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Freddy, I wish you all the luck in the world, and if this girl is worth anything, she'll only be empathetic and not run out into the night screaming bloody murder that her date is possessed.
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oh and P.S. I hope you don't get hit! I really really mean that! 
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Re: Dating and CHs
« Reply #1 on: Mar 21st, 2004, 12:53pm » |
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It's not a girly post and us sensitive men really do care.
Now pull up your big girl panties and get over yourself.
I'm just kidding. I heard that line once and have been waiting for months to use it. 
Sure hope the date goes smooth but if the lady is present during an attack and sticks around when it's over I'd say she's a keeper.
Best of luck. Go for it!
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on Mar 21st, 2004, 12:44pm, HypnoticFreddy wrote:| from one of these online dating services. |
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DAMN!!!
You must be one ugly m*th*rf**k*r to go there....LMMFAO
Good luck, Freddy.....LMAO
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Re: Dating and CHs
« Reply #3 on: Mar 21st, 2004, 1:16pm » |
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Over the years I've had more girls be understaning that ones that do not. Well, they don't understand really, but they try to understand or help, as if there is such a thing. There's probably a better chance that you'll make her cry than anything else. i guess it all depends on how ugly you are.... J/K 
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Re: Dating and CHs
« Reply #4 on: Mar 21st, 2004, 1:39pm » |
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on Mar 21st, 2004, 12:53pm, BobG wrote:...if the lady is present during an attack and sticks around when it's over I'd say she's a keeper.
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Re: Dating and CHs
« Reply #5 on: Mar 21st, 2004, 6:14pm » |
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Yeah, some are understanding, some not. I was married young (at 22, she was 20), and developed CH a couple of years later. She was NOT understanding of it... 
Consequently I have a different woman as my wife now. This wife is far more understanding of my CH's and the impact... 
Honesty is always the best thing. There were other issues in my first marriage, and the all centered around things that were not quite out in the open...but not supporting a so-called loved one with a physical trial, that's pretty low. Everyone deserves better treatment, but often don't get it...
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Re: Dating and CHs
« Reply #6 on: Mar 21st, 2004, 6:56pm » |
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Hypno,
Well she met you and agreed to a date?
She's a keeper.
Now snap your fingers and bring her out of it Hypno.
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Re: Dating and CHs
« Reply #7 on: Mar 21st, 2004, 7:24pm » |
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Hey Freddy, I checked out some of your mp3's. Pretty cool kinda like Pink Floyd meets Yanni...
I too am a keyboardist, although I suck... But I have a serious hardon for all things synth and gear oriented.
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Re: Dating and CHs
« Reply #8 on: Mar 21st, 2004, 7:53pm » |
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on Mar 21st, 2004, 6:29pm, HypnoticFreddy wrote:
It was some Jim Carey movie. I didn't like it. It was awful confusing.
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Good move, seeing a good movie is a great way to get hit hard.
born in Endicott? You weren't in IBM's toxic plume were you?
I don't live to far from there, I see why you moved to CT.
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Re: Dating and CHs
« Reply #9 on: Mar 21st, 2004, 8:04pm » |
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on Mar 21st, 2004, 7:03pm, HypnoticFreddy wrote:I have to speak in all honesty......
She is a bit heavy. I am a superficial arsewipe of a 31 yr old. She is 22. While she is heavily career motivated in the medical area and she is well-spoken,
I can't get past looks. It has to be there first and foremost. Heavy girls are what I am finding on this online dating services. I work out and play tennis and I can't get past it. 
I think she likes me and if you want to see a pic of me (I am ugly, but not that ugly) go to www.segalweb.com/bio
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Oh MAN freddy...... 
Fat girls need love too!!!!
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Well, if this were the year 2002 and I were single, I guess that would have left me out too...
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on Mar 21st, 2004, 8:34pm, HypnoticFreddy wrote:Unfortunately, I have invested time in my life to make myself "not obese"
In fact I am in the correct weight range for my height.
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I can understand this.
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Obviously you didn't have that with this girl. And that's OK! If it would have been me, you would have had problems.....LMFAO
just kiddin,
mel
(now there's 2 ways to take this post, it's all in how you perceive it )
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Re: Dating and CHs
« Reply #12 on: Mar 21st, 2004, 8:48pm » |
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Well.........the thing is: 30 plus years ago, I was with Sally, who wasn't fat but she wasn't thin. That lasted nearly 4 years. We had fun. I'm surprised she could stand me. I looked anorexic back then....Oh that was in the Utica area Freddy. I'm now at the other end of 86 in Jamestown.
Hope you post more often.
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Scott, that's your personal opinion, and I'm not trying to attack you here. I was overweight myself due to birth control and depression meds. I finally broke free of that 3 years ago, until I got pregnant in 2002 and blew up like a balloon. Anyhow, I'm not going to tell you to try and look beyond appearance, because when you come to the moment you become REALLY attracted to someone, it won't be because of the way she looks, but how she acts. Love really is blind. 
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Re: Dating and CHs
« Reply #14 on: Mar 21st, 2004, 9:28pm » |
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Scott,
Don't worry about it, your 31, well-schooled, accomplished. She's 22, and just ambitious yet only. That can have something to do with sparks.
You've learned a lot but being 31, yet to learn the reality of acceptance. Without it you'll be mindblinded. The things you won't see because you are not thinking about looking for them. Didn't someone find a cure for polio in moldy bread.
It'll take a few more years to see the person someone has become, beyond a narrow focus. A person's personality is a form of art they've created. You'll appreciate that art at some time and it may not come in the form you may have expected. Some have accomplished beautiful intelligent art beneath a rebelious veneer. Being the art may be abstract, it may not be discernable to those looking for an Aphrodite sculpture.
There is a higher attraction than just physical, immediate presence as percieved by someone not knowing else. And remember things can change. Check
out Mel.
At your age ambitions are directed at what you see because that is easier than understanding the abstract
of a person's mind.
Don't worry, I'm a lot older than you now and definitely had preferences. However, body without mind is more of a void for mental sparks. Try the challenge of an older woman. You'll be begging.
Your 31, have fun, it comes in all sizes, and ages.
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Re: Dating and CHs
« Reply #15 on: Mar 21st, 2004, 9:40pm » |
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May I translate this?
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on Mar 21st, 2004, 9:28pm, Kevin_M wrote:Scott,
Don't worry about it, your 31, well-schooled, accomplished. She's 22, and just ambitious yet only. That can have something to do with sparks.
You've learned a lot but being 31, yet to learn the reality of acceptance. Without it you'll be mindblinded. The things you won't see because you are not thinking about looking for them. Didn't someone find a cure for polio in moldy bread.
It'll take a few more years to see the person someone has become, beyond a narrow focus. A person's personality is a form of art they've created. You'll appreciate that art at some time and it may not come in the form you may have expected. Some have accomplished beautiful intelligent art beneath a rebelious veneer. Being the art may be abstract, it may not be discernable to those looking for an Aphrodite sculpture.
There is a higher attraction than just physical, immediate presence as percieved by someone not knowing else. And remember things can change. Check
out Mel.
At your age ambitions are directed at what you see because that is easier than understanding the abstract
of a person's mind.
Don't worry, I'm a lot older than you now and definitely had preferences. However, body without mind is more of a void for mental sparks. Try the challenge of an older woman. You'll be begging.
Your 31, have fun, it comes in all sizes, and ages.
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Eventually you'll be old, flabby and bald, with hair growing out of your nose and ears. About the time you notice that the skin on your ass might be getting saggy, you won't be so picky about the appearance of the women who will give you more than the time of day.
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Re: Dating and CHs
« Reply #16 on: Mar 21st, 2004, 9:50pm » |
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on Mar 21st, 2004, 8:50pm, HypnoticFreddy wrote:but I see us Americans as becoming fatter, lazier, and eating more junk food.
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Remember Scott, being capitalistic, business has learned.
The cheapest commodoties there are happen to be salt, fat, and sugar. The more you can stuff into what you sell people, the more profit you make. This fact will not disappear. Things are changing, but it will cost more and will be made less convenient. Those busy people without the money or time will face these economic realities more often, especially when you have families.
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Re: Dating and CHs
« Reply #17 on: Mar 21st, 2004, 10:09pm » |
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on Mar 21st, 2004, 9:49pm, HypnoticFreddy wrote:Yes I will get old. I won't be bald (genetics), and I won't be flabby. I am 31 and I missed my chances earlier in life.
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Yeah, and at 13 (196 me and my buddies saw our older brothers and said we would never do drugs.
You didn't miss chances, you are VERY accomplished. Many of the guys in relationships gone sour with that girl that looked great at 2:00am are looking at you and saying the same thing. Funny how the grass looks greener...
Now you got time to look, hey only first date. You got lots of time. Good things aren't going to come easy.
Buck up, the fun is getting there. You got years to find what you like. Just keep looking. Failing is not trying, trying is an excuse for not doing. Just make sure when you get my age, you got no regrets. You got lots of years to do that. I got just a couple regrets and they're raspy. There's too many out there, too many options, choose wisely.
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Freddy,
You do not suck! Also, 31 is VERY young dammit, it HAS to be! I turn 30 myself this year, so stop making me feel old! LOL
Anyhow, it almost seems like you want to give up... I hope that's not the case. Perhaps you should just stop trying so hard, and enjoy your life during your PF time? I found love when I wasn't looking for it. I was just having fun at my best friends birthday party, and in walks this guy whom I really thought nothing about because he wasn't typically what I'd go for (appearance wise), until something like 2 hours later when he started flirting with me and making me laugh. The next time I saw him we were discussing marriage, kids and our life history.
I think ya just gotta do what makes you happy, and let a lot of this stuff roll off yer back. Life's too damn short to be picky or worried all the time. Also, don't be afraid to make mistakes, just try to learn from them.
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Yeah, you could say that, especially since I am, LOL, but this is SO not true!!
I'm rootin for you here!
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Re: Dating and CHs
« Reply #19 on: Mar 21st, 2004, 10:20pm » |
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on Mar 21st, 2004, 9:49pm, HypnoticFreddy wrote:
For Pete's sake Freddy.. 31 is Not *Life over now I have to settle time*. Take it back I say...
btw, Mel is right. Be your "whatever" self, stop looking, enjoy life.... There's nothing more attractive than someone who is smiling and loving life. Then, when they flock, you can pick and choose.
DOn't give up.. and HAVE FUN dammit.
I'm tellin you 31 IS NOT old.
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Re: Dating and CHs
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on Mar 21st, 2004, 9:40pm, t_h_b wrote:May I translate this?
Eventually you'll be old, flabby and bald, with hair growing out of your nose and ears. About the time you notice that the skin on your ass might be getting saggy, you won't be so picky about the appearance of the women who will give you more than the time of day. |
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Guilty on grounds of roundabout verbiage.
Well Thomas, getting the time of day was my line I used yesterday.
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31?
Get out the Depends....Your old....LMAO
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Re: Dating and CHs
« Reply #22 on: Mar 21st, 2004, 10:37pm » |
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I wish I were 31 again and had your problems. Sheesh!
An understanding spouse of whatever dimensions is far more important than anything. I've got one. Neither of us is what we were. BFD.
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Re: Dating and CHs
« Reply #23 on: Mar 22nd, 2004, 4:36am » |
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Freddy,
was that film Eternal Sunshine of a Spotless Mind?
Anyways, good luck to you! You deserve someone who will understand CH. I'm educatinng my friends
PFdays,
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Re: Dating and CHs
« Reply #24 on: Mar 22nd, 2004, 11:47am » |
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on Mar 21st, 2004, 8:50pm, HypnoticFreddy wrote:
I have very little sympathy for an obese person. Just as someone could have no sympathy for certain things I may do......
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OK - I understand not being attracted. That's cool -- That's YOUR thing... and that's fine. I TOTALLY understand that. You dont want a big girl... no problem.
BUT - I really Really REALLY hope that you dont think that being overweight is a choice for all obese people.
Yes, some over-indulge... and some are lazy - and some dont care enough about themselves....
BUT - there are a lot of skinny people that dont work out, and eat a lot of shitty foods, and are NOT healthy. It goes both ways.
Some people have illnesses that dont ALLOW them to be active.
Some people take meds (... prednisone for one) that make you heavy - no matter what you do.
Genetics play a part too... and Some people have thyroid conditions, etc.
I didn't mean to start anything. If you dont find the girl attractive - that's YOUR thing.. it's NOT a big deal.
You are an intelligent person - I can tell. So, please dont stereotype and JUDGE overweight people.
You dont know thier habits, dont judge them.
I know you will find someone to settle down with who will understand your CH. I was lucky and found my soul mate when I was young .......
I'm done... 
peace--
Tina
PS - i am fat - and I love to play tennis.
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