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If I have or do sound like an ass......
« on: Apr 14th, 2007, 5:39pm » |
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I do apologize. I'm new at watching a loved one waste away before my eyes and I think I'm a bit thinned skinned these days. It's been hard for me to accept that I have only a short time to spend with my dad and while I know that the best thing to do these days is to enjoy every minute I have with the dude, it's not easy to do so with a happy heart!
Again, let me say thanks for the support you guys give and sorry if I may come off as a prick at times.
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Re: If I have or do sound like an ass......
« Reply #1 on: Apr 14th, 2007, 5:51pm » |
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I'm so sorry to hear that Jeff. I can only imagine what that must be like. Vibes going out to ya! Take care! 
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Re: If I have or do sound like an ass......
« Reply #2 on: Apr 14th, 2007, 5:51pm » |
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 . couldent see you as a prick though jeffB, i realy enjoy your sharp wit. andrew.
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« Reply #3 on: Apr 14th, 2007, 6:02pm » |
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I agree with andrew. Your posts always make me laugh.
I'm sorry to hear about your father. You will be in my thoughts and prayers.
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Re: If I have or do sound like an ass......
« Reply #4 on: Apr 14th, 2007, 6:03pm » |
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yes you are a prick 
but make the most of it now.....
your memories will help you...
i think he would sooner be "throwing a ball to you ...on a park"
be strong buddy .
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Re: If I have or do sound like an ass......
« Reply #5 on: Apr 14th, 2007, 6:41pm » |
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Jeff, we understand what you're going through right now and those of us who have met you (California contingent) and those who haven't but enjoy your sense of humor....KNOW, you're not a a$$
If you had stayed in Ca. instead of driving across the dang country to be with him...you'd REALLY be kicking yourself right now. An added bonus is you are with your daughter and you need to be strong for her, since she is so close to him. I'm sure it's a lot prettier there, than it is in Sacramento too.
One great thing about this place is that we are here to listen to you about all kinds of troubles. Headaches as well as life problems.
You're one of the good guys Jeff. 
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« Reply #6 on: Apr 14th, 2007, 6:59pm » |
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Smile with him, laugh with him...even when you're crying inside.
We've got your back, sweetie.
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« Reply #7 on: Apr 14th, 2007, 7:32pm » |
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Jeff,
Know that we're with you in spirit. Be an ass if you want to - it's ok.
Just take each moment you have with your dad and be grateful for it. You'll have these memories forever (and they will be precious - that I guarantee).
Hugs to you. BD
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« Reply #8 on: Apr 14th, 2007, 7:40pm » |
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Jeff if you're a prik and an ass I'm Moses.
I know what you're doing is not an easy thing... never will be... but an act of love isn't always easy. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
Your father is very fortunate to have you for a son.
with warm regards,
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« Reply #9 on: Apr 14th, 2007, 7:54pm » |
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Don't sweat it, Jeff. Been there.
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« Reply #10 on: Apr 14th, 2007, 8:24pm » |
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on Apr 14th, 2007, 5:51pm, kimmiedawn81 wrote:| I can only imagine what that must be like. |
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Unfortunately you can't Kimmie, its an unbearable grief thats almost impossible to shut off. Losing a loved one is undeniably very very hard.
I'm very sorry Jeff, please give our love to all.
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« Reply #11 on: Apr 14th, 2007, 8:25pm » |
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Im very sorry...the first time is always shocking...and honestly it's never easy or pleasant...Im sure you're doing the very best you know how to do...and all of these people seem to adore you...I have a weak spot for wit...I have always said you have to be very intelligent to be witty...not funny....witty. Hang in there and know, as human beings, we know what you are facing. Your dad needs you ALOT right now...a whole lot. I will pray for you, your dad and your daughter...Thoughtfully, Sherri
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« Reply #12 on: Apr 14th, 2007, 8:40pm » |
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on Apr 14th, 2007, 8:24pm, Sean_C wrote:
Unfortunately you can't Kimmie, its an unbearable grief thats almost impossible to shut off. Losing a loved one is undeniably very very hard.
I'm very sorry Jeff, please give our love to all.
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That's the thing about helping a loved one in their final days. Even if you've been through it, you can never say to someone who's going through it, "I know what you're going through." It's so different for each of us.
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« Reply #13 on: Apr 14th, 2007, 8:41pm » |
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I agree. Enjoy the time you have now and break out the camera too. You'll be glad you did later on down the road. I lost my dad in 03' ... I'd give anything to be able to sit and talk with him again !! I do a million clusters just to have one more dinner with him.
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« Reply #14 on: Apr 14th, 2007, 9:16pm » |
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My heart goes out to you, Jeff.
Do what you can. Spend the time you can with him. And take care of yourself too.
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« Reply #15 on: Apr 14th, 2007, 9:24pm » |
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Be strong Jeff, your Dad needs to see that everything will be oray with you. He is more worry about you than he is of himself. Enjoy his company.
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« Reply #16 on: Apr 14th, 2007, 9:42pm » |
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Dear Jeff,
Shut the fuck up.
Now go be your dads best friend.
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« Reply #17 on: Apr 14th, 2007, 9:50pm » |
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So sorry Jeff.
It's been awhile for me. I like the camera idea.
Some years ago I decided to go through my old reel to reel audio tapes and dub them to cassette....We began taping in my family in the fifties...I found some of my dad and mother. It may be odd to some but I love listening to them. Dad was one of those goofs hiding microphones in dining room corners.
Lots of vibes, Jeff.
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« Reply #18 on: Apr 14th, 2007, 9:59pm » |
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At first, I thought I had some salt in my eyes. Looks like that's not the case. Thank you guys for being who and what you are. The best of what this world has to offer, love ya.
You too, " My boat was just there" Chewy.
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« Reply #19 on: Apr 14th, 2007, 10:50pm » |
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Jeff,
I'm sorry about your Dad. I just lost a close friend to brain cancer yesterday, and as hard as that hit it wasn't my dad. Make the most of the time you have with him, for both of you. Take the time to talk about all the things you wanted to talk about and never did. Get him to tell you about his life before you knew him, and of his parents and grandparents. You will treasure these things for the rest of your life. So many stories and songs get taken to the grave with us that need to be shared with those that we love.
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« Reply #20 on: Apr 15th, 2007, 12:48pm » |
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OMG...LMAO here and I am so glad to see your sense of the ridiculous is still in tact.
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« Reply #21 on: Apr 15th, 2007, 12:56pm » |
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Hang in there, bud.................all I got was a phone call that my Dad died.....you have a chance to comfort him.
We got your back, bro!!!!
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« Reply #23 on: Apr 15th, 2007, 1:13pm » |
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« Reply #24 on: Apr 15th, 2007, 2:04pm » |
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Jeff,
A little story for ya my friend (who is not a prick)
The caterpiller goes into the cocoon phase and becomes a crysalis. During that time, it is changing, growing wings..Once it is ready it HAS to struggle to get out of the cocoon. Should some helpful person come along and "help" the butterfly, it will die because its wings will be too weak to fly. You see, butterflies, and people, need a certain amont of struggle to become strong enough to survive.
I have no friggin' idea how that applies to your situation, but thought you would enjoy the story.
I am now among the elders of my family-both of my parents died almost 20 years ago. I was not there for my Dad (stationed in Germany-they didn't call the Red Cross until he died), was for my Mom. It's a struggle but its worth it. Hang in there buddy.
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