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Donna_D.
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It has to be done...
« on: Jul 24th, 2006, 9:16pm » |
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I made a HUGE decision in my life today. As of Friday, I am quitting my job...and no, I don't have another lined up...YET.
Many of you who have known me over the last three years know how my boss has a habit of not paying me on time. I have had a belly full for quite awhile now, but needed to get through convention to insure I had the time off to attend.
Since I have been back from convention, things have gotten worse..much worse. Today was the final insult.
I went into her office to discuss getting paid. My "boss" then proceeded to ATTEMPT to belittle me into what I can only call "submission". She had the NERVE to tell me that if it weren't for her I would not have made it through the last two years and that SHE was the only reason I was making it today. THEN...this is the kicker... she told me that she felt I had not changed one bit since I left my ex and that I was still basically a doormat for people to walk upon!! It was in that moment of clarity that I realized...the ONLY person walking on me in my life now....IS HER!!!!!!!!!!
SO, short story long...I am doing something I have never done before. I am quitting one job without first having another lined up. I do have a good lead on a temp service where I can get work as early as next week and that should tide me over until I can get the job I WANT instead of just ANY job.
I returned from convention, envigorated and empowered and feeling pretty damn good about life and I will be DAMNED if she is going to try to rob me of that by making me feel inferior.
Those of you who REALLY know me, know why I am posting this...No looking back now.
Thanks for the ear and send some "find a good job quick" vibes my direction. (I have already applied for a few that I would love to have, I am just waiting on some callbacks...so I have faith in me and my skill set that it won't be long before I post about my new position and how happy I finally am)
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Re: It has to be done...
« Reply #1 on: Jul 24th, 2006, 9:20pm » |
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Sometimes we just have to do what we have to do and damn the consequences.
I'm sure you didn't just snap your fingers and make this decision. It sounds like you've been giving it some thought for quite a while. Where I'm from - what happened to you would be considered constructive dismissal and you'd have a good case for the Courts!
Good luck in finding what you're looking for. You have a lot to offer a prospective employer and I'll bet you will have a new job before you know it.
Please keep us posted.
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Re: It has to be done...
« Reply #2 on: Jul 24th, 2006, 9:20pm » |
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Good decision Donna. You will be happier and "they" will have lost a great asset.
I want to be 1st. in the cheering section. I just need to find my pom poms..I think Mast stole them.
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GOOD FOR YOU DONNA!!!! No more taking CRAP from that bitch!!!
I am behind you 110% in whatever you decide you want to do! I love you and you are worth SO much better hon!!!
Good on ya for taking your life back!! 
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Re: It has to be done...
« Reply #4 on: Jul 24th, 2006, 9:23pm » |
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You will be better off Donna............
You will find something better...
HIGH FIVE to YOU!
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Re: It has to be done...
« Reply #5 on: Jul 24th, 2006, 9:25pm » |
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call me dubble D.......
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Re: It has to be done...
« Reply #6 on: Jul 24th, 2006, 9:27pm » |
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HI NOT4!~~~!!!!
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I will tell you, you did a great job as president of OUCH. Since you took that job, I have seen a significant improvement in participation, the web site, the newsletter and now what looks like a great convention. It's the result of a good team but it takes a good leader to facilitate and allow it to happen. I hope you find a great job that allows you to fulfill your obvious potential and rewards you for it. Please go into the interviews with the confidence that they would be lucky to have you. I mean this sincerely. Good luck.
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Re: It has to be done...
« Reply #8 on: Jul 24th, 2006, 9:29pm » |
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You go, girl!
I did this once. Quit a job as director of copyrights at a music publisher because the president was asking me to ignore certain details of writers' and arrangers' contracts in order to save the company money. I quit on the spot without anything else lined up. Here's the encouraging part: I was working full-time in a completely different field within 2 weeks.
You can do that to, Donna. Talented people like you don't stay dormant very long. Pat and I will be having good thoughts for you.
Knock 'em dead,
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Re: It has to be done...
« Reply #9 on: Jul 24th, 2006, 9:35pm » |
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Good for you! better things are coming your way
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Re: It has to be done...
« Reply #10 on: Jul 24th, 2006, 9:35pm » |
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Me too Donna and if you think of a cool on line business Im workin for you...... I'm not gettin naked though..... ok
As of Sept 1......IMMMMMMMMMM UNEMPLOYED...... and broke.....LOLOLOL......
Good luck Donna...... YOU will be great..... ree
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Re: It has to be done...
« Reply #11 on: Jul 24th, 2006, 9:38pm » |
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"Not everything that is faced can be changed, but nothing can be changed until it is faced" - James Baldwin
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Re: It has to be done...
« Reply #12 on: Jul 24th, 2006, 10:24pm » |
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YEEHAW !!!
You go girl!!!
Really glad to hear you took the big step. She seemed to have a real problem paying her employees.
With your talent, you'll get another real quick.
I love ya,
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Re: It has to be done...
« Reply #13 on: Jul 24th, 2006, 10:26pm » |
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Your courage and bravery never ceases to amaze me, you go and we are right behind and beside you rooting for you!
I am proud of you!
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Re: It has to be done...
« Reply #14 on: Jul 24th, 2006, 11:17pm » |
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Quote:so I have faith in me and my skill set that it won't be long before I post about my new position and how happy I finally am)
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And I do too. Does she not know that she had the President of OUCH working for her? You are an amazing woman Donna and I am glad you walked out on her. I will be anxious to hear about your new job and how happy you are with it.
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Re: It has to be done...
« Reply #15 on: Jul 24th, 2006, 11:58pm » |
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Donna,
I think what you did was indeed admirable. My sister just did the same thing a few months ago after working a job for over 30 years.
Her health was more important than putting up with all the BS they dished out there. Stress was getting to her and we were hating who she had become.
So, I think you've made a wise choice and applaud your courage.
Keep us posted and know we're behind you.
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EDNA
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Re: It has to be done...
« Reply #16 on: Jul 25th, 2006, 1:57am » |
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For anyone else who is curious, it was about a year ago that I temporarily had a "new boss"...I started working for a DME company called Atlas Providers that officed with my "old" boss to save money and I was actually getting paid on a regular basis for a while. Then my old boss basically railroaded the "new" boss out of there and the guy I was working for literally walked away from the business and signed over all interests to my "old" boss who then once again became my "new" boss. Atlas Providers officially closed it's doors on 01/01/2006 and that is when the paychecks started bouncing again.
Lots of people who have kept up with me through PM's and phone calls will tell you the same.
Hope that explains it all....
And to the person who PM'd me regarding this...hope that satisfies your curiosity.
Thank you all for your kind words of support. I just completed my resumee and plan to hit the phones tomorrow and start networking for a new position.
DD
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Re: It has to be done...
« Reply #17 on: Jul 25th, 2006, 2:05am » |
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on Jul 24th, 2006, 9:28pm, john_d wrote:| Please go into the interviews with the confidence that they would be lucky to have you. I mean this sincerely. Good luck. |
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I agree...............
you dont need the stress she puts on you... you can get a better job where you're appreciated.
Good luck Donna...
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Re: It has to be done...
« Reply #19 on: Jul 25th, 2006, 2:34am » |
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Donna, hope you find a job very quickly. Knowing your skills, I don't think it should be much of a problem.
Good luck job hunting vibes heading your way.
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Re: It has to be done...
« Reply #20 on: Jul 25th, 2006, 2:43am » |
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Donna,
that desicion took guts. I'm proud of you! 
Now, here's some (((((vibes))))) coming your way. I agree: a better job is waiting for you and I hope that it finds you real soon.
Best wishes,
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Re: It has to be done...
« Reply #21 on: Jul 25th, 2006, 3:45am » |
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Good luck Donna, any employer will be lucky to have you and that low down bottom feeder will be hard pushed to replace you too which is even sweeter!
One thing I would urge you to do is see if you have any legal recourse as it sounds awfully like constructive dismissal to me as well as to Carole 
Love you lots hon
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Re: It has to be done...
« Reply #22 on: Jul 25th, 2006, 5:01am » |
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Congratulations DD, for taking this step. I'm not sure what the unemployment laws are like in Texas, but it seems to me you may have some recourse to collect it while looking for a new job. I'm sure they would be very interested in hearing about you not getting paid. So would the local labor board.
You are very talented, and I'm sure you will have no problems finding another position in no time. I'm sure you will have plenty of offers, so you can pick the best one for you. Good luck!
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Re: It has to be done...
« Reply #23 on: Jul 25th, 2006, 10:46am » |
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When one door closes another one opens, it will all work out and working where your not happy is not good. You did what was best !
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Re: It has to be done...
« Reply #24 on: Jul 25th, 2006, 11:00am » |
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Way to go, girl! You surely don't need that stress. Sometimes, things work out exactly the way they're supposed to. I'm positive that there is a better job out there...just waiting for you to find it. I'll send prayers that you find it quick.
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