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lilboo
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Life sucks, someone slashed the front tire on my car last night, as if I can afford to fix it, just another item to charge. And I can't get my husband off his butt to fix it, he won't do anything anymore except lay in bed. My son came down with chickenpox and he's 16, he had a very mild case when he was 2 so he was able to get it again. I finally got a job 3 months ago but my huibby's still unemployed due to his heart attack from Nov. of last year, he's the one with the clusters and his attitude just sucks lately. I can't even talk to him without some snide rude remark coming out his mouth. He is the only person that talks to me that way and I am sooooo tired of all of this shit. This isn't even the half of it. I always try to see the bright side of everything and most people wouldn't even know there was a problem at all. Everytime things start to look up something always has to happen to bring me right back down. Just needed to get some of this out of my system I'm getting ready to blow.
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Re: I give up
« Reply #1 on: Dec 19th, 2005, 9:50pm » |
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I'm so sorry but keep posting here and maybe get into chat.
Let some neighbor you trust know about the car. Just letting them know may go a long way towards fixing it.
Stick around please. That you posted is a good sign by the way.
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Re: I give up
« Reply #2 on: Dec 19th, 2005, 10:35pm » |
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Sounds like the ole man is turned off and tuned out........sumtimes people do that when overwhelmed and jus plan give up and don't wanna change or make change. I'd ignore the shit out of him and leave him be cuz sooner or later he will have to crawl out of his hole if he gets hungry enuff. Do your own thing.......do stuff for yourself and try not to let him get to you. Lean mean piss off machine Pam
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Re: I give up
« Reply #3 on: Dec 19th, 2005, 10:40pm » |
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I'm so sorry things are not going very well, lilboo.
You know, it's common for folks who've had heart attacks to fall into depression. Perhaps you can talk to him (or his doctor) about getting on some meds.
I really don't have much more than that and some good vibes and wishes to offer right now. Sorry.
My thoughts and prayers are with you and yours.
hugs, nani
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Never give up, sometimes a man needs to be kicked in the nads to get them off their ass, I would try ignoreing him like Cootie says, it drives me up the friggin wall to be ignored.
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Re: I give up
« Reply #5 on: Dec 19th, 2005, 11:15pm » |
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I know all the tricks.......... 
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Re: I give up
« Reply #6 on: Dec 20th, 2005, 8:44am » |
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Hi Lilboo.....Never give up because when you least expect it something happens that is great and will put a smile on your face, and surprisingly you'll forget all the nonsense that you've gone through. Stand Tall and Proud !!!
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Re: I give up
« Reply #7 on: Dec 20th, 2005, 8:52am » |
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lolboo..I know it must be soo hard, and sometimes it seems there just is no light at the end of the tunnel.......BUT.
Think of the man you married, think of giving up on him. The TWO of you need to band together-you are a team in this life, and, maybe Coots is right,or, as Mattchew puts it, he probably DOES need a swift jab in the nads. Either way, he needs a wake-up call. That's where you come in. Shake him up, get things back on track........you're wasting your lives!!!!!!!!
While you're working on that, here's a hug-come back when you need a refill, ok?
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Re: I give up
« Reply #8 on: Dec 20th, 2005, 9:16am » |
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Lilboo,
As someone who always tries to look at the bright side also, I know you will pull through this and someday look back and remember this period as life changing. Some of the worst periods of my life are now the one's I'm able to look back upon as having got me to where I am today.
The tire-slashing that allowed you to look at the condition of your tires and maybe force you to buy two new ones, which later save you on a wet road late at night from going in the ditch. This is how "crappy" stuff many times ends up. You may not even be aware of how, a crappy day someday begets a good day. But they do.
As for hubby. Heart attacks are life changing also. Several of my friends had them young, and after a period of "getting over" themselves and how screwed they felt over how their lives had changed, they all picked up and are now truly living their lives to their fullest, knowing that the days they have are possibly a bonus. He'll come around, with your "bright side" help.
Hand out here. There's good people to help both of you with support.
Scott
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Re: I give up
« Reply #9 on: Dec 20th, 2005, 10:38am » |
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Lilboo,
We're here. As one who's been there - this shoulder is always available....
Hang in there.
Hugs BD
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Re: I give up
« Reply #10 on: Dec 20th, 2005, 2:26pm » |
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keep your chin up, things will get better jim
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Re: I give up
« Reply #11 on: Dec 20th, 2005, 8:31pm » |
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You aint giving up a damn thing!!!...Lets get that straight!
If you have a husband laying in bed for over a year not earning a paycheck and he is verbally abusing you....you dont need him!!
If this is the case...throw him the fuck out, take out a restraining order. You do not deserve that abuse.
Your gonna think you shouldnt rock the boat.....ROCK IT, or you will die inside.
Think of YOU!!!
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lilboo
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Re: I give up
« Reply #12 on: Dec 20th, 2005, 9:24pm » |
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Wow is about all I can say, I know I'll pull through this I'm strong. I'm just tired of all the bullshit I have to put up with, he's already had a drug overdose twice so far this year, once he was doa and they reveived him. He is very depressed, mainly because he can't return to his normal line of work which was driving a big rig - because they put a diffibulator in him DMV won't renew his medical certificate - so yes he's been unemployed for a year now - he did have a job interview yesterday, he won't tell me where or how it went. I pretty much have given up on talking to him lately, the only time he talks to me is when he wants something. Jonny the thought of thowing him out has crossed my mind more than once, I just can't bring myself to do it. I keep thinking things will get better. I keep hoping they will, I just don't know anymore. Everyone around me is very supportive, like my kids and my mom, my sister - it's horrible but they all think he should get the boot to. I always belived in my vows till death do us part. I'm just hoping this is a bad phase and it will pass.
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Re: I give up
« Reply #13 on: Dec 20th, 2005, 10:09pm » |
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Just don't let him kill yer spirit.......that is crossin the line you vow'd to put up with. Killin you softly sucks Pam
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