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(Message started by: Hound_Dogg on Jan 22^nd, 2003, 9:40am)

Title: Losing Family
Post by Hound_Dogg on Jan 22^nd, 2003, 9:40am

My sister died yesterday morning at 6:15 am. We had some silly argument around two years ago. You know...the kind that neither one can remember exactly what they were originally mad at. We've only talked twice in those years. First call, she told me that her sickness was kicked and that she would be fine. The second time she apologized for the stupid argument we had. The last call was over 2 months ago. You know how it goes...you never have the time to call. Too busy at work. Too busy at home. Even though she lived less then 50 miles from me, I have not seen her for those two years.
Tuesday morning at around 2am I got the call from my brother. "Sis is really sick and they don't think she'll last through the night." "Whattaya mean...really sick. I thought she was fine." I guess a lot can happen in two months.
I got to the hospital about 3am. Stayed with her to the end which was about 6:15am. She was in a lot of pain and completely out of it. I console myself with the fact that she knew I was there.
I will never, ever be to busy to call my family, again.

Title: Re: Losing Family
Post by jonny on Jan 22^nd, 2003, 9:49am

Really, really sorry to hear of your loss, Bro!!

...................jonny

Title: Re: Losing Family
Post by Hunny on Jan 22^nd, 2003, 9:56am

Hound dogg

So terribly sorry to hear of your loss. I'm ashamed of being so wrapped up in my own pain today when you are truly the one hurting.

Your sister knows how you feel, she is at peace with your relationship, you were with her when it counted and she knew it before she died and knows it now.

We're here for you

Sharon

Title: Re: Losing Family
Post by woobie on Jan 22^nd, 2003, 9:57am

OH Hound_Dogg..

Im so sorry!! :'(

And, thanks for the message to keep in touch with your family. You never know...
Gonna call mine tonight for SURE!

Again.. I'm sorry!! Ill be thinking of ya!!

(don't know what else to say.. nothing seems right!! :-[)

Tina :-*

Title: Re: Losing Family
Post by Peppermint on Jan 22^nd, 2003, 10:34am

Hound Dogg...so sorry.. :'(
Its one of those things we all do at times I suppose... at least I have.

You were there for your sister in the end....she knows you loved her - peace in your heart brother.

Pep... :(

Title: Re: Losing Family
Post by cootie on Jan 22^nd, 2003, 10:54am

Am so sorry Hound_Dogg.....you were there at the end....your a good brother. Pam

Title: Re: Losing Family
Post by Margi on Jan 22^nd, 2003, 10:56am

Very sorry to hear of your loss, Hound Dogg. Way too many of our cluster family is losing family these days. :(

Celebrate your sister's life, don't beat yourself up for things you can't change. Find solace that she is out of pain now and has found peace.

We are here for you and wish you and your family comfort.

Hugs

Title: Re: Losing Family
Post by Slammy on Jan 22^nd, 2003, 11:01am

Having just gone through this, Hound, I can truly empathize with you right now. Don't beat yourself up, think of good thoughts of you and your sister, and huddle up with your family and friends.. its during times like this that they mean the world to us. Take care and contact me if you need to talk, I'm here.....

Slammy 8)

Title: Re: Losing Family
Post by Svenn on Jan 22^nd, 2003, 11:12am

Really, really sorry to hear of your loss

"I will never, ever be to busy to call my family, again. "

I just hope that we can learn something in that last line in your thread.
You was lucky to get there in time.
If not ,i think you have blamed yourself for the rest of your life.

Just remember that your sis never leave you,but she is in your heart and in heaven as a angel guarding you always

Svenn

Svenn

Title: Re: Losing Family
Post by suzy617 on Jan 22^nd, 2003, 11:39am

Hound dogg,

Really sorry about your loss. As the others have said, we are here for you.

Hugs to you,

suzy

Title: Re: Losing Family
Post by catlind on Jan 22^nd, 2003, 12:10pm

Dogg,

I am so very sorry for your loss. Regrets will get you no where. Celebrate her life, and remember the fun times as kids together. I think any of us who have lost a loved one, realizes we have regrets, I will always regret not braving a snow storm to go see my dad, then he died 2 weeks later. The thing is though, even I had gone, I wouldn't have said the things I'd want to say, I wouldn't have known, so don't beat yourself up over the time and the quarrel. Just remember the love and keep her alive in your heart.

You have my sincerest sympathies.

Cat

Title: Re: Losing Family
Post by Hound_Dogg on Jan 22^nd, 2003, 4:33pm

Thank you all so very much. I really appreciate the thoughts. I think it was therapeutic, just to write it down.

Jonny, Sharon, Tina, Pep, Pam, Margi, Jim, Svenn, Suzy & Cat. Thanks so much for your responses...It means a lot.

Jim

Title: Re: Losing Family
Post by Elaine on Jan 22^nd, 2003, 4:40pm

I am so sorry about your sister, and I don't know any words to make you feel better just know we are here for you.
Know that she is still with you in your heart !

Title: Re: Losing Family
Post by 2late on Jan 22^nd, 2003, 6:22pm

you we're there when she needed you most, that's what really counts, i'm very sorry for your loss. ..........2late

Title: Re: Losing Family
Post by StanTheMan on Jan 22^nd, 2003, 6:23pm

Dear cluster friend,

There's nothing I can add that hasn't already been said.

My deepest sympathys to you and your family.

Prayers for peace and comfort...

Stan :'(

Title: Re: Losing Family
Post by eyes_afire on Jan 22^nd, 2003, 6:24pm

Hound Dogg,
I'm sorry to hear of your loss. Well wishes to you and your family during this tough time.

Title: Re: Losing Family
Post by Roxy on Jan 22^nd, 2003, 9:22pm

Hound Dogg,

I am so sorry for your loss. She knew you were there with her, and that is what matters. You may have argued, but she knew you loved her.

Tracey

Title: Re: Losing Family
Post by Charlie on Jan 22^nd, 2003, 9:49pm

I'd give a lot if this thread were not here. But it is and I know you'll do things right and what's necessary. :-[

We've all been there in one way or another. :-[

Awfully sorry.

Charlie

Title: Re: Losing Family
Post by Slydog on Jan 22^nd, 2003, 10:23pm

Hound Dogg, From one dog to another....So sorry for your loss. Slydog