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To all who know Billy and me please read
« on: Jan 16th, 2006, 3:03pm » |
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Many of you here on the board have become close friends and yes family to Billy, our daughters
Felicia, April and Beth and myself. We’ve met many of you in person at conventions and talk to many
not just here but in chat. We hope to meet many more at meet and greets to come. Cluster headaches
Have made a mark on our family as it has so many of yours. The only thing I personally can say that was good from it was meeting of all you.
2005 has been a hard year on our family in many ways but the biggest and saddest change only a few of you know until now. Through mutual Love and respect Billy and I decided that we’ve both changed a lot in the eleven years we’ve been together not in a bad way but just in separate ways. Although there will always be a bond a love it is more so as co-parents and very good friends. We decided to end our marriage now while we are still friends. Billy moved out in September and has established a nice home he shares with the girls on weekends .I have decided to stay at our old home so the girls don’t have any more change in their lives then necessary. I really wanted to wait until I was more emotionally ready to tell our CH family of the separation just hope that I am allowed to stay on the board and as a member of ouch in order to be a supporter for all those battling the beast. I will always be here to do whatever I can to support Billy as he deals with CH and the girls as they deal with the heartache of sometimes seeing his hits. I plan to try to attend the convention in Milwaukee if money allows. I hope that this is ok with those attending. Billy will always have my Love and respect so I promise you will not here any he said /she said from us.
To those of you who have known what's going on and supported us through this often hard and confusing time we thank you. Knowing there was a place we could go to talk and be supported is a great thing and so appreciated. There are no sides to take and we hope that we will mutually be accepted as friends and family here. As the song says their ain’t no good guy their ain’t no bad guy there's only you and me and we just disagree .In this case we just grew apart. Thank you for taking the time to read this and respecting our wish to keep things private.
Thank you,
Minnie and Billy J
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« Reply #1 on: Jan 16th, 2006, 3:10pm » |
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« Reply #2 on: Jan 16th, 2006, 3:11pm » |
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The people here who have met both of you....love you both.
I AM sorry though.
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Your always welcome here, Minnie....ALWAYS!!!!
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Could not have said it any better myself
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You both will always be my friends and ALWAYS welcome here and in my heart!!!
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« Reply #6 on: Jan 16th, 2006, 3:19pm » |
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Minnie, don't be a stranger in here. I've loved reading your posts and hope to see more of them in future. I hope the best to your whole family. And strength. 
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« Reply #7 on: Jan 16th, 2006, 3:43pm » |
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From me too Minnie, your's is one of the names I always smile to see posting. I hope you'll be around for a long long time and I wish you and Billy all the love and luck in the world.
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« Reply #8 on: Jan 16th, 2006, 4:01pm » |
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Hi Minnie...
As I said before, though I'm sorry to hear of your divorce, I have to admire that you both decided to continue a friendship based on mutual respect and support. The girls will be all the more better for it.
You better hang around - you're part of the family and stuck with us now...lol
Hope Billy's head is not acting up too much...
My best to you both.
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« Reply #9 on: Jan 16th, 2006, 4:21pm » |
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on Jan 16th, 2006, 3:10pm, maffumatt wrote:| once a supporter, always a supporter. |
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Love you both
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« Reply #10 on: Jan 16th, 2006, 4:28pm » |
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BINGO!!! (great post)
You best stick around here, Minnie.....or I'll put the dogs on you... 
You're a great supporter and will ALWAYS be needed, wanted and welcome here.
Good luck, Sweetie.....
Love to you,
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« Reply #11 on: Jan 16th, 2006, 5:03pm » |
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I hate that it has come down to this, but I am glad to hear that you are parting on such good terms. It will help the kids deal with it better and there will be less stress for everyone involved. Kids suffer enough with the parting without all the anger, blame and backbiting that accompanies a bad divorce.
You can rest assured that neither your place in this family nor your membership in OUCH are in any danger.
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« Reply #12 on: Jan 16th, 2006, 5:33pm » |
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What the rest said!
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« Reply #14 on: Jan 16th, 2006, 8:17pm » |
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WHAT......no way ??? I didn't have a clue.......I am shocked and it takes alot to shock 'me' !!!! Course I'm not a chat type person....slow dialup and kicked offline is too aggravateing anyhow. Dam......I just can't believe it ! I met Billy in NY and we sat on that porch and talked for HOURS on end while everyone else did this or that. All he talked about half the time was you and the family......he even said he missed you so much he wasnt' staying long ! I think you'd just had back surgery too and we talked about that a bit. I still can't believe I just read this. You two REALLY made an impression on us big time. So many of our freinds are 'fuckin up' and screwin around and doin wierd stuff and I have been keepin to myself lately cuz it started to get on my nerves. Some of the ones that never help do shit in our group have become the worst at tryin to run stuff or take over or give WRONG advise and has caused some bad feelings with me. Tons of friends in several groups have always been VERY important to me......so I've just been backin up to get a better view then go back to handle it. Which will be IGNOREING it and continueing as freinds. But I'd never of thought YOU guys would split up. Never seen any of the 'bad' traits in either. OK I am rambling......deep thoughts by Pam
Guess if it is a mutual thing THAT's cool.......better then fighting or lieing stuff.
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« Reply #15 on: Jan 16th, 2006, 10:19pm » |
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Minnie & Billy...everything here is what I would've said. Only you need know the "why's". If this difficult decision can bring you both to a better place, so be it.
I hope neither of you stop showing up here. You'd be sadly missed.
Hugs await, any time you need em,,,,
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« Reply #16 on: Jan 16th, 2006, 11:46pm » |
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Please stay friends. It will be so good for the kids. It will never be easy though. If you thought being together unhappy was hard. Being apart unhappy will really be tough. You have to remember those kids, always bite your tongue before saying something about the other infront of those kids. Always remember they belong to both of you. You should decide where they live and it should never be a tug of war. One great thing about my first marriage was the kids that came of it. My two boys are amazing and it is because my X and I never ever trashed the other person to the kids.
I have to say I too am shocked like Cootie... but no one knows what happens in a house till ya live there. We love you Minnie... It ain't easy being us... Be well and keep in touch. Thanks for having the courage to tell us. Ree
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« Reply #17 on: Jan 16th, 2006, 11:50pm » |
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I'm so sorry to hear this, Minnie.  I love both of you and hope you stick around with us. Our family would suffer if either of you left. I think it's a good thing that you both are trying hard to keep this easier on the girls. They'll appreciate it someday. It's still going to be tough, but if you both keep your heads on straight, it's do-able. Let us know if you need anything, OK?
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« Reply #18 on: Jan 17th, 2006, 1:36am » |
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I truly love both of you and have the utmost respect for both of you! Know we need BOTH of you here! God bless.....Clusterbuds (and Supporters) are forever, sis! smiles,nancyc
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« Reply #19 on: Jan 17th, 2006, 4:24pm » |
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Minnie,
It shows how big a heart you have to have concerned yourself so much with keeping the "family" here updated with the news. I thank you and respect you for that.
Billy,
Kudos to you too pal, know it can't be easy, but I'm proud of all that both of you have done in the best interest of the children. When times get rough, please know you have us here.
To both of you,
KUDOS friends! From all I've been told, I have the utmost respect for the both of you. It's not often that two mature adults act in the respectful way that you two have. I'm proud of you both for that, and know that you children will benefit because of it.
hugs to both of you, and please, don't EVER think to become strangers !!! You're family !!!!!
luv ya,
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« Reply #20 on: Jan 18th, 2006, 12:10am » |
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Bless your heart....
You'll always have a home here, Minnie.
You're a great supporter.....and a great friend
Sending lots of love to you and BillyJ.
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« Reply #21 on: Jan 20th, 2006, 3:11pm » |
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I want to thank you all for the wonderful support you've
given Billy and I.The support given in I.M's and posts really help make a hard time a little easier.I Love this family and I intend to go no where.You have my unending support I am here for any one who needs to talk,laugh,cry or vent.So I guess what I'm saying is your stuck with me... I am a not too bright clutz so I'm always good for a laugh..  
Love to all,
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« Reply #22 on: Jan 20th, 2006, 8:58pm » |
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Ain't nothin said here that I could add much to... (yeah, smartasses, I can't believe that either...however true it may be).
I will say it anyhow...
Minnie... always welcome here ALWAYS!
Billy... well you know the drill 
oh...yeah, I think its a bummer too.
Peace Out,
Me
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« Reply #23 on: Jan 20th, 2006, 9:04pm » |
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You know I love you both and I'm here for you both anytime...no matter what...
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« Reply #24 on: Jan 21st, 2006, 12:57am » |
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Wow.
What a wonderful thing you said.
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