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Candycane
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I am getting ready to go to the grocery store and I always get this panicy feeling, but its ONLY the grocery store? I get in there and I just feel like bashing my cart into everyone in my way and yelling get out of my space!!!!! Do I need help? Do I need to talk to someone? 
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Re: Does anyone have this feeling?
« Reply #1 on: May 14th, 2005, 12:20pm » |
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We're here... you ARE already talking to us... 
But hey, I used to get panic attacks before going to a bus if it was too crowded... I got over that feeling, though.
If it helps, I've been in stores with people who push me with their carts all the time... Some say sorry and push me again in a minute... *sigh*
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Re: Does anyone have this feeling?
« Reply #2 on: May 14th, 2005, 12:23pm » |
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Thanks Sandie....maybe we can just eat out?  Or I can take the seeds Maria sent then go?? 
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Re: Does anyone have this feeling?
« Reply #3 on: May 14th, 2005, 12:35pm » |
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grocery shopping, especially when it's busy, can be pretty unpleasant...unless you are strolling through a sunny, open-air market at your leisure. Our big discount markets have about as much asthetic appeal as McDonalds.Even the parking lots suck. So allow yourself more than enough time to get the job done, and at least you won't be panicked for lack of time. If you are actually experiencing a panic attack, maybe you are suppressing some old really bad experience from a grocery shopping trip. 
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Re: Does anyone have this feeling?
« Reply #4 on: May 14th, 2005, 12:42pm » |
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Sounds like going shopping is outside your comfort zone and you just want to get back home.. Just try to build your tolerance for being out slowly. Go shopping at quieter times when when possible, go on the spur of the moment so youre not building it up in your head, treat yourself to something while you are out.. just a magazine or something silly (this is NOT a licence to spend!!  ) Make it enjoyable and it will become so. I know what it feels like to be panicky and to want to get back to where I feel safe so you have my sympathy (HUG)
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Re: Does anyone have this feeling?
« Reply #5 on: May 14th, 2005, 12:45pm » |
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on May 14th, 2005, 12:15pm, Candycane wrote:| I get in there and I just feel like bashing my cart into everyone in my way and yelling get out of my space!!!!! Do I need help? Do I need to talk to someone? |
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just pretend you are at the fair and playing bumper cars, lol, then it would just be fun, lol
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Re: Does anyone have this feeling?
« Reply #6 on: May 14th, 2005, 12:47pm » |
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I think maybe its the bucther....he has that evil eye?
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Re: Does anyone have this feeling?
« Reply #7 on: May 14th, 2005, 12:48pm » |
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I can understand how you feel. Everytime I go to the grocery store, I get a sense of anxiety. So I try to go when I KNOW its not going to be too busy. Real early in the morning, or late in the evening so I can take my time and not run into people that stop every 2 feet to look at EVERYTHING and block the aisles. Take your time. We are in such a rush rush society and I think thats what brings on a lot of the stress. 
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Re: Does anyone have this feeling?
« Reply #8 on: May 14th, 2005, 12:54pm » |
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on May 14th, 2005, 12:23pm, Candycane wrote:| Thanks Sandie....maybe we can just eat out? Or I can take the seeds Maria sent then go?? |
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You're welcome...
That sounds like a good idea to me...
BTW, I'm one of those weird people who actually LIKE grocery shopping & grocery stores in general. I've known to visit few of them just for fun... But hey, I've got it in my blood. I have lots of relatives in coop business...
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Re: Does anyone have this feeling?
« Reply #9 on: May 14th, 2005, 1:08pm » |
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Sorry about this.
I'm 58 years old and the older I get, the sillier things appear. Grocery stores are no exception. Find stuff that makes you laugh. The crap they try to fend off on us is a study in lunacy. Just reading the "nutritional values" on bottled water should do it. Watching guys on cell phones getting advice buying a head of lettuce and reading at checkout in the National Enquirerer about Prince Charlie and Prisilla, or that Hitler's children run a sex video shop in Luxemborg, etc. etc.
Give it a shot. 
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Re: Does anyone have this feeling?
« Reply #10 on: May 14th, 2005, 1:14pm » |
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on May 14th, 2005, 1:08pm, Charlie wrote:| Just reading the "nutritional values" on bottled water should do it. |
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Hmmm... I once bought a bottle of water because it contained magnesium... 
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Re: Does anyone have this feeling?
« Reply #11 on: May 14th, 2005, 1:58pm » |
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I've got anxiety/panic disoder, and grocery stores and malls are not my favorite places. Browse the web boards on this topic, and you will see that lots of people find stores are a trigger.
http://www.algy.com/anxiety/index.shtml
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Re: Does anyone have this feeling?
« Reply #12 on: May 14th, 2005, 2:37pm » |
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Not saying you have this or anything, but here's a link with some info to read:
http://www.adaa.org/AnxietyDisorderInfor/PanicDisAgor.cfm
If you did happen to have that, a combination of therapy and/or meds may be very helpful, although each person and situation varies!
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Re: Does anyone have this feeling?
« Reply #13 on: May 14th, 2005, 4:19pm » |
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Thanks for all the help and kind words everyone. I will check out those sites too! I made it back from the store and only pushed two people and tripped one!
Seriously I really thank you all!
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Re: Does anyone have this feeling?
« Reply #14 on: May 14th, 2005, 4:33pm » |
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on May 14th, 2005, 4:19pm, Candycane wrote: I made it back from the store and only pushed two people and tripped one!
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I take it the trip went well then.
And you're welcome. No matter what it is, your ch family is here for you...
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Sandie
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Re: Does anyone have this feeling?
« Reply #15 on: May 14th, 2005, 5:09pm » |
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on May 14th, 2005, 4:19pm, Candycane wrote:Thanks for all the help and kind words everyone. I will check out those sites too! I made it back from the store and only pushed two people and tripped one!
Seriously I really thank you all!
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Only pushed 2 and tripped one...the seeds must've worked...
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Re: Does anyone have this feeling?
« Reply #16 on: May 14th, 2005, 9:03pm » |
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Yes. I've struggled with this kind of stuff for years. My anxiety and panic disorder took over my life for awhile and caused me to have many phobias. One by one, I am tackling them. Grocery stores used to be hell for me (malls still are) until I followed the above advice. Go in the morning or at night when it's not crowded. Keep a list in the car, so you can just drop by without getting worked up about it. Breathe. Think serene thoughts. Personally, I'm planning a few early morning trips to the mall with the kids this summer, just to desensitize myself. It's a process. It doesn't happen overnight. Hang in there and keep eating (drinking?) those seeds. Hugs, nani
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Re: Does anyone have this feeling?
« Reply #17 on: May 15th, 2005, 5:32am » |
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Nani's post reminded me of one event, so called "Hullut Päivät" (Crazy Days), which is a special sale at one of Finland's biggest department stores. There are crazy people at all times, pushing, yelling..etc. Two minutes in there is enough to give panic attack to anyone. I've avoided them for several years now. This sale takes place twice a year and if someone wants to go, the advice is presicely the same; early mornings or late nights.
A friend of mine started suffering from panic attacks on a family holiday seven years ago. It became so severe that she couldn't go to school at one point. During these years she has been better and worse. She has managed to give up the daily medication only lately, within a month.
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Re: Does anyone have this feeling?
« Reply #18 on: May 15th, 2005, 12:19pm » |
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Well, the two places I had the worst panic attacks were gorcery shopping and getting married??????Hmmmm? Maybe my body was trying to tell me something?
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Re: Does anyone have this feeling?
« Reply #19 on: May 15th, 2005, 2:10pm » |
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I'm a phobia queen but I hide it well.......I worry about everything.......you could tell me your problems and I would worry about them for you. I get the panic feeling when I go get groceries too so here is what I do cuz I am my own phyciatrist. I plan to go to a cool store I like to go to and maybe find a few COOL shirts on sale or try on some jeans and get a new pair or I go to one of the big new pet stores. That way I sort of bypass the anxiety dread trip......I make myself LOOK FORWARD to going. Course it is best to get the grocery shopping part over with first....take a small cooler to stick milk or butter ect in.....then it your favorite store FOR YOURSELF. Myself I just love Penny's jr department or Elderbeerman's to look at cool ass stuff and just sorta brouse around and I also go do all this before 3:00 pm when everyone else has the same idea so it is rather QUIET. Yeah there are some good meds if you have panic disorders that are ruleing your life.......but when I gained all that weight on them I didn't want to go anywhere and it sort of backfired on me. Just be aware of how you feel. Do things you LIKE OR LOVE to do when doin the dredgery things. I am noted for snarling at people in the grocery store......kids thowin stuff and screaming haveing temper tamtrums and getting away with it and people on cell phones talking loud 'really makes my day'......but have found out goin earlier in the day weeds some of em out. Course you could be like me and jonny with the long hair and all the tats and jus SCARE people away......that works for me ALOT and I love it. Jerk eliminator Pam
I wanna go shopping with jonny
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