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mynm156
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Need help from our Legal Savvy Brethren
« on: May 3rd, 2007, 2:18am » |
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Hey gang I am looking for some examples of cases where one parent has terminated the legal rights of the other. You see my wife is seeking this for her X. He meets the requirements by the state of Oklahoma. I find the subject unpleasant gang but he doesn’t want to be a man about his kids and I have been raising them she wants me to adopt her girls. However, we are going to need to do it ourselves attorneys cost too much at this point. I have the laws ready to quote but really would like case examples to reference especially the actual documents so I can borrow from its content. I send good vibes to you all and thanks for any and all help!
Howard
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« Reply #1 on: May 3rd, 2007, 10:10am » |
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careful.....I have a friend paying $600 in child support on two kids that aren't his, he adopted them, she divorced him, and got back together with the kids real dad. The state says "in the best interest of the child".
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« Reply #2 on: May 3rd, 2007, 10:24am » |
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Do YOU want to adopt them, or is she pushing you to do so?
BTW, if it's you wanting to, then good on ya!! 
The way we did it is we got a lawyer, up here it costed us $1000 to have them do all the arranging of the paperwork, the social worker to make a visit and then the final day in court when the judge passed the adoption.
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Re: Need help from our Legal Savvy Brethren
« Reply #3 on: May 3rd, 2007, 10:37am » |
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If you are needing Oklahoma Case law, you can go to
www.oscn.net you can look up cases, and search court dockets for similar content...I don't know which state you need it for, but I work for a law firm in OKC...so you'll have to know what county, etc...but its a place to start!
if you want my email address, just IM me and we can talk a little more privately....
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Re: Need help from our Legal Savvy Brethren
« Reply #4 on: May 3rd, 2007, 11:01am » |
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in the best interest of the children would be if they get to have two fathers...
I mean, you can still keep raising them without having to adopt them (love does not require papers), the guy can loose his parental rights but STILL have to pay child support for the girls...
if you adopt them He won't have to pay a dime...
I know you have been supporting them by know, but by law he has to pay support to them..it would be better for the girls if they count with their father child support (think about college fund)
talk to the lawyer, you will see that they don't have to see the guy if they don't want to (the matter has to be supported like if he is not a good image for the girls ) but He has to pay child support anyway...
and about you, life situations can change at any time, what if you and your wife get in trouble and divorce? you will be stuck paying support for children that are not yours and you will not be able to start again...think about it...
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Re: Need help from our Legal Savvy Brethren
« Reply #5 on: May 3rd, 2007, 12:33pm » |
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Howard,
I divorced a dysfunctional alcoholic drug-addicted woman back in 2000. The court gave me physical custody, and we had a visitation schedule in place. My ex was not stepping up either, and that bothered me a lot, but there was nothing I could do about it. Eventually, her issues got worse, and the court agreed that she needed to pass a drug test before they would allow any more visitation. That was over a year ago, and nothing has changed since then.
The point is, I would rather that the kids got to visit with her, but at some point you do have an obligation to the children's safety more than the need for visitation. I think this is the only time where you step in and try to legally change things. If the guy is being disruptive or endangering the children, then do something, but you don't want to take away parental rights just because somebody else could do a better job at it. Did that make any sense?
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« Reply #6 on: May 3rd, 2007, 7:02pm » |
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Wow Gang that for all the love and support you are all the ONLY good thing that comes with this pain THANKS!!
Well, my wife is not pushing the subject at all. She planted the seed a few years ago and has not really said anything moe about it until we both talked about it recently. The deal with thier sperm donor is this in the five somewhat years that they have been divorced he has seen then a small hand full of times and only made two partial payments on his own. He has gone out of his way to not pay child support quits jobs once they do find him. he has not paid a dime in 13 months and has never paid any of the other medical or childcare expenses. He almost never calls misses birthdays and holidays he doesnt want the job. He pretends that he does once in a while but it is JUST enough to upset the older of the two. I know that we all make mistakes in life I am no different but MAN UP FOR YOUR CHILDRENS SAKE!
No more soapbox sorry.
Thanks again for all the input and cluster love!
Howard AKA MYNM156
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Re: Need help from our Legal Savvy Brethren
« Reply #7 on: May 3rd, 2007, 8:00pm » |
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on May 3rd, 2007, 7:02pm, mynm156 wrote:| MAN UP FOR YOUR CHILDRENS SAKE! |
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Re: Need help from our Legal Savvy Brethren
« Reply #8 on: May 4th, 2007, 12:22am » |
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Hi Howard. I'm pretty sure that you only have to follow the law in the state you are living in. It may be harder to do without an attorney, but it's possible. In NM, you have to send a notice of your intention to the last known address, and also run an ad in a legal newspaper for 2 weeks. If he doesn't come forward to contest it, generally, it should go your way. Good luck, buddy. hugs, nani
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Re: Need help from our Legal Savvy Brethren
« Reply #9 on: Jun 2nd, 2007, 5:20am » |
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Thanks gang I will keep you posted. It looks like I am going to have to pursue this through his state as it doesnt seem to be that BIG of an issue here or GROUNDS for in Arizona. That good ole AZ for ya!!
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