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To date or not to date.....
« on: May 12th, 2008, 10:56am » |
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This is what I'm getting matched with (yahoo, match, eharmony, plentyoffish):
“The most influential person in Ervin's life has been:
• I would have to say my widow.”
your widow? hmm.... gotta say I've never tried dating a dead man before
“I have been divorced for about 14 years and still can't meet the right person who will accept me as who I am.”
um…. how the hell can you meet people if you stand them up? (this guy has stood up at least 12 women on the first date. yes, one was me - after he begged and begged me to go out with him)
“About Me
Lets see I like all kinds of things!!! Women, cars(1967 Cougar) the way a woman looks when see is getting ready to cum!!! “
uh, yeah... this one looks like a winner! (GAG!!!)
“So i started taking Pictures, all of them are taken by me let me know what you thing.
Like so me feed back. Thinking of taking a class.”
what can I say?
Hell, I must be quite the catch to get matches with THESE guys!  
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Re: To date or not to date.....
« Reply #1 on: May 12th, 2008, 11:03am » |
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Lizzie:
Um, hmmm, it's like this: beauty may be skin deep, but stupid goes straight to the bone. Those guys are stupid!
There's gotta be a better way than this!
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Re: To date or not to date.....
« Reply #2 on: May 12th, 2008, 11:16am » |
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on May 12th, 2008, 11:03am, Ray wrote:
There's gotta be a better way than this!
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There is! I'm done dating for now.
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Re: To date or not to date.....
« Reply #3 on: May 12th, 2008, 11:18am » |
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Lizzie Hun,
The pickin's really are getting slim out there. I have to be honest, that even though I do gripe once in a while, I really am pretty content being single.
Taking a break has really helped me get many other life situations under control. Might be worth thinking about.
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Re: To date or not to date.....
« Reply #4 on: May 12th, 2008, 11:37am » |
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Lizzie, do what I'm gonna do if I become single again.........
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Re: To date or not to date.....
« Reply #5 on: May 12th, 2008, 12:17pm » |
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jen, u crack me up!!! i have been saying that for yrs!!! i have been separated for 1.5 yrs,( i wouldd be married 27 yrs this july) and like redd said , i am extremely content with being single! at this point in my life, i could do the rest of my life without a man!!! I am an independent strong woman, who really really likes herself..........i have many girl/guy friends, many hobbies, ..i travel, take classes, have a full time job i love ....sure there are sometimes i think about having a man in my life, but when i take a step back, it's all good...........and then there is this CLUSTER THING........uggggggg do i really want to be bothered explaining this beast????/.....i have made a promise not to "actively" search for a man.....if it happens, it is meant to happen.................HOWEVER, if i hear through the grapevine that the first love of my life, for 6 yrs, beginning in highschool, is single, I WOULD ACTIVELY PURSUE GETTING HIM BACK!!!!..........without even thinking.................................
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« Reply #6 on: May 12th, 2008, 12:26pm » |
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LOL............. I always say that I'm gonna get myself a wife. You know, someone to cook, clean, iron, run the kids around, yard work, all that stuff.
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Re: To date or not to date.....
« Reply #7 on: May 12th, 2008, 12:38pm » |
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You know what I truly believe there IS someone out there for everyone. It's just you have to kiss one hell of a lot of arses never mind frogs to find 'em!
I wasn't looking when I met Paul, in fact, as many of you know, I was very anti the whole relationship crap thing. We started chatting over my picking on Chewy of all things and have never looked back. (Except to make sure Chewy wasn't following us of course)
Having said that, I also met David when I wasn't looking and the less said about THAT the better so I suppose in summary what I'm trying to say is Don't Look.. but with your eyes open!
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« Reply #8 on: May 12th, 2008, 12:53pm » |
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Re: To date or not to date.....
« Reply #9 on: May 12th, 2008, 1:06pm » |
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on May 12th, 2008, 11:37am, PollyPocket wrote:Lizzie, do what I'm gonna do if I become single again.........
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I am speachelss! Thanks for making me laugh.
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Re: To date or not to date.....
« Reply #10 on: May 12th, 2008, 1:16pm » |
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Internet dating is a very legitmate way to meet available men, so don't be too quick to give up on it. People who look like dopes in their bios often don't have very good skills at marketing themselves, and even first dates can be deceiving. Married folks and others in long-term relationships who have been out of the dating scene for a while don't have a clue how the Internet has helped to open up the dating possibilities. It sure beats meeting people in bars where a little alcohol can really mess up your better judgement and keep you from asking the pertinent questions.
You can also meet new people when you get involved in charitable activities, political campaigns, adult educaton classes, and groups in which you have a real interest.
You are in a situation which is envied by more people than you can imagine--free to start again without a lot of encumbrances. I think it's a lot like the lottery--if you don't play, you can't win, except with much, much better odds.
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Re: To date or not to date.....
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on May 12th, 2008, 12:17pm, debOUCH wrote:| .HOWEVER, if i hear through the grapevine that the first love of my life,,,,,, is single, I WOULD ACTIVELY PURSUE GETTING HIM BACK!!!!..........without even thinking................................. |
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Yeah, I've got one of those too ....
on May 12th, 2008, 11:37am, PollyPocket wrote:Lizzie, do what I'm gonna do if I become single again.........
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Aw, my loveydoveykissywookums! You're tops on my list, and ya know it....   (you did destroy that video we made, didn't ya?)
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Re: To date or not to date.....
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on May 12th, 2008, 12:26pm, Jean wrote:LOL............. I always say that I'm gonna get myself a wife. You know, someone to cook, clean, iron, run the kids around, yard work, all that stuff.
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Yeah, my wife wants one of those too.
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Re: To date or not to date.....
« Reply #13 on: May 12th, 2008, 2:03pm » |
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What can I say? I met my best supporter - also known to you as Timo - online. I wasn't looking for love but friends, but love happend. 
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Re: To date or not to date.....
« Reply #14 on: May 12th, 2008, 7:16pm » |
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Dunno Cuddlepumpkin.
Internet dating....... ahhh, who am I to judge? The last time I dated, Al Gore was still thinking about inventing the thing. 
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« Reply #15 on: May 12th, 2008, 7:23pm » |
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I can contribute exactly Jack Squat to this thread. I know nothing of dating.
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Re: To date or not to date.....
« Reply #16 on: May 12th, 2008, 7:26pm » |
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on May 12th, 2008, 7:23pm, Brew wrote:| I can contribute exactly Jack Squat to this thread. I know nothing of dating. |
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Re: To date or not to date.....
« Reply #17 on: May 12th, 2008, 7:41pm » |
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When I met Ted I had given up on the male species completly. He became my best friend instantly and we became inseperable only to become lovers and then spouses. I still remember the conversation like it was yesterday on weather we should start dating or not and risk our friendship. Alas that was 26 years ago.
Liz, you have alot to offer a relationship. Dont give up yet. Just remember it is likely to come when least expecting it. Keep living life to its fullest and love will find you! As far as how to go about finding love there is the internet, church, friends, blind dates, bars, bowling leagues, sporting events, volunteer work, job, etc.
My son Anthony met his wife while he was working as the breadstick boy at Fazollis Italian resteraunt. She kept comming in and he keept bringing her bread sticks. She eventually gave him her phone number and the rest is history. Theyve been married a couple of years now and are happy. Just goes to show ya love will find ya when its time and in the most unlikely places.
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« Reply #18 on: May 12th, 2008, 7:46pm » |
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on May 12th, 2008, 7:26pm, George_J wrote:
Thanks for the pointers, George. You are a true mensch. I'll bookmark that site in case I ever need it.
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Re: To date or not to date.....
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Lizzie, I am like Brew, would not have the foggiest on how to date.  I wish you the best in your search, the right one is out there for you.
What's wrong with Dale Earnhardt Jr.? He is available and would look good hanging off your arm. 
Imagine Casey Kane and Jr. joining you and Teresa for Dinner! 
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« Reply #20 on: May 12th, 2008, 8:42pm » |
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on May 12th, 2008, 7:55pm, barry_sword wrote:| Lizzie, I am like Brew, would not have the foggiest on how to date. |
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Are you mistakenly under the impression that *I* have the foggiest on how to date? LOL
No, not giving up - just taking a break....
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Re: To date or not to date.....
« Reply #21 on: May 12th, 2008, 8:55pm » |
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on May 12th, 2008, 10:56am, alienspacebabe wrote:
Isn't this redundant 
Cheer up Lizzie. He's out there somewhere. Though probably not sitting behind the keyboard typing one handed.
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Re: To date or not to date.....
« Reply #22 on: May 12th, 2008, 10:53pm » |
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My opinion:
Most ( I said most, not all) of the good ones are taken.
Your small children are usually an annoyance to them after a short time.
It's really hard to find keepers once you've left school/college, unless you get together through friends or in the workplace.
Divorcees are vulnerable for two years after the split. Then they are ready to play the field. Beware. If you do get together in a serious nature, he will take "her" pictures down and put them away. If not, that's a bad sign that he's not over her.
Widowers are also vulnerable, but if they had a good marriage, they miss a loving partner, so they tend to make for a good relationship/marriage.
How do I think I know this? I've been alone since 1972 and have had plenty of time to experience the various examples mentioned.
Now, I'm an old woman looking for a blind hunk. 
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Re: To date or not to date.....
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GMA reports this morning that the best places for single women over 40 to meet single men due to the female to amle ratios are...
Alaska
North Dakota
Las Vegas
Ok Lizzie...should we consider a move out west?
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Re: To date or not to date.....
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Lizzie, it is a scary thought! I met Gil 35 yrs ago, and have never looked back......the first thing I told him, however, was that I would not be dating, and marriage was something I had given up on............go figger!
As far as advice? Sheesh! Well, let's see. I am a realtor. As such(or in current market conditions), I list a house,and it takes an inordinately long time to sell. Sellers are getting frustrated, and ask what they can do to help things along. I suggestthey leave some lingerie on the floor....something really embarrassing if someone sees it..........it's about letting your guard down, and letting things happen naturally!
*** Important caveat: Do NOT....repeat, do NOT decided to go to work commando, Lizzie.....you'll only catch a cold! You need to find some other way to espress the fact that you are not in the market........
Oh, and I agree with Helen.......there's someone out there for each and every person...........you just gotta find em!
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