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Title: A Mother's Kiss - Prologue Post by Slammy on Dec 23rd, 2002, 12:38am I want to thank all of you... from the bottom of my heart... for your thoughts, prayers, and condolences... Christmas was always her favourite time of year...she used to make me drive her around to look at the lights... I struggled with posting about my mother's death... I didn't want to burden people with my loss, especially this time of year. But the overwhelming feeling I had, was to get the message to people to get in touch with their mother... and tell her that you loved her.... I feel i did not do that enough. The other reason I went ahead with the post was... well.. you are my family..... I thought about what Jacks said to me..... I told her that I didn't want to say anything..cuz no one here, knew my mother... but she told me that everyone here, knew me... and care about me....that hit home... YOU are my family too... and I love all of you.... and feel all of you in my time of sorrow... I know I am not alone!.... thank all of you!. My brother and sister and I... were going through her belongings.... ( another tough part of dealing with death) and I found a Christmas card from my father to my mother...dated 11/26/1944( they got married in 1946.. I was born in 1961).... from Belgium ( during the Battle of the Bulge)... I feel the need to share it with you. I wish I knew how to scan it...it's 2 sided.. the front side depicts a solder holding up 2 flags... ( English and American). In the background is the statute of liberty.. and the foreground is and angel, with a sword, leading a charge. it says.. " MERRY XMAS 1944" On the back.. the date.. 11/26/44... " A Merry Christmas And may everyday in life, bring you the happiness that Christmas joy brings. - From Belgium, and, from a guy who thinks the world of you... Albert" I don't know... but I feel this is the best Christmas gift she could ever given me... Peace! Slammy 8) |
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Title: Re: A Mother's Kiss - Prologue Post by Mastifflvr28 on Dec 23rd, 2002, 12:55am OH Slammy......sweet. BTW...your message came through loud and clear. Chatting with mum, thanks for sharing, Mast |
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Title: Re: A Mother's Kiss - Prologue Post by Svenn on Dec 23rd, 2002, 1:45am Hi Slammy my friend When this very sad thing happend to you,i would say that you did us a HUGE favour by telling us that. You really made us sit down and think about whats importent in life. Sad but true it so easy to forget about your old family like mom an dad when you having your own family to take care of You made us think about what`s importent in life. Just remember that you are not alone.We are all here for you in this time of sadness with you. Your friend Svenn |
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Title: Re: A Mother's Kiss - Prologue Post by Lapsi_Harmaahapsi on Dec 23rd, 2002, 4:46am Sharing Meaningful Things with others is always good. For them and/or for you. This time, for all. Beautiful Christmas for everyone. |
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Title: Re: A Mother's Kiss - Prologue Post by Jackie on Dec 23rd, 2002, 7:17am Thank you for posting to us, Jim. You have lots of friends here who love you. There isn't much we can do to ease your pain but I've found that knowing people care does help some. I wish I was there to hug your neck, Sweetheart. Love, Jackie |
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Title: quite Post by rumplestiltskin on Dec 23rd, 2002, 8:08am ...I'm not much of a touchy feely warm fuzzy guy....uh...interpersonal relationship sharingwise. When folks post here that they just got a new food processor...I just roll my eyes and leave it alone...cause I can't relate. ...and that's the bottomline of a message board, a group of friends, a street corner...even a global one...we share and care about those things that we personnally can relate to....try talkin about CH anywhere else but here and see the reaction. some call this "family"....relatives (RELATEatives) if you will... CH colors our whole lives...most of us. Even during PF times...we are cautious of the beast that may lurk around any given corner we turn or doorway we pass. It's a bitch to have to live like that...butt it's a gift to have someplace like this to hangout where folks understand. den infrequently posts to Slammy's ramblings....den leaves em lay...he can't relate....plenty of other playmates fer ya here....Butt...the loss of one's Mom...well that's a hearse of a different color....something I personally related to....butt more than that...I heard yer pain. I arrived here with a "what about me?" attitude...I stay because of a "what about you?" one. Some folks seem to have never had a Mom....Some folks have to get new Mom's...the one that end's up loving them like a Mom is the one they cherish. Rest easy...yers will always be home fer CHRISTmas. walk in the sunshine den |
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Title: Re: A Mother's Kiss - Prologue Post by Opus on Dec 23rd, 2002, 8:15am Thanks for the posts Slammy, we all have seen another side of a very special member of our family. Opus :P |
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Title: Re: A Mother's Kiss - Prologue Post by Donna on Dec 23rd, 2002, 9:21am Dear Slammy I'm glad that you did share your loss with us. I am so sorry for the pain that you and your family feels. Your message about getting in touch with mother is so true, and we usually don't realize it until she's gone. Even tho we may have paid a lot of attention to our Moms, we will always feel that it wasn't enogh. I miss my Mom too. Love you, Donna |
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Title: Re: A Mother's Kiss - Prologue Post by Roxy on Dec 23rd, 2002, 9:28am Slammy, Sharing your burdens here is a good thing. I think the people on this site are one of the most caring groups I have ever seen. Your words have moved me to tears and moved my heart. Christmas is a time of year that we sometimes get caught up in the commercialism and hectic rush of just getting everything done on time...and we begin to hate it. I tend to push a lot of thoughts away from my mind, because I have lost both parents. It's the....if I don't think about it...it will go away mentality. But, the love and care of other people is the priority of the holiday season, and you brought this squarely back to mind. Your mother would be very proud of you. Your posts have done a wonderful thing...there are many mothers out there who are now receiving loving phone calls and hugs from their children. Many mothers owe you a nice, warm thank you. You have reminded me, and I'm sure a lot of others, the true meaning of the holidays. Your mother is smiling down on you with love. R |
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Title: Re: A Mother's Kiss - Prologue Post by Margi on Dec 23rd, 2002, 9:34am SlammyJim, you did right by posting here about your mom. I, too, was hoping you would because I knew you would get the reminder that you are a big part of this family and we do all stand beside you in your grief. I don't have the words that will take away your pain right now, but I do know that you're wrong in thinking you didn't tell your mom enough that you loved her. She knew, Jim - she knew. Peace be with you and your family through this time of pain, and know that we are all here for you, however you need us to be. Hugs me |
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Title: Re: A Mother's Kiss - Prologue Post by Peppermint on Dec 23rd, 2002, 3:09pm Jim, Just wanted to say thank you for your beautiful words and for sharing such an intimate part of your life with us. Even though you thought it might be a burden sharing your loss at this time of year, I consider it a gift. The holidays can be a difficult time of year, yes; sometimes, whether we are close or far from someone we love, its easy to forget to show how important they are in our lives. I see my mom almost every other day.... and we share a lot of eachother's lives. When I read your post, I realized how routine it had all become. I remembered showing her how much she means to me and what a truly amazing woman she has always been. I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart, for pulling me out of the holiday doldrums with your words and bringing the important things back in focus. Your mom must be so proud of you....it was a beautiful gift you gave to our mothers - the love and appreciation that their own are showing them. In my eyes, truly in the giving spirit of Christmas. Peace and love, Peppermint |
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Title: Re: A Mother's Kiss - Prologue Post by OneEyeBlind on Dec 23rd, 2002, 3:37pm Slammy thanks for shaing. Everyone in my family is getting bigger hugs this year at Christmas thanks to you ! |
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Title: Re: A Mother's Kiss - Prologue Post by jonny on Dec 23rd, 2002, 3:42pm We got your back, Bro !!! ...................jonny |
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Title: Re: A Mother's Kiss - Prologue Post by firebrix on Dec 24th, 2002, 1:58pm GREAT BIG BRIKKI HUGS TO SLAMMY. Thinking of you bro, firebrix |
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Title: Re: A Mother's Kiss - Prologue Post by Mark C on Dec 24th, 2002, 2:37pm ;D |
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Title: Re: A Mother's Kiss - Prologue Post by catlind on Dec 24th, 2002, 5:04pm After reading your first post about your mom, Clark and I sat and cried. I lost my Dad, and to me the magic of christmas (I was wrong, but that's how I felt at the time because he was my Santa). Clark lost his Dad when he was 9, and his Mom when he was 19, so we sat and talked to each other about the wonderful times we had with our loved ones. Your post reminded us of how precious and fragile life is, and just how much one person can affect the lives of so many. Know that through your Mom, and you courage to post here, you have touched the hearts and many lives of the people here. We are, and always be here for you. May you find some peace this Christmas. Cat |
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Title: Re: A Mother's Kiss - Prologue Post by kim on Dec 27th, 2002, 8:00am Dear Slammy, I am sorry for your loss and wish you peace. Thinkin of you. |
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Title: Re: A Mother's Kiss - Prologue Post by Brassbear on Dec 27th, 2002, 8:16am Slammy, sorry to hear of your loss. We will send love, light and energy to you and yours. My mother passed away Dec. 13 of '99. Nothing can replace a mother's love. Michael |
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Title: Re: A Mother's Kiss - Prologue Post by cootie on Dec 27th, 2002, 11:05pm Yer a good son Slammy..........Pam ;) |
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Title: Re: A Mother's Kiss - Prologue Post by Jabeen on Dec 28th, 2002, 9:52am I lost both my parents within the past few years and I never stop thinking about them. My father died 2 days after Christmas and now I spend every holiday season remembering all the good years and trying to push those last sad memories out of my head. Selling my parents home that I grew up in and having to clean out over 50 years of memories was the hardest thing I ever did. I have resolved to clean up my attic before I go to spare my kids some of that angst. She is still with you- |
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