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(Message started by: juvy on Mar 31^st, 2003, 10:57pm)

Title: B*tch Fit
Post by juvy on Mar 31^st, 2003, 10:57pm

Okay,

I've been reading a lot of angry posts this week. And Frankly it's not really what i want to read after a week of fighting the beast. This is suppose to be a support board.

Keyword is Support!

But mostly what i have seen lately is a bunch of namecalling and petty fighting. I know CH tends to make people a little edgy and bitchy but this is ridiculus.

If you have a problem with a particular person...take it off the board..send them a message

If i were a newbie looking for support i'd hightail it off this board, because I've got enough problems with out having to wade through the petty shit to get to some actual support. But i've seen how supportive this board can be. It's bad enough we have a war going on in Iraq. We don't need another on this message board.

If you're just looking to stir shit up and have some fun...Tell a dirty joke.

A very pissed off April

Title: Re: B*tch Fit
Post by fubar on Mar 31^st, 2003, 11:13pm

Take a deep breath April. It's not that bad.

We are family, families get loud sometimes.

If it was all polite and zen-like, we'd lose 90% of the people you provide the most support. Sometimes it gets ugly, but it doesn't have to get personal. I certainly don't take it that way unless I'm outright attacked. And, it's a therapy in and of itself, being able to engage the brain and 'debate' with fellow clusterheads who may have a bit more tolerance or understanding when it comes to our tendency to fly off the handle every now and then.

There's always the option of skipping topics that are non-CH related, isn't there? Would that help you remain calm?

-Fu

Title: Re: B*tch Fit
Post by don on Mar 31^st, 2003, 11:14pm

So tell us a dirty joke.

Title: Re: B*tch Fit
Post by juvy on Mar 31^st, 2003, 11:24pm

on 03/31/03 at 23:13:49, fubar wrote:

Take a deep breath April. It's not that bad.

Okay...*takes a deep breathe*
it's not the debates i mind. it's the personal attacks on people who just express their opinion. it seems that some people here think that because you're new or any other excuse they give; that your opinion isn't worth anything and then they make it personal.

Stop reading OT posts...then i wouldn't have anything to read.....It's not really the posts....everything goes fine and then one Jackass has to jump in and start braying...then another jackass joins them...then it really gets ugly.

I understand that people disagree..it's what makes life so interesting. It's the expressed hatred for one another that i don't like.

Maybe i'm going through too much at the moment to deal with human contact.

In Fact i apologize for blowing up. Feel free to fight amongst yourselves...

Title: Re: B*tch Fit
Post by don on Mar 31^st, 2003, 11:38pm

Quote:

Maybe i'm going through too much at the moment to deal with human contact.

It may be human contact that you do need.

This stuff happens around here but it's generally all in a span of time then it dies out.

If you would like to elaborate on what your going through you'll find that a lot of folks will jump right in to help. Even the braying jackasses.

Keep the faith.

Title: Re: B*tch Fit
Post by paul_b on Apr 1^st, 2003, 12:01am

Right on target Don. I've been most helpful on board and with private messages when the "pain" has been shared and not just the pain of the CH attack. The longer I've been on this site, the more I recognize that everyone cares.

Title: Re: B*tch Fit
Post by don on Apr 1^st, 2003, 12:10am

I'll give you a good example;

Awhile back the people on this board saved the life of my dog. You heard that right. My DOG !

Why? Because the people on this board are who they are. When the going gets rough for someone here, everybody puts there own stuff aside to help out.

Not much of that going on in society, but it goes on here!

Title: Re: B*tch Fit
Post by don on Apr 1^st, 2003, 12:23am

dont be a;

BROKEN BLUE FUZZLE

LMAO

Title: Re: B*tch Fit
Post by juvy on Apr 1^st, 2003, 12:41am

Okay don,

You really want to know what i'm going through...I thought the world was depressing enough without my sob story but here ya go...

January 22, I lost my favorite Grandfather to a very quick battle with cancer. It took him in 6 months. I never really told him how much i loved him.

January 28, my dog died.

January 31, i lost the only grandfather i had left to cancer, he battled it for 4 years.

Feb. 17th I lost a close family friend to a helicopter accident.

Feb. 26th I lost another close family friend to breast cancer.

and for the last 10 days i've been battling the beast...so if i'm not all smiles and sunshine you'll have to forgive me.

april

Title: Re: B*tch Fit
Post by fubar on Apr 1^st, 2003, 1:09am

April,

What a devestrating cascade of grief! Man, whatever we can do, please let us know. I have experienced, first hand, the power of the mythical 'vibes' this board can generate, so be prepared. Sorry to hear about your losses.

-Fi

Title: Re: B*tch Fit
Post by Mastifflvr28 on Apr 1^st, 2003, 2:29am

Heya Wicked B*tch :)
It was great chatting with you tonite.

Fubar is right, I have seen miracles happen
with the vibes and prayers on this site.

Wish our vibes could cause a cure :)

So sorry for your losses and your pain Juvy,
Take care,
Mast

Title: Re: B*tch Fit
Post by suzy617 on Apr 1^st, 2003, 3:44am

April,
I'm so sorry you have been going thru so much loss and pain in your life. We are all here for you, sometimes just talking about it makes it feel a little bit better. With time it does get more easier to handle.
I wish you peace and PF times,
suzy

Title: Re: B*tch Fit
Post by TomM on Apr 1^st, 2003, 8:19am

April--Your shoulders are slumped because of the weight you bear. It is good to share your troubles with us. Now, what can we do to help? ???

TomM

Title: Re: B*tch Fit
Post by cerebus on Apr 1^st, 2003, 8:25am

DANG April! I'm sorry you're going thru some SHEEEEITTT!!! It can only get BETTER, right??

Positive *VIBES* goin out to ya!!

Hope yer head lets up, too!!

Tina :-*

Title: Re: B*tch Fit
Post by Slammy on Apr 1^st, 2003, 11:14am

on 03/31/03 at 22:57:56, juvy wrote:

If i were a newbie looking for support ...

Oh wait! But you are! ;D

Slammy 8)

Title: Re: B*tch Fit
Post by echo on Apr 1^st, 2003, 12:02pm

Thank you for cluing us in to what has recently occured in your life. You have definately been walking a very difficult path. Hope the beast decides to move along very soon. Hang in there. We are always here to listen and support.

This is an amazing family. We fight amongst ourselves, slap each other around, take sides, cry together, pray together and most importantly support each other. The one thing I've learned in my life is whenever I discover family fighting (brothers or cousins) if an outsider trys to break it up, that outsider has two people to fight, because the brothers or cousins will join together to rip the outsiders head off. We clusterheads and our supporters are family. Regardless on how disfunctional we may appear to the outsider.

Welcome to the family

Title: Re: B*tch Fit
Post by suzy617 on Apr 1^st, 2003, 12:08pm

Echo, This family seem dysfunctional?? I wouldnt want it any other way. ;D

suzy

Title: Re: B*tch Fit
Post by don on Apr 1^st, 2003, 12:16pm

To say your year started out shitty would be an understatement. This sounds lame but it can only get better.

Maybe we should tell you a dirty joke?

Title: Re: B*tch Fit
Post by echo on Apr 1^st, 2003, 12:39pm

There once was a man from Nantucket.

Title: Re: B*tch Fit
Post by fubar on Apr 1^st, 2003, 1:41pm

[worthless drivel]

Title: Re: B*tch Fit
Post by cathy on Apr 1^st, 2003, 1:51pm

April...Im soooo sorry your having such a bad time at the moment hope things get better for you and that the beast leaves you alone...but all said and done when the chips are down we are all here for each other dysfunctionally or not.

Fubar...don't leave I find your posts really interesting and only wish I was intellectual enough to post like you do...but Im not so I dont.

Cathy

Title: Re: B*tch Fit
Post by Ted on Apr 1^st, 2003, 4:12pm

Wow April. You are going through some heavy shit right now. I went through a similar year as you're going through now and understand where you're coming from. You just sit there waiting for yet another shoe to drop, even if no other shoe is going to drop. You're a pretty strong lady for enduring this all. If you want to talk about any of this my e-mail is to the left.
Fubar, this isn't the place to act on your unnatural obsession for me. You already said this all in another thread but April needs some support here. Not whatever it is you're trying to do.

Title: Re: B*tch Fit
Post by fubar on Apr 1^st, 2003, 4:36pm

[snip]

April does need support. I think I was pretty much right there when she needed it.

[snip]

Title: Re: B*tch Fit
Post by juvy on Apr 1^st, 2003, 4:37pm

Hey everyone, i thank you for your concern. I never meant to turn this into a pity party. I have my bad days and you caught me on a bad day. I am sufficiently calm now and i realize we all have our differences. No the year didn't start off very well and the way things are going it doesn't look to get better but hey next year has got to be better. So i'll just count down the days and do my best to survive in the mean time.

I know i have the support of my hubby and my family and last but not least you guys/gals. I'm a survivor don't worry about me.

Cheers no tears,
April

Personal replies:

[quote Don]
dont be a;

BROKEN BLUE FUZZLE

[/quote]

Did i give you permision to play with my toys? ;)

Quote:

Now, what can we do to help?

TomM

ah tell me a dirty joke 8)

Slammy, i know i've only been here officially for a couple of weeks...but damn it feels like decades. :P

Quote:

Regardless on how disfunctional we may appear to the outsider.

how come i always end up with the disfunctional people? are we all disfunctional or is it just me? :D

Fubar~ don't leave cuz i like the nick

Title: Re: B*tch Fit
Post by Slammy on Apr 1^st, 2003, 4:40pm

Putting on the Slammy mediation hat here..... I think Fu and Ted, you guys need to back away from the table for a bit. You guys have been great contributors on here, and it's ok to be on different ends of the spectrum.

I, for one, am on the complete opposite end of Ted, and we probably disagree on just about everything in regards to politics. But as a clusterhead, he's my brother and I will always support him.. even when he is full of shit! ;)

It's all about respect...... and I respect Ted...even though he is full of shit! ;D

Slammy 8)

Title: Re: B*tch Fit
Post by Ted on Apr 1^st, 2003, 4:46pm

on 04/01/03 at 16:40:43, Slammy wrote:

...... and I respect Ted

Blecccchhhh

on 04/01/03 at 16:40:43, Slammy wrote:

...even though he is full of shit! ;D

OK. I feel better now. :-)

Title: Re: B*tch Fit
Post by brain_cramps on Apr 1^st, 2003, 4:46pm

on 04/01/03 at 16:40:43, Slammy wrote:

But as a clusterhead, he's my brother and I will always support him.. even when he is full of shit! ;)

It's all about respect...... and I respect Ted...even though he is full of shit! ;D

Classic "Slammy-esque",
grant

Title: Re: B*tch Fit
Post by Callico_Kid on Apr 2^nd, 2003, 12:36am

April,

Sorry I missed your post last night or I would have written sooner. I'm terribly sorry about your losses. That only sounds empty, really it is not. Don't shut off the tears. They really help. I know you must go on with life, but shutting off the emotional side of your being will make you shrivel up in your soul. You are in my prayers.

jc