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My whole life best friend had a nervous breakdown
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two weeks ago, he was hospitalized in the nut house till yesterday. His wife said the docs didn't suggest any non family members visit at the hospital, so I didn't get to see him till today at his home.
We spent the day at his house, and I have to be honest here, he is without question not the person I once knew. He's literally a walking zombie. I asked his wife when he fell asleep at lunch, if they are going to get his meds right, because he ain't right, and she said he's much "better".
My question is, if you knew anybody that has had this happen to them, and did they ever come "back" 
Any knowledge you might have would be greatly appreciated.
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« Reply #1 on: Sep 7th, 2007, 9:52pm » |
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« Reply #2 on: Sep 7th, 2007, 9:53pm » |
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Well, my aunt was at the hospital for a month, the prognosis was not good , the Neurologist said her brain was "shrunk" after all the seizures and the heart attack she had and He didn't think she was ever going to be the woman she was before, she wasn't talking, she was totally unresponsive...
Today, I spoke to her on the phone and she recognized me and ask me about my daughter, she started walking and she is regaining her hability to use the bathroom on her own....she is going to be the woman she was before, all with a "shrunk" brain 
Everything is possible, with the right Doctor, the right medication, the right attitude from the patient and all the prayers from family and friends...
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« Reply #3 on: Sep 7th, 2007, 10:01pm » |
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It's possible that the meds he needs are doing this to him. My guess is that once he can cut down on the meds, he'll start being his old self again.
I'm sorry you're friend is having a hard time, honey. hugs to both of you, nani
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« Reply #4 on: Sep 7th, 2007, 10:07pm » |
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I suppose it would depend on what he was diagnosed with, and how severe it is--but I'm not able to offer much insight. Sorry.
My cousin was schizophrenic. Medication controlled his symptoms pretty well, but he was inpatient and outpatient and inpatient throughout his life. It's a tough road.
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« Reply #5 on: Sep 7th, 2007, 10:15pm » |
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My bet is its the meds.
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« Reply #6 on: Sep 7th, 2007, 10:18pm » |
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He's had my prayers Rosy, and still will. I asked his wife what they're going to do about work, and she said they don't know yet, he can't drive. My first thought was "can't drive?, he can't even THINK!!!!!!!!!" Things are a huge mess over there, his boss is paying him still but you know that generosity is gonna fade away soon, especially if he goes to the house to see him the way he is, he'll know he's not right instantly.
I'm really worried
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« Reply #7 on: Sep 7th, 2007, 10:26pm » |
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I think the family should check this out with the Doctor and find out if He is going to start taking less meds, normally that is what they do, the doc starts removing meds one by one until the patient is left with the minimum amount to function.
The family should not accept that term "better" they need to look for the way to bring him back to normal not to keep him doped forever just to have him calm down.
and yes you are right Sean, generosity fades more if his boss hears what the family says about his "better" condition...
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« Reply #8 on: Sep 7th, 2007, 10:30pm » |
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What caused it Sean... was it chemical or emotional... My cousin had a nervous breakdown when we were kids and he is still not the same, they have him drugged really bad... Yet I know a girl that had an emotional breakdown and she is fine... married and with children too years after.
I also knew a woman that was on steroids for an allergy and didn't taper off them and she woke up rocking in a psyche ward... she is better but fragile... God bless your friend... I will pray for him. Sean don't give up on him. And be an advocate. I am sure you know more about meds and drugs than his wife does. Sheesh... life is hard isn't it...
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Re: My whole life best friend had a nervous breakd
« Reply #9 on: Sep 7th, 2007, 10:35pm » |
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on Sep 7th, 2007, 10:26pm, Rosybabe wrote:| I think the family should check this out with the Doctor and find out |
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Re: My whole life best friend had a nervous breakd
« Reply #10 on: Sep 8th, 2007, 12:31am » |
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Like George said, it depends a lot on the diagnosis your friend has. Acute adult "nervous breakdown" where the person is not him/herself is most likely some form of acute psychosis.
Acute psychosis can be caused by a lot of things, from undiagnosed schizophrenia to bipolar to major depression to drug/alcohol induced to even chemical imbalances.
Its only the tip of the iceberg. What you wouldnt have seen is the symptoms/events leading up to it. Your friend woud have had a long history of some psychological or biological symptoms for a while before reaching this state.
The good news is the acute psychotic symptoms will pass. I am sure your friend will not stay " a zombie " forever. Once the medications start to work properly, he will regain his brain functions as well as his personality. This usually takes a few days to a couple of weeks.
The bad news is that then he will have to start on the difficult and long journey of dealing with whatever events/situations that led him to this point, to be fully recover. This will take months if not years.
Treating acute psychosis is easy, treating the underlying causes is the hard part.
Please be there for your friend. He needs you more than anytime now. Right now, friends and family are those who help him connect to reality and to draw the strength from to recover. Just treat him as normal, be sensitive to his needs but dont walk on eggshells around him and most importantly dont view him or treat him differently just because he has had a "breakdown".
Take heart, he will get better, a lot better with the right kind of treatments and support.
Sending healing vibes and prayers to you and your friend.
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Re: My whole life best friend had a nervous breakd
« Reply #11 on: Sep 8th, 2007, 1:55am » |
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Sorry about your friend. Will he get better? Hard to say. Do I know anyone who this has happened to and did they ever get back to normal?
I had a breakdown about 10 years ago... am I back to normal? That's hard to say. But every day is a step away from the breakdown. After the breakdown I became agoraphobic... and probably still am to some degree but not as intensly as I have been in the past. It takes time and lots of love to recover from a breakdown... and in my case therapy has helped a lot as well.
Be patient with your friend... after all he is still your friend, just a little incapacitated for now. Show him tons of love and stick by him and you will be doing both of you a big favour.
just my 2 cents,
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Re: My whole life best friend had a nervous breakd
« Reply #12 on: Sep 8th, 2007, 9:54am » |
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BTDT, and yes, things can get a whole lot better. It also depends on *why* he was admitted. Nervous breakdowns don't necessarily mean a *psychotic* break or anything like that. Talk to his wife. AND, if he's been in for two weeks, he should be leveling out some what, depending on what they were giving him. What I would ask about is when they intend to start out-patient therapy. The sooner he starts therapy, the quicker things will get better.
I was a bit differnt though, because they day I walked out of the hospital, I flushed every pill they had given me down the commode, cos' being a walking/talking zombie was no fun.
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« Reply #13 on: Sep 8th, 2007, 10:05am » |
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My first thought is that his meds causes this change in mood.
There will be better days ahead my friend!!
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« Reply #14 on: Sep 8th, 2007, 10:25am » |
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on Sep 7th, 2007, 9:18pm, Sean_C wrote:We spent the day at his house, and I have to be honest here, he is without question not the person I once knew. He's literally a walking zombie. I asked his wife when he fell asleep at lunch, if they are going to get his meds right, because he ain't right, and she said he's much "better".
My question is, if you knew anybody that has had this happen to them, and did they ever come "back"
Any knowledge you might have would be greatly appreciated.
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That's not the nervous breakdown- it's the meds. When someone is hospitalized for a mental ailment, they pump them with all kinds of mind-numbing stuff.
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Bill killed an old man today, I'm lost for words, I'm lost for emotion, I'm just lost 
He has schizofrenia, his meds weren't working. Everybody keeps calling me, I just don't know what to tell them so I don't answer.
Are his doctors to blame for not committing him? I can honestly say he is a dilutional man.
I'm numb His wife called me at 2 o'clock histerical, wanting me to go find him
I'm numb
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« Reply #16 on: Nov 2nd, 2007, 8:03pm » |
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Sean... I'm so very sorry about this. You are in my prayers and your friend Bill as well. Also the poor old lman and his family. What a terrible tragedy.
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« Reply #17 on: Nov 2nd, 2007, 8:08pm » |
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Sean - I'm so very sorry for you and for your friend and his family. What a horrible place to be.
Hang in there - lean on us for now until you can catch your breath, at least.
Sending prayers and hugs.
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« Reply #18 on: Nov 2nd, 2007, 8:08pm » |
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sean,
I'm so so sorry i really am, im lost for words ........
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« Reply #19 on: Nov 2nd, 2007, 8:10pm » |
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OMG Sean I was watching that all afternoon... they didnt let the kids out of school in Needham til like 4:30. Did he know those people???
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Sean, so very sorry. I do not know what to say.
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Re: My whole life best friend had a nervous breakd
« Reply #21 on: Nov 2nd, 2007, 8:22pm » |
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Sean, I am so sorry for you, your friend and his family! What a terrible tragedy for all involved.
My heart goes out to you my friend. I'll keep you all in thought and prayer. Do whatever you need to do, but still stick by your friend and continue to love him regardless. He's going to need that, his family will need that and in time you'll realize YOU will need that.
all that I have bro.
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« Reply #22 on: Nov 2nd, 2007, 8:23pm » |
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Horrible tragedy, indeed.
I'll be praying for your friend, his family, and for you.
It might not help much, but I'd like to give you something to think about. I had a nephew who wad having a horrible time with ADHD. He had REAL ADHD.. not just a little "unfocused", but to the point he couldn't think straight. His parents, my brother and his wife, brought him to the doc for help. The meds they had him on seemed to be working.... for a minute. After being on them for a week, they started causing violent episodes. He backed his mother into the corner of the kitchen with a knife! One night, she woke up to find him standing over her bed (my brother was working), and when she asked him what he was doing, he started to strangle her.
After seeing such a huge change, they took him off the meds, and tried something else. He's now doing fine, and doesn't even recall the things he did while on that other med!
I guess what I'm trying to say, is don't let this get to you too bad. I know it's hard, and it's a horrible outcome, but you KNOW that wasn't your friend. It was a chemically altered person who just happened to LOOK like your friend. The meds that are prescribed for the brain are sooo touchy! This is (unfortunately) what can happen when they aren't used properly.
Sincerely hoping things work out for the best,
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« Reply #23 on: Nov 2nd, 2007, 8:35pm » |
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He is now where he needs to be.
Not trying to be mean, bro.....But, if it were my best friend I would say the same thing.
Its a fucking shame!
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« Reply #24 on: Nov 2nd, 2007, 8:40pm » |
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Why did this have to happen?
Why didn't they commit him?
They'll have no problem committing him now. Why did someone have to die to have this done? His whole family died today, his kids, his wife and children, his father, brothers, and you might as well through me in there too. Even worse, the poor folks of the people this happened too
I don't know what to do, who's gonna feed his family? They didn't do anything, but you know the lawyers are gonna take everything, not that thats much.
Everybody lost today
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