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Can getting angry bring on attack?
« on: Nov 21st, 2006, 7:31pm » |
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I thought this cycle was winding down, but I'm not sure now.
I've been arguing with husband since this afternoon. Stupid stuff, really. No, I didn't unload the dishwasher yet. Yes, my prescriptions are on the kitchen table.
Now I'm having short duration (15 minutes)intense clusters, less than an hour apart. I never have them that close together. Is this from getting red in the face mad? I don't know that I can refrain from ever getting mad.
P.S. My prescriptions are still on the table. And I would have unloaded those dishes straight to the damn floor. After bouncing off his head.
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Re: Can getting angry bring on attack?
« Reply #1 on: Nov 21st, 2006, 7:57pm » |
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Anger and frustration will trigger me every single time.
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Re: Can getting angry bring on attack?
« Reply #2 on: Nov 21st, 2006, 8:15pm » |
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We both have zero patience left. I want to pinch his head off and eat it praying mantis style, but I would like for that act to occur in its proper course.
In other words, I want to have my 'cake' and eat it too. We are both just miserable. It's a frustrating thing. People with cancer have something to get angry at, and lots of community support. Headaches get real old, real quick.
This is nothing new to y'all. I'm just bored and lonely. Of my two friends, one is at work and I've already talked to the other. I'm not speaking to the clusterf*cker.
Thank y'all for being so supportive. Gotta go...need to find some more stuff to pile on the kitchen table. LOL
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Re: Can getting angry bring on attack?
« Reply #3 on: Nov 21st, 2006, 9:32pm » |
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Hopefully, this is the end of your cycle. I get these kind of back to back hits at the end of my mini-cycles.
Hang in there. I can't give you any tips on how to deal with the anger as I haven't found a way to avoid it. You did good not beaning him on the head. I'm proud of you.
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Re: Can getting angry bring on attack?
« Reply #4 on: Nov 21st, 2006, 10:32pm » |
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I found that my husband gets angry and upset very quickly and easily while he is in cycle. I try to avoid saying things that may upset him. Both of us have learnt to walk away to avoid blowing up, sometimes one even has to leave the house for a while to cool down. It doesnt seem to trigger a hit for him though.
Once you feel a bit more settled, it maybe a good idea to discuss with your husband on a strategy to use to avoid getting mad at each other, walking away and slow deep breathing usually work well.
Painfree wishes and a big hug. Its tough to keep cool while in pain.
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« Reply #5 on: Nov 21st, 2006, 10:42pm » |
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Whats for supper LOL  J/K
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Re: Can getting angry bring on attack?
« Reply #6 on: Nov 21st, 2006, 10:47pm » |
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What?....no sex tonight?.....Bitch!!!!
Your poor husband.....LOL
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Re: Can getting angry bring on attack?
« Reply #7 on: Nov 21st, 2006, 11:15pm » |
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Are you kidding? I have no problem with angry sex. I see it as another kind of medication. And there's no copay. But he has to be 'in the mood'. Whatever. Makes me sick.
He's worse than two women. I'm not trying to offend any women out there, of which I am one...but I'm sure that someone will take offense to that.
I don't take offense to being called bitch, either. I have usurped that moniker. I love it. LOVE IT. Maybe it's because I'm a short person, but it just makes me feel something I can't describe. For that old retired cop to call me a bitch makes me feel like I've finally got my own badge.
Back to the clusterf*cker. After 21 years of marriage, I still don't understand how our roles got so reversed. It does not bother me if the towels stay in the dryer overnight. I'm sure it doesn't bother the towels, nor the dryer. Why does it disturb him so deeply that he feels the need to share it with me?
BTW, center -cut pork chops oven roasted in an iron skillet with carrots and onions. It was a quiet, yet tasty meal. The only sound was the occasional whimper of a chihuahua groveling for a morsel. We'll make up before the night's over. Whether he wants to or not. heeheeheeheeheehee
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Re: Can getting angry bring on attack?
« Reply #8 on: Nov 22nd, 2006, 5:50am » |
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Cynthia,
Gee you sound like quite the character
Why porkchops.............need to cook some crawdads.  I'm fortunate in that my wife puts up with my mood swings and negative outlook during my cycles. Hard to think of house duties when you're being whacked. Generally, I feel unmotivated, pissed off during these episodes especially after the first month or so.
Right now I'm on the downswing of these things and hopefully my mood will become better.
Hang around---We need your humor 
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« Reply #9 on: Nov 22nd, 2006, 6:10am » |
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Stuff him and put him in the oven for Thanksgiving....
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Re: Can getting angry bring on attack?
« Reply #10 on: Nov 22nd, 2006, 9:40am » |
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cynthia--------- i know how you feel.. when i am in a cycle i am a huge prick.... and my wife seems to look for things to piss me off...... and yes stress leads to more hits.......
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Re: Can getting angry bring on attack?
« Reply #11 on: Nov 22nd, 2006, 2:43pm » |
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I am currently running for "Queen Bitch of the Universe!"
If another woman calls you a Bitch, you have something she wants...
If a man calls you a Bitch, he's intimidated by you!
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Re: Can getting angry bring on attack?
« Reply #12 on: Nov 22nd, 2006, 2:50pm » |
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If another woman calls you a Bitch, you have something she wants...
If a man calls you a Bitch, he's intimidated by you!
My wife will love this! Anger brings em on for me too, it's the whole stress thing. And if you're going to eat his head "Praying Mantis" style it requires copulating first, I saw that on the nature channel, fair is fair after all.
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Re: Can getting angry bring on attack?
« Reply #13 on: Nov 22nd, 2006, 11:29pm » |
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on Nov 21st, 2006, 11:15pm, CynthiaB wrote:| Are you kidding? I have no problem with angry sex. I see it as another kind of medication. And there's no copay. But he has to be 'in the mood'. Whatever. Makes me sick. |
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Does he say things like "why don't we ever just cuddle anymore" and that kinda stuff ??
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Not always.
If I call you a bitch its only because I think your a bitch. Then I go fishing.
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Re: Can getting angry bring on attack?
« Reply #15 on: Nov 23rd, 2006, 12:39am » |
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I have read this thread twice now.
I am at a loss for words. shaking my head and wondering if I caught Helens Laryngitis.
O.K. 2 things. my ex would call and I would get hit almost immediately. Stress?
BobG...never rest. always stay stressed. never relax.
This beast is never the same twice. 
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Re: Can getting angry bring on attack?
« Reply #16 on: Nov 23rd, 2006, 12:56am » |
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on Nov 21st, 2006, 8:15pm, CynthiaB wrote:We both have zero patience left. I want to pinch his head off and eat it praying mantis style, but I would like for that act to occur in its proper course.
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I sure hope you stick around. I think I'm becoming a fan.
And no, I'm not angling for pics.
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Re: Can getting angry bring on attack?
« Reply #17 on: Nov 28th, 2006, 7:15am » |
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i got into a argument w/ my wife last night...... she said i was a negative person.... the glass is half empty... because she wants to move to another house and i had some questions..........got hit 3x last and once this morning........................................... bitch
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« Reply #18 on: Nov 28th, 2006, 10:45am » |
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I'm sorry y'all are fighting and you're hurting. I think I've learned my lesson and so has hubby.
I knew I had to put a stop to it so I gave him a choice. Do you want to be the murder or the suicide?
He wanted to be the suicide. Well, I'm blonde, but I'm not stupid. Never give up your weapon!!!We started laughing. It was a good ice breaker. We had a long talk, and things have been much better since then.
TIP: this is not a good ice breaker if you actually have a gun, are not blonde, and aren't naked in bed.
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Re: Can getting angry bring on attack?
« Reply #19 on: Nov 28th, 2006, 11:12am » |
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I was told by a doc that stress is not a trigger or a contributing factor to CH.
However, I have learned that stress is a MAJOR counterpart to my CH, and that doc didn't know shit from Shine-ola!
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well she is blond............ naked in bed wont help when she sleeps on the couch every night.......... my gun ?? never
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Re: Can getting angry bring on attack?
« Reply #21 on: Nov 28th, 2006, 11:50am » |
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Dave, sounds like your wife REALLY could benefit from talking to other supporters. I'm sure most of us have been at the place she's at now and could help her understand that what she's feeling is totally normal for a cluster supporter. It's not easy being a supporter and sometimes our helplessness makes us say and do things we regret later. Please feel free to offer her my email address if she'd like to talk off the board. moxie_miss@hotmail.com. I've talked to hundreds of supporters over the years and, trust me, we all do walk the same path.
And....please don't call her a bitch, ok? It's hard. For both of you. 
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margi-------- i told her about this site the day i found it... i told her she should take a look at it........ that never happened........ i printed out some verry usefull things.... after they sat on the counter for a few days she read them......... she thinks its just a headache and i bring them on myself.... i should get over it........ she dosent get it........ and dosent want to get it
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Re: Can getting angry bring on attack?
« Reply #23 on: Nov 28th, 2006, 12:18pm » |
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keep trying, Dave....
here's some more stuff you can print out for her, ok? I wrote this a few years ago for supporters who weren't understanding what their loved ones were going through or how they could help. Some people just don't know where to start, so they emotionally shut down. Maybe this stuff will strike a chord with her?
http://www.clusterheadaches.ca/DesktopDefault.aspx?tabid=100
and this:
http://www.clusterheadaches.ca/DesktopDefault.aspx?tabid=103
This is text from our OUCH Canada home page. Our site is about to come down, so maybe print this out for her today? Don't give up on her... and please do offer her my email addy (not the clusterheadaches.ca, it's about to become extinct - use moxie_miss@hotmail.com).
Anyway, I honestly hope this helps you, Dave - her support IS crucial to your survival - sometimes supporters don't realize that.
"It's difficult for others to imagine (or believe) the intensity of different types of head pain because we can't “see“ a headache. However, any cluster headache sufferer or supporter will tell you different. This IS visible pain. Cluster Headache is said to be the worst imaginable pain known - more intense than limb amputation without anaesthetic or natural childbirth. Centered around one eye, cluster pain is one-sided and, during an attack, causes the affected eye to tear, the sinus to fill, and sometimes the eyelid will droop. (The picture above is one of our sufferers who generously volunteered her picture for the website. Thank you, Gayle! Her husband, Len, took this shot just as she was coming out of an attack.) Here is a close-up of this picture (may take a moment to load):
http://www.clusterheadaches.ca/DesktopDefault.aspx?tabid=97
Cluster headache is a very rare affliction, quite often misdiagnosed and affecting less than 1% of the world's population. Most of our sufferers here have gone years being misdiagnosed to have sinus infection, migraine or tension headaches - simply because cluster IS so rare. It is believed that cluster is caused by a misformed hypothalmus, deep within the brain. The hypothalmus is responsible for controlling sleep patterns, body temperature, circadian rhythm, mood, etc. Most cluster sufferers react differently to all these things, compared to non-sufferers. To date, there is no cure for cluster and it has often been referred to as “suicide headache“. Cluster pain is devastating and life altering for everyone involved. It can not kill you, but it can definitely rob you of your life.
We, here at O.U.C.H. Canada, are a group sufferers and supporters who intimately understand what it means to be a “clusterhead“. We are not medical professionals. This website is written as a labour of love and dedicated to those affected by this horrible condition. It is our sincere wish that this website will further cluster headache education and lead our research professionals to someday find a cure.
On this website, you will find a great deal of information that will hopefully help you to deal effectively with clusters. There is material available for you to print out and discuss with your doctor, your family and your employer. We have an interactive message board and chat room where you can share your story and meet other sufferers. We often find that understanding support is vital to our own survival. "
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Re: Can getting angry bring on attack?
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on Nov 28th, 2006, 12:07pm, dave..... wrote:| margi-------- i told her about this site the day i found it... i told her she should take a look at it........ that never happened........ i printed out some verry usefull things.... after they sat on the counter for a few days she read them......... she thinks its just a headache and i bring them on myself.... i should get over it........ she dosent get it........ and dosent want to get it |
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