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(Message started by: SommelierCH on Jun 25^th, 2003, 1:41pm)

Title: (Non CH) My high school buddy committed suicide
Post by SommelierCH on Jun 25^th, 2003, 1:41pm

I know it’s goofy to post this, because none of you knew him, but where else am I going to go when I’m crying?

There were three of us, during High School: Gary, Jon and me. None of us had heard from Gary in 8 years, when this picture page was posted on our H.S. Alumni web site, in 2000.

http://www.speedmedia.net/ths74photos/davidjonesandfriends.htm

Jon was the one that told me about Gary’s death, and he wrote this obituary, today for the Alumni web site.

http://www.hostville.com/ths74/msg_brd1.cfm?id=6716&top=6721

Thank you all. I just thought I should do something to pay homage to my friend….so, I told my family.

David J.

Title: Re: (Non CH) My high school buddy committed suicid
Post by ave on Jun 25^th, 2003, 1:44pm

David, yes, where else could you go?

I know just how you feel today.

Just this monday I was at the funeral of a friend who tookhis own life, only 43.

A great many friends and the little family he had, all trying to comfort each other.

It is hard.

Title: Re: (Non CH) My high school buddy committed suicid
Post by cootie on Jun 25^th, 2003, 1:51pm

Sorry ta hear it David......we helped friends plan a benifiet poker run for a friend that was in alot of pain and in debt....the friend even called us last year to git us to help arrange it to help him out and get everyne tagether....he killed himself 4 days b-4 the run....we went ahead and went.....I won best hand (royal flush)....lots of great door prizes. But.......sumthin was missing that nite. Strange he did it when he did...was that part of his plan I keep wondering ? Shit happens Pam

Title: Re: (Non CH) My high school buddy committed suicid
Post by Margi on Jun 25^th, 2003, 1:53pm

David, AND Ave - I'm so sorry for your loss(es).

Suicide never makes sense and it leaves us with so many questions. I'm praying for his soul and for his survivors. I hope you and your friends find some solace in the fact that he is out of his pain now.

Peace be with him, David, and also with you. Same to you, Annemarie - I'm so sorry to hear your very tragic news. :'(

p.s. what a beautiful tribute article to your friend, David - that debate that they judged at was such an incredible opportunity for them! Doesn't He work in wonderful ways? :)

Title: Re: (Non CH) My high school buddy committed suicid
Post by catlind on Jun 25^th, 2003, 1:57pm

David, you have my condolences. Of course you should post it here, this is family, and when one of us is hurting, the rest of us are here to give strength and support and offer hugs.

Cat

Title: Re: (Non CH) My high school buddy committed suicid
Post by cathy on Jun 25^th, 2003, 2:03pm

David J....sorry to hear about your friend.... :'(

Cathy

Title: Re: (Non CH) My high school buddy committed suicid
Post by Linda_Howell on Jun 25^th, 2003, 2:04pm

David,

Your friend Jon is very eloquent. That brought tears to my eyes and I didn't even know him. There's no way we can ever know why someone feels so hopeless that this is their only option.

I hope you can find some peace with this, and that you think back on all the happy memories, and not the bad ones.

LindaH

Title: Re: (Non CH) My high school buddy committed suicid
Post by CathiP on Jun 25^th, 2003, 2:12pm

David-
So painful......such touching words, I am sorry for your loss. It really makes no sense, but of course, your friend is out of his pain......and you're left with a hole in your life.
My sympathies to you.
Check your pm's-
Cathi

Title: Re: (Non CH) My high school buddy committed suicid
Post by suzy617 on Jun 25^th, 2003, 2:15pm

Dear David,
So very sorry about your friend. My thoughts are with you today.

Suzy

Title: Re: (Non CH) My high school buddy committed suicid
Post by cbolony on Jun 25^th, 2003, 2:46pm

SommelierCH sorry to hear about your friend

Title: Re: (Non CH) My high school buddy committed suicid
Post by jonny on Jun 25^th, 2003, 3:01pm

Sorry to hear this Bro.

I know exactly how you feel.

...........................jonny :'(

Title: Re: (Non CH) My high school buddy committed suicid
Post by ZAIRA on Jun 25^th, 2003, 3:04pm

David :'(, I have the tears in my eyes, accept my condolence, we will pray for you, God Bless your friend and you too... Zaira

Title: Re: (Non CH) My high school buddy committed suicid
Post by KingOfPain on Jun 25^th, 2003, 3:14pm

David,

I am humbled that you would lean on us in this time of grief.

I am so sorry you lost your friend.

You have my condolences.

*ave & cootie,

Sorry for your loss also.

My condolences to you both.

KingOfPain

Title: Re: (Non CH) My high school buddy committed suicid
Post by Live4Fun on Jun 25^th, 2003, 7:11pm

David,

I am so sorry to hear about your loss. Please remember that we will always be here for you in your time of grief.

Prayers and vibes to you and to Gary's family,

Bryan :-[

Title: Re: (Non CH) My high school buddy committed suicid
Post by Roxy on Jun 25^th, 2003, 7:22pm

David,

I am so sorry for your loss. It is never easy losing a friend, it leaves an unfillable hole in your life. My thoughts are with you.

Tracey

Title: Re: (Non CH) My high school buddy committed suicid
Post by Charlie on Jun 25^th, 2003, 8:21pm

Damn sorry about your friend.

I know a bit about suicide. It hits hard and it takes awhile.....

Nice little tribute, by the way. I liked reading it.

Take care and feel free to come here. We'll let you stay.

Charlie

Title: Re: (Non CH) My high school buddy committed suicid
Post by 9erfan on Jun 25^th, 2003, 8:26pm

David,

I'm so sorry that you are having a such a tough year. :'(

You're in my prayers.

Virginia

Title: Re: (Non CH) My high school buddy committed suicid
Post by Jackie on Jun 25^th, 2003, 8:27pm

David,
Sad news...I'm very sorry. Had a similar experience a few years back...it doesn't feel good.

Jacks 8)

Title: Re: (Non CH) My high school buddy committed suicid
Post by Opus on Jun 25^th, 2003, 8:33pm

:'(

Title: Re: (Non CH) My high school buddy committed suicid
Post by Edna on Jun 25^th, 2003, 10:30pm

David J my deepest sympathy at your loss.

May your friend find peace.

I'm honored to know that you would lean on us at such a time, but then that's what we're here for.

Though there is nothing we can physically do for you right now, I hope knowing that we share in your grief helps to console you.

EDNA

Title: Re: (Non CH) My high school buddy committed suicid
Post by FrankF on Jun 25^th, 2003, 10:39pm

David, I'm sorry about your friend.

My wife's brother did the same thing four years ago. No warning signs that anyone recognized; he just decided to check out.

Title: Re: (Non CH) My high school buddy committed suicid
Post by Ree on Jun 25^th, 2003, 11:02pm

So sorry David J... we are still recooperating from a recent suicide... my daughters friend's Dad... We spent the day with her today and there is a missing spark that used to be in this little 9 year old personality...He is greatly misses as will be that spark that he selfishly took away from her...

Suicide is just senseless... love ya and so sorry Ree

Title: Re: (Non CH) My high school buddy committed suicid
Post by Big_Dan on Jun 26^th, 2003, 8:53am

... I'm truly sorry to hear about your loss... :-[

... God be with you and your families...

-Big Dan

Title: Re: (Non CH) My high school buddy committed suicid
Post by TomM on Jun 26^th, 2003, 9:22am

DavidJ

I am sorry for your loss. Friendships are fragle pieces of glass mixed into our hectic lives and sometimes are broken by mis mangement. You are not to fault. Jon's article brought tears to my eyes. :'(

May Gary finally have a perpetual wind at his back, a full rainbow colored spinnaker, and an eternal following sea.

TomM

Title: Re: (Non CH) My high school buddy committed suicid
Post by maggie_may on Jun 26^th, 2003, 10:36am

Sorry to hear about your friend. I hope that he has finally found peace. My condolences to you.

maggie

Title: Re: (Non CH) My high school buddy committed suicid
Post by SommelierCH on Jun 26^th, 2003, 8:10pm

As I grew older (and older), I found my self setting up emotional defenses to deal with, broken relationships, money problems, job hassles and of course these damn Clusters. At times I felt like I was emotionally bankrupt. Then I came here.

I have cried more with you people than I have watching Oprah! No one can participate here and remain emotionally isolated. Your power transcends that.

I am not a stranger to death. I have lost both my parents, my grandparents, uncles, 10 great-aunts and uncles, in fact my brother and I are pretty much the last ones standing. But, this one is so very, very tough. It is like part of me had succumbed. I feel so weak and vulnerable. Thank god, I’m not in cycle!

But, then I come here, and get recharged with the joy of life.

Thank you all, thank you so very, very much.

Last train to Clarksville,

David Jones

P.S. My thoughts on Gary:

http://www.hostville.com/ths74/msg_brd1.cfm?id=6725&top=6732

Title: Re: (Non CH) My high school buddy committed suicid
Post by Leesa on Jun 27^th, 2003, 8:39am

DavidJ Im sorry for your loss. :'( I know the feeling all too well my friend. I lost my mother when I was 12, a wonderful and dear friend from high school in 1987, and most recent a cousin last month. As well as many others. My thoughts are with you and the family and friends left behind. They will be missed very much.
Keeping memories of those lost alive,
Leesa

PS: I love and miss you Mom!! :'(

Title: Re: (Non CH) My high school buddy committed suicid
Post by ShariRae on Jun 27^th, 2003, 9:15am

David,
I know your heart is heavy with sorrow right now, but memories of your friend & the times you shared will soon outweigh the hurt. Savor those memories my friend.
Huggs
Shari

Title: Re: (Non CH) My high school buddy committed suicid
Post by BruceD on Jun 27^th, 2003, 9:47am

David,

I am so sorry to hear of your friend's death. Unfortunately suicide only seems to make sense to those who actually choose to do it. It leaves the survivors at a loss for words, with emotional emptiness, and a need to rationalize and understand it. Take solace in remembering your good times with Gary and don’t get mired with trying to legitimize his choice – that will only lead to emptiness. I feel your pain, have been through that myself, and pray that you’ll find peace.

Take care
BruceD