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when sad memories take over
« on: Apr 7th, 2006, 2:11pm » |
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I've been thinking about my father a lot today.. and crying.
He passed away in April 18, 1997.
There has been lots of news about famous Finns who have been diagnosed with cancer, so memories from dad's announcement (he had brain tumour) came lively back... 
It's been nearly 9 years, but it still brings tears to my eyes when I think about it. 
I know it sounds silly that after all this time I still feel this strong about losing him, but my father was so much more to me than just a father. He was my friend, he was my ally, he was my confidant.
My dad was a good man; he loved to spend time outdoors fishing and hunting. He was active member at a local Lions Club. He always made me smile with silly jokes. He always had time to listen when I needed his advice and he always made me feel that I was good enough as I am. He was far from perfect, but the was the best kind of dad any girl could ask for. 
I just light up a candle for his memory.
Sorry to bring your happy Friday mood down...but I just had to get that out.
May your weekends be PF,
Sanna
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Re: when sad memories take over
« Reply #1 on: Apr 7th, 2006, 2:29pm » |
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I'm lucky, I haven't lost my father yet, but I think It'd be a whole lot sadder if you didn't have all those memories of him! He'll live a long time in you, and certainly not a downer post!
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Re: when sad memories take over
« Reply #2 on: Apr 7th, 2006, 2:38pm » |
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Quote:| I know it sounds silly that after all this time I still feel this strong about losing him, but my father was so much more to me than just a father. He was my friend, he was my ally, he was my confidant. |
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I lost a sister in labor 17 years ago and I still think about her every day. She too was my friend, my ally, and my confidant. Plus I have a beautiful 17 year old nephew who looks just like her!
Big hugs to you Sis!
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Re: when sad memories take over
« Reply #3 on: Apr 7th, 2006, 2:44pm » |
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Sanna, beautiful words about your father. When a relationship is good, there is nothing that compares to a father-daughter relationship. My dad has been gone for 11 years now, and remembering always brings smiles.
Patti
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Re: when sad memories take over
« Reply #4 on: Apr 7th, 2006, 3:01pm » |
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Sanna
Lost my mom 1/14/94 Lost my Dad 7/14/05
Thats why Patti and I did not make it to Dallas last year
I just remember the good times and smile!
Its just a mater of time for Pattis Dad He has Brain cancer and is getting weaker every day
Sanna The Pain never go`s away you just learn to live with it
Tim W Happy Pappy
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Re: when sad memories take over
« Reply #5 on: Apr 7th, 2006, 3:03pm » |
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SORRY
Patti`s dad has bone cancer not brain cancer
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Re: when sad memories take over
« Reply #6 on: Apr 7th, 2006, 3:48pm » |
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Tim sorry to hear about Pattis Dad it much be a very hard time.Remember the good and hold strong.Give a hug to Patti and let her know I;m here if need wants to I.M. me.I am blessed to still have both my parents and do not take it for granted.I don't know what she and sanna are going through first hand but I sure can lend a ear and a shoulder to cry on.
Sanna sounds like you have many great memories of your Dad.I am a Daddies girl and the thought of him someday not being here make my heart stop and honestly scares the Sh!t out of me.I believe that they are still here watching over you.A soft breeze on a hot day,a butterfly or bird not quite where they should be or just a sniff of his cologne in the air.They stay with us in memories,dreams and forever in your heart.I am sending a big cyber hug  so you know you are never alone.I.M. me if you need to talk ok.
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Re: when sad memories take over
« Reply #7 on: Apr 7th, 2006, 3:50pm » |
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Oh Sanna, I'm so sorry. HUGS! I have those days too about my mom. I tend to get real sad around her birthday and Christmas.
Anyway, treat yourself good today, have some ice cream and a nice bubble bath.
love & hugs,
mel
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Re: when sad memories take over
« Reply #8 on: Apr 7th, 2006, 6:31pm » |
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his legacy lives on...
in YOU!
and the rest of us can feel you.
smile and CHerish your memories
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Re: when sad memories take over
« Reply #9 on: Apr 7th, 2006, 7:52pm » |
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Sanna,
I hope this picture makes you smile, its my Mum soon after she came to America. she has her Easter basket.
Shes 70 now, but still yells at me in Finn.....LOL 
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Re: when sad memories take over
« Reply #10 on: Apr 7th, 2006, 8:39pm » |
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Dear Sanna, I would like to offer you this candle in remembrance of your father and to all the rest of us on the board who have lost loved ones. May they never be forgotten.
I hope that your Dad and my parents are good friends and keeping a watchful eye on us............Love, tim
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Re: when sad memories take over
« Reply #11 on: Apr 7th, 2006, 10:31pm » |
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Sanna...
Your dad sounds like he was a great man .... Always remember the good times and your dad will always be with you.... 
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Re: when sad memories take over
« Reply #12 on: Apr 7th, 2006, 11:27pm » |
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on Apr 7th, 2006, 2:11pm, sandie99 wrote:
I know it sounds silly that after all this time I still feel this strong about losing him, but my father was so much more to me than just a father. He was my friend, he was my ally, he was my confidant. |
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Not silly at all, Sanna. 12 years ago this past March 28th, my Dad died. Not an easy thing to get over. I was with him 6 hours before he died. His heart just beat itself to death. Death was sudden...and I know he had no pain.
Oh.. the memories we made over the years.
I tell my boys....make a memory....at least 1 every day with your children.
It's the memories that gets us thru....the memories last a lot longer than life.
Lots of vibes to you, sweetie...
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Re: when sad memories take over
« Reply #13 on: Apr 8th, 2006, 1:43am » |
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We're supposed to miss 'em but it does take a bit out of us I guess.
For me, very soon, I'll be the elder in the family. Whoda thunk?
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Re: when sad memories take over
« Reply #14 on: Apr 8th, 2006, 3:37am » |
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Thank you all for you kind words and things you shared and hugs, I can never get enough of them. Thank you!
I feel a lot better today.
I actually called mum last night and she felt the same way... We share the very same memory from the day dad died, so it was natural that similar things brought it back to our minds. It was comforting to hear that she missed him on the same day, too.
I do see dad when I look into a mirror: our faces have the same shape.
Jonny, that pic did make me smile, thank you.
Tim, that was beautiful candle. I saved it.
PF weekend for all,
Sanna
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Re: when sad memories take over
« Reply #16 on: Apr 8th, 2006, 6:44am » |
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Keeping loved ones alive in our hearts is how we keep them as part of our lives. Sanna, I'm sure that while you are remembering your dad, he is also thinking about you.
Best wishes,
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« Reply #17 on: Apr 8th, 2006, 7:51am » |
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Sandie,
I know how you feel. My Dad died a year ago in March. I get the same way. We found a picture of my Dad where he was laughing. We had it blown up. I have it in my livingroom and one in my truck on my sunvisor. My dad was a jokester. Since his death he has locked my keys in my car, grabed my hand and trew my cordless phone in the dish water, you would not belive the things he has done to me since he died
I just look at his picture now and laugh along with him and tell him to stop.
The sad thoughts do slip in from time to time, and I find a tear slid down my face, cause I miss him so much. Then I feel a peace come over me and go on, thats all we can do till we met them again,
The thing that helps me the most is talking about my Dad,
Its ok to cry. you can vent here any time.
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Re: when sad memories take over
« Reply #18 on: Apr 8th, 2006, 8:03am » |
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Sanna---It's ok to cry. Everybody goes through moments where they remember loved ones. My father had cancer throughout his whole body and never complained one day. He never smoked , drank, or cursed . He was my hero. I could never be one tenth the man he was, and even though he died 29 years ago---I remember him like I saw him yesterday. My mother died in 1999. In both cases I went to visit them the moment they died. I then had to call my brothers to break the news....never pleasant......but one funny thing at my mother's funeral----a friend came up to me and told me he never wants me to visit him in the hospital.
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