better healthwise - and it was a whole lot cheaper on us and the insurance companies. Of course that was BEFORE the damn government got into the act. Ok, I've vented... My Congressman and Senator are tired of hearing this so ...... Hugs BD |
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Title: Re: Guess today is my day to blow up..... Post by Zonie on Sep 24th, 2003, 10:38am on 09/24/03 at 09:20:38, taraann wrote:
And one of my favorite quotes is "Kites fly highest "against" the wind. Sounds to me like you're flying pretty high right now....against a strong headwind. Sounds as if you can hold your own, toe to toe with anyone. And that's what it takes to get the kind of care that anyone deserves. I know, I went through it with my mother and my sister (both now deceased).....it's like pulling teeth to get anything done. And the ER doctors could care less. I really feel for all of our elderly patients who are left with no one to see that they are getting proper care. Anyway, I'm glad that you're feeling a little better and hope that things improve for both of you. You're in our thoughts and prayers. Keep soaring (like the kite). |
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Title: Re: Guess today is my day to blow up..... Post by Cerberus on Sep 24th, 2003, 10:41am Barb, Unfortunately, Hospitals and Private practices alike are controlled by office politics. the A.M.A has for a while now been trying to limit the amount of hours Docs have to work ( In the name of patient safety) and recommend certain Time limits to maximize productivity........the sad part is we the patients are cought in the limbo between proper examination and treatment, and the inevitable "time is money" theory. Therefore you get much more blanket diagnoses, fewer tests, and general treatments for things like pain, infections, etc. The greatest portion of patients coming to practices and hospitals are Trauma , and general illnesses...flu, colds, etc. so the few of us cluster folk kinda get weeded out and hence "Its just a Headache" anymore it seems that if it isn't a risk of death its not worth much time. the last part is just my opinion. Ramon |
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Title: Re: Guess today is my day to blow up..... Post by cootie on Sep 24th, 2003, 11:31am Hope hubby is ok now Barb......what did they say was wrong or caused what happen'd ? Sorry if I missed sumthin earlier to of explained it. Pam that hopes he is a-ok |
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Title: Re: Guess today is my day to blow up..... Post by BarbaraD on Sep 24th, 2003, 2:58pm We really don't know what's wrong with him. His electrolytes just bottom out every so often and he runs fever and goes "out" on me. His hemoglobin drops to nothing and he gets "broke". We take him into ER, get him some saline and some rocephlin and he stays in the hospital a few days and he's fixed for a while. They've run every kind of test imaginable on him and can't find out WHY, but it keeps happening and we keep doing the same thing to make it better. He has altzheimers and a lot of other things wrong also, but this mess is just a pain in the rear. He'll be fine and then boom! 9-1-1 time. Heck I took him in one time (we'd been on the Interstate and had a flat when he went "out"on me - a nice policeman fixed the flat so we could get to ER). The doc asked me what was wrong. I looked at him and said, "He's BROKE - FIX him!" We actually got some stuff done that time. But I agree - if you're sick and don't have someone there fighting for you - you're not going to get anything done. It's not right but it's the way it is. In ER you get the "luck of the draw" and start from square one every time. We've been in about once a month and haven't seen the same ER doc twice. When I tell them to call his regular doc, they give me some cock and bull story. I have called him myself and told him to get his rear down there and get the ER doc out of there at times. They don't show much respect and neither do I. I feel like they need to EARN respect. But I'm a bitch - what do I know. Anyhow, if any of you go to ER, don't let them push you around. YOU HAVE RIGHTS. Just read that little thingy they have posted on the wall. IT's very interesting. They even have a 1-800 number to call in case you don't think you've been treated with proper respect and courtesy. I have been known to quote it to them. (I really don't think very many people read things on the wall in ERs). They get a lot nicer when you start quoting to them. TODAY THE ERS --- TOMORROW THE INSURANCE COMPANIES............. Hugs BD |
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Title: Re: Guess today is my day to blow up..... Post by nancyc on Sep 24th, 2003, 8:21pm Dont get me started on the ER...I hate the place...compassionate nurses and doctors there? DUH...anyway, hang in there , sis...and know you have a life line out here in clusterville..smiles, nancyc |
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Title: Re: Guess today is my day to blow up..... Post by Ree on Sep 24th, 2003, 11:20pm God Bless Barb D...... we're going through the same stuff with Daves mom... oh boy... ain't easy is it... she called the other day to ask who booked her into the hotel she was in... Everyday is like the movie Ground Hog Day with her... she repeats and repeats and sometimes within a few seconds of the first time. It totally breaks my heart, to see her changing right before our very eyes and this lady was a pistol in her day. You are a complete angel and that man was lucky to have you in his life. How many other people would be as diligent as you to be sure he has the proper treatment... I wish I was there to give you a great big hug and kiss... you are truly a woman to admire...love ya lady and glad to see ya back ree |
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Title: Re: Guess today is my day to blow up..... Post by BobG on Sep 25th, 2003, 3:53am Barbara, So sorry to read the troubles that are visiting you. Prayers being sent from our house to yours that the troubles will pack up and go home soon (hoping for today). |
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Title: Re: Guess today is my day to blow up..... Post by Dave_Emond on Sep 25th, 2003, 4:26am Hi Barb, I know exactly where you're coming from. I recently had almost the same thing happen in an ER. This arrogant "idiot" so called doctor treated me as if I was a junkie or something. He came in mad, probably was woken up or pulled from a movie, but he took it out on me while I was helpless. I went into that on another post, so will spare all the details, but I'm not finished with this "doctor" yet. Since it was obvious he too thought of himself as a know it all who had no time for a fool like me, he's going to find it. I've written a letter to the CEO of the hospital, demanding a complaint be placed on his record, he is formally disciplined and MUST write a personal letter of apology to myself for his actions. If I do not believe the letter to be sincere, I will report the incident to JACHO and request a full investigation of the hospital practices. They have 14 days to respond. This will hit this "doctor" where it hurts ... his ego. By his attitude alone, I know he will feel as humiliated as I did. I thought about letting it go, but then again, if I did, how many others has he treated this way and how many more in the future? I've heard many stories like ours before, we need to stop these things right away. While on the former OUCH Liaison Committee, I made up some information forms to bring to the ER's, they have to be redone a bit as I borrowed one area from another source, who in turn gave me permission to use it, but the web host has not yet agreed to allow it. But, we'll get that fixed and get that form up on the OUCH site soon. I've found I now have some unexpected time on my hands, so I can work on that again now. We met in Las Vegas, I'm surprised that "idiot" didn't need a bed of his own if you were after him ;) Dave |
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Title: Re: Guess today is my day to blow up..... Post by BarbaraD on Sep 25th, 2003, 6:09am That's something we shouldn't have to take - get the forms up - we all need them. I'm serious. Patients ahve rights. Those little signs say so! I don't mind filling out paperwork if it will straighten out this mess with docs thinking they are god. REminds me of one of my clients - he's an attorney. He had a "little" trouble with the IRS. We were discussing his case and he started telling me how to handle it (IRS 101 from law school back about 40 years ago). I let him talk then asked him, "If you were representing me in court, would you let me get up and talk to the judge?" He started listening to me after that. That's what docs should do LISTEN to their patients and their families. GIve advic (if they know what they're talking about), but they need to LISTEN! MY neuro says if he listens to his patients long enough they'll tell him what's wrong and if he listens a little longer they'll tell him what to do about it. I respect him! Oh well, we've got our work cut out for us. Hugs BD |
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