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(Message started by: BarbaraG on Oct 6^th, 2002, 5:32pm)

Title: We buried my sister yesterday
Post by BarbaraG on Oct 6^th, 2002, 5:32pm

I feel lost now. I'm don't even know what to do. Thank you all for being here for me. :'( BarbaraG

Title: Re: We buried my sister yesterday
Post by Not4Hire on Oct 6^th, 2002, 5:41pm

Barb.....yer not "lost".....yer "found".......I felt the same when I lost my ole POP in March......life goes on-within you and without you....as a poet once said (John Lennon?)....I hope you find your peace with your loss.....best...Steve

Title: Re: We buried my sister yesterday
Post by Peppermint on Oct 6^th, 2002, 5:54pm

Barbara,

I am so sorry for your loss - sincerely -
I know its only the Internet, but I hope you find some comfort in knowing that there are people here for you.
My sympathies to you and your loved ones - peace to your hearts.

Peppermint

Title: Re: We buried my sister yesterday
Post by jonny on Oct 6^th, 2002, 5:59pm

I kinda know how you feel, Barb....my Dad died in my arms and they took him. he gave his body to science........got him back 18 months later and buried him. Death is tough!!

..............................jonny

Title: Re: We buried my sister yesterday
Post by Charlie on Oct 6^th, 2002, 6:11pm

It sucks Barb. It makes no sense and it's harder on those that remain. I'm old enough to have gone through this many times. You'd think it would be easier as we age. For me, it isn't.

It does get simpler though and believe it or not, you will be feeling better as time goes by. Humans know too much though. It ain't fair. We're here though and at MS IM too.

Charlie

Title: face will Re: We buried my sister yesterday
Post by curtisdsc on Oct 6^th, 2002, 6:12pm

Barb,

My grandma told me when I was much younger and my grandpa passed away.

Always think a good thought when you think of them and the smile on your face will be them. So your never alone.

I have never forgot my grandpa because of that.

sorry for your loss

Title: Re: We buried my sister yesterday
Post by Jackie on Oct 6^th, 2002, 6:29pm

Barb,
My heart goes out to you. These are difficult days. I promise it will get easier. When my Daddy died I was sure I would never smile or be happy again. Like you, I didn't know where I was suppose to be or what I was suppose to do. I was sure that his death would be the end of me too. I was wrong......I can think of him now and the pain of the loss is replaced with warm and wonderful thoughts of him. I still miss him and will every day of my life but the tears don't come as often. I feel it will be that way for you too. You were a wonderful sister, Barb....and Pat loved you dearly.....may you find some comfort in that.

Love,
Jacks

Title: Re: We buried my sister yesterday
Post by Ree on Oct 6^th, 2002, 8:24pm

Barbara there is nothing I can say that will take your pain away but in a few days or weeks when the pain starts to subside you will see subtle proof that her spirit lives on. Maybe you will hear a song on the radio that you both loved... Maybe a movie you both shared together. Maybe you will dream of her and she will rest your fears that life does go on... All of those things happened to me after losing Patty and I couldnt believe how my fears and sorrow lifted... there isnt a day that goes by that I dont think about her... She is not gone Barb just away... love ya girl Ree

Title: Re: We buried my sister yesterday
Post by Night_Owl on Oct 6^th, 2002, 8:31pm

Everything is temporary...nothing lasts forever except love.

Night_Owl

Title: Re: We buried my sister yesterday
Post by NancyMcFree on Oct 6^th, 2002, 8:49pm

Barb, my heart goes out to you. It's so tough at first. Nothing can every take away the memories you have of her though. Hold on to that.

Title: Re: We buried my sister yesterday
Post by Lori on Oct 6^th, 2002, 9:31pm

I am very sorry for your loss Barbara and wish there was something I could say that would make you feel better. The rest are right though, it will take time and just hold on to the wonderful memories. You will always have those. Take care of yourself.

Title: Re: We buried my sister yesterday
Post by Edna on Oct 6^th, 2002, 10:29pm

Barbara, I love you and know that strong heart of yours will help pull you through, BUT in the meantime......there's only one little thing we can do for you and that's be there when you need us.

"She is not gone dear, just away"

SISTERS

"Friendships bloom and friendships end, But a sister is an eternal friend"

"Love defies any distance that might separate sisters"

Reflect on these dearest Barbara, and know that Pat will ALWAYS be right there in that big heart of yours. And in time, thoughts of her will bring wonderful, warm feelings that you'll be able to smile about.

With warmest sympathy,
EDNA

Title: Re: We buried my sister yesterday
Post by Ted on Oct 6^th, 2002, 10:40pm

Buried my brother once. Siblings are a different game than parents. Parents you know all your life you'll bury. Siblings? Uh uh. And especially not within a year's warning. Barbara, you want to shoot the shit about it I'm at Jayacat2@aol.com. You want to scream and hate it and be in confusion and swear at every God there is and have someone understand your faith isn't lost? You just want to cry? I will understand. I do know what you're going through. And I will see you through it, if you'll let me.

Title: Re: We buried my sister yesterday
Post by Mastifflvr28 on Oct 7^th, 2002, 12:14am

Barb,
Nothing I can say, you are in my thoughts.
Mast :'(

Title: Re: We buried my sister yesterday
Post by forgetfulnot on Oct 7^th, 2002, 12:35am

Bummer Barb., ....................................................................

Title: Re: We buried my sister yesterday
Post by Svenn on Oct 7^th, 2002, 3:29am

Barb,
Nothing I can say, you are in my thoughts.

Svenn

Title: Re: We buried my sister yesterday
Post by BobG on Oct 7^th, 2002, 3:36am

Our sympathies and prayers to you and your family.

Title: Re: We buried my sister yesterday
Post by nancyc on Oct 7^th, 2002, 12:17pm

Sis, I am so sorry for your loss..but always remember, you were one terrific sister to Pat...you are a blessing to me...smiles, nancyc

Title: Re: We buried my sister yesterday
Post by echo on Oct 7^th, 2002, 12:20pm

Sorry to read of your loss. Take it a day at a time. Life will go on, you will adjust to fit the new environment.

Title: Re: We buried my sister yesterday
Post by Elaine on Oct 7^th, 2002, 12:39pm

I am sorry I was not there as I had hoped to be.
I knew you and Pat and I know how much you each ment to each other.

I know Pat and me talked a few times about death and I think she was like me more worried about you and the rest of the family.

Pats ok she is no longer in pain. You will be also. Time will less the pain. Good thoughts will come and make you warm inside.

Its ok to cry...Its ok to scream and its ok to be lost for a wile. She would want you to smile when you think of her not cry. Thats the way I would like people to think of me. I know Pat had God in her life, I know she is in Heaven and all is beautiful.

There is not a lot we can take with us when we leave. But one thing we do take with us and leave here for others. Its Love Brabara. That you two had.

You take care you have my number and you know I am here and love you.

God Bless you and the rest of the family!

Title: Re: We buried my sister yesterday
Post by Dan H on Oct 7^th, 2002, 5:04pm

BarbaraG,

Very sorry to hear of your loss. The pain is a tough thing to understand. No one can touch the way you feel right now. I lost my brother 4 years ago, he was only 48 at the time.

There isn't a day that goes by that I don't think of my brother..... He will always be in my heart and will live there forever.

Your sister will be in yours.....

...... Dan H

You are in my thoughts

Title: Re: We buried my sister yesterday
Post by 2late on Oct 7^th, 2002, 5:22pm

I'm very sorry to hear of your loss, carry on the best you can, it will get easier with time. .............2late

Title: Re: We buried my sister yesterday
Post by Darleen on Oct 7^th, 2002, 5:44pm

BarbaraG,

So sorry to hear of your loss..As everyone has said, life doesn't make sense sometimes and although we can't always understand why things happen we can only assume there is a reason although I'm sure the reasons are unclear. We are all here for you and know we hold you deep in our hearts and prayers.

Darleen

Title: Re: We buried my sister yesterday
Post by Linda T on Oct 7^th, 2002, 6:10pm

Dear BarbaraG: So sorry for your loss. You'll be in my thoughts and prayers.

Linda T

Title: Re: We buried my sister yesterday
Post by paul_b on Oct 8^th, 2002, 1:21am

The physical is gone but the memories live on AND we can talk to our loved ones whenever we want for as long as we want. I send you comfort in your grief. paul b

Title: Re: We buried my sister yesterday
Post by oringkid on Oct 8^th, 2002, 1:20pm

It does feel strange and you do feel lost when an important chapter in your life ends. But, new chapters will begin. You will find a way to take your memories of your sister with you where ever your life takes you, and she will be a comfort to you.

Sherry