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(Message started by: TerryS on Mar 24^th, 2003, 8:35am)

Title: Do You Like Yourself!?
Post by TerryS on Mar 24^th, 2003, 8:35am

Do you like yourself? -Mar. 24, 2003

Most people don't like themselves. I've had many years of experience,
trying to help people be whole emotionally, mentally, spiritually, and
socially. I felt like it was a major breakthrough when I discovered that
most people really don't like themselves. Some of them know it, while
others don't even have a clue that this is probably the root of so many
other problems in their lives.

God wants us to have great relationships, but self-rejection and even
self-hatred are at the root of many of our relationship problems. In
fact, I have found the Bible to be a book about relationships, providing
valuable advice about my relationship with God, with other people, and
with myself.

How are the relationships in your life? What about your relationship
with God... and with other people? How about your relationship with
yourself?

Did it ever occur to you that you have a relationship with yourself?
While I've never given it much thought, I do spend more time with myself
than with anyone else, and it is vital that I get along well with me.
Remember, you are the one person you never get away from.

We all know how agonizing it is to work day after day with someone we
don't get along with, but at least we don't have to take that person
home with us at night. We never have one minute away from ourselves, not
even one second, so it is of the utmost importance that we have peace
with ourselves.

Many of us fall prey to self-rejection because we don't ! feel that
anyone really loves and accepts us. We figure that if nobody else loves
us, then why should we love ourselves. Because we think others don't
love us, we feel that we must not be worth loving. But that is a LIE we
have believed for way too long!

We should love ourselves-not in a selfish, self-centered way that
produces a lifestyle of self-indulgence, but in a balanced, godly way
that simply affirms God's creation as essentially good and right. We may
be flawed by the years and the unfortunate experiences we have gone
through, but that doesn't mean we are worthless and good for nothing.

We must have the kind of love for ourselves that says, "I know that God
loves me, so I can love what God chooses to love. I don't love
everything I do, but I accept myself because God accepts me." We must
develop the kind of mature love that says, "I know I need to change, and
I want to change. In fact, I believe God is changing me daily-but in the
meanwhile, I will not reject what God accepts. I will accept myself as I
am right now, knowing that I will not always remain this way."

Many times, people who reject themselves do so because they cannot see
themselves as good, or proper, or right. They fail to see themselves the
way God sees them-as precious children whom he loves dearly.

As you begin to see yourself through God's eyes-as someone who is loved
and cherished-your view of yourself will begin to change. You will begin
to see yourself, not as rejected, but as loved and accepted...unique and
beautiful in His sight.

by Joyce Meye

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Title: Re: Do You Like Yourself!?
Post by dannyboy on Mar 24^th, 2003, 3:54pm

Yip ... unbelievable, I know!

Title: Re: Do You Like Yourself!?
Post by cootie on Mar 24^th, 2003, 11:37pm

Not sure I wanna have a relationship with myself...is that healthy ? Pam-Coots-not-inta-myself-much

Title: Re: Do You Like Yourself!?
Post by fubar on Mar 25^th, 2003, 2:42am

Wrong forum.

Hey, I know the Lord commands you to spread the gospel, but we are here for a specific health issue, regardless of our religious slant.

Please take it somewhere else. Those who seek metaphysical relief are not looking for it here.

-Fubar

Title: Re: Do You Like Yourself!?
Post by Aussie on Mar 25^th, 2003, 3:31am

Question- Is a relationship with yourself biologicaly similar to self polination?

If so, then I don't believe its unhealthy, or that it will send you blind if you keep it to a "one night stand relationship with yourself".

Title: Re: Do You Like Yourself!?
Post by Aussie on Mar 25^th, 2003, 3:51am

Fubar,

Just curious, does metaphysical relief and "Michael Jacksons poor dog" have any similarities?
Seems a little contradictory after stating
"we are here for a specific health issue".

Loved the dog though.

Steve

Title: Re: Do You Like Yourself!?
Post by fubar on Mar 25^th, 2003, 10:00am

Steve,

You got me there. Jacko's dog was as off topic as this... but I wasn't suggesting anybody get CH relief from the dog. Maybe you're on to something there...

-Fu

Title: Re: Do You Like Yourself!?
Post by cootie on Mar 25^th, 2003, 10:05am

Me Myself and Jacko's dog......sounds like that could be a movie ? Pam-Coots-not-into-dog-relief

Title: Re: Do You Like Yourself!?
Post by Aussie on Mar 25^th, 2003, 6:41pm

Fu - "Humour is the best medicine", works for me anyway.

"Me,myself and Jacko's dog" sound like the begining of a great country western song.

Title: Re: Do You Like Yourself!?
Post by jonny on Mar 25^th, 2003, 7:00pm

on 03/25/03 at 02:42:03, fubar wrote:

Wrong forum.

Please take it somewhere else. Those who seek metaphysical relief are not looking for it here.

-Fubar

Right fourm, Fubar!

Terry has been here longer than I have (and ive been here 3 1/2 yrs) and I will be the first one to tell you that Terry posts what he feels and if you have a problem with that then you have a problem with me. I dont beleive but Terry does and this is his home more than yours for all the time he has put in here supporting folks.

You dont like what you read then just dont comment cause you are going against the grain. Terrys not some newbie bible thumper, hes the FAMILY bible thumper and is loved by more people than you know.

................................jonny

Title: Re: Do You Like Yourself!?
Post by SommelierCH on Mar 25^th, 2003, 7:45pm

Brothers,

No harm, no foul. We are all learning.

David J.

Title: Re: Do You Like Yourself!?
Post by fubar on Mar 26^th, 2003, 1:44am

Y'all got me on that one... that was wrong of me. I was in a foul mood. People are looking for any kind of relief, and I should know. Being chronic and having access to a ketboard is not a good combo. I can't type during an attack, but they sure leave me pissed off some days. Sorry Terry.

-Fu

Title: Re: Do You Like Yourself!?
Post by TerryS on Mar 26^th, 2003, 12:53pm

Not problem FU, I do understand........Peace Bro.

TerryS ;D

Title: Re: Do You Like Yourself!?
Post by Margi on Mar 26^th, 2003, 1:20pm

I can't improve on what Jonny said here - well done, kiddo!

Terry is one of the gentlest souls here and has always kept us grounded in our faith. He's also one of the family that gets hit the hardest with CH but he just takes it in stride and rarely tells us what he's going through personally. Instead, he brings us inspiration and a gentle reminder that there IS always comfort to be had...we just have to reach for it.

TerryS is one of the classiest folks here. His response to this thread sure demonstrates THAT!

Thanks, Terry - this was really nice. I'm sorry I didn't see it earlier!
Hugs

Title: Re: Do You Like Yourself!?
Post by BobG on Mar 26^th, 2003, 1:47pm

Ditto what jonny and Margi said.

Thanks Terry.

Title: Re: Do You Like Yourself!?
Post by don on Mar 26^th, 2003, 10:22pm

WARNING

Do not have a relationship with yourself in a public place!

Title: Re: Do You Like Yourself!?
Post by cootie on Mar 26^th, 2003, 10:37pm

Unless you have a white cane....then everyone'll understand........Pam (boreing being just Pam)

Title: Re: Do You Like Yourself!?
Post by don on Mar 26^th, 2003, 10:41pm

You mean I could have avoided all those court dates?

Title: Re: Do You Like Yourself!?
Post by Aussie on Mar 26^th, 2003, 10:46pm

Don,
Shouldn't your warning read :

"Don't get caught having a relationship with yourself in a public place"

Title: Re: Do You Like Yourself!?
Post by Linda_Howell on Mar 26^th, 2003, 10:47pm

And a double ditto here:

Fubar. Even though we all understand what prompted you to say this, I feel we need to also state:

Terry S is our link to not forgettting about God.

Den is our poet
Margi is our voice of reason.

Dj is the keeper of the keys to this kingdom.

Jonny is the gate-keeper

Some of us need support. Some give it.

etc. etc. etc. etc. We all have our roles to fill here.

Some of us have been here longer than others.

Fubar....I just said to someone the other night That I thought you were one of the smartest guys here. I guess that's maybe your role then, HUH?

LindaH

Title: Re: Do You Like Yourself!?
Post by Ree on Mar 27^th, 2003, 8:15pm

Terry Terry Terry keep it coming... all the problems in the world started when we started trying to kick God out of everywhere... People God is everywhere... and I hope he is sitting next to my sons best bud over in the front lines... love you so much Terry you are the illuminating light here at CH.com and dont ever forget that...(that is when I let you borrow my halo) Keep up the great work and Fu~~~~ everyone gets in a bad mood sometimes. Just dont pick on some one that has such close ties with The Great One or you might be ducking lightning bolts... love you too for what you do... take care all Ree

ps Ive lost 10 lbs on this Gulf war diet...

hi bill

Title: Re: Do You Like Yourself!?
Post by 9erfan on Mar 27^th, 2003, 10:48pm

I just came across this thread. Thanks Terry for posting that. I needed it. It's a daily struggle... :-/

Title: Re: Do You Like Yourself!?
Post by fubar on Mar 28^th, 2003, 12:18am

Quote:

Fubar....I just said to someone the other night That I thought you were one of the smartest guys here. I guess that's maybe your role then, HUH?

Please, God. I hope not. If I'm one of the smartest people here, then we are doomed. ;D I just talk too much.

And Terry, I reread your post, and I swear, I don't know what in the world would have made me go off like that... sometimes I scare myself. Man, long bouts just wear me down to the point of utter stupidity. Again, I apologize.

-Fu

Title: Re: Do You Like Yourself!?
Post by Linda_Howell on Mar 28^th, 2003, 1:30am

And THAT, my friend is what makes you so smart.

LindaH

Title: Re: Do You Like Yourself!?
Post by Tim_w on Mar 28^th, 2003, 12:48pm

They tryed to take Prayer out of or schools
But as long as there are test in school,
There (will) be prayer in school !
Tim_w ;)