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I'm feeling malicious
« on: Mar 15th, 2006, 11:40am » |
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I almost never feel this angry. I never wish bad things on people. I feel like I can make an exception.
I have this wonderful friend. She's a star. You couldn't find a better friend, supporter, mother, etc.
Her (soon to be) ex is being a prick. A total prick. So much of a prick, that my friend is feeling bad about herself.
Did I mention this guy's a prick? Anyway... being that I really don't want to cause any actual harm...
I'm sending jock itch, athelete's foot and head lice vibes. OK, maybe even some stomach flu vibes, too. Oh, and a prick rash.
Am I a bad person? 
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Re: I'm feeling malicious
« Reply #1 on: Mar 15th, 2006, 11:42am » |
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Not at all!!! My best friend's husband treats her really bad sometimes too and I want to strangle him. I never would, but I would like to.
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Re: I'm feeling malicious
« Reply #2 on: Mar 15th, 2006, 11:46am » |
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spousal abuse sucks
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Re: I'm feeling malicious
« Reply #3 on: Mar 15th, 2006, 11:49am » |
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Anyone got anything for jock itch, athelete's foot and head lice? 
You're not a bad person nani - just a true friend 
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Edited to say: Oh, and prick rash now too! 
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Re: I'm feeling malicious
« Reply #4 on: Mar 15th, 2006, 11:50am » |
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He's not physically abusive. If he were, I'd have to kick his ass myself. He's worse. He came off as this wonderful husband. Some (myself included) even said things like, "Oh, he's wonderful. You're lucky." Turns out...he's just a prick. Did I mention that?
Two faced, phony, passive-aggresive, find a weakness and pounce, kinda prick. I'm tellin' ya...I am sooo pissed.
If she were your friend, what might you say to make her feel better about herself?
edited to add; LMAO, Lee. I must have sent the vibes in the wrong direction.
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Re: I'm feeling malicious
« Reply #5 on: Mar 15th, 2006, 11:53am » |
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Nani,
I bet all of us know someone who makes us feel like that man makes you feel right now. The important thing is, naturally, what we do with those feelings. The only that I would worry about is that what those feelings do to you. He doesn't feel what you feel...
Feeling negative things can only have an impact on the person who feels them. So when I feel negative feelings coming, I let them come and then make them go away as soon as possible.
But having said that, once, when I was VERY angry at one person, I put that person's pic in front of darts board and played few rounds. It did wonders!
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Re: I'm feeling malicious
« Reply #6 on: Mar 15th, 2006, 11:56am » |
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on Mar 15th, 2006, 11:53am, sandie99 wrote:
But having said that, once, when I was VERY angry at one person, I put that person's pic in front of darts board and played few rounds. It did wonders!
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I like that, Sanna. If only I could put him in front of the dartboard.
No worries, I wont let the prick mess up my day... I just really want to mess up his...face. I'm a mean mo-fo sometimes.
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Re: I'm feeling malicious
« Reply #7 on: Mar 15th, 2006, 12:06pm » |
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on Mar 15th, 2006, 11:50am, nani wrote:
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Tell her that " he's not good enough for you, honey". Passive aggressiveness is some of the worst, dishonest, underhanded behavior. It's the opposite of true intimacy, and making someone feel worse about themselves in order to make oneself feel better is at the low end of the human weakness scale.
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Re: I'm feeling malicious
« Reply #8 on: Mar 15th, 2006, 12:08pm » |
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es-lax in his brownies? that'll teach him passive aggressive.
Nani, asking how you can help your friend to not feel so bad about herself is a hard thing. It's like taking a pad of paper, those sticky notes?....and ripping off a page or two at a time. The loss isn't felt until some time down the orad and then it's too late and one can't put that pad of notes back together in the same way.
Give me a physical abuser anyday & I'll rip him a new one.
Emotional abuse is far worse because it's so insipid.
Talk to her every chance you get and let her know you think she's just great.
Linda
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Re: I'm feeling malicious
« Reply #9 on: Mar 15th, 2006, 12:13pm » |
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Nani I'm sending vibes of strength to your friend.The wounds to the spirit hurt the worse.I too have a friend going through this and every Wednesday we get together with 2 more friends and try to lift her spirits and opinion of herself.Damn hard to sit back and watch them go through it.Divorce and seperation are a good time to sit back and evaluate your life good,bad and in between.I know I am working on improving my soul and trying to be the best person I can be.She needs to learn to be comfortable in her own skin and spending time with herself.Then hopefully someone will come into her life who will treat her right.I think since nothing your wishing on him is lethal go for it  iffen ya want I can do the same just hope they get to the right @sshole or at least a @sshole
Hugs to you my good friend,
Minnie
p.s. maybe you can sit down and right a list of the top 3 qualities you both have.you write about each others traits then you have to write down your own best traits.I would but I don't have any 
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Re: I'm feeling malicious
« Reply #10 on: Mar 15th, 2006, 12:15pm » |
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I've met passive agressive people in my life... Too many, actually. I wish I had some great advices to share how to deal with them... I've just put up with the things I've heard myself.
So I know very well how hard it is to get over emotional abuse. It's difficult.
But to have a spouse like that... That's horrible! He's supposed to love her, honor her and make her happy instead of miserable!
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Re: I'm feeling malicious
« Reply #11 on: Mar 15th, 2006, 12:18pm » |
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HORSE MANURE!
Someone been ripping at your sticky notepad Minnie? 
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Re: I'm feeling malicious
« Reply #12 on: Mar 15th, 2006, 12:20pm » |
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on Mar 15th, 2006, 11:50am, nani wrote:
If she were your friend, what might you say to make her feel better about herself?
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I'd tell her she's wonderful, and to believe in herself. And, suggest counseling - important for those abused, no matter what the type of abuse.
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Re: I'm feeling malicious
« Reply #13 on: Mar 15th, 2006, 12:22pm » |
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He never deserved her.
Minnie... WTF do you mean you don't have any best traits? Girl, you are a GREAT person.
My friend is far away, so I can't do much but talk when we can. I wish I was there with her. We could drink, slam men in general, slam him in particular, drink, make a voodoo doll, drink, watch funny movies, drink, and make some brownies. Oh, and maybe drink.
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Re: I'm feeling malicious
« Reply #14 on: Mar 15th, 2006, 12:28pm » |
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Nani,
Sometimes the "I'm so sorry routine" doesn't work.
Give her a good shake and tell her to wake up and see this guy for what he is. A PRICK
Then she should tell him to straighten up or get out.
Get pissed and make her see what you see. Its not her fault.
Then the hug!
Oh and may the fleas of a thousand camels find his tent!
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Re: I'm feeling malicious
« Reply #15 on: Mar 15th, 2006, 12:28pm » |
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on Mar 15th, 2006, 11:40am, nani wrote:I almost never feel this angry. I never wish bad things on people. I feel like I can make an exception.
I have this wonderful friend. She's a star. You couldn't find a better friend, supporter, mother, etc.
Her (soon to be) ex is being a prick. A total prick. So much of a prick, that my friend is feeling bad about herself.
Did I mention this guy's a prick? Anyway... being that I really don't want to cause any actual harm...
I'm sending jock itch, athelete's foot and head lice vibes. OK, maybe even some stomach flu vibes, too. Oh, and a prick rash.
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I think I am seeing a pattern here, let me guess the guy is a prick. Maybe that is the problem he is being what he is lacking. Tell her its ok to pity him but not to let tiny mess with her.
Like my signature line at the bottom says" If all men are endowed by their creator, why was mine so short sighted? " I am guessing his was too! 
Make him feel thr wrath of CHenz!!!!!! 
Have no mercy and hope he remembers what he did so in the future he may not do it again.
Also remind her it isnt her fault.
Mike
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Re: I'm feeling malicious
« Reply #16 on: Mar 15th, 2006, 12:31pm » |
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on Mar 15th, 2006, 12:22pm, nani wrote:| make a voodoo doll, drink, watch funny movies, drink, and make some brownies. Oh, and maybe drink. |
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Ask her to rent "The Witches of Eastwick"....good use of a voodoo doll by three strong, beautiful, women--and its a good laugh.
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Re: I'm feeling malicious
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on Mar 15th, 2006, 12:28pm, karma wrote:
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Or, better yet, his prick.
Thanks everyone... keep the good ideas and "curses" coming...
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Re: I'm feeling malicious
« Reply #18 on: Mar 15th, 2006, 12:32pm » |
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on Mar 15th, 2006, 12:18pm, Linda_Howell wrote:
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no no ones doing that it's just my own self doubt.I have good support.But I have two pretty,talented and outgoing sisters and then theres me 
but I really am trying and I have two beautiful daughters so I must be doing something right.
Minnie who Loves this family and the way they watch over me
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Re: I'm feeling malicious
« Reply #19 on: Mar 15th, 2006, 12:33pm » |
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Nani, I bet that those conversations that the two of you have will help her a lot! 
I live several hundred kms away from most of my friends so I can be part of their lives via email, phonecalls and text messages right now. But that doesn't diminish the value of our friendship and the things we share. I'm sure that your friend feels the same way.
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Re: I'm feeling malicious
« Reply #20 on: Mar 15th, 2006, 12:37pm » |
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on Mar 15th, 2006, 12:32pm, minnie wrote:
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Bullshit! You're far from a loser, girl.
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Re: I'm feeling malicious
« Reply #21 on: Mar 15th, 2006, 12:54pm » |
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How bout wishin him an erectile disfunction.....that'll take the wind out of his sail if ya get my drift !!!! We dropped some CLOSE friends a year ago cuz of similar (plus sum) issues......this guy come off bein so nice.....kind of exciteing in a way and cool when we met him and his wife was gorgeous !! They don't live far so that even made it funner cuz we'd ride up on a Friday nite and hang out in there garage or around a bonfire.....real relaxeing and they ride too and we had alot in common. SO I THOUGHT !!! Got to know them better and it just got wierder by the weekend. This guy is so degradeing to his wife and if she gets to talking about sumthin at dinner all he does I put down what she said in front of everyone as if she was a total idiot. Then when they had the son he got WORSE.....no one is good enuff for his son. Yet he can't take the kid anywhere or do anything with him cuz he comes up with a back ache or lame excuse but boy can he knock other parents and people in general !!!!!! He got to talking to her so horrible I would NOT go out with them anymore to eat or hang out. She took it.....that was the worse part !!! He was a lier and very evil....had girlfreinds on the side......all sorts of wierd crap goin on and he was sneakin over to the neighbors by them messin around with the one girl and his wife STILL doesn't know about it !! She doesn't know the half of his evil real self.....they got to fighting all the time. Then they sued a friend to get rich.....(one of many lawsuits) but money didn't save them. They lost alot of friends.....she got on tranquillizers and turned fat and dumpy and was TUNED OUT most of the time sleeping. She still thinks the guy jus needs to grow up.......no.......she does and she needs to see what this guy has done to her !!! But she is still dumbfounded by it all and thinks we quit hangin with them cuz WERE the wierdos. They are gettin a devorse but he will keep his bikes and his guns and his stuff no matter what.....he almost lost there house a few years ago but would NOT sell anything to get caught up so her family stepped in and this guy will NEVER pay them back. A guy can do alot of damage if the girl doesn't stop and see what is goin on and see him for what he is. Shunnin is the best policy Pam
Fightin with the guy or arguein will do no good......just tune him out and don't say much......it'll drive him INSANE. These guys feed on bein a prick belittleing everyone but themselves and nothing is there fault either types.
Sorry if I got carried away.....we never socialize with the old friends at all now......we know nothing we could ever say would get thru to them on how they are so disfunctional and how the guy did this to his wife makeing her a mental mess. So....we gave up and bowed out. The guy tries to talk to Brad off and on as if NOTHING happen'd......Brad hates the fucker......he has reeked havoc on friends and family.
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Re: I'm feeling malicious
« Reply #22 on: Mar 15th, 2006, 1:01pm » |
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Hi Nani,
How about setting Lelimey on him
On second thoughts that is just way too cruel
Seriously though, you just have to keep reasuring her that no matter what this worthless, weak excuse for a man says she is worth her weight in gold to her friends, and with a friend like you to help her i am sure she can get through it.
She could also go to a pharmacy and get some cream for genital crabs put it in his sandwiches and tell him its crab paste
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« Reply #23 on: Mar 15th, 2006, 1:07pm » |
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Re: I'm feeling malicious
« Reply #24 on: Mar 15th, 2006, 1:16pm » |
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on Mar 15th, 2006, 1:07pm, Melissa wrote:| If you're a bad person, then I'm a bad person. |
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Sickem Mel!!!!!
Oh he is in trouble now!!!! CHenz on the warpath!!!! 
Somebody get the popcorn this is gonna be good!
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