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(Message started by: Elaine on Nov 17^th, 2002, 3:54pm)

Title: A push is all we need sometimes!
Post by Elaine on Nov 17^th, 2002, 3:54pm

I been going through a pretty hard time so has my family. My grand daughter dieing. I been having problems with the new home. I been having problems with my doctors. I have let all the pressures and all get to me to the point I just said in my mind screw it ALL! I been ad at the world.
It would be easier to lay down and forget it. For the last few weeks that is just what I been doing. When Buddy comes home or Deveny. I say OK you take over I am going to bed. What happen: I really got sick big time. Made matters worst. I said fuck it I am going to die and who gives a crap, so I stated taking my pain meds and all, figuring it will be easier. (something I said I would never do)!
I have always been the pusher here at home. When someone sick, I am pushing and saying take a break and after a couple of days I say ok get up lets go shopping or out to eat or something and I push till they get up feel better. If they are depressed I divert the problem and make happy times.
Thank God Buddy and Deveny learned from that. I been real down sense I found out my cancer had spread to my bones and I just said screw it. I let myself get good and depressed and sick. I went to bed Friday and got up to pee, or have a coke and move around a little, but I would go right back to bed. Well this afternoon I am in bed breathing my meds and coughing my fool head off and Buddy and Deveny bring me my cloths and say get dressed your going out. I said no I don't feel like it, you two have lost your minds I am sick, they said you don't have a choice get dressed or you can go like you are. I am pissed and these two are trying to dress me. I can dress myself get away from me I tell them. I get dressed and Deveny helps me put my wig on and my hat. I like my hat because Mike and Margi gave it to me and because it makes my wig look less fake. Buddy helps me get in the car and off we go. I am not believing it but we go to a movie. I look at him and say are you trying to kill me they say stay out of crowds, he says well your already sick, shut up we are going to see a movie. We get in and we see Santa Clause 2. He gets me a Large coke and we watch the movie. I find myself laughing and enjoying the movie and watching the kids around me. I get up when its over and Buddy and I are laughing and we head out the door to the car the wind is strong. I am trotting across the parking lot fighting the wind the wind blows my hat off, I just did catch my wig and I am chasing my hat across the park lot coughing and laughing all the time. When we get to the car we are both cold. Buddy said you tired? I told him no I am hungry and we go to eat and spend the meal talking about our new home and all the stuff we are going to do to the yard. Then we talk about how we are going to have the best Christmas ever just being together. On the way home It comes to me that Buiddy knows more about me then I give him credit, and that he just pushed me into a good mood and new outlook. I am glade he did not stop at " no I don't feel like it I am sick".
I am not sure if it wasthe push or the movie. I just know when I walked out of that movie theater I felt so much better. I am no longer mad at the world and no longer feel like giving up. I am in the Christmas mood now. I am in the living mood too.
If you are a supporter push someone to have a good time. If you have not seen the movie go see it!! Supporters and clusterheads !!!

Happy Holidays all!!!

Title: Re: A push is all we need sometimes!
Post by Margi on Nov 17^th, 2002, 4:05pm

Aw, cool - so that remote ejector switch actually DOES work from this far away. We weren't sure. We've been pressing that button ALL week, but I guess it took until today to reach you.

See? you can even get a kick in the ass from Canada, TS - right when you need it most. :-*

Please go give Deveny and Buddy BIG hugs and pats on the backs from all of us. They're doing a good job of raising you, young lady. ;)

Title: Re: A push is all we need sometimes!
Post by don on Nov 17^th, 2002, 4:25pm

Elaine..............the good time girl

Title: Re: A push is all we need sometimes!
Post by jonny on Nov 17^th, 2002, 4:37pm

;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D

...........................jonny

Title: Re: A push is all we need sometimes!
Post by OneEyeBlind on Nov 17^th, 2002, 5:22pm

Glad to hear you got out and had a good time Elaine. Keeping fighting the good fight. My prayers are with you.

Title: Re: A push is all we need sometimes!
Post by Jackie on Nov 17^th, 2002, 5:28pm

Good for Buddy and Deveny.... :D

That's more like my friend Elaine.... :)

Now....mind me and go give Buddy a kiss and no more sass.... ;D

Love ya,

Jacks 8)

Title: Re: A push is all we need sometimes!
Post by David Shea on Nov 17^th, 2002, 8:20pm

Hi Elaine, I'm A NEWBIE TO THE BOARD, I HAVE BEEN READING YOUR POST( caps) for about 5weeks now and
have found them interesting ,informative careing, and humor in just about all of them. This one however was the best and left me with A lump in my thorax and A tear in my eye. You have great mates there.

I was not aware of your cancer, I am sorry. Cancer has taking some of my love ones and some have beat it back. I hope when my turn comes and with my family history surely it will, I can put up the good fight you are putting up. Best to you.
David

Title: Re: A push is all we need sometimes!
Post by BuddyH on Nov 17^th, 2002, 10:05pm

Today was fun for me also. What ever it takes to keep you here with me I will do. Just don't leave me.
My job is to take care of you fix things. God tell me how to fix this and I will do it. We are not going to
give this fight up. Stop fighting this alone, lets fight it together. Its not a sin to lean on someone, its not
a sin to have a baby sitter come in and watch JD. Its not a sin to say your tired. It is a sin to just give up.
You say you put things in Gods hands. God said your to let us help. That is what my job is and it makes
me mad when someone won't let me do my job. I want you to rest and there is a difference in resting and
giving up. I want you to take your pain medication. I want you to let Linda come here and take care of JD,
you will still be here. Fight this thing like you have clusters. Take your medications ON TIME. Take the help
that is handed you. I am telling you this in front of all your friends, and I don't believe a one of them will
disagree with me about this.

David your right about her post, she is all those things, but you missed one thing, she is mule headed and
thinks she has to do everything alone.

I love you Johnnie PLEASE do what I ask PLEASE!

Title: Re: A push is all we need sometimes!
Post by Edna on Nov 17^th, 2002, 10:45pm

Well well Elaine dear lady, if a push is what you need...............you're gonna have bruises on your buttocks from all the ones you gonna get here friend.

umph umph umph

I'm pushing with you Buddy.........she gettin the idea yet?? If not. let us know here, we're gonna fix her.

Elaine, hang in sweet lady......when it's too much, take what you must from us and Buddy, you deserve it.

Much love and well wishes coming your way from me here,

:-* EDNA

Title: Re: A push is all we need sometimes!
Post by Not4Hire on Nov 17^th, 2002, 11:49pm

...damn .......BuddyH, that's some good stuff.... E deserves it--every word........ you deserve the (male) Supporter of The Year Award.......... best....Steve

Title: Re: A push is all we need sometimes!
Post by Mastifflvr28 on Nov 18^th, 2002, 12:21am

Elaine,
You are blessed with your family, your family is blessed to have you. You all fight together :)
Love you guys
Mast

Title: Re: A push is all we need sometimes!
Post by nancyc on Nov 18^th, 2002, 12:28am

Hey, Sis...he is a Keeper! Know you are in my thoughts and prayers daily... ;Dnancyc

Title: Re: A push is all we need sometimes!
Post by Charlie on Nov 18^th, 2002, 4:35am

What a crew, what a family, what a nice story.

You're something kid.

You really are.

Charlie

Title: Re: A push is all we need sometimes!
Post by Mark C on Nov 18^th, 2002, 4:50am

http://www.animatedgif.net/seasonal/xmas/tglxmas_e0.gif

Merry Christmas "E", thanks for sharing.

Title: Re: A push is all we need sometimes!
Post by NotH20 on Nov 18^th, 2002, 9:16am

Elaine - see there was something missing at the Waffle House the other day - it was BUDDY!!!! :) What a nice fella! Next time we get together, he better be there. That way you'll get equal kicks on your butt from both sides! ;)

Just as Buddy posted in front of all your friends - so am I ....... I'm offering to come watch your grandson when you need it. You call me and I'll come one day on my way home from work - hell I'll even bring you some of that good BBQ. You let me know when and I'll offer you a break for some rest because you're tired - not because you're giving up. Sorry Elaine - but that's JUST not an option for you!

Mia

PS - Happy Holidays to you and your family too!

Title: Re: A push is all we need sometimes!
Post by Elaine on Nov 18^th, 2002, 9:51am

OK Buddy you got a deal. I won't give ya no sass as Jackie calls it :) I won't leave ya here alone, together we will fight. I love you to always have always will. Stop making me cry it don't help my cough damn it.

Your right NancyC he is a keeper, Mia I just might be calling. Nancy thanks for the prayers. Margi, and Edna and Charlie kicking this good time girls ass as Don calls me. Nancy David Not4 and Mark hope we get to met someday, so I can give ya'll a hug.

If your not careful Jackie you will get your wish Buddy call the guest for Dinner LOL.

I do feel very Blessed Michelle Thanks.

OK I am all yours Buddy, what ever you say I will do. OK my first thing is I am turning this new house thing over to you. I don't seem to be able to get there ass moving.
Go get them Buddy :-)!

Jonny are those your new Teeth your smiling with???

Thanks everyone!

Title: Re: A push is all we need sometimes!
Post by cerebus on Nov 18^th, 2002, 10:49am

To All the posters in this string.....the only thing i can say for being at a loss for words. (not a regular occurance with me, ask my co-workers)

OUTSTANDING!!! Nothing short of MAGNIFICENT!!!!

Buddy, you da man!
Elaine, I hear ya and I'm with ya sista.
Capt. Brown

Title: Re: A push is all we need sometimes!
Post by echo on Nov 18^th, 2002, 11:00am

If anyone deserved a break it's you. Glad you had such a good time. I can just picture you chasing after your hat.
I can use a laugh also. I think I'll blow off work for the afternoon, schduled a non-existant meeting and go see SC2.

Title: Re: A push is all we need sometimes!
Post by Jackie on Nov 18^th, 2002, 11:29am

This thread keeps getting better and better.. :D

Elaine, you keep your "dobber" up....ya hear me... :)

Buddy, thanks for the post. You're a good man and an OUTSTANDING hog caller...ROTFLMAO ;D

Love to you both,

Jacks 8)

Title: Re: A push is all we need sometimes!
Post by Slammy on Nov 18^th, 2002, 12:22pm

Just when Slammy starts getting bored and thinks that there's nothing more that this mb can show.... A thread like this comes along. WTF was I thinking!

E! You are the best! :-*

Buddy! great post! You guys deserve the best, and that's each other! :D

Slammy 8)

Title: Re: A push is all we need sometimes!
Post by BonnieW on Nov 18^th, 2002, 2:47pm

Elaine - I don't even know what I can say that hasn't been said - you are very lucky to have each other - you and Buddy. I can just picture you running after your hat in the parking lot! Keep your spirits up and give Buddy, Deveny and JD a big hug from me and Warren!

Lots of love....

Title: Re: A push is all we need sometimes!
Post by jonny on Nov 18^th, 2002, 3:24pm

LMAO......I like how Buddy called you "Mule headed" ;D

You listen to him, E.....He knows you as good as you know yourself maybe better. He can see when your run down but you think your not.

New teeth tommorrow....LOL, ill take a pic and send it to ya.....LOL

............................jonny

Title: Re: A push is all we need sometimes!
Post by don on Nov 18^th, 2002, 4:18pm

Quote:

you deserve the (male) Supporter of The Year

LMMFAOROF and doing it again.

Did you just call him a jock strap? LMMFAO

Title: Re: A push is all we need sometimes!
Post by Elaine on Nov 18^th, 2002, 6:14pm

Shut up Don....your just mad cause I can't cyber anymore !!!!

Title: Re: A push is all we need sometimes!
Post by Lori on Nov 18^th, 2002, 11:48pm

I'm glad you went out, that your family made you go out. It sounds like you really had a good time. Cherish each day, every moment. We all need to be reminded of this..thanks for reminding me Elaine.

Title: Re: A push is all we need sometimes!
Post by catlind on Nov 19^th, 2002, 8:17am

What a wonderful tale and a terrific story of how letting any beast take over can take away our fight.

Keep on fighting Lady E, you have the inner strength of Atlas himself, and with the help of your family at home and here you can fight strong and hard.

Cat