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(Message started by: TerryS on Jun 6^th, 2003, 12:00pm)

Title: Family
Post by TerryS on Jun 6^th, 2003, 12:00pm

F A M I L Y - June 5, 2003

I ran into a stranger as he passed by,
"Oh excuse me please" was my reply.
He said, "Please excuse me too;
I wasn't watching for you."
We were very polite, this stranger and I.
We went on our way and we said good-bye.
But at home a different story is told,
How we treat our loved ones, young and old.
Later that day, cooking the evening meal,
My son stood beside me very still.
When I turned, I nearly knocked him down.
"Move out of the way," I said with a frown.
He walked away, his little heart broken.
I didn't realize how harshly I'd spoken.
While I lay awake in bed,
God's still small voice came to me and said,
"While dealing with a stranger, common courtesy you
use, but the children you love, you seem to abuse.
Go and look on the kitchen floor,
You'll find some flowers there by the door.
Those are the flowers he brought for you.
He picked them himself: pink, yellow and blue.
He stood very quietly not to spoil the surprise,
you never saw the tears that filled his little eyes."
By this time, I felt very small,
And now my tears began to fall.
I quietly went and knelt by his bed;
"Wake up, little one, wake up," I said.
"Are these the flowers you picked for me?"
He smiled, "I found 'em, out by the tree.
I picked 'em because they're pretty like you.
I knew you'd like 'em, especially the blue."
I said, "Son, I'm very sorry for the way I acted today;
I shouldn't have yelled at you that way."
He said, "Oh, Mom, that's okay.
I love you anyway."
I said, "Son, I love you too,
and I do like the flowers, especially the blue."

FAMILY

Are you aware that if we died tomorrow, the
company that we are working
for could easily replace us in a matter of
days. But the family we left behind will feel the loss for
the rest of their lives.
And come to think of it, we pour ourselves more into work
than into our own family, an
unwise investment indeed, don't you think?
So what is behind the story?
Do you know what the word FAMILY means?

FAMILY = (F)ATHER (A)ND (M)OTHER (I) (L)OVE
(Y)OU

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Title: Re: Family
Post by CJohnson on Jun 6^th, 2003, 12:19pm

I'll be back in a minute, I've got something in my eye. -sniff,sniff-

PFDANs
-Curtis

Title: Re: Family
Post by catlind on Jun 6^th, 2003, 6:16pm

me too, must be a piece of dirt in my eye..... :'(

Cat

Title: Re: Family
Post by jonny on Jun 6^th, 2003, 6:23pm

Terry,

That is why I started calling this a "Family" and not a damn messageboard.

I hope everyone can agree that this is more than just some jamokes with head pain.

IF YOUR NOT FAMILY YOUR NOT SHIT!!!!

............................jonny

Title: Re: Family
Post by paul_b on Jun 6^th, 2003, 6:34pm

Nice post. Good reminder for us all. Jonny, did you mean if we are shit, then we are family? ;D

Title: Re: Family
Post by suzy617 on Jun 6^th, 2003, 6:43pm

Must be windy in here with everyone getting dirt in their eyes...
Thanks Terry!

suzy

Title: Re: Family
Post by jimbo on Jun 6^th, 2003, 6:46pm

jonny............

I couldn't agree more.

And Terry,

Thanx for reminding me what we all should already know!

Gotta go wipe my eyes :'(

Seeya,

Jimbo

Title: Re: Family
Post by cerebus on Jun 6^th, 2003, 7:43pm

touche'

Ramon

Title: Re: Family
Post by Jill on Jun 6^th, 2003, 8:26pm

I havent been around much lately but when I saw this thread, well, I had to post.

I just lost my dad very suddenly, as you know, and there so many things that were left unsaid between us. You never know what tomorrow might bring, so now is the chance to tell all of your loved ones what they mean to you.

Family is the most important thing that you can have in your life and when you lose a member it creates a hole in your heart that is so great and a source of pain that is hard to overcome.

This is a good example (thanks TerryS) of what we need to do. I wish I had called dad when my instinct told me to but instead I figured that I could call on Sunday and he would be there - he wasnt (he died on Saturday night).

I guess that that is all. I dont want anyone to have some of the regrets that I have about not expressing what needed to be said enough - so go hug those loved ones now just because.

Jill

Title: Re: Family
Post by Mark C on Jun 6^th, 2003, 8:40pm

:'(

Title: Re: Family
Post by Ree on Jun 6^th, 2003, 8:55pm

It is so sad that we have to learn the hard way. We should validate every relationship with each person in our lives... I learned this lesson young... so did Dave and now Breezy's friend (she just lost her dad May 4th to suicide) is finding out... everyday she calls to say I found something that my dad gave me or my dad has been gone for X amount of days and its just so sad... that little girl will grow up forever knowing this hard lesson.
I know when I leave my friends that they know I love them genuinely and they know that I believe in the afterlife and will be ok til I see them again, should anything happen to me. I hope you all know how I feel about my family here. yes it is a family... love to you Ree

Title: Re: Family
Post by ShariRae on Jun 6^th, 2003, 9:35pm

well said..it is a shame that life gets in the way of whats REALLY important...slow down..take a breath..and tell those you love how much they mean to you....
pssstttt.. I LOVE YOU GUYS & GALS :)
Hugssss
Shari

Title: Re: Family
Post by Mastifflvr28 on Jun 6^th, 2003, 9:46pm

OH MAN!!
You made me get out of chat and hug my kid...had to quit telling him to GET OUT, I'M CHATTING! :)

dirt in eyes here too.

Love my family, both of em
Mast

Title: Re: Family
Post by cootie on Jun 6^th, 2003, 10:30pm

Yeah.....an old friend just killed himself Tues. nite....he hung himself....less then one week before the big party and poker run in his honor to help with his medical bills ! The party will go on but now to help his family pay for his funeral. He'd called us twice this past year and we never did get back to him.....it's really bothering me. Yup.....jus got some dirt in my eyes too.....sheesh. Tear jerker Pam

Title: Re: Family
Post by Jill on Jun 7^th, 2003, 9:36am

There is something about this thread that is captivating to me - maybe because of my recent loss or maybe because of its important.

Reminds me of the saying "Dont forget to smell the roses" or something like that.

I have learned through everything that each moment in life is what matters most because you never know when that 'last moment' may come. I guess that I have said before but still....

It is pouring here in Maryland today and it makes me think that dad is crying with me right now. Maybe that is fullish but I dont really care - just my idea.

I went through some of his things today and it makes me wonder why someone like him had to be taken out of this world - people who can make the saddest, meanest, any type of person smile. It just doesnt make sense and there are very few people like him - who have that ability, one that mesmorizes me.

Anyways - I have rambled enough for now so I will end. I love this thread - like I said before family is the most important thing in life, no matter what kind of family it is.

Jill

Title: Re: Family
Post by brain_cramps on Jun 7^th, 2003, 11:51am

Jill

After reading your post last nite, I called my parents (for the 3rd time in a day). After almost losing my dad to cancer last year, I've made sure that there has always been an open line of communication with him and my mom. Leaving something 'unsaid' is a scary thought and I'm not going to let that happen. I'm glad I got a second chance - I wish everyone did. :'(

grant :-*

Pam

I know what you're going thru. I've lost more than a couple of pals to suicide >:( :'(.
(you can't blame yourself)

Thx for the eye-opener Terry (need that kick in the ass every now and then),
grant 8)

Title: Re: Family
Post by Jill on Jun 7^th, 2003, 5:56pm

Grant,

I am glad that that post had some impact on someone somewhere. I hope that it helped more people than I realize because what I said, I think, was important.

I have had a hard today dealing with it all - when people say that each day is supposed to get easier, to me they get that much harder. I think because I am living in this world where he is not really gone - a false reality.

Anyways, I had a point to this but I always seem to ramble and I forget what I want to say....

Oh....We always want, when we lose someone, that last hug or that last time when they will hold our hands. This is especially true when we lose them quickly and suddenly - that I have learned the hard way. But we will always want that 'last hug' - always.

Another moral - take the chance, the moment, the opportunity and talk to family, call a long distance friend - something to benefit both you and them...

That is all that I will post - I promise - about this.

Jill

Title: Re: Family
Post by nancyc on Jun 7^th, 2003, 9:12pm

Oh, sis, wish you were here so I could give you a big hug...my son lost his dad suddenly rite before Father's Day last year...and he is having so much trouble dealing with it..he keeps wanting to tell him he loves him one more time...my son is still in Kentucky..he was deployed..so I can relate to the feelings you are having , Jill...hang in there and know you are loved by your family here, sis...smiles, nancyc ps thanks Terry S for reminding us of this precious thing called Family!

Title: a call to action
Post by rumplestiltskin on Jun 8^th, 2003, 9:26am

Coming from Terry...i tried ignoring this...I accidentally opened this thread. Puter froze and I had to read it.

I'm remarrying. Meeting the folks soon. Gittin a whole new "family" to not call enough, not get to know well enough, and not care if they disapprove of me.

If I'm nice to them...it's all yer fault

Walk in the sunshine
den

Title: Re: Family
Post by katethecelt on Jun 8^th, 2003, 7:29pm

Thanks Terry!

My hubby couldn't figure out why I was crying and kissing him at the same time. That's o.k. - he knows I love him & am a little crazy, LOL.

And Jonny is right....I love this Family.

Hugs to you,
Kate

Title: Re: Family
Post by OneEyeBlind on Jun 8^th, 2003, 8:07pm

I just got back from my family reunion. Read this before I left ......... kissed every last one of those buggers !!!!!!!!!!!! All 137 of em !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Nancy who loves family.