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(Message started by: suzy617 on Apr 26^th, 2003, 5:54pm)

Title: Can You Please Say A Prayer For My Mom?
Post by suzy617 on Apr 26^th, 2003, 5:54pm

I know how all the good vibes and prayers have helped others in here and I'm asking if you do pray that you will say a little prayer for my mom. If you dont pray, please send some good vibes.
My mom has been in a nursing home for a couple of years going downhill. She suffers from dementia, she is 75 yrs. old. Today she suffered a stroke and went into seizures and my brother and I had to make a decision to not to resusitate. I do not think she could ever get better but I just want her to be in peace. I cry when I think of the woman she once was and how she has to live now.
I thank you all. You are part of my family and I love you all.

Suzy

Title: Re: Can You Please Say A Prayer For My Mom?
Post by cathy on Apr 26^th, 2003, 6:01pm

:'( :'( :'(

Suzy Im so sorry you're having to cope with this right now, my thoughts, prayers and best vibes are with you!!

Cathy

Title: Re: Can You Please Say A Prayer For My Mom?
Post by jimbo on Apr 26^th, 2003, 6:03pm

Suzy,

Prayers and vibes on the way!

Peace,

Jimbo

Title: Re: Can You Please Say A Prayer For My Mom?
Post by arby on Apr 26^th, 2003, 6:07pm

Suzy
Sorry for your troubled time. Someone once said to me "there are things worse than death" I firmly believe this to be true. May your family find peace in your time of need
Ross

Title: Re: Can You Please Say A Prayer For My Mom?
Post by jonny on Apr 26^th, 2003, 6:15pm

Suz,

You know im not a prayer type of guy but for you and your Mom I will do my best.

You e-mail me if you want....Fuck that....781-985-6500 call

.....................................jonny

Title: Re: Can You Please Say A Prayer For My Mom?
Post by andy on Apr 26^th, 2003, 6:19pm

Suzy, Prayers and vibes are heading your way for your mom, and some for you too ...............andy

Title: Re: Can You Please Say A Prayer For My Mom?
Post by Woobie on Apr 26^th, 2003, 6:23pm

Suzy

Will be thinking about you and sending you strong vibes... Prayers for your mother...

So sorry :'(

Tina :-*

Title: Re: Can You Please Say A Prayer For My Mom?
Post by Not4Hire on Apr 26^th, 2003, 6:57pm

suzy...believe me when I say that I am truly sorry for this turn of events.... my ole MOMS is almost 80...thankfully, as sharp as a tack and cranky as a Model T.... but she's confined to her chair and get's by on the vodka and cigarettes I dole out to her..... this is not to make light of the pain you are in, but to say that *some* of the old farts don't go easy.... and anyway, we, as the *kids* can make their lives easier...
...well, it'll come back to us....when we're old 'n cranky......
godspeed....N4H

Title: Re: Can You Please Say A Prayer For My Mom?
Post by MKenney on Apr 26^th, 2003, 7:45pm

May there be a blessing of peace upon your house.

I have experienced your pain once, and I am afraid that the second round is not far in the future. Cannot do vibes, but I -can- send waves of empathy.

Miklos

Title: Re: Can You Please Say A Prayer For My Mom?
Post by Ree on Apr 26^th, 2003, 7:48pm

Oh Suzy I can relate to you in a huge way... Daves mom is the same age and is starting to show signs of dementia... You will make the right decision for your mom and know that there is freedom on the other side. God Bless you... Remember the mom she was and not the shell she is living in now... Love ya email or call if you need me... ree

Jonny you say you arent a prayer person yet you do Gods work everyday in all the little things (and big) you do for all of us here... Your life is a prayer... You are so good.

Title: Re: Can You Please Say A Prayer For My Mom?
Post by catlind on Apr 26^th, 2003, 8:06pm

Suzy,

:'( :'( :'( :'( :'( :'(

I'm so sorry for your grief right now :(

You've got all the vibes in my heart goin your way right now. Hang in there girl, you are a wonderful daughter.

Cat

Title: Re: Can You Please Say A Prayer For My Mom?
Post by Roxy on Apr 26^th, 2003, 8:15pm

Suzy, this is hard time for anyone to go through, and I am so sorry you are experiencing it now. I do know the sense of helplessness and grief you are feeling. My thoughts, hopes and prayers are with you in this. Sleep easy with the decision you have made, and remember the vital woman she once was. That is how she would want you to think of her.

Tracey

Title: Re: Can You Please Say A Prayer For My Mom?
Post by oringkid on Apr 26^th, 2003, 8:25pm

I wish I knew what to say, but I would agree with what Ree said. I know it hurts. But you have good memories and she guided you on the road to becoming the good person you are today. We all have to leave this life at some point and it sounds like she had an enriched life.

I don't pray, but, know that love, understanding and strength is being sent your way.

Sherry

Title: Re: Can You Please Say A Prayer For My Mom?
Post by Frank on Apr 26^th, 2003, 9:05pm

Good vibes going your mom's and your way! :'(

Title: Re: Can You Please Say A Prayer For My Mom?
Post by Charlie on Apr 26^th, 2003, 9:36pm

Damn. Ya never get a break. Sorry.

My thoughts are with ya

Charlie

Title: Re: Can You Please Say A Prayer For My Mom?
Post by Karla on Apr 26^th, 2003, 9:42pm

Suzy Ted and I will be praying for you, your mother and your family. You had to make a difficult desion today. Rest asured your mother is in a place of peace. The Bible tells us that we get glorified new bodies once we pass with white robes to wear. There is no sickness no dispair. Remember your mother as she was before she got ill because that is how she is now.

Title: Re: Can You Please Say A Prayer For My Mom?
Post by suzy617 on Apr 26^th, 2003, 9:48pm

I just want to thank each and everyone of you. When I read your posts I became overwhelmed to think that even though I have never met any of you in person, you have became a hugh part of my life.
Thanks for being here, I know I always have a place to come to when I need a cyber hug!
You are all very special to me and as I sit here and cry thinking of what once was in my life, I can also appreciate what I have now....my family.....
Suzy

Title: Re: Can You Please Say A Prayer For My Mom?
Post by eyes_afire on Apr 26^th, 2003, 10:09pm

Suzy,
I'll be thinking of you and your family during these troubled times.

Title: Re: Can You Please Say A Prayer For My Mom?
Post by Lenny on Apr 26^th, 2003, 11:09pm

Dear Suzy,
I am very sorry to hear of the situation :'( :'( :'( :'(. My thoughts and prayers to you and your family.

with sadness,
Lenny

Title: Re: Can You Please Say A Prayer For My Mom?
Post by Mark C on Apr 26^th, 2003, 11:13pm

Done.
:'(

Title: Re: Can You Please Say A Prayer For My Mom?
Post by DaveHar on Apr 27^th, 2003, 1:52am

From all of my family to yours

Good vibes and prayers. I'm sorry that you have to go through this. We wish your mother peace and comfert.

Dave, Leesa and Family

Title: Re: Can You Please Say A Prayer For My Mom?
Post by Callico_Kid on Apr 27^th, 2003, 2:31am

Suzy,

Consider it done. My family and I will be praying for you and your family at this time.
jc

Title: Re: Can You Please Say A Prayer For My Mom?
Post by firebrix on Apr 27^th, 2003, 3:56am

Good vibes coming your way suzy617
firebrix

Title: Re: Can You Please Say A Prayer For My Mom?
Post by cbolony on Apr 27^th, 2003, 4:24am

suzy617 prayers and good vibes coming to your mom

Quote:

I had to make a decision to not to resusitate

I had to make the same decision for my father it was not
easy but it was the right decision

Title: Re: Can You Please Say A Prayer For My Mom?
Post by Svenn on Apr 27^th, 2003, 5:18am

Suzy,

Prayers and vibes on the way!

Svenn

Title: Re: Can You Please Say A Prayer For My Mom?
Post by Mikey on Apr 27^th, 2003, 5:30am

Suzy,
sorry to hear that your Mom's not doing to well.
I'll pray for her every day. Please keep us informed.

Mikey, :'(

Title: Re: Can You Please Say A Prayer For My Mom?
Post by kissmyglass on Apr 27^th, 2003, 6:59am

Vibes comming.....

Kev

Title: Re: Can You Please Say A Prayer For My Mom?
Post by CathiP on Apr 27^th, 2003, 10:51am

Suzy-
So hard, so painful a decision. I'm so sorry you've reached this juncture. Wishing you peace, and sending up prayers for you, your brother and your mom.
Cathi

Title: Re: Can You Please Say A Prayer For My Mom?
Post by ZAIRA on Apr 27^th, 2003, 12:25pm

It's a bad time Suzy, know that I and my family too will pray for your mother and for your family.
A special prayer from Italy,

Zaira and family

Title: Re: Can You Please Say A Prayer For My Mom?
Post by ShariRae on Apr 27^th, 2003, 12:27pm

Aww Suzy.. so sorry to hear of your dilemma. It is indeed difficult to see those we love suffer. You and your family are in my prayers.
Shari

Title: Re: Can You Please Say A Prayer For My Mom?
Post by kim on Apr 27^th, 2003, 1:10pm

We have a similar situation and I know how you feel. Prayers for faith and strenght goin out to you and yours. If you ever need an ear you can e-mail me. Our family has been going through a similar situation for 5 years.

Well wishes and a big ole hug.
Kim

Title: Re: Can You Please Say A Prayer For My Mom?
Post by cootie on Apr 27^th, 2003, 9:39pm

Growing old jus doesn't seem to be so graceful and it AIN'T fair !! Sorry you have to go thru this......best of cyber vibes bein sent thru my pooter to yours.....still holdin onto graceful Pam

Title: Re: Can You Please Say A Prayer For My Mom?
Post by SommelierCH on Apr 28^th, 2003, 6:22am

My dear Suzy,

I was lucky. My parents were 38 yrs. old when they had me, and 42 when they had my brother, and in the late ‘50s this was old. By the time they reached their 80’s, my father could see the writing on the wall, and drew up “Living Wills” for him and Mom. The non-resuscitating clause, was chosen by them, so I didn’t have to do that. But, believe me, when my Mom, with Alzheimer’s suffered her second stroke in the nursing home, I realized that there was NO OTHER humane choice. Please don’t beat yourself up for doing the right thing. I am here to tell you, it IS the right thing.

You know that I am here for you, please feel free to unload on me anything that you want. I will listen, and help as best as I can.

With all my prayers for your Mother,
David J.

Title: Re: Can You Please Say A Prayer For My Mom?
Post by Peppermint on Apr 28^th, 2003, 7:44am

Suzy my friend,

I am sorry to be late with this. Please check your messages when you get home.
I agree with those who said you did the right thing. I watched my dad's quality of life and person degrade to such a level that was not even a flicker of who he used to be. Alzheimer's almost killed him, but cancer took over in the end, and the two combined did force us to make the same decision you made.
My father always said he 'd live to be a hundred years old and would go down fighting. He left us at 62. :( He didn't know. We fought so hard not to let him go. In the end, in my heart of hearts, I know he was just waiting for us to do just that.

Big hugs to you and strength for the days to come.
Vibes & Prayers to your Mom, you and your family.

Pepper

Title: Re: Can You Please Say A Prayer For My Mom?
Post by suzy617 on Apr 28^th, 2003, 11:00am

Thank you all once again from the bottom of my heart. I'm around, more or less lurking about. I'll be back to my normal (yea right) self as soon as I am able.

I LOVE YOU GUYS! :-*

Suzy

Title: Re: Can You Please Say A Prayer For My Mom?
Post by echo on Apr 28^th, 2003, 1:12pm

Sorry to read about the tough decision you had to make.

You and your family will be remembered in our prayers today.

Title: Re: Can You Please Say A Prayer For My Mom?
Post by BruceD on Apr 28^th, 2003, 2:35pm

Suzy,

Sorry to hear of your pain. I'll pray for you and your family. I know things like this are difficult to experience, but just remember that while our view is myopic, there is an overall plan that works for the greater good.

Take care
Bruce

Title: Re: Can You Please Say A Prayer For My Mom?
Post by Elaine on Apr 28^th, 2003, 2:46pm

I am so sorry for your lost! I bet your mom is now the Lady she use to be in heaven with wings on her back!
She ok now! You will be too!

God Bless !