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From a Male Perspective...
« on: Apr 16th, 2007, 10:39am » |
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Ok Gentlemen,
My husband is coming home on a mid-tour leave from Iraq around the 27th of this month...from a man's point of view...what would you all like to come home to?? I want this to be great for my husband. Thanks!!!
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« Reply #1 on: Apr 16th, 2007, 10:55am » |
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How do you look in a teddy?
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Can you get rid of the kids for awhile? If you have them, he'll want to spend some time with all of you right away, but make arrangements for them to spend the night at Nanna's one of the nights he's home. It doesn't have to be special or perfect - just alone, without fear of interruption.
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Re: From a Male Perspective...
« Reply #2 on: Apr 16th, 2007, 11:08am » |
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Whatever you do for him is gonna be special, but at the end of the day just being able to hold you again will be the thing that means the most 
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Re: From a Male Perspective...
« Reply #3 on: Apr 16th, 2007, 11:19am » |
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Cold beer and hot sex in large doses.
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« Reply #4 on: Apr 16th, 2007, 11:30am » |
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real home cooked food.....
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« Reply #5 on: Apr 16th, 2007, 11:35am » |
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Yeah Thomas...
That's kind of what Im thinking. My take is men like food, beer and sex...and as long as I can give him that he'll be happy.
I just wanted to go the extra mile and make things very memorable...he has to hold on to the memories, as do I, for awhile. And it's been a long time for both of us.
Im planning to turn the ringer on my phone off and focus a hundred percent on him...everything can wait for a few days. This is awfully important to both of us.
Oddly, Im actually nervous. I mean he's my husband, we've been together for seven years, but it's as if it's new...I don't know I cant explain it. 
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Re: From a Male Perspective...
« Reply #6 on: Apr 16th, 2007, 11:45am » |
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on Apr 16th, 2007, 11:35am, sldrswyfe wrote:
My take is men like food, beer and sex...and as long as I can give him that he'll be happy.
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'nuff said right there 
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« Reply #7 on: Apr 16th, 2007, 12:02pm » |
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A blowout.
Nothing makes a guy feel appreciated like a party in his honor.
Beer and pizza and brats and buddies. Lots of buddies.
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« Reply #8 on: Apr 16th, 2007, 12:17pm » |
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please post pics !!
Of the beer of course ! What was you thinking ? 
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Re: From a Male Perspective...
« Reply #9 on: Apr 16th, 2007, 2:05pm » |
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I'm with maffumat on the home cooked food. Being married to a chef, I really miss that when I travel. Lobster has a good idea too with the party. Maybe a party with his good buddies the night he comes home, with some real good home cooking.
Of course, you'd have to take care of the sex before everyone shows up!
Oh, and thank him for us for serving his country!
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« Reply #10 on: Apr 16th, 2007, 2:12pm » |
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You addressed this to gentlemen, so I probably don;t qualify, but here goes. 
You said, "Oddly, Im actually nervous. I mean he's my husband, we've been together for seven years, but it's as if it's new...I don't know I cant explain it." that is not unusual. You have beebn apart for some time, and have both been experiencing life on a different level.
He will need some time to depressurize quietly with you. Just being there will mean more to him than anything else. Make it nice, but keep it simple.
don't pressure him to talk about his experiences. there will be things he does not want to think about, that he wants to leave behind. Let him talk about what he wants to talk about about the tour, but let it be at his pace. Most of all, BE there for him.
Give him a big hug for me and give him my gratitude for doing the job for us./
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Re: From a Male Perspective...
« Reply #11 on: Apr 16th, 2007, 2:16pm » |
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All of the above sounds great!
I personally would like to just spend time reacquainting myself with my spouse.
I don't mean just nookie.
Talking and looking into her eyes........
I think I need to do that anyway and I have not been away serving our country.
Thank you and thank him!!!!
Enjoy your time regardless of what you do!
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« Reply #12 on: Apr 16th, 2007, 2:27pm » |
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Clean the house (he will want to go to a nest clean and tidy ), put something to make it smell nice (natural flowers), order his favorite food (order it so you have time to go to the beauty salon, get the hair done and all waxing done (a brazilian would be a plus )) .
A very good bottle of wine and after the kiddos see him send them with Grandma and have the rest of the day ( and night for him).
Get a new teddy or new underwear (the fancier the better), put some nice music and lots of candles.
After 2 or 3 days like this, you can invite some pals over and have beer and pizza. Rent the new releases so he gets update on that too. Take lots of pictures so he can take those when he has to go back and make copies for you too.
Go out for dinner with the kiddos too.
Most of all, Enjoy his company!
and please tell him We Thank him for his sacrifice and his service to this country.
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Re: From a Male Perspective...
« Reply #13 on: Apr 16th, 2007, 2:39pm » |
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He's gonna need a hug and a shitload of understanding and patience.
And a thank you from me
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« Reply #14 on: Apr 16th, 2007, 3:01pm » |
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Sex, more sex, great meal, more sex more home cooked food, beer, then concentrate on fluffy stuff, then the TV clicker
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« Reply #15 on: Apr 16th, 2007, 3:37pm » |
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Thanks guys...I know what I would want....but I want to do what HE would want...and he's already requested his favorite foods that I make...something he came out and told me is one of the things he misses the most.
I will be sure to have the frig stocked with his favorites..and Rosy...got all that!!!! I've been getting "Teddy Ready"...believe me. Waxing, tanning, mositurizing....all of it. I want to look edible.
But, I told him this too...I wouldn't care if my hair was in a ponytail and he was covered in mud...I just want to jump into his arms...have them around me...and mine around him. Just touch him, look at him...that is sacred.
Jerry, that is so true. Honestly, he's much more interested in telling me about the tour. Unitl he's home for good, safelly next to me, I don't want to hear all of it...I already worry and know the reality.
I like hearing from a man's view what it is that makes a man happy...beside the obvious...and I can't wait as much as he cant!!! It's been just as long for me. Thank all of you....for your suggestions and support, it means alot to me. Sherri
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Re: From a Male Perspective...
« Reply #16 on: Apr 16th, 2007, 3:49pm » |
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NIght 1- just you and a great home cooked meal with a few drinks
Night 2- you, the kids and a great home cooked meal.
night 3- you, the kids, All his good buddies (or mates ) bbq and beers
night 4- let him choose which night he gets to repeat.
do i need to say with 'lovin' on each night
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« Reply #17 on: Apr 16th, 2007, 6:01pm » |
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More butt sex!
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« Reply #18 on: Apr 16th, 2007, 6:19pm » |
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Oh good grief -- make him feel at home right off -- Give him a list of "honey do's" --
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Re: From a Male Perspective...
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HEY!! Who asked for YOUR comment in THIS thead? Read the title ... From a MALE Perspective...
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I have seen some of you guys posting in the other one listed LADIES...
everyone puts his nose everywhere...
so... HUSH!!
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on Apr 16th, 2007, 6:19pm, BarbaraD wrote:Oh good grief -- make him feel at home right off -- Give him a list of "honey do's" --
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Barb, I know I'm going to wish I'd never asked this...What's a "honney do"?
I hope it isn't "honney take out the trash, honey, fix the faucet..."
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Unfortunately Paul, you hit the nail, right on the head ...
Hunny, do this ...
Hunny, do that ...
Oye vay!!!
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« Reply #23 on: Apr 16th, 2007, 7:23pm » |
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I completely agree with Jerry. If he wants to talk about something he will. If it is something that you are not ready to talk about or deal with, let him know. And let him know that no matter what he has been through you love and support him no matter what. Right now you both have to be completely honest. You both have changed over the last several months. And that means sex too. Let him know you are nervous. You might be surprised, he might be too. Don't forget, that although you want every moment of his time he might need to take a few to himself. It can be very overwhelming. And a little regrouping is needed form time to time.
But most of all, enjoy each other. Nobody can understand just what you are going through and feeling right now. This is going to be a roller coaster of emotions for you both. If you need a friendly ear, I am here. I can't say that I know what you are going through. Mine has not deployed to Iraq. But we have spent a lot of time apart(he's gone now). And the time we do get to spend together is the most happy, sad, excited, and even sometimes angry times(not at each other, the situation). But they are our times. Cherish each other. I am so happy you get to see him. Thank you both for your sacrifice.
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Re: From a Male Perspective...
« Reply #24 on: Apr 16th, 2007, 8:17pm » |
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Military Wife:
I think it might surprise people...but I do feel very angry at him sometimes...just as you do children when they come home hours late...the constant terror and worry..and I have to direct it somewhere. I get angry at him, the army, the war...all of it.
Him coming here is surreal to me...I just can't believe it..it feels not real. And I feel a little shy with him(???)...we have changed..how could we not. However, I want to enjoy him as best I can...and I do love him no matter what he's had to do or thought,etc...I don't know how I would handle what he's had to, so Im no one to judge him. I just want him to know he's safe with me...I accept him...no matter what. S
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