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Sympathy Pains ...
« on: Oct 15th, 2005, 2:41am » |
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Well ...
Had Rex and Heather over again today ...Damned if we aren't family already!
So ... I get hit with a cluster and run to hide ... Rex finds me and as we all do ... He tried to help best he could. (Wouldn't stomp on my head as requested, but tried to help in any way he could.) Rex did get me off the floor and back to my precious recliner.
We played a game of "Nameburst" (Come on Rex ... it's called the Statue of Liberty!  )
Well, then it was Rex's turn ... yep, we lost track of time and Rex got hit with his own cluster as well.
We packed him with ice as he went through his torture, I cranked up some music by the Traveling Wilbury's for distraction and we guessed at things that might help, but I had no oxygen 
As I watched, I knew exactly what he was feeling, as his leg went into that all familar shake ... sure enough my leg just went into the same motion. I wasn't under attack, but I can only guess the famliarity of seeing his attack I can only guess my body took over and must have gone into some type of "Sympathy Pain" reaction ... without actually physically feeling the pain.
When you think about it, us clusterheads know, or should know, that we can't stop it for the other.
Makes me think how really hard it it has to be for Heather, Annette and all you other Supporters.
Supporters are definately just as strong as any CH'er and I'd just like to express for all of us just how much we love and appreciate all of you!
Tomorrow, we'll go over to their house and hope we don't have those damn CH vistors interuppting our good times together.
Dave
Question: Why do all Clusterheads I meet, including myself, feel we need to apologize to everyone when we get hit in front of anyone else ... even other Ch'ers? 
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Yep Dave, you beat me posting about it! 
Well, while you were getting hit, my right eye started swelling, but didnt' want to tell you, so you wouldn't feel bad!
But the funny (for us at least) part is when my attack was over, I looked at Dave and I thought "Shit! now he's getting hit again, because of the leg shake and the look in his eyes!"
Both Annette and Heather do the same things though! It's hillarious, they even wear their hair the same way!!!
Twin supporters, I swear!
Family indeed!!!
Thanks again to the both of you for the great time! 
PS: I'm sorry for apologizing, but this too is an apology, so wtf????
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Re: Sympathy Pains ...
« Reply #2 on: Oct 15th, 2005, 3:06am » |
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so glad you all had a good time & didn't let the beast take that away from you!! & Sorry you both got hit!!
it's funny in a way, I do the same thing when Charlie gets hit, even though I'm a supporter, & haven't felt the pain personally, I still get the shakes & tremmors as he does, don't know why, maybe cause I've seen him with them so much & my body & mind is so in touch with him over the years!! don't know just a thought!!
PF wishes to you both !!
Lots of Love & Prayers to you all !!
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Man....
All I can say is this: Having CH is the most damning curse for a person to have or a loved one to see suffer with. But the blessing in the curse is that we all found each other. Clusterheads and supporters are some of the most amazing people on this planet. Dare I say it? We've been bonded by a darkness that has brought much light. Hope that makes sense. Either half asleep or half awake, not sure which yet. I'm glad you and Annette are closeby to Rex and Heather. Hugs to all of you today. Good to see you posting Dave. 
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Re: Sympathy Pains ...
« Reply #4 on: Oct 15th, 2005, 4:36am » |
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Hey Carl!
Good to hear from ya!
Going to try to put aside all the crap this year has brought and come back here and keep in touch.
Meeting Rex and Heather has been an inspiration and may just have came along in time before I let myself fall into serious depression. Know that's not the route I needed to follow, just got to keep on keeping on!
Hmmm... I think I just dated myself with that slogan
Take care Bro,
Dave
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Re: Sympathy Pains ...
« Reply #5 on: Oct 15th, 2005, 5:01am » |
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Good grief - as if you two weren't up to no good apart! What devilry can we expect now you've joined forces?! 
Seriously I'm really pleased for both of you. Nothing beats having another ch'er close by enough to keep in regular contact and it makes a HUGE difference to how we cope as you are seeing for yourselves.
Dave I know why I think we all apologise to other clusterheads and everyone else, once you've seen someone else get hit you get an inkling of how hard it is to be a supporter. Seeing someone go through a hit is (for me) harder than being hit so yes, I do apologise because I know that all I can do is leave them to watch while I deal. There is nothing anyone can do for us except hopefully, let us get on with it and not try to stop us coping.
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Re: Sympathy Pains ...
« Reply #6 on: Oct 15th, 2005, 8:37am » |
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OMG Dave I am soooooooooooo glad to see a post from you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  How are you doing? Call me dammit, or pick up the phone when I call you!
Rex, I haven't met you or Heather yet, I haven't been around much or posting much, but thank you for giving a dear friend his lease on life back. Now get him to paint me a sunset, or a sunrise, or whatever the hell he feels like, he is an AWESOME artist
Glad you two have found each other, it's always great to have another clusterhead around, they really do understand.
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Re: Sympathy Pains ...
« Reply #7 on: Oct 15th, 2005, 10:02am » |
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Your spirits and dearest Annette in the company of more supporting grace...
Good to see you on the board again Dave.
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Re: Sympathy Pains ...
« Reply #8 on: Oct 15th, 2005, 2:14pm » |
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I go NUMB when Brad 'gets it'..........wierd as hell but he is rather vocal and gets pretty irritable (which I fully understand) but I feel guilty or sumthin. I will sit and stare at the tv and have NO IDEA what I just watched. Strange ways Pam
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Re: Sympathy Pains ...
« Reply #9 on: Oct 15th, 2005, 4:14pm » |
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Dave,
Speaking for myself, I think I apologize, even to another clusterhead because my behavior is so bizarre during an attack, and that just isn't ME.
I, too want to add my "SO GOOD TO SEE YOU BACK HERE" WISHES.
Rex...thank you for helping our very much loved Dave in whatever way you can. Everyone of us who know him and Annette wish we could be there for him, but you are the lucky one who gets to.
Linda
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Hey guys, I'm happy that Dave is posting again, but please, don't thank me or Heather...
Thank Dave and Annette for letting us hang out with them.
They are the nicest people I've met in a long long time.
I don't go out anymore, or hang out with friends since my CH started. I couldn't bear letting anyone seeing me like that.
Pride? Fear? A combo of both, I guess....
Plus, to be very honest, I don't like most people I meet.
I find them spoiled, stupid, selfish, judgemental,etc...
So even without CH, I would still be a semi-hermit.
But meeting another CHead and a supporter of that caliber, is a true blessing in itself
After I got hit at Dave and Annette's last night, I thought.. Wow, these are the first people, besides Heather to ever see me get hit... and it's alright.
Also I want to thank both Jonny and Nani for letting me know that Dave lives really close by...
6.3 miles exactly according to mapquest!
So, I raise my coffee (don't drink anymore) to both of them and all of you.
Cheers,
Rex
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Re: Sympathy Pains ...
« Reply #11 on: Oct 15th, 2005, 7:11pm » |
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For Heather
The tender curve of your hand
In the holding of an ice filled sack
The leaning of your body to his
In hope of bearing the weight of his burden
I asked how long
And the sad lift of your shoulder
And tear misted eyes
Spoke volumes to me across the room
of the world we share
You held him in your heart and soul
As the ravages of pain took him
The ache of your desire for his freedom
Shouting across the chasm and through his hell
To win
at long last
reprieve
It is an honor to have met you
My sister
My friend
With Love
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Re: Sympathy Pains ...
« Reply #12 on: Oct 15th, 2005, 8:13pm » |
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Very nice
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Re: Sympathy Pains ...
« Reply #13 on: Oct 15th, 2005, 8:27pm » |
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Oh Annette
That was beautiful..I have tears streaming down my face..
Huggs
Shari
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Re: Sympathy Pains ...
« Reply #14 on: Oct 15th, 2005, 10:19pm » |
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Thanks so much to Annette & Dave. It has been a life changing experience for Rex & I ...
Annette's poem had me bawling.
I'm pretty sure it was all good tears, but a little bit of bad stuff creeped in there too.
I can't say that anyone has touched me to the core like that in a looong time. Thanks again Annette. I think we ARE family now.
I know it's a new friendship, and I've read before, there's an underlying bond between all clusterheads. I never really believed it would be that intense before this experience.
There's not only a bond between sufferers, but there's a bond between supporters too!
It's a little weird, but all I can think of is this song by Kate Bush - Deeper Understanding ( It reminds me alot of CH.com and everything that changes through that ).
Wishing to beat the beast to all!
Heather
Song file: http://media.putfile.com/Kate_Bush-Deeper_Understanding
Lyrics:
Kate Bush Deeper Understadning
As the people here grow colder
I turn to my computer
And spend my evenings with it
Like a friend.
I was loading a new programme
I had ordered from a magazine:
Are you lonely, are you lost?
This voice console is a must.
I press execute.
Hello, I know that you’ve been feeling tired.
I bring you love and deeper understanding.
Hello, I know that you’re unhappy.
I bring you love and deeper understanding.
Well I’ve never felt such pleasure.
Nothing else seemed to matter.
I neglected my bodily needs.
I did not eat, I did not sleep,
The intensity increasing,
’til my family found me and intervened.
But I was lonely, I was lost,
Without my little black box.
I pick up the phone and go, execute.
Hello, I know that you’ve been feeling tired.
I bring you love and deeper understanding.
Hello, I know that you’re unhappy.
I bring you love and deeper understanding.
I turn to my computer like a friend.
I need deeper understanding.
Give me deeper understanding.
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Re: Sympathy Pains ...
« Reply #15 on: Oct 15th, 2005, 11:50pm » |
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This is a really uplifting thread.
Dave, I don't know if its the Rex effect but I'm starting to see a little bit more of you in these posts 
I'm really happy you four found eachother.
Thank God.
Pepper
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Re: Sympathy Pains ...
« Reply #16 on: Oct 16th, 2005, 1:04am » |
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Hey All,
Looking for keys through one eye and hurting bad right now, but feel I must say thanks to all of you for all the support here and in PM's.
Please don't think I'm missing your messages, I promise I'll get back to all of you soon.
Love ya all ...
Dave
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Re: Sympathy Pains ...
« Reply #17 on: Oct 16th, 2005, 1:09am » |
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You just take care of you, Dave......the folks will always be here for you!
DID YOU HEAR ME?......Go take care of you, damn it!!!!
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Re: Sympathy Pains ...
« Reply #18 on: Oct 16th, 2005, 1:16am » |
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Hear ya jonny!
I'll head for the recliner now ... just been sitting here for distraction. Sometimes just trying to hold on to a bit of sanity, which I guess many of you understand.
Yer right ...
Goodnight all,
Dave
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Re: Sympathy Pains ...
« Reply #19 on: Oct 16th, 2005, 2:57am » |
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You've got that right Dave! It will be insane not to come to this insane asylum for some sanity.
You hang in there, we are rooting for you!
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Re: Sympathy Pains ...
« Reply #20 on: Oct 16th, 2005, 4:16am » |
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WELCOME HEATHER!!!
I'm glad you made it! Looking forward to getting to know you better now that you're here 
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Re: Sympathy Pains ...
« Reply #21 on: Oct 16th, 2005, 5:23am » |
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Annette, what a beautiful poem!
Heather, warm welcome!!!
Best wishes,
Sanna
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Re: Sympathy Pains ...
« Reply #22 on: Oct 16th, 2005, 8:26am » |
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Sanity? from this bunch?! LOL Jonny's right, do you hear him? I hear him! You take care of you
So glad to see you posting, and even happier to hear of what you and Annette have found with Rex and Heather.
That's what I love about this place
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Re: Sympathy Pains ...
« Reply #23 on: Oct 16th, 2005, 12:22pm » |
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Jonny's right. Taking care of yourself for now is a pretty effen good idea.
Glad to see you posting Dave to meet Heather. Lots of talent around here.
And you're right. We all know intellectually, that we have no need to apologize for a hit but we do. We're just all so damned nice. 
Charlie
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Re: Sympathy Pains ...
« Reply #24 on: Oct 16th, 2005, 9:50pm » |
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I just wanted to send out a big thank you to everyone for the warm welcome. 
I don't know what Rex and I would do without all of you. CH.com has helped us beyond belief...
Extra big thanks goes to Dave and Annette for letting us hang out with them.
Thanks goes out to all of you, for being just the way you are.
Now, I will go and STFU.
Have a good one,
Heather
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