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Inevitably some Nightmares come true (updated )
« on: Aug 10th, 2006, 12:45pm » |
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I am a wreck. I just got off the phone with my ex mother in law who informed me her son--my psychotic ex and the kids dad, showed up at her house after being gone for over 2 years. The restraining order I had placed against him expired last month....I knew this was inevitable that he would surface again.
He was outside the gate (being kept at bay by two large dogs) where the kids were outside playing. He hollered "Hi Kids, Daddy's back!" My ex mother in law looked up, saw it was him and immediately rushed the kids into the house and locked the door. My ex father in law went outside with the shotgun and held him there while mom in law called the police. He is in jail for the moment.
The fact that he is back anywhere near me or my children scares the everlovingshit out of me. My mom is on her way to pick me up to go get the kids. I am too much of an emotional wreck to even think about driving. All I want to do is get to my kids and hold them.
I feel so helpless.
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Re: Inevitably some Nightmares come true
« Reply #1 on: Aug 10th, 2006, 12:50pm » |
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Get a new restraining order, while he's in jail.
If he wants to see the kids, let him get a lawyer and start proceedings... they never do. I'm pretty sure you don't have to let him near them otherwise.
Be strong, DD... the CH superhero gang is ready to assemble at your call.
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Re: Inevitably some Nightmares come true
« Reply #2 on: Aug 10th, 2006, 12:50pm » |
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Damn.......
Time to go back to court for another order. Do what you have to do.
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Re: Inevitably some Nightmares come true
« Reply #3 on: Aug 10th, 2006, 12:54pm » |
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Sorry to hear about this, Donna.
To begin with, try to get another restraining order in place. Shouldn't be difficult to do, since there's history here, and he's shown up again, and was jailed.
A restraining order is certainly not a cure-all, but it seems to have helped for the past two years, according to what I'm hearing from you.
Next step is to get an attorney and explore your options. If your kids' safety and your safety is at issue, you should have several.
Good luck, and my sympathies are with you. No one should have to live in fear.
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Re: Inevitably some Nightmares come true
« Reply #4 on: Aug 10th, 2006, 1:02pm » |
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Donna, that sucks-yes you should get a new restraining order, listen I've been where you are-keep yourself and your kids safe okay. Do what you have to do. Will be praying for ya (yep I believe it helps sometimes)
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Re: Inevitably some Nightmares come true
« Reply #5 on: Aug 10th, 2006, 1:08pm » |
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Donna,
Lots of vibes are on their way!
I'm so sorry that bad news arrived on your doorstep. 
I pray that things will work out for the best for you and your children.
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Re: Inevitably some Nightmares come true
« Reply #6 on: Aug 10th, 2006, 1:14pm » |
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Sounds like this guy has issues (head problems). Be careful with this guy!
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Re: Inevitably some Nightmares come true
« Reply #7 on: Aug 10th, 2006, 1:30pm » |
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on Aug 10th, 2006, 12:50pm, nani wrote: the CH superhero gang is ready to assemble at your call.
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Well, shit...I just tried on my uniform and it's a little, um, snug.
Is it OK if I come in my street clothes? 
Just trying to get you to smile for a sec. 
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Re: Inevitably some Nightmares come true
« Reply #8 on: Aug 10th, 2006, 1:34pm » |
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Re: Inevitably some Nightmares come true
« Reply #9 on: Aug 10th, 2006, 1:47pm » |
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What everyone else said.
and Donna? BREATHE. Take something to relax yourself so you can handle this.
I can feel your fear, worry and stress all the way over here.
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Re: Inevitably some Nightmares come true
« Reply #10 on: Aug 10th, 2006, 1:51pm » |
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the fact that his own mom doesnt want him around scares the shit out of me Donna.... prayin for you darlin..... love ree (who has been through this kinda stuff too)
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Re: Inevitably some Nightmares come true
« Reply #11 on: Aug 10th, 2006, 1:53pm » |
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I'm here for you Donna should ever you need anything.
Remember, you have a worldwide network of badass clusterheads who can make life a living hell for anyone.
Stay strong sweets and you have my #.
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Re: Inevitably some Nightmares come true
« Reply #12 on: Aug 10th, 2006, 1:56pm » |
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Being that the old " Order of Protection" just expired---coupled with the fact that he has reappeared--means that you will have NO PROBLEM getting a new one. And if he comes back yet again---he'll be in prison extremely fast...Do it right now !!!
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Re: Inevitably some Nightmares come true
« Reply #13 on: Aug 10th, 2006, 2:26pm » |
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Sorry about the bad news. Dallas isn't that far away, if need be call I can travel and I don't play well with others.
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Re: Inevitably some Nightmares come true
« Reply #14 on: Aug 10th, 2006, 2:37pm » |
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Donna we're with you 100%.. get him sorted asap.
Bastard. He no more wants to see the kids than my ex does (first one), this is mind games with you, simple.
What a piece of dirt he is 
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Re: Inevitably some Nightmares come true
« Reply #15 on: Aug 10th, 2006, 3:47pm » |
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Donna Sweetie... As soon as you pick up your children, have your mother to take you directly to the Court House or where ever you need to go and get the Order of Protection reinstated immediately.. If his own mother called the police on him and his father holds him at bay with a shotgun, I diffently don't want him near you or your children.
I'm Praying for you Sweetie...
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Re: Inevitably some Nightmares come true
« Reply #16 on: Aug 10th, 2006, 4:34pm » |
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Annie, I mean... Donna get your gun!
Hang in there Girl.
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Re: Inevitably some Nightmares come true
« Reply #17 on: Aug 10th, 2006, 4:43pm » |
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Geez Donna your in Texas..take him out hunting and shoot him in the face.. 
Really, mean people suck and to have mental issues on top of it,better keep your powder dry.
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Re: Inevitably some Nightmares come true
« Reply #18 on: Aug 10th, 2006, 5:23pm » |
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Donna you know how to get a hold of me if you need to talk...I dont know what to say but am a great listener.
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Re: Inevitably some Nightmares come true
« Reply #19 on: Aug 10th, 2006, 5:31pm » |
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DD
Get a gun and keep it loaded. If he comes near you SHOOT him in self defense. I've seen what he can do to you and the kids....
does he know where you live this time? Maybe they'll keep him in jail for a while. He's NUTZ!
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Re: Inevitably some Nightmares come true
« Reply #20 on: Aug 10th, 2006, 6:16pm » |
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Um...I don't know all the details about this guy but I take it he is BAAAAAAD NEEEEEEWS ??? Do the kids know to keep away from him.......would imagine so......yeah I'd go with a restraining order that says he has to live in Sibera Pam
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Re: Inevitably some Nightmares come true
« Reply #21 on: Aug 10th, 2006, 7:29pm » |
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Bless your heart
You've come a long way since gettin' rid of his a$$.
Be kewl....and remember to breathe!
At least you know where he is (for now), go ahead and get him on the child support too. Maybe his incarceration will be extended. Once a turd....always a turd!
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Re: Inevitably some Nightmares come true
« Reply #22 on: Aug 10th, 2006, 7:44pm » |
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He's no match for you, Donna!
You are so much stronger than him! Only cowards behave like he does.
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Re: Inevitably some Nightmares come true
« Reply #23 on: Aug 10th, 2006, 9:07pm » |
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Bastard Like everyone said, get that restraining order back in place and go hug those beautiful angels you have...
We are all here for you, whatever you need...
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Re: Inevitably some Nightmares come true
« Reply #24 on: Aug 10th, 2006, 9:11pm » |
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You have received good advice from all. The restraining order expires, he shows up. Shows that he still hasn't gotten the message. Keep us posted Donna and be careful.
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