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Any wedding/marriage advice?
« on: Mar 19th, 2007, 9:45am » |
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Feel free to let me know. I'm pretty nervous about the upcoming wedding, but also extremely excited. I do believe that eloping would be the way to go at this point though, the stress is ridiculous!!!
Let me know your advice! Thanks! 
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Re: Any wedding/marriage advice?
« Reply #1 on: Mar 19th, 2007, 10:04am » |
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Re: Any wedding/marriage advice?
« Reply #2 on: Mar 19th, 2007, 10:29am » |
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For all married couples, Wedding Cake seems to chronically suppress the womans sex drive. They should put an FDA warning label on that stuff.
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Re: Any wedding/marriage advice?
« Reply #3 on: Mar 19th, 2007, 10:44am » |
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I firmly promised my mother-in-law that the next time I got married I would elope. However, I haven't gotten the chance to try yet after almost 30 yrs.
Wish you the best!
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Re: Any wedding/marriage advice?
« Reply #4 on: Mar 19th, 2007, 11:08am » |
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Only one piece of advice from me...
Don't worry so much about the one day festivities, Focus on planning the marriage and the life together.
Thats what is the most important anyway. 
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Re: Any wedding/marriage advice?
« Reply #5 on: Mar 19th, 2007, 11:09am » |
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My youngest daughter is gettin hitched on the twenty third of June.I offered her ten days at any Sandals resort if she would elope and she turned me down so I get four hundred folks in my front yard instead.The upside of this is that I get my yard aerated from them high heels.
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Re: Any wedding/marriage advice?
« Reply #6 on: Mar 19th, 2007, 11:12am » |
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only one piece of knowledge.... men and women think differently about almost everything. they approach a problem from nearly completely different angles, and often both have the ability to solve the problem, only differently. Once you accept that it makes the whole process easier (because it ain't gonna change).
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Re: Any wedding/marriage advice?
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on Mar 19th, 2007, 11:09am, vietvet2tours wrote:| My youngest daughter is gettin hitched on the twenty third of June.I offered her ten days at any Sandals resort if she would elope and she turned me down so I get four hundred folks in my front yard instead.The upside of this is that I get my yard aerated from them high heels. |
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I would have picked the Sandals resort!!!
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Re: Any wedding/marriage advice?
« Reply #8 on: Mar 19th, 2007, 11:18am » |
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on Mar 19th, 2007, 11:13am, kimmiedawn81 wrote:
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I bought my oldest daughter ten days at the Sandals in the Bahamas.She got married on the beach and sent me the pics.Good deal for them and a great deal for me.
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Re: Any wedding/marriage advice?
« Reply #9 on: Mar 19th, 2007, 11:21am » |
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If you spend the rest of your life with one goal in mind, and that is to make him happy. AND....if his one goal in life is to make YOU happy, then you will have a good marriage. But both of you need to feel that for that to happen.
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Re: Any wedding/marriage advice?
« Reply #10 on: Mar 19th, 2007, 11:40am » |
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Don't worry at your reception that everything has to be perfect, it will be, so just enjoy the day because it goes by real quick.
Also, if he has a bachelor party, make sure he does it a week ahead of time. You don't want to have a Groom with a hangover.
Wheres our invitations?
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Re: Any wedding/marriage advice?
« Reply #11 on: Mar 19th, 2007, 11:44am » |
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on Mar 19th, 2007, 11:40am, jimmers wrote:Don't worry at your reception that everything has to be perfect, it will be, so just enjoy the day because it goes by real quick.
Also, if he has a bachelor party, make sure he does it a week ahead of time. You don't want to have a Groom with a hangover.
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Well, he doesn't drink, so I don't have to worry about him having a hangover. Also, our reception area only holds 200 people, so unfortunately I can't invite any of ya. Trust me, if I had the reception hall that I really wanted (which is taken on that day) I would be inviting all of you. I wish you all could be there, but I'll be posting plenty of pics, don't worry!
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Re: Any wedding/marriage advice?
« Reply #12 on: Mar 19th, 2007, 11:51am » |
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Re: Any wedding/marriage advice?
« Reply #13 on: Mar 19th, 2007, 11:51am » |
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My father gave me the 5 rules of marriage for men.
1: You were right.
2: I was wrong.
3: I don't know what I was thinking.
4: It will never happen again.
5: I'm sorry.
When all is said and done you're going to go groveling for forgiveness cuz women can hold out far longer then men. It's much easier to just grovel from the get go!
(It'll be 25 years in September!)
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Re: Any wedding/marriage advice?
« Reply #14 on: Mar 19th, 2007, 12:12pm » |
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Yes, I have GREAT advise about the nuptials ... DON'T DO IT!!! Run while you can, and still have your testicles attached!!! ... ... ... Oh, wait, I am suppose to be telling the groom that ... Ignore my last ... LOL
Other advise to the groom: Learn and practise this phrase, and then use it often: "Yes, dear ... "
ALSO, make sure YOU always get the last words of any argument. And they should be: "Yes, dear, you are right ... I was wrong ... "
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Re: Any wedding/marriage advice?
« Reply #15 on: Mar 19th, 2007, 12:36pm » |
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I could tell you about all the wonderful times to come, and yes, some of the best times of your life are definitely yet to come, but many soon to be married couples never consider life past the honeymoon. They get married thinking life will always be perfect, then reality sets in and they end up getting divorced because their partner isn't who they thought s/he was or life isn't like it was when they were dating.
Be honest with yourself about who your husband to be really is. He is not the ever-perfect knight in shining armor with the blinding smile and perfect manners. He will likely drink from the milk carton, belch, fart in bed, scratch himself, leave the toilet seat up, pay more attention to his hobby (football, baseball, car, computer, etc) than to you at times, have opinions that differ from yours and a whole host of other things. If there is something about him that drives you crazy now, imagine yourself living with it for the rest of your life. Don't get married thinking you will be able to change him, his attitudes or his opinions.
Marriage is the toughest job you will ever love. It won't all be sunshine, lollipops and roses. Keeping it together will take hard work and compromise on the part of both of you. You will have your share of disagreements. This is not the end of the world or the marriage. If things get too heated, go to your neutral corners and come back and work it out when cooler heads can prevail. Sometimes you will just have to agree to disagree. Never go to bed angry. You may never get a second chance to say I Love You.
Having said all that, I have to think hard to remember a time before I married Jane. Sometimes it seems like we have always been married and then sometimes it seems like just yesterday I watched her coming up the aisle. I could not imagine me without her. After 17 years, her mother says we still act like newlyweds like that was a bad thing. I hope we are always that way.
I wish you all the best love and marriage have to offer.
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Re: Any wedding/marriage advice?
« Reply #16 on: Mar 19th, 2007, 12:46pm » |
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on Mar 19th, 2007, 11:21am, Jimi wrote:| If you spend the rest of your life with one goal in mind, and that is to make him happy. AND....if his one goal in life is to make YOU happy, then you will have a good marriage. But both of you need to feel that for that to happen. |
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Jimi speaks the truth.
You should ALWAYS have HIS best interests in mind and heart, and he yours. Anything else is unnacceptable if you mean to stay together forever. Those vows you take MEAN something. If you can't truly mean those vows then don't take them.
Get your stress level down now because you'll be a basket case by the big day if you don't.
You will remember VERY little about the actual day; it goes by in a blur and the next day your face aches from smiling too much. No one will remember what anyone wore, how anyone looked, if the flowers were perfect, if the soloist was off-key . . . .
It's the lifetime of living happily ever after that matters . . .put your energy into THAT.
I only remember one thing that anyone said to me at our reception; it was "how long do you expect this fiasco (our marriage) to last?" This from an old friend of the family . . .it'll be 25 years this October.
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Re: Any wedding/marriage advice?
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Oh Gator - that was lovely!
Spoken like a truly happy married man.
Bravo sweetie!
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« Reply #19 on: Mar 19th, 2007, 1:05pm » |
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ok, my advice? don't get into the "what about me, my feelings, what I want to do, where I want to go, what I want to buy" mode. KISS (keep it simple stupid) him and things will be just fine. Oh, and trust should go both ways and be a main stay in your marriage.
I've got lots more, but I figure I'd just give you a couple tidbits.
mel, who's been married for 9 years (together for 13)
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Re: Any wedding/marriage advice?
« Reply #20 on: Mar 19th, 2007, 1:22pm » |
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My biggest piece of advice...
Go easy on him. Men are, well, stupid. Ignorant. We might look good, and lord knows we can please you now and then, but for the most part, we are idiots. Don't take it personally when we prove this fact repeatedly. We don't do this only to make you crazy, we are born this way. Cut us a little slack, and everybody will be happy.
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« Reply #21 on: Mar 19th, 2007, 1:35pm » |
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My advice would be to read, read and re read the wedding vows. Think about what they actually mean and make sure you can live the rest of your life keeping them.
Oh and never say "Nuffink" when asked "What's wrong?" LOL
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« Reply #22 on: Mar 19th, 2007, 1:55pm » |
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All good advice and I'm taking it all to heart. Thank you guys! Keep it coming!
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My kids got married at HedioismII in Jamica and only "fun" people showed up.(Her mother and father were the only duds in the crowd - still are) I got there a week ahead of the wedding just to check out the place and had a great time. So far the marriage has lasted 10 years. Big weddings are a crock.... My theory -- enjoy them.... the marriage is a lot longer than the wedding (usually)..
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Re: Any wedding/marriage advice?
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Kimmie - Just keep these rules in mind and you should be ok.
How many men does it take to open a beer?
None. It should be opened when she brings it.
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Why is a Laundromat a really bad place to pick up a woman?
Because a woman who can't even afford a washing machine will probably never be able to support you.
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Why do women have smaller feet than men?
It's one of those "evolutionary things" that allows
Them to stand closer to the kitchen sink.
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How do you know when a woman is about to say something smart?
When she starts a sentence with "A man once told me..."
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How do you fix a woman's watch?
You don't. There's a clock on the oven.
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Why do men pass gas more than women?
Because women can't shut up long enough to
Build up the required pressure.
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If your dog is barking at the back door and your wife is yelling at the front door, who do you let in first?
The dog, of course. He'll shut up once you let him in.
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A woman who won't do what she's told
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I married a Miss Right.
I just didn't know her first name was Always.
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Scientists have discovered a food that diminishes a woman's sex drive by 90%.
It's called a Wedding Cake.
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Why do men die before their wives?
They want to.
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Women will never be equal to men
until they can walk down the street with a bald head and a beer gut, and still think they're sexy.
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In the beginning, God created the earth and rested.
Then God created Man and rested.
Then God created Woman.
Since then, neither God nor Man has rested.
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